Aggh! Tara D - it would be worse if you di not wear them! ...Chaffing thighs - no good!

Basically the feeling of being judged by everyone.

Recently my niece (skinny UK size 4!!!!) said how much nicer and more confident I have been since I lost weight. I was thinking how much she has changed too, but how much of it was just in my own head and my own lack of confidence?

Thing is, I find myself doing it to others. If a fat person walks past me I find myself unconsciously thinking "god they're fat!" Then I feel bad. Then I think, well, I did it, they can do it too! Then I feel bad again!

Not being able to flirt with the cute guys at work for thinking "What if he's thinking 'does she really think I'll fancy her - she's gross!' "

Having to wear tights in summer to avoid chafing.

Mine follows on from Robsia's - I never felt comfortable eating in public and TBH I still don't. No matter what you eat you get the feeling that people are looking at your plate and making a judgement about you as a person based purely on its contents. One big plus about being a bit slimmer is not feeling that I have to eat plain grilled chicken or fish with a plain salad followed by fruit salad when I go out for a meal.

I also used to hate grocery shopping for pretty much the same reason.

I find myself thinking exactly the same things, robsia, then hating myself for being so judgemental when I was so overweight comparatively recently... The interesting thing, re. friend/family attitudes is, like you say, is also how they handle our weight loss. I find the way folk interact with me has changed even when my attitude to them, hasn't and that's a bit disconcerting.

Most obvious (despite my age) is the reaction of DH's male friends, all of whom treat me 1000% more attentively now I'm a size 12, not a size 20. And the thing is, I don't revel in it or enjoy it - but start to think of people I previously liked as hypocrites. Why am I only worth chatting up/being afffectionate with, now I'm slimmer? I was the same person before.

I mostly disliked being the 'big' one in the group..

I just hate feeling like an absolute munter. The stigma that means you should be laughed at because you're fat and clearly stupid is a horrible feeling.