My husbands not in the military, but as of right now we are long distance. we see each other about once every 6 months and the fact that he is in great shape pisses me off. hah
he is one of those guys that you could slap and no fat giggles because he is a soccer player. where on the other hand im a short pear shaped chick with an *** you could set a cup on (if you ask me).
it's hard because as much as we like to think random people don't say there is a fat person in a couple and a thin person, we know there is. and as a woman we want to feel sexy and want to feel like they know it. especially when our men aren't right in front of us, we'd like to think that they can show pictures of us off and other men lust after us because its just nice to feel like other people envy the way you look. seeing as the unfortunate truth is society cares so much, and makes us care too.
I know how you feel, and you're not crazy. it gets to me if my husband says he lost 14 pounds and doesn't even know how, as he shoves a hamburger in his face. it's upsetting because we are trying to look better, and if they are doing it to it makes us, or me at least, feel like i need to up my goal and look even better. its competitiveness and it's the wanting of possibly being seen as the "better looking one" of the couple. even though at the end of the day it really doesn't matter all that much.
oh and to top it off it doesn't help that the positive changes seem to come to them so much faster and easier.
ps: every time one of us has a trip to see the other all of a sudden I'm like "okay sabrina, 3 months- 30 pounds, lets do it, and make his jaw drop to the floor." unfortunately, i have never lost as much weight as i would of liked, but I never stop trying to hopefully one day accomplish that feat.
Last edited by beautifulwaste; 08-26-2009 at 06:41 AM.
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