Originally Posted by Suzyszoo:
He weighed in today. 8.4 pounds he lost. What the... Now, I'm thrilled to death with this, he was over 300 pounds and although he's always been a big tall man, he was getting too large even for his frame. He'll be healthier, happier, hopefully friskier, it's all good...

So why am I so totally envious? ;) I know DARN well I've not lost 8 pounds. I've been good, I've not cheated, but my best is 4 pounds a week. Normal - 2 pounds. I am almost 43, mother to 5 great kids, very active, but this weight is stuck like GLUE and is taking it's sweet time coming off.

Suzy, I don't know if you watch the Biggest Loser, but on the show, they measure weight loss by the percent lost of your total body weight, and so while your husband is at 300 you shouldn't expect to have lost as much weight as him because you weigh so much less to begin, with but maybe your percentage of weight loss is similar. Hopefully that helps :) :shrug:

Thank you Carey.

I knew he'd lose more than me at first. I thought I was prepared for it. :) Apparently I wasn't. Who would have thought diet was a competitive sport?

I need to go from being competitive, to being his biggest cheerleader! heh heh...literally. ;)

I don't have anything to add except congratulations on your 2 pound loss.:carrot:

Of course I agree with all the good advice (and congratulations) here but just to add my own confession:

I get diet envy, success envy, dress size envy, some days, reading 3fc.
1. People who seem to be losing more quickly than me.
2. People who post 'ack I'm sooo huge, I start today', when their start weight at the same height as me is 30lbs less than I am now, after all my effort.
3. People who have reached a weight at or slightly above mine, at the same height, who post 'My size 14 pants are big for me now', when, if I really stretch the point I can get into my size UK18s.
I know that
1. People are probably trying harder than me, definitely with the exercise.
2. Tough on me. People have the right to improve their health at any weight.
3. Can't answer that one except tough again, we all know sizes are peculiar.

I still read every post I can, and I wish everybody nothing but good, and some days people doing 'better' than me, and there are many of them, is very motivating but I just wanted to confess that some days I have a total jealous tantie. :(

aww :hug: Ailidh I totally get jealous of things like too!! I think it's natural to look around and compare yourself to others, especially when we're all trying to do the same thing but it's sooo not worth it, you just gotta focus on how well you're doing and not discount your progress because it isn't the same as other peoples. You're doing great!! 41lbs lost on your ticker! That's no small feat.

You may be envious now, but think how much better you are going to feel when you are maintaining your weight loss and she has gained all hers back plus some because she has a plan that is not sustainable. Or consider if you get together for a family dinner and your plan is flexible to allow you to participate and she is sitting on the couch drinking a shake. Thats the problem with a "Fad" or "trendy" diet, there is no flexibility and you have to rearrange your life to fit IT. With a healthy lifestyle change, your plan rearranges itself to fit YOU.

I get diet envy also. I know to try not to let it get to me, but we are human afterall.

My DH decides he's going to lose a few pounds and, bam, pounds gone. Just like that. I'm happy for him, but it kills me because I can't believe how easy it can be for him and how hard I have to work for it.

Of course, the dummest thing I could do it compare my weight loss to a man's!

I sometimes feel diet envy when I read about people who have lost the same amount that I have but have done it much more quickly. It has taken me almost two and a half years to lose this much weight, but some people manage to do it in half the time! I have to remind myself, though, that slow weight loss is best for me. I've found something that I can live with forever, so it really doesn't matter how long it takes the weight to come off --I'll get to my goal eventually!