[LynseyLikes2Lose]

with a hubby who thinks I'm going to leave him once this is all said and done? Don't get me wrong, he is VERY supportive in his own little way but he's becoming so insecure. He even texted me over and over while I was shopping yesterday to ask me if I had men following me.

I asked him if that's why he likes me fat and he said, "I've never thought of you as fat, you've always been beautiful to me but I know you don't realize how many more men will be after you in a few more pounds." Very sweet but come on.

We have been together since jr high. If I was going to leave him I would've by now. We have 2 beautiful girls together and I'm super happy. How do I make him see I'm still going to be the same me, just smaller? Even if it's true and other men are looking at me, I'm not out there looking for anything. Grrr......

[JoyfulVegGirl]

I think the only thing you can do is sit him down and have a heart to heart. Keep reassuring him that you love HIM, that you are happy in your current relationship, that you are doing this for your health/peace of mind/fitness level and not because you're out there looking for guys.

Has he been insecure about other things in the past? Maybe he just needs to see that this can be a good thing for your relationship and not a threat to it. Change can be scary, but he honestly needs to learn how to trust you to deal with the added attention.

Either way, don't let it affect your progress. You're doing a fantastic job!

[LynseyLikes2Lose]

No, he's never been insecure. Actually I'm the one that worries about things like this. LOL!

[txangelgirl]

Well have you been overweight since you met him? sorry but I haven't yet learned your beginnings If so, maybe he really is insecure. Men are so strange like that. Its like they know you love them, and for whatever reason it's a gobetween - they totally support you getting skinny but it also scares them cause they know (and you know too ) guys are gonna be eyeballing ya. I know I will soon be in the same scenario myself, so what I intend to do is do extra things to reassure James of my love for him, and the rest? Wait. Give him time. So yeah I think you should talk to him, but keep in mind that he may still be insecure about it, and be patient with him. We committed ladies could care less about other guys looking, but the men we're with can feel threatened. Eventually, he's change over from "man that's the tenth guy looking at my girl" to "yeah go on, take a long hard look, she's with me, not you heh heh heh". My ex was that way when I lost the weight the first time. Insecure but for a little bit, then he changed over to "look all ya want buster, she's mine".