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Thanks for the advice, guys. I really need it right now.
All challenges met for today. Hooray. I had a really good day. First, the car repair I needed turned out to be the cheaper of the options, not the worst case scenario, which is huge for my budget. Then, got to go out by my horse, and had a really wonderful ride. Hooray again. Lastly, I came home craving either carbs to go with my salad for dinner, or a certain "popped" snack food. Decided on option #2, and even figured out what portion I could have, and still stay within my calories for the day. REalized after dinner that I was FULL, and didn't need anything more, so saved those calories. Have a great day all. Thanks again DJ and Rebeca. It helps having you all to come to, when I need to work things out. :wave: |
Hi all. Back from the track. Had to get a 5 a.m. train to get there this morning. Watched work, got the comments, came home, wrote up my report and am now writing this before continuing on other work....pant, pant, pant.
************** jolly -- I see your light on so wanted to quick say something. I thought about what you were saying and reflected on my own progress, or lack thereof...this is what I came up with. I don't know what your issues are so can only go with my own feelings. But, one thing I notice with you is this constant mention of not "feeling deserving." I think I have never had that, or if I did, I don't now, or I'm not aware of it. In any case, I think that it is a thought that really works against you right NOW, and is not so much a problem of whether you deserve to be thin or not, but a problem of this deserving/undeserving feeling running through your head. If you're thinking that being thin is so great, such an ideal, such a reward, then you are by default thinking of you now as being undeserving, right NOW this thought, this feeling is occupying your thoughts and that alone will not give you the necessary feeling to change. I am convinced that you have to feel good in order to get somewhere new. Stop thinking that where you are is so bad. It's fine. It really is. I would change your perspective to simply looking at being thin or with whatever body you can imagine as something you would like to take on, as a challenge, just something new. Also, I think your stumbling may be simply a hesitancy to change. Change is the hardest thing for many. I think it's nothing more than that, not really even fear of deserving or not, or anything so complicated. We all like our ruts. They're comfortable. We are comfortable in our skins, our fat, our loose, comfy clothes. Why would we want to change? So, I am going to think of little nice things, simple things, maybe just one thing, like being able to fit into a pair of smaller breeches that I have so I don't have to buy a new pair. I would really, like someone said, not look too far ahead. That IS scary, in anything. Just look at the next step, maybe focus on your exercise or hitting the very next number (downward) on the scale and refuse to look further forward.... I think these days there is far too much pop psychology being bantered about, everyone doing all this self-analysis, and, frankly, I think it's enough to make anyone start feeling like she is hopelessly screwed up with all these ghosts from the past just hiding out in your head waiting to jump out, say "BOO!!" and scare the sensible right out of you. Man, I'd been getting scared too, feeling all messed up. You're not screwed up, jolly. I'm not screwed up. Perhaps the real problem is...we're just not as unhappy with ourselves as we are NOW as some people would like us to think we should be! |
Still going stron with my "no food after 7 pm" challenge, it feels so part of me right now that I think I'm going to continue it for another 21 days once the current 3 weeks are over. It's cool to get back to an old habit and feel so good with it - no evening eating or munching used to be my credo, and I'm happy to have it back! :) And I think I might start something else in the next few days as well. :)
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I’ve done 3 days of my 30 mins exercise.
That puppy next door is starting to be a big nuisance. Last week it came in 2x during the day and I had to take it home. But last night it was in the yard at 330am. It was a bit spooky. Saffie was barking and was very definite there was someone in the yard so I crept around the house and peered out all the windows. Then I saw something move and got a fright until I realised it was the neighbour’s dog. I wasn’t about to go outside and sort it out at that hour so I popped back into bed. It whined a bit but I fell asleep and forgot about it. What I didn’t count on was the neighbour looking for their dog at quarter to six in the morning. Waking me up by yelling for the dog and then coming in to get it. I feel sorry for the puppy that it’s bored but I’m not about to encourage it to break in! it keeps knocking over my netting and making holes in it
Other than that it’s been a good day. I’ve done 3 days of my 30 mins exercise. The dogs had a lovely swim in the stream. I wasn’t going to let them go there but jazz rolled in something rotten so I figured they may as well romp in the water and get completely filthy. They had a lovely time of course. I’m hoping they sleep well tonight. Would it be too much to hope that jazz sleeps in?:p The day was fairly pleasant outside so I cleaned the bbq and kept reading my book by jan burke. Didn’t do any packing though. I am finding it hard to get motivated on that count. Hehe no surprises there. Not much on tv tonight so I’m trying to decide what to do. I need an early night but seem genetically incapable of getting to bed at a reasonable hour:dizzy: I'm a night owl and it's got so my body and brain wake up at night! something esle to work on ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ red :wave: well done on day 4. i couldn't do a 5am start unless i was up from the previous night (or the neighbour's dog was baying in the back yard) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ jolly i agree with part of what red said. i think we often spend far too much time worrying and navel gazing. of course as a psychologist i can't agree with everything :cool: mainly i just think you worry too much. i feel you are putting far too much emphasis on your weight loss journey (paraphrasing red here). i notice at times you are obsessive about exercise to the point where you push yourself so hard that you end up feeling unwell and demotivated. do you know what i think is most to blame? those biggest loser type reality shows. it's nuts. they push those people so hard in the exercise and dietary changes that it's a wonder they don't keel over and have heart attacks. it's simply not healthy. the thing is that the changes you make have to be lifestyle changes ie they have to be changes you can live with for the rest of your life. if it feels like deprivation then it is NOT a change you can live with for the rest of your life so it would be better to aim at taking smaller steps. change IS difficult and challenging so just focus on one thing at a time. do something you can achieve and tick it off. also remember that if you build your confidence by achieving things in other areas that confidence will flow across other areas of your life. i started at about 200lb when i found out i was prediabetic so i know about the imperative to change. it's not easy which is why i think you just need to focus on today and not worry so much about the end result. and try to have FUN while you're doing it go out and have a few laughs and forget dieting for a while. as dj said sometimes you need to have a holiday from dieting and not think about it ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ dj well done on the donut challenge ;) |
Okay I'm ready
Hi Ladies!!
Well I went AWOL for three days to reassess what I want to accomplish and how I want to go about it. Giving myself three challenges seemed to be too much for me and where I am at mentally, so as not to discourage myself I will start with one challenge. I think I need a victory to bolster my spirits. I am very happy to report I have lost another pound and a half. I guess I wouldn't be so fixated on the scale if it wasn't for the fact that I have to shed 10 pounds in order to fit into the bridesmaid dress that I have to wear to my SIL's wedding in September!! Okay today is day 1 and I am still joining redwith her crunch challenge :) I have a very busy day today but will come back tonight to report in and catch up with everybody progress. Have a great Saturday, supposed to rain all day here :( |
Five down, 16 to go!
Day 5 is done! It's fun...so to speak...getting down and getting the day done!! Hurrah for me!! :dizzy:
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it's pouring down here so i won't be doing any outdoor exercise. think i will go shopping soon then come back and do some dancing. after that i will put the fire on. not much sleep again. darn neighbour's dog arrived at 530am. i am going to have to ask the neighbours to shut their gate at night. i should have done that when i returned their dog but i was being considerate. why??? gee i didn't want to wake them up early but they don't return the favour |
Hey all. REal quick post before bed. Sweet Pea and Red, I need to reread what you posted to me earlier.
I had a good day today. I do have to take a pause day on the no soda and the following menu challenges, due to my get together with my girlfriends. I did suggest going somewhere I could choose something healthy, but I admit I didn't put up much of a fight. . . Lesson learned - need to do better planning next time. Did do my core stuff when I got home though. Not much else to report. Off to get some sleep now,as I am doing a horse day with a friend/ co-worker of mine tomorrow. Have a good one all. :wave: |
Donut challenge good days 14 & 15
Having to be quick. Husband is waiting to get going on our floor again! Have a great day! :wave: |
Hello all. Had a good, horsey day. Though I did get to take the dogs to the dog park to play. that was fun.
I have been thinking about what you guys said, Red and Sweet Pea. I don't think I am overanalzying the situation. I am trying to get to the root of real issues, that have kept me from breaking through to get where I want and need to be. The not feeling worthy is very real and something I have been trying to work on. It comes from a random comment my dad made a long time ago when he was probably having a bad day. He came to watch me at swimming lessons, and I was so excited dad was there I goofed off to get his attention. I asked him what he thought, and he said "if you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all." That was almost 30 years ago. But it made a huge impact on me. I felt like I had to always give him something to say. How could I make sure he had something good to say? ONly way I could be sure is to be number one. If I wasn't it might not be good enough. I am paranoid about being good enough. It causes a lot of stress. And my family was great about soothing stress with food. The more stressed, the more I ate. The weight then became my excuse and protection. And I need to find a way to get rid of all these old things, but I am not quite sure how. . . Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. Here's to a good week :wave: |
Hi girls,
Quick one from me, had a really hectic week-end, however I did manage to get my crunches in even though I wanted to skip it but knowing I would have to come here and fess up to my slacking kept me on track, so thanks :) That means I have two days of my challenge under my belt and sore tummy muscles which kinda feels good!! I will be back tomorrow with hopefully a little more time to give to you all. Sorry I had to be so short. |
Hi all
I've done day 5 of my exercise program so all on track! jolly for change to occur the first step is awareness so in that respect you have to look inside yourself to see what you are doing and work out how to change it. and as i said before as a psychologist i don't entirely agree with red because we have to do some self analysis or we'd float through the surface of life the incident you mentioned - oh how familiar that is hehe - you've done the first step which is to acknowledge it. to finish the process you have to reach a point of harmony or calmness around it where it no longer bothers you. sometimes that means forgiveness other times acceptance or it can be both. you might still be at the anger stage??? i can recommend a good book for this sort of issue, actually heaps of them. this one is about journaling. altho it was written long before journaling became popular and it's not called journaling. John Gray : What you can feel you can heal (or something like that). and yes it is john gray of mars & venus fame. this was an earlier book before the mars & venus ones took off it takes you essentially thru the 5 stages of grieving by writing a letter to your father (which you wouldn't have to send) until you get to the point where you no longer feel emotionally upset by that or anything else. hope you had fun with the dogs in the dog park. we had those in auckland and i loved them. the dogs had a great time there but we don't have them here. i really miss being able to take the girls to play with other dogs and romp around together. also miss the companionship. there was a big crowd of us who would walk around together and decompress and discuss our furkids |
15 to go!
Took a pause day yesterday, Sunday, so today is Day 6 and it is done. :dancer:
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*warning: Sushi might throw the laptop at one of the surrounding walls any moment*
The stupid thing froze twice in the last 20 minutes!!! :tantrum: Anyhow, I'm guessing that "no food after 7 pm" challenge is about to be completed, since I haven't taken any pause days. As I said, I want to keep doing this, so I'll wait till Wednesday and then I'll start the count again. I started a couple of new challenges today - no chocolate is one, and no to a particular kind of crackers I eat too much off is the other, and the third one is to keep a food diary. Which reminds me - I better write all the food down before I forget about it. Ok, done. All the challenges are level 3, but I'm going to challenge myself a bit further and attempt not to take any pause days on any of those even though they are allowed by the level. That'll be harder than doing level 1 or level 2, don't you think? :) Oh, and there is one more... daily exercise. Any, and no minimum of minutes per day. Today I decided to cound my Ashtanga Yoga class as exercise for the day, the reasoninb behind that being that I'm still feeling somewhat of an aversion to exercise, and I was hoping that yoga would kick me back into wanting to do something. Seems to have worked, and hopefully the effects will last till tomorrow! :) The final challenge was supposed to be getting out ot bed before a specific time. That's really hard to do when you're unemployed, have a ton of time on your hands and don't need to be anywhere in the morning... even though I love getting up early, I'm finding myself staying up later and later and later (and it doesn't help that I can only use the computer in the evening). So the goal will be 8 am at the moment, and I'm planning on moving it to 7:30 and then 7 am as the three weeks go by. Don't know what'll happen with this challenge if I do get a job (which I do hope will happen soon!), but that's ok. Anyhow, this didn't work today... I did wake up early but it was absolutely freezing, so I turned the heater on to warm up the room a bit, stayed awake for a while, but then fell asleep again. That makes tomorrow Day 1 again. Day 1 notched on all the other challenges... and wait... how many is that... ummm... or maybe I'd rather not know...? ;) |
Good morning all! :wave:
Donuts - good, day 16 Sushi - good luck with your computer AND your challenges! Jolly - hope things are going better for you. And I do agree, the best way to get past something is to acknowledge it. Since you have acknowledged things, you are one step in the right direction! MyOwn - good job on the crunches! I should join you guys on that but I'll wait until we get back from our trip! Red & SweetPea - keep up the good work! You're doing great! :carrot: Hope the rest of you are doing well. |
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