beccabutterfly -

Thank you very much :hug::hug:

Chic,.. You have great advices here and I agree with Jay.. Time for you show off your new found shape!! Meet your boyfriend's parents and son.. am sure they will love you and will be amazed of your weight loss. Time to shine on to the world. Stop hiding yourself!! I watched your progress on here weekly and am truly envy of you and inspired me to keep my efforts going.

So melting chic!! Meet the family and knowing you will be the star of the event!! Enjoy and good luck :) :hug:

Liliann -

Thanks for the beautiful words :hug::hug:

Okay now I am even more confused and frustrated.

This is the weekend my boyfriend has his son. My boyfriend has been over to his parents with his son since Saturday. My boyfriend's days off are Monday and Tuesday. I told my boyfriend yesterday when he called from a work break that he and his son should just come here and spend Monday and Tuesday because I am wanting to just get it over with now. I figure I don't really need to impress anyone and no one has to like the way I look. My boyfriend (seems) to love me and that is all that matters. Now, I am still very uncomfortable with the way I look but I am willing to swallow my fear long enough to meet my boyfriend's family but now he says no about coming here today and tomorrow with his son. His reason is that I will be freaked out when it is going on and when it is over with. This upsets me. Yes, I will probably be uneasy for awhile, I am not use to being around people in general and people I don't know will make me more uneasy, I am sure but I am willing to do this.

My question is - is he really putting it off now due to worries over my emotional well being or because he is ashamed of me? My heart wants to believe the first option but my psycho mind keeps honing in on the second and I don't know what to believe :(

Maybe he is worried over your emotional well-being, but that doesn't make it not a problem. He need to let you grow, not worry you into a corner!

How about a little self-esteem boost right before you meet? For example, I *always* feel better about myself right after a trip to the salon & getting my hair done. Or, a trip to the nail salon and get your nails done. Something for you that you feel like you can "show off" (even though you probably won't BE a show off) - it always makes me feel better about events or meeting people I don't know.

You can DO this - I am willing to bet it will not be nearly as bad as you think it might be. I bet you will even enjoy yourself :)

I have no idea what it means. I suppose it's most likely that he likes to be your protector, take care of you, etc. But really, if that's the case then he needs to grow, too. Definately, you need to talk this through with him, and let him know you want this so he can be proud of you and make your relationship together (and with his family) even stronger.

Maybe he's a little scared himself.

Let us know what he says, please.

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. It may seem to have come out of the blue to him or he may want to talk to you in person before you do this. This has obviously been a pretty big deal up to this point and I can see where I might balk too if I was in his shoes. Give him a chance to talk in person. It's waited this long a little longer isn't going to change much other than letting you just get it over with. Hang in there. It's going to be ok. I really, really doubt it's about him being ashamed. There is nothing for him to be ashamed of. If I were in your shoes, I would consider what words you want to use to explain where you are coming from and focus on keeping everything in perspective. If you are in a good place when he gets home, you can show him it will be ok.

Peg