I'm so tired of being fat.......

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    4blondie27's Avatar4blondie27 , 04-21-2008 06:48 AM
    I'm having a down day here. Or actually a down few days if I'm being honest. I lost 4 lbs then I've been non-stop pigging out for days. I'm just tired of the whole cycle. Who knew being fat and unhealthy was such an exhausting job. Ha-ha. I don't go out because I'm scarred people will make fun of me or I'll run into an old friend. I don't want them to see me this way. O.k. I'm done venting for now. Thanks.
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    JayEll's AvatarJayEll , 04-21-2008 06:51 AM
    Hey 4blondie27

    Sorry you're having a tough time... Been there, felt that.

    How are you trying to lose? Maybe your program is too restrictive. Just wondering...

    I hope things go better!

    Jay
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    2Bthinagain's Avatar2Bthinagain , 04-21-2008 07:54 AM
    Hang in there. I know how you feel. When I drop a few pounds I seem to think it's okay to go off the diet for a few days...which is wrong. We weigh about the same actually....if you want to join me over on the Misc Club boards, feel free. A group of us had started one called "that 70s show", because all had hoped to drop 70 pounds. Seems like none of them are around anymore, so I'm guessing while I was slacking, they were losing weight.
    Hang in there, things will get better soon.
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    PinkyPie's AvatarPinkyPie , 04-21-2008 07:56 AM
    Tell us more about what is going on... how can we help you? Do you have specific issues that keep you from staying on program? What program are you using?

    We want to help, let us know and keep posting here, you are bound to find plenty of people who can relate and support you!
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    overit's Avataroverit , 04-21-2008 08:04 AM
    4Blondie, big hugs to you. I can relate. I have been away from home for about a year and seemed to have gained about 30 pounds back that I worked so hard to lose before I left. i am going back in November and am hoping to have a noticeable weight loss because I embarassed to be seen.

    ladies, i have 70 lbs to lose too, want to start the 70s group again?
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    shelby897's Avatarshelby897 , 04-21-2008 08:06 AM
    Been there all too often. Not much I can offer but support and a "been there/done that" response. It seems like such a long haul to get healthy and lose weight, but I know we can do this
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    Mrs Snark's AvatarMrs Snark , 04-21-2008 08:23 AM
    Aw honey, I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I've definitely had those feelings and they are so painful and they just keep you in such a damaging cycle of eating and guilt and depression. You deserve to break free of that (we all do!).

    Hang in there!
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    Hat Trick's AvatarHat Trick , 04-21-2008 08:46 AM
    I used to think that I could 'go on a diet' and lose xx amt of wt then when I got to my goal, I would be able to eat anything I wanted and just stay where I was. Each time I've done this, I've gained back every single lb I worked so damn hard to get off. Like, how completely DUH, right? It's taken me several times to finally, finally, finally come to the realization that I have to change my eating habits for good. Period. There is no 'end of diet' because I'm not on a diet. I'm eating better and watching/counting/zig zagging my cals to lose wt. I'm exercising 6 days/wk to lose wt. I tweak constantly and imagine this will be the case to maintain as well. I have days where I'm just hungrier than other days or craving something that's not on my plan (I think that's why they're called cravings! ). There are days when I'm off plan -- sometimes a little, sometimes a lot!

    I don't believe in denial of any food. Food is good and meant to be enjoyed. However, I really believe that moderation is the key. If I never let myself have yadda food again, that will be the only food I will think about until I eat it (and more than likely way too much of it). If I fit it into my plan, I find that a serving will satisfiy me. Amazing, I don't have to eat the whole thing just because it's there or just because that's what I did in the past. I do my best to fit 'whatever' it is into my plan. I also find that by doing this I don't suffer those cravings nearly as often.

    Starting right now, get back OP. Just for today, just for the next meal, just do it. One step will give you the strength to take the next step. Just remember that tripping and falling down does not mean you have to stay there. Pick yourself up and get right back on track!!
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    scrappinRN's AvatarscrappinRN , 04-21-2008 09:19 AM
    Well said Hat Trick!!! I too have been there and am continuing to do this, but Hat Trick nailed it.
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    PinkyPie's AvatarPinkyPie , 04-21-2008 09:35 AM
    I Hat Trick - what GREAT words!!!
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    BlzMaxGnrCCJkMly's AvatarBlzMaxGnrCCJkMly , 04-21-2008 11:55 AM
    hang in there! believe in yourself! you can do it!
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    readytobeme2010's Avatarreadytobeme2010 , 04-21-2008 01:10 PM
    Maybe, honey, you need to take one day, just today, only to focus on your reasons for wanting to loose weight.......For me in the past all and I mean ALL my motives were WRONG thus never stuck with it.

    I actually spent a few months adjusting my "stinkin thinkin" to prepare me for my start. Of course my issues weren't just with food. But I knew when I wanted to begin working on my weight........my thought process was ready...


    make sense???

    I am not loosing weight for people to accept me, say I'm ok, oh you look great etc....

    This time I am loosing the weight, YES, true, but see, I am loving myself RIGHT NOW......I have already determined to enjoy the journey.....My confidence is already up, in spite of my weight....

    Really being overweight is only a symptom of another root issue. Until you take the time to dig the other roots out.......you will continue to come to this point.....

    When we actually are willing to get to the core of things, and let go of our emotional comfort zones (outside of the food issue) realize that we are ok exactly where we are at NOW even though we are in the process of constantly improving ourselves....now you are establishing your thoughts for success.

    You will now want to loose the weight because it's good FOR YOU......not to make you "OK"

    SO my suggestion is to take some time, stop focusing on the weight issue so much.....see what lies beneath so to speak, deal with that...then tackle the weight issue in a whole different light....

    Hope this helps some


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    Hat Trick's AvatarHat Trick , 04-21-2008 01:48 PM
    scrappinRN and Velveteen -- aw shucks, you guys are making me Thanks!
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