Oh, gosh! :hug: :hug: :hug: He probably just didn't know what to say. He might have been afraid that if he sounded too positive, you would think he didn't like you the way you were. Sometimes men get in a bind that way! So give him the benefit of the doubt and TRUST that he is happy for you even if he didn't make a lot of noise.

Congratulations to you for all your hard work! You are truly a winner.

Jay

a lot of men have no concept of what 25 lbs means either. To them it seems a lot smaller than it is for us.

Sending you tons of cyber hugs. :hug: :hug: :hug:

Try not to let it bother you. Your hubby loves you either way, with or without an extra 25 lbs. Men just don't seem to be bothered by weight like we are. It's also real hard for him to get a visual picture of you. Wait til he gets one good look at you and it really sinks in what you have done. He will be so proud of you. Congrats on the phenemonal weight loss, yet alone under so much stress. You have much to be proud of.

Just throwing another point in here... it could possibly be that he is worried that you may be looking even more gorgeous than when he went away and he may be worrying about whether you will catch the eye of other gentlemen. Being so far away from you could bring a whole lot of new insecurities that you hadn't noticed before. I could be talking out of a hole in my hat, but I am kinda thinking out loud.

As far as something that has already been said... my hubby has NEVER told me how much better I look now, because he loves me at any size. It used to disappoint me, but the more I think about it, I think I would be disappointed if he said I looked 'better' now, because then I would wonder how he could have put up with me when I was bigger. Sometimes men know just the right things to NOT say.

I hope you don't have to be apart for too much longer, as I know I would be lost without my 'baby'.

Zelma

sometimes it doesn't hit home until someone sees you

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Awww...sweetie.

Mine never said a WORD about my ever-increasing weight until this past New Year's Day and then he got really aggressive. He told me he didn't want me looking like I currently did or feeling as I currently felt or living like I currently lived on New Year's Day, 2008. To him, this wasn't about weight but about a lifestyle change.

In your case, the distance adds another complexity. You must be worried to death about having him so far away in Iraq as it is, and he probably doesn't want you to worry about your weight, too. He's going to love you any which way.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Just you wait till he gets home and sees you :carrot:

Jenn!

Here's a hug for you! :hug:

I agree with the crew...Men often have no idea how to react. If they make a big deal over the news then they think WE will think they thought we looked bad before. If they DON't make a big deal over the news then at least they won't be accused of INSINUATING that we might have looked less than fabulous before!

Also, we are so involved with our weight loss that the average person or even our husband can't really completely "get" how much effort it takes to accomplish unless they have also been through something like that.

I agree with the many who have said to do this for yourself. I'm also sure that being in Iraq has GOT to be very, very difficult no matter what. You are fighting a battle, too, just not the same one as he is! Go for it, and come back here to 3FC. We know how you feel finally losing TWENTY-FIVE pounds!:carrot: That's fantastic!

Cheryl

I think your poor DH is quite stressed out over there in Iraq and that's why he's not himself (you said he's usually more thoughtful). With what he's going through right now in Iraq - life and death situations and the sacrifices he's making for us (which I hope he knows we truly appreciate), weightloss just seems so petty. To you (and me) its not petty, but in the grand scheme of HIS life right now, its pretty insignificant. Like the others said, weightloss is generally petty to most men, but when a man is stressed out for VERY good reason, its even less a meaningful issue to them.

clue-by-four :lol3: I am SO stealing this phrase....

Marree - I moved your question about airplane seats to its own thread so it wouldn't get lost. :) Go here: Help - Airplane Seats