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:rofl: that sounds JUST LIKE MY (extended) FAMILY!

They are like this: you say you're going to go to _______insert nice vacation spot here_________ and have a great time. They will tell you that ________insert nice vacation spot here_________ is dirty and overcrowded. Then, they will ask how you are getting there. You will say I got a great deal at X Travel Agency to fly on XXX Airlines. They will mutter some comment about how XXX Airlines are cheap and unsafe and mention a plane crash that happened 27 years ago on XXX Airlines and then proceed to "inform" you that X Travel Agency is secretly overpriced. Then, they will ask you what you are doing in ________insert nice vacation spot here_________ anyway. And you will tell them all the awesomely entertaining things you will do, like staying at SuperAmazingBeach Resort and eating at ReallyExpensiveButTasty Restaurant, and they will mention some case of food poisoning that they thought *may* have happened at ReallyExpensiveButTasty Restaurant and then tell you that they heard a rumor that SuperAmazingBeach Resort has haunted rooms, or maybe if they're not being quite so dramatic, they will just say, "The maid service is not very good there. One time, a roach was spotted in the bathroom! If I were you, I'd stay far away from SuperAmazingBeach Resort!" I could go on and on and on...

A real life example? I saw my VERY negative uncle and told him I lost almost 40 pounds. He said, "Ok, but you're getting a little too thin. You don't want to be too THIN, either. That's almost as unhealthy as being overweight. Good job on losing weight, but you don't want to lose any more. How are you going to keep it off, anyway? Can you keep it off? Most people who lose weight gain it back, you know, and you were always chubby as a child."

Ok, Nightengale Shane, no need for DNA tests, after that example you posted, I'm pretty sure, as Sister Sledge would say, "We are family". C'mon sing it with me :dancer: I have relatives tell me I should avoid Manhattan & skyscrapers, which is kind of hard considering I work in one in Manhattan! I think we need to have a board family dinner (an on plan one of course) with Lendingheart and the rest of the board family. Everyone wears the favorite showcasing the weight loss outfit and we will tell each other how marvelous we look!

Well...someone at my office last Thursday said.. "Are you losing weight?" and before I could respond they asked "You aren't sick are you?" :o:dizzy::o It was weird and so being the wise a$$ that I am, I responded "Ummm...yeah I am losing weight and as far as I know I am not dying today" :D;)

People are crazy...and family is no exception. I have just learned to roll with the punches.

I think sometimes people don't say anything because they are jealous.

Loosing 50 pounds is awesome. You have worked hard and you need to be celebrated. That's what we are here for.

:carrot::carrot:Way to go!!!! :carrot::carrot:

you know i thought about where the waitress didnt see me much, but really i only see mom once a week... my mother in law less often then the waitress.

Of course i see my hubby everyday.... and he notices the change ( of course me and him have been loosing together, he has lost 50 also)

I just reciently read a book called TOXIC PEOPLE.... it seems that is what most people around me are.

I dont know i guess it is just a little disheartening to realise that people (most people) are rooting for you to fail!

I mean i would understand my husbands old girlfriend to find it funny i gained all that weight since i got married..... but when people closest to you, give you flack for gaining and no words of encouragemnt for loosing.

Mom loves thrift stores... so do i... well she would find pants she knows i could wear in highschool and not now... and bring them to me.... and i know right off they wont fit.... i hold them up to me to show her and say ' i told you i cant wear these" and she would give this look everytime... like i was the fat lady at the circus you pay to see... the look of shock on her face. Her eyes saying " WHAT A COW!"

well the last pair she brought me... same thing as before.... but this time i knew i was loosing and i would fit into them.... so instead of hold them up to me i just said " No they are too small but they will be my goal pants!"

Well i can fit into them now... and i told her... she never said anything.... and hasnt brought me a pair of pants since!

Lendingheart, I need to read that TOXIC PEOPLE book! That story you just told about your mom and the pants make me go, "EUGH! Our families are alike!" My mom would never do something like that, but I have members of my extended family who would! It is EXTREMELY disheartening to know that there are so many negative people out there; I have never been like that towards anyone! What happened to the golden rule? I'm considering getting Matthew 7:12 (the golden rule passage in the bible) tattooed on my arm in a cool font in a visible spot just to remind people... ;)

speaking of the book toxic people.... there was a story in it that made me mad.

This girl... she was as ugly betty... bad hair, teeth, glasses, no make up, a little overweight, ugly clothes.... even born with a cleft platet couldnt talk good. well this lady who wrote the book helped her... the girl lost weight, contacts, make over, speech thearapy.... the works. She was asked out on dates, got a job.... good things were happening

Well after about a year the lady heard the girl was right back the way she was.... when she confronted the girl and asked her what happened... the girl said "my friends like me better this way"

THATS CRAZY!

I know some people lose weight and go nuts... it goes to their heads.... but i think a lot of times it goes to the head of the people they are around.

kinda like winning the lottery... they say it dont change you as much as it changed the people you are around.

NightengaleShane:


hahahah WHat did you say to him?

lendingheart:

Great story!!

All I can say LENDINHEART is that WE NOTICED! They probaly wouldn't "notice" if you lost 150 pounds....it is THEIR problem dear!!

lendingheart, what a crazy story! :(
As for weight loss going to people's heads... I sometimes am afraid that mine has gotten to my head a little bit. See, before I was overweight, I was "the HOT girl" that turned heads as soon as she walked into the room. In addition to moderately good looks, I had a charisma and presence about me that demanded attention. I got hit on all the time and could not walk out of my house for more than a minute without getting hollered at/whistled at/cat called/ attempted pick up. I WAS pretty confident and full of myself back then because pretty much everyone agreed I was hot and told me so. Uh, if you get told you are hot all the time, it is hard NOT to be a little bit full of yourself :o :o :o <----just being honest :o :o :o

Then, when I gained my weight (50 pounds), I turned into an entirely different person and thought I was fat, ugly, and absolutely disgusting. I only got on hit on occasionally and was pretty much ignored the rest of the time. The cat calls turned into cattle calls (ie MOOOO COW!!! FATTY!!! etc). I could no longer use my looks to get my way in life.

Now, I'm almost as thin was I was back then. I wore a 2-4 then, and I wear a 4-6 now. I have MUCH more confidence (as opposed to when I was overweight) and have been told that I walk with confidence and present myself with so much more comfortability than I did when I was overweight. I'm not quite as full of myself as I was when I was thin, though, and I hope to NEVER be that full of myself again! :lol:

Jasmine31: I told him, "I'm not TOO thin; I'm right in the middle of the healthy weight range, according to the BMI chart, which is exactly what medical professionals use. Keeping off the weight will be easy, because I have healthy habits now. The reason people gain weight back is because they look at it as a diet instead of a lifestyle change and go back to their old habits once they lose weight. When I'm completely done with losing weight, I will eat a little more but continue to exercise the same amount and will make sure I'm eating healthy foods. Oh, and thanks for doubting me, I appreciate it! :)"

Here's an article which explains how weight loss can affect relationships, ranging from spouses to relatives to friends, which pertains to these type of situations:

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/ma...ticlekey=56031

I think a situation at a previous job was tied into my weight loss. The only 2 people singled out for the scapegoating treatment at that particular place were myself and another co-worker who had lost a lot of weight. I moved on & found a much better place.

Nightengaleshane:
lol I can understand. Glad you are back down to earth. ;)
WHat I think is rediculous is even you at 175, being 5'7 isn't that the top of your healthy weight range? For people to call you a cow is crazy!!!

Glad you told your Uncle! haha Bet he has a paunch himself!

Jasmine... paunch... you hit that nail right on the head, he most definitely DOES have a paunch! He is not fat by any means, but he definitely holds all his weight in one spot! His excuse is that he works too much to exercise. Him and my aunt go out to eat almost every night, and they both are a little round in certain places (well, she is round everywhere, he just has a paunch).

Actually, 175 is overweight for a 5'7" person. The top of my healthy range would be either 155 or 160, depending on which BMI number you call healthy. So, I was 15-20 pounds overweight. It wasn't obese, but I live in a shallow college town where you're a cow if you're over a size 6 (or 4 in some cases :eek:). So, at a size 14, I was definitely in cow territory. Plus, I was very uncomfortable with myself because I had massive love handles, thunder thighs, and a very prominent double chin. I started to care so little about my appearance that I would go to work in pajamas!

nylisa, what an interesting article! Strangely enough, all my friends have been extremely supportive of my weight loss, but that could be for 2 reasons: 1) I was thin when they first met me, and 2) they're all thin and/or healthy weight, so it poses no threat to them. My girlfriend does not want me to lose any more weight because she wants to be the thin one in our relationship (even though we started out the same size :lol:).

Not true! Not true! Most people want to see others succeed! I believe this!

It may be that most of the people that you are around a lot seem to want you to fail... but if that's so, you must ask: Why am I around these people? Family or not, we don't have to associate with those who would bring us down! There are many who aren't like that!

Jay

NightengaleShane

hahahha I KNEW it! He just sounded like the type. Pot. Kettle. Black. lol

Oh man. I thought the general "rule of thumb" was 100 for 5 foot and every inch after was 5-10 pounds depending on bone structure. :(

hahahahahah Oh man. I know what ya mean. It seems anything over a 2-4 these days is cow country!

Pajamas? Now that is funny! What made you start piling on the weight?