haha, Okay, I'll admit, that I had almost gotten to the point of expecting people to say something about my weight, because for several months there, people were always mentioning it. Now that my circle of acquaintances has mostly seen me at some point during my loss, I don't hear it quite so much. Oh and I never told anyone about it initially, just my husband. But after losing 150+ lbs, you don't have to tell people for them to notice it and mention it. And once they comment on it or ask, I'll tell them what they ask, but I am very conscious of trying to not talk about it overly much. In fact, I think some people have gotten the impression that I have had gastric bypass surgery and don't want to talk about it. :dizzy: That's not it at all, it's just that I have these co-workers who go on and on and on and on about their weight, and I got so tired of hearing it, I decided a few years ago that I didn't want to ever be like that.:)

I don't mind if someone says I look good, but I absolutely hate it when they ask how much I've lost. I know they don't mean any harm by it and are just being complimentary, but where I am a big woman still, it kind of gives them an indication that I have a lot more to lose and am more overweight than they originally thought.

I guess this stems from my sister CONSTANTLY talking about our weight, ever since I was a kid (she's 11 years older than me). How she needed to gain weight and I needed to lose it. When I was thin, she obsessed in front of people how much I lost, constantly embarrassing me in front of family, friends and strangers. I asked her nicely to stop talking about it because it made me feel self conscious and aware of the fact that I had lost 45 pounds back then, and she blew up at me, saying I should be grateful that she was proud of me. :mad: Of course, she kept it up and didn't stop. Now, it's always "IF and when you lose the weight, you will be beautiful again, just like before when you lost the weight!" Argh...... thank goodness we live an hour and a half away from one another, so I don't have to listen to her everyday talking about it. I haven't told her that I am trying to lose weight- just my hubby and kids know I am doing this, along with all of you. :D This board provides me with so much comfort and motivation, and I feel safe here. :carrot:

I love to get compliments and find that I almost keep track of who has said what, and at what weight. I feel pretty shallow about liking it so much, and try to remember to compliment other people now because it makes me feel so good. Still, it gets to be a bit much sometimes because I feel pretty private about my body, and self-conscious, and having other people make comments about how my figure looks is pretty strange. I know it can start to bother other people who are around me a lot too and that makes me feel unfortable.
I never tire of hearing compliments from my hubby though, especially when he's noticing muscles in my legs or arms.
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I love compliments. I'm not getting them yet though since I've only lost about 12 pounds. I can't wait for that point.

I talk about it all the time too. But I can't help it. When someone asks me if I want something and I politely say no thank you and they push until I say there are way too many calories in it it's their fault if I bring up my diet.

Compliments feel good from certain people, but usually I don't like my status as a fat (or formerly fat) person pointed out.

I love the compliments but also feel bad when they are awkward. Like I must have looked really bad before. One lady this week said "you look great -- not that you looked bad before" but by just saying that she showed her hand that she thought I did. Dummy!

I try not to talk about it also. People don't care really. That is why I love the forums only people who have lost weight seem to care to hear about it.

I love hearing comments like "omg... wow you look great!" Or "wow... you've lost weight..... how did you do it?!" I'm always like "huh? What? Are you asking ME... (meeeeee!!!!!?) ...how to lose the weight?" but to be honest I don't really look for them, I find that if I mention like "you know i've lost so and so pounds" that people will always say "wow.. you look great... I could totally notice" that they're just saying that because... well... if they didnt i'd be upset lol. So i kinda dont mention it!

I am shameless, the more the better!!

I love hearing them, but I still have trouble responding to them without negative talk - I have a tendancy to downplay whatever's being said (trying to deal with the reasons why I think "who me, I don't deserve a compliment").

I love the compliments. Although I haven't gotten too many, people that I have told about my efforts have complimented me. I am still waiting for compliments on people that I haven't told about my diet/exercise regime to say something. However, compliments can be good or bad. If someone tells you how great your looking and leave it at that its great. However, if they say how great you look and start grilling you about how much you've lost and what you're doing, then I feel like the compliment is null and void. Sometimes people can get overbearing about it.

All in all, I'm for the short and sweet compliment rather than the compliment followed by endless questions about your eating habits!

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Oh yes. i LOOOVE compliments. That's because i'm a skinny girl stuck inside this big shell. i can't wait to be thin again. The compliments are kinda seen two ways, depending on what i weigh. First of all, let me be the first to admit that when i'm in tip-top shape i'm kinda vain. Just a part of who i am.:queen: At this time, i can't get enough of the compliments. i love that people notice.

On the other hand, when i'm bigger, i seem to have developed an inability to take a compliment graciously. i blush. i make excuses instead of simply saying thank you. At my highest weight i was 250 ( about 6 years ago ) and i think it began then. i feel like the compliments are just them trying to be nice, because I know i'm not at my best. It's like i secretly think they are lying because saying " ...biggest *** i've ever seen " would be rude.

i'm told i have BDD ( body dysmorphic disorder ) and i guess that accounts for it. i can't see what others do when they look at me. i'm hoping this will diminish as i get closer to goal. A nice balance of how i was and how i am would be good.

It depends who it's from. When it's here on 3FC or from my dbf or friends who are also losing weight, I love it, because you are the people who know what one has to go through in order to lose weight (both the physical and the mental). I don't feel that I'm being judged, just that others are sharing in my victory/progress.

As for others, I get defensive when the compliments are focussed on how "skinny" or "tiny" I'm getting, because I really hate how "skinnier = better" in our society.

The best compliments are ones that focus on how healthy, fit or happy I am looking. The number on the scale is just the way I measure my progress for now; health is what I'm after!

wow.....i loved hearing all this feed back!! thanks guys. I know some people feel like they must have looked AWEFUL before they started losing weight...but i am totally sure that is not true. I know i was still pretty at 196 but my features are coming out more as i lose the weight. I do love hearing the compliments because i know that the people i work with are really my friends and love me. I do think that if people who tell me that wanting to lose another 30 pounds would make me too thin, just don't know because i wear my clothes to flatter my figure. But trust me, when i put that 2 peice bikini on this weekend and took a frontal and side shot of me in it....I can defiately tell another 30 would not hurt me to lose!!! hahahaha.

thanks for all the replies guys!! I love you all!!!