I guess I'm at the other end of the pole, here.

When someone comments on any weight loss I've had, I smile, say thank you & add "I've worked really hard."

I don't think people INTEND rudeness, but it sometimes comes across like that - but I think that by telling them "I've worked really hard" is nothing but the solid truth! - there is NO magic pill, no formula, no "it just started coming off!" - none of that. I am EXERCISING. I am DIETING. And sometimes I slip up, and sometimes I do just fine - but the fact is, people are NOTICING. And it feels good (to me) when someone notices MY HARD WORK. :^:

I'm in the same boat, too. I'm the heaviest girl of all my friends, a size 12 or 14 to their 0s, 2s, and 4s, so I don't like to acknowledge my weight. I am trying to lose weight, but I don't want to talk about it. I want to just do it and have everyone forget that I was ever fat to begin with. It would make me so immeasurably happy to be skinny when I go off to college in just over two years. No one would ever have to know I was fat and I could just be a normal, healthy girl.

I look at it this way:

I didn't feel the need to tell people when I was gaining weight... so why should I tell 'em I'm losing weight?

My body, my business. And if they ask, I smile and say, "Why, yes, thank you. I'm working really hard at it. And I'm having fun. Thank you."

I've had too many experiences like those already mentioned here, where a well-meaning but clueless friend will try and "police" my food choices rather than trusting I've got a plan and have made adjustments to my day's intake in order to have an "extra" something from time to time, still remaining mindful of my goal and on the path to my success.

Totally!

I haven't told either. Everyone knows I've tried and failed so many times, me on a diet is the family joke, so this time I've not told a single soul. I've always pretty well filled up from all the taste-testing while fixing dinner, so hubby and kids haven't noticed anything different when I don't have much on my plate. I cut out all the sampling and all the return visits to the kitchen for late night snacking on leftovers. So you all are the only ones that know :)

I've only lost 4 pounds, but that's 4 pounds I don't have to lose now. :D

Right ON!!!!!!!!! :carrot:

Being 43 y/o and a yo yo dieter for most of life I've learned that most friends and family don't actually want to listen to my stories of daily weightloss struggles. Either they've never had to diet so they don't get it or they need to as badly or even more so than I do, so they don't want to hear about the healthy steps I'm taking as compared to the ones they are not taking. Thankfully, I've found a group here I can chat with. How I handle the "big question" I tell people my lower back was bothering me and I'd read walking helps...the weightloss is an added bonus. They don't care to hear anymore. That's like a really boring opening rather than my Dr prescribed xxx and the weight just fell off...........I'm really trying to view this as a journey to good health. I have 2 daughters and I want them to love themselves. I'm trying to be an example of healthy living so they will naturally learn to like good foods and being active. My mother sent me down the road of disliking myself based entirely on how I was shaped. We are not our shapes. Which leads me to....Viatre, if I'm reading your post correctly you must be 15 or 16 y/o. You may be surrounded by 0's,2's and 4s, but my dear a 5'7" 180# woman is curvacious and beautiful. Keep yourself active and fit. Present yourself with confidence and pride and that's all anyone will see. A beautiful confident young lady. Your size does not determine whether you are normal or not. If it did you'd probably see you are the most normal girl in your class. I'll bet there are just as many size 16's, 18's and even 20's walking the halls as there are 0's-4's. Love the skin you're in and just be you!