Gravol - a motion sickness medication. Also makes me sleep.
Gayle - Hang in there with FIL, I know it gets frustrating. I hope he inproves soon.

Gayle ~ I'm sorry, I didn't realize that your FIL's condition was so grave. I'll continue to keep him and the rest of your family in my prayers. :hug:

Janice ~ How are you doing without the sugar substitutes and sleep aids? I would guess that it will take awhile to work those things out of your system. It might be a good idea to drink lots of water to help flush your system.

Shelley ~ How are things with you? Are you feeling any better?

Has anyone heard from Sherry? I know she said that if this last medication didn't work that she would have to go into the hospital...I sure hope that's not the case!

It's also been a long time since Ramona checked in...I think of her often and have been keeping her son in my prayers. Has anyone heard from her?

Yet ANOTHER marriage "problem"
 

When I moved in with Stewart back in June he told me not to worry about paying any of the bills because he knew that I still had my trailer and all the bills associated with it to pay. Around August he looked at me one night while we were watching TV and said: "You know, I don't think it's right that I'm paying all the bills and your just getting to keep all of your money."

I *calmly* reminded him of the discussion that we'd had in June when he told me not to worry about paying anything and told him that when I paid off or sold my trailer I'd help him. Since then he has been CONSTANTLY (at least twice a month) reminding me that I need to be helping him with the light bill and the water bill.

I paid the December light bill even though I didn't have any extra money because I though he'd be happy with that for awhile. Well, as y'all know, I sold my trailer in January. This is the 1st month I've not had a payment on it, so I can't really tell a difference financially yet.

Saturday night he started on that thing about me paying half the bills again. I told him I would if he would figure out what half was and tell me what he wanted me to pay. Keep in mind that up until now all we have ever talked about me paying was half the water and half the electric (which were the bills that increased after I moved in)...... Well, last night he came in and told me he wants me to pay him $200/month to live there.

I wasn't expecting him to want that much, and my reaction was shock. I asked him what was $400 and he said the lights, water, phone, house payment, dish network and house insurance premiums. I told him that I didn't mind paying the lights and water, but I feel that the rest of those are his bills--
1. it's "his" house (he keeps reminding me of that) and I moved into it--it's not "our" house.
2. I don't need a house phone and I don't feel as though I should have to pay for his. It's HIS--my name is not in the phone book and I don't give that number to people. I have had a house phone 8 months out of the last five years and that was when I lived in an area where I didn't have cell service. When I told him that he said that if that was the case I needed to keep my G--d a$$ off his phone. (The only time I use that phone is when I answer it--and it's usually for him!! Or my MIL calling for me)
3. I didn't ask him to get dish network and he didn't ask me if I wanted it. He purchased it on his own and signed an 18 month contract on it. Now he wants me to pay half of it. I won't even go into the problems we're having with it (Just think late night and early morning programming!!)
4. The house is HIS house. I moved into it. He'd have the same payment on it whether I lived there or not. He's told me before that if "we" do ever buy a house that he's getting it in his and his dad's name so that if we ever get divorced I won't have a claim to it--or if he dies I won't be able to sell what he worked for. I'm sorry, but this attitude does NOT make me want to contribute to the payment of "his" house.

Am I being unreasonable? A part of me feels guilty because I'm not being the "good little wife" and just GIVING him $200/month, but the other part of me thinks that $200 is a LOT of money. $200 is RENT!!

Let me also say this: I suggested that we open a joint checking account to pay the bills from--I put in $250 and he put in $250--he was TOTALLY opposed to that idea.

Help:?:

Cheryl-I think the joint account is a very good idea. What was his reasoning for not wanting to do that? Mike and I had separate accounts for many years, but we split most everything. Now I just give him most of my paycheck (minus my personal charge card bills.) It sounds like maybe the both of you need to go to some kind of counselor who can help you split up things fairly for payment. Even though you don't use the phone, dish network, etc., you are staying at his place. Don't let this thing tear you apart from one another. Someone has to give a little. Unfortunatly, it may have to be you. Sorry if I am not telling you what you want to hear, but I think you need to be reasonable about this. Maybe the others have a different opinion than me. BTW, who pays for the food and incidentals?

I buy the incidentals (I've done that for both of us even before I moved in) and we both buy groceries.

It seems strange to be itemizing everything.It also seems strange that he calls things his because he pays for them. Im sorry but it seems a little imature. That wouldn't give me the warm and fuzzies. You should be contributing something though. You two should sit down and make up a budget and decide who pays for what. In my opinion, the contribution should be proportional to your income. Who ever makes more puts in more. I know i probobly didnt help you... but i cant help giving people advice.

Just dropped in long enough to give you my opinion...

When Steve & I married, everything that was his became mine and vise versa. Steve earns most of the income so his money pays most of the bills. I use my paycheck for a car payment plus some fun money. I feel if your married it should no longer be "yours", "mine", it should be "ours". I think Stewart is acting like a child requesting money and calling everything his. I'm sorry if I sound harsh Cheryl, but you don't deserve someone treating you so unfairly.
Can you tell I'm grouchy tonight??? LOL!

Cheryl - I agree with Gayle. I handle all the money and pay the bills. Everything is joint. If one of us needs money we just take it out of the joint account. Neither of us is accountable to the other for what we spend.
Every couple is different. You both need to talk and find out what works for you. When you are a couple it is supposed to be us not me.

Cheryl ~ We've been married for almost 25 years and since day one everything has been "ours"...I can't imagine it any other way. I wouldn't even know where to begin if I had to divide things into "his and hers", so I guess I'm not going to be of much help.

I totally agree. This is coming from a newly wed though. We both put our paychecks in our account and if we want to buy something then we do. We inform the other what we bought but we don't ask for it. It's kinda a heads up kinda thing. It's one thing if you wanna buy a pony or a corvette but everything is split down the middle. Even though he makes more he went into this knowing that so tough poop. You know? Money is the #1 thing that couples fight about though and i believe it.

Hi all!
I used to be a part of the Atkins forum on 3FC a couple of years ago, but that didn't work out for me so well... so I'm trying to find a new place to post and look for support..... You guys got room for a new girl?

Only if you truly are a total sass bucket.

We don't allow any other kind of participation here :)

WELCOME RHONDA!!! We always have room. You will love this group of ladies.

Welcome Rhonda! There's always room for one more Floozie! I'm looking forward to getting to know you! :)

Cheryl ~ What the heck is a sass bucket? :lol:

I dunno..... It's what's under her user ID.....

I'm just a plain-old Senior Member.....