Frustrated...
 

I'm losing weight and sticking to my plan for the most part and everything, but today I'm very frustrated. I'm pissed that I've lost 36 pounds and I'm still 310lbs. I just feel like there is such a far way to go before I'm not "fat" any more. I also realized that when I hit the 100lb loss, I will still be 246lbs. It's irritating that I let myself become so heavy. I've been over 200 pounds since i was 9 or 10. I'm so tired of it! AHHH! I need some support today. :stress:

I know how you feel but you are doing great. Think about how much healthier your body is now, it only gets better. Cheer up and give yourself a hug for me :D :hug:

Every pound loss is one less! Every day that you haven't gained is a triumph in and of itself (at least it feels that way for me). You can do it, the only way to walk a mile is to take it one step at a time, and the same goes for weight loss. Just keep on truckin'!

Well, look at it this way.

Right now, you're where you are. No amount of beating yourself up will change that FOR RIGHT NOW. So your options are: stay where you are, or make a change. No option exists to go back in time and make yourself -not- your current weight right now. You may not be super thrilled with that, but that's the way it is.

But you do have an option to go FORWARD in time, and make yourself -not- your current weight in the future. And you're doing that! And that is all that is within your power to do...so give yourself a break, let go of what you can't do, and focus on what you can.

:hug:

Zanni -- :hug: I can relate. The most depressing part of my journey was after I had lost 70 or 75 pounds. Starting at around 300 pounds I had even outgrown plus-size stores and to that point on the way down had shopped in my closet.

So I was very excited to go to an outlet mall and shop. However, most stores didn't go beyond size 18 and there was nothing I fit into. I had come so far and still had a way to go. I cried that day.

But you can make it! Set mini-goals for yourself and celebrate every 5 pounds lost in whatever way you can! (maybe not with food!) Find ways to demonstrate your improvement beyond the scale by setting fitness goals.

Try to get excited about the journey!

I know exactly how you feel. But you won't feel better if you stop now. It sucks, but for now, just put your head down and keep plugging away. It's not helpful at this point to be looking out at the horizon at your goal. Chip away at it like you have been though, and good things will happen. Heck, they already have! 36 pounds is great!

I know what you are feeling because I feel it too, but we've just got to fight through it. Until someone invents the magic wand, there is no other way. :hug:

It's easy to get frustrated, but when I do, I remember how far I've come and how much better I feel every day. You've lost 36 pounds and that's wonderful! You will be able to keep this up and lose every pound you want-just remember that it's one day at a time, not 100 pounds at a time. It's doable if you keep your focus on a day-to-day, meal-by-meal, snack-by-snack timeline and don't project too much into the future. The future will get here and then you'll be amazed at how much you've lost and how much better you feel! Keep up the great work!:hug:

I can definitely relate to frustration so you're not alone there. You just have to remind yourself that 36lbs is a HUGE accomplishment. Don't take that away from yourself. You deserve to be congratulated! You've decided to do a wonderful thing for your health and the benefits of that are way more important than just a smaller number on the scale.

Don't beat yourself up about how you got to where you are, because if you're looking at the past it's hard to keep moving forward. Just remember that you're working very hard and it's already paid off with a 36 lb loss! That's HUGE! I know looking at the big picture is very overwhelming. But just set up little goals and keep chipping away 1 lb at a time. You're going to get there. I know it. xoxo

OK, so go to your local grocery store and take 4 ten pound bags of potatoes off the produce shelf. I mean this. DO it. LOOK at size of the pile. Now try to lift 2 bags at once with each hand. NOW tell me that those 36 lbs of yours is "meaningless". This is what you USED to lug around with you all day. And what your heart was asked to deal with. And what your hips and knees accommodated with every step and every movement.

NEXT, take another 6 ten pound bags and pile them on top of the pile. This will be 100 pounds. Now try to lift 5 of those bags up with each hand at the same time. NOW tell me that 100 lbs is "pointless".

DO this to connect your MIND to the reality of what you have done. Right now, the numbers are abstract. But with the potato bags, you'll see that what you have done is fabulous for your health, and what you WILL do will be respectful to yourself and your body.

It'll be ALL downhill from there...

Trust me. DO THIS. IT'LL COST YOU NOTHING. BUT IT WILL MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE.

And tell us how it went...

:hug:

Kira

sweetie, I can identify with the how did I let myself get so big rant---You just have to keep going knowing that in the end you are going to look GREAT and feel great and best of all THOSE OUTFITS that only looked good on the rack will look super hot on you, AND you will be so much healthier!

Thank you all for the support I seriously seriously appreciate it... and Kira.. I will try that when I am at the grocery store.

zanni,

Your weight loss to date is excellent! You are doing so well! We all have our frustrating days and what not, but you will absolutely get to your goal weight! You can do this!

Zanni:

I commend you for the control you have taken over your health!!!! Yeah, you weight 310 lbs...BUT, you are not 346 lbs anymore. That is a very nice accomplishment. And you are so close to the 2's!!!!

BTW, I looked at your blog. I am just wondering, is there a specific reason your calories are so low? I noticed on a 1500+ calorie day that you were a little discouraged because you had eaten a bit more. It is obviously working for you, but you are going way lower than 1200 on some days and I am just a bit worried that this could be the cause of your discouragement. If it seems to be working and you don't feel deprived or hungry, that is great. Just something I noticed.

Totally reasonable and understandable. As others have said, that's THIRTY SIX POUNDS LESS than you were when you began. That's 36 lbs that you don't have to worry about losing anymore, that you don't have to clothe anymore, that you don't have to carry around anymore. That's 10.4 or so percent of body weight that you've lost. It's one, or quite a few rather, step in your journey that you don't have to climb up anymore.

I agree not to beat yourself up about it. What you did in the past is just that -- the past.

But, keep this feeling in the back of your mind somewhere in case you ever start gaining back some of the weight... remember that "future you" will have just that much more to lose and be frustrated with. That will give you extra motivation to maintain after you reach your goals! (Notice I'm completely confident you WILL reach them!)