I'd like to add how hard it is for my husband to BE supportive of me as he prefers me heavy...

Just in case there are others out there in my situation – no – my bf was utterly unsupportive of my efforts and it was in large part what recently ended our relationship. My bf liked me the way I was and didn’t want me to change. He thought it was ok if I lost some weight, but if I lost too much he wouldn’t find me attractive anymore. This is an extreme case, but there may be others out there who have had similar problems. All in all, it really woke me up to larger issues (no pun intended) in our relationship and it was the best thing for many reasons to end it.

My boyfriend was verrrry worried about me losing weight, though he of course supported my right to make my own decisions. I don't think he could wrap his head around the idea that I was 188 lb (he thought the scale was broken), nor could he equate weight loss with anything but dieting misery & frustration.

Well, it's five months later, and he's incredibly proud of me for eating and exercising right -- he boasts about my "healthy lifestyle" whenever he can, hehe. He's made a lot of lifestyle changes, too, and recently, he's even started talking about counting calories to shed his tummy weight. It's a complete 180 from his earlier hesitancy. I think he just needed to see that losing weight was going to make me happy and healthy, not miserable and obsessive.

It also helps that I've involved him in this as much as possible so that he can see first hand how I'm approaching it: we often take walks/jog together, we both focus more on nutrition, and I've decided on a belly-button ring as my goal weight celebration (something I've always wanted, and it just happens to be a huge fancy of his...coincidence that I chose that? I think not.) It's a lot more fun exercising & eating healthily when my darling boy is involved.

My husband is a great guy, and tries to be supportive, and usually succeeds.
If I'm honest with myself, alot of the times I've thought of my husband being unsupportive, it's been more a case of my expecting him to read my mind, and act appropriately (and take all of the blame, if I mess up).

I think sometimes it's easy to blame friends and family members for "not being supportive," when we're frustrated, when in truth nothing they could have said or done would have been "supportive enough." If they offer us a morsel of anything, they're "sabotaging," and if they're reminding us of comittments we've made they're "being controlling."

My husband does a lot of things that are extremely helpful to my weight loss efforts, and a lot of things that are very unhelpful. Usually, when I've asked him to do (or not do) anything specifically, he tries very hard to do as I've asked. But, I have to admit that I send mixed messages, sometimes to the point that the poor guy can't do anything right.

During TOM, for example, he will bring home candy bars and/or burgers. Normally I don't like fast food, but during TOM and about three days prior, I start craving chocolate and red meat, and get extremely moody (hubby says mean), so he says he has to bring home burgers for his own protection (only half kiddingly). He says he is unwilling to see me unhappy, and will do whatever makes me happy if it is within his power.

Bringing home burgers isn't supportive of my diet, but it's the only thing he knows to do that in his experience will help me feel better. He's being both selfish and considerate. He doesn't want me feeling bad, and he also doesn't want me focusing those bad feelings at him. I can't blame him for that, and have to realize my behavior is contributing to his. I can't really blame him for occasionally having mixed feelings and failing to support all of my weight loss efforts, when I fail myself at least as often.

I am SO exactly with you on this. DH and I are the same way

My DH is a real sweetheart and also likes me big. He loves me just as I am, tells me constantly that I am sexy and sometimes I think that he really does prefer me larger. That being said, he is proud of me for exercising and eating well (and eats as I do anyway with a few added extras).

I wouldn't say he is "super supportive" but only because I don't say anything is "super" anything.

This is what my BF means to do.... He's seen me get upset at my brother for asking me if I want a hotdog or if I'd like something from FastFood while he's out...so he doesn't do that. I love being with him, because it's never about food. When we do something, food is never involved. It's usually something fun that's outdoors or like bowling or skating. We're always trying to be active. He's not controlling...if I wanted the cupcake I would've taken it...and he wouldn't have cared. He's just super proud of me for dieting and already losing 25 lbs. He loves to tell people that I work out more than anyone he knows and that I am the best cook of healthy foods.

I think with typing something we can't understand the tone and I can see that now, but he totally meant it in a good way. He now yells at my brother for offering me "off the diet" foods. I love it. I wouldn't like it if he offered me candy bars or chips or food out to eat because he knows how I feel about it. I would feel like he was trying to sabotash me. He loves me the way I am, always has since the first day we saw each other *he's my brother's best friend*...and he will love me when I'm a popcicle stick like him.

My girlfriend didn't understand WHY I wanted to lose weight and kept telling me that I really don't look as much as I weigh or even close. I told her that I just didn't enjoy the prospect of being twenty pounds overweight and that it wasn't healthy for me anyway. She told me I was being paranoid about my health and that since I don't have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or anything like that, and since in her eyes, I ate healthily, that I had nothing to worry about. I *knew* I wasn't eating very healthily, but she's very anti-healthy-things, she thinks eating a few veggies a day and exercising a couple times a week must mean that you're meeting your daily healthy quota. I've always been a bit of a health freak and feel compelled to be, AND I have a past of eating disorders (what a contradictory little combo, huh?), so my discussing attempted weight loss with her concerned her a bit.

I started on the Fat Smash Diet, which has lots of restrictions and dietary guidelines. It made her mad because she couldn't cook for me anymore. Now, I quit the Fat Smash Diet (I still embrace concepts like eating small meals every 3 hours or so, but the rest of it can kiss my ) She still doesn't completely understand my motivation for dieting, but she sees my weight dropping and sees me happy about it, so she's about as supportive as she's ever going to get.

I agree with the first part of this post. I would be pissed, but that's just me! If I already said "thanks, but no" then I don't need anyone chirping in and saying that I CAN'T have one... because I CAN have whatever I want, it's up to me!

My DF is supportive. I would like it if he wouldn't easily give in to me giving in, but that's not really his problem. Why shouldn't he eat pizza when he doesn't have a weight problem? The BIGGEST issue I have is that I get home very late from work, to the point that we don't eat dinner until earliest 8pm. He cooks most nights (so I can't really complain) and he cooks what he knows and/or what he feels like. I would LIKE it if he would delve into the WW recipe books (or even just healthier alternatives, like recipes from epicurious), weigh and measure stuff out... but HE's not on WW, I am and this is simply what my life is like right now.

He loves me the way I am and is sad that I am unhappy about my weight. I don't know what else he could do that would be more supportive really... if he said things like "you SHOULD do this or that, you SHOULD go to the gym", etc., I would want to do the opposite. That's MY problem and not his, so most of this really has to come from ME.

I personally NEED a little "policing" - it's the best form of support for me. I don't respond to anything but tough love, as it were. If I could snivel my way out of something, anything - I'd do it - and I've excused myself out of a great many diets.

I know my boyfriend is proud of me and I am glad for the attentiveness he pays to my diet / exercise. He offers to take me to do things like walking or playing basketball because he knows I hate doing workout DVD's and pretty much refuse to do them now.

I could see him saying "She can't have one!" in regards to a cupcake, but that's just him - and it wouldn't bother me unless I had really wanted one. Then I'd probably fight for it. :P

hot damn, I hope I find a future husband like this.

My hubby is like that. He eats whatever I make and never even asks for junk food. The worst he asks for is "cracker and cheese" and I buy light cheese and reduced fat crackers, just in case I ever want to have any. He eats worse when he is at work, but what do I care I can't see him doing it Besides, he's pretty muscular and really lean, but then again he does a lot of physical work all day for work. I finally got him to replace his soda with water. Now to get him to eat more of his fruit/veggies during the day when I'm not forcing them on him at dinner hahaha

This is exactly how I feel....I need policing too at times!! I guess I'm very grateful for it. We went to a fair last night and my brother and SIL were eating non-stop and my BF just drank water with me....it was nice because then I wasn't the only one not standing in line for food. We went on lots of rides and I fit on all of them!! I was so happy! We even made smoochy smoochy on a really spinny ride called Crazy Dance... It was so fun!

My DH has been very proud of me and supportive through my wt. loss. With maintenance it's been a little harder for both of us. He sometimes says things like "you can eat X now because you don't need to lose more weight". He doesn't understand if I start eating X again that I'll gain the wt. back. I have to remind him of this.

He has done great at adjusting to my lower cal. / lower fat recipes and always brags that my cooking tastes great. He is also adjusting to eating tons of fruits and veggies and keeping the junk food out of the house. The hardest thing for him was getting used to eating lots of wheat products instead of white rice, white pasta , white bread and such.

I do get aggravated sometimes when he brags to people on how much wt. I've lost. If they didn't know me before, I'd just as soon they never know that I've had a wt. problem and that I struggle with it.

No matter how much he works, he is willing to go for walks outdoors with me. I can't say that he has never "policed my food" because he has. Once he came home and me and the kids were having pizza. I had two very small slices and a big salad. He said "I can't believe You are eating pizza". Yes, it was uncommon now for me to eat it, but I wasn't eating Half of a large pizza like I used to eat and I really didn't appreciate his butting his nose in my food business. But then again, I've asked him to be supportive and not bring junk food home. So what can I expect?

So, like Nelie said , sometimes they can't do the right thing , no matter how we look at it. LOL

My dh is very supportive, but if he ever said" she cant have that" I would slap him silly.