:grouphug: I am so sorry Melissa. Hopefully he will really send the money in so you can get it soon. Threatening to call cps is so horrible, doesn't he realize that it would be hurting his son more than you? I don't think people get that, he's threatening to hurt his son to get you to open the door. Low, low, scummy low. Some people need to get their heads out of their rear ends and think about things straight, not just think about themselves.

I'm sorry, it just makes me mad to hear about you being treated this way.

Theresa

Ok I am back again. I can't focus but I did finish reading Hacker. He is right in the fact that this is lifelong not just for a time but I don't agree with alot too lol. I put in my email for an excersize bike through freecycle so hopefully it will fit in my car cause not sure dad will go to marysville for it. Then I wouldn't stress so much about the lack of excersize I get. I like to walk but it rains so much here and I really don't like to drag myself or the kids out in it. I could maybe let josh ride it too and then he wouldn't have to deal with those rotten kids. Right now the only real deal I have is to take him to the park and let him ride while I push the kids in the stroller but if they aren't in the stroller I am not attempting it cause they always go in opposite directions. If I liked my sister in law I might ask my brother if I could squat on one of their 42 acres but there is no plumbing or electricity-not my gig. Ok I have rambled on now and will be quiet.
melissa

Well on the upside I was on the phone with other grandma and she heard the whole thing so if he does wind up being stinky, I have a witness as to why there were called and it wasn't because of anything to do with josh. I think he forgets I am not his naive little chippy who thinks he is mr. wonderful. I know him and that he is a royal class jerk. I almost laughed when he said I had to unblock his number so he could call his son. It is laughable really. She couldn't believe how awful he was-told her that was nothing compared to when were married. I had lots of people ask me when we were married if he always talked to me like that. At that time, I didn't even realize the way he treated me was awful. Talk about low self esteem! Well I don't tolerate it anymore that is for sure. Killed me to decline the money though-just killed me. My caseworker said that if he gave me money again, I had to send it in and I am not willing to lie about money he gives me and then too it gives him power over me which I am not willing to give either. I am not going to do his job and mail his support in for him which is what I would be doing. I truly feel bad for josh to see that stuff and plus the fact he has to spend the day with the bloody boar.
melissa

Melissa-Bet ya all the Summer Starters would like to come and kick the crap out or your ex and the genius neighbors and then we could all go have great big ice cream sundaes.
I am longing for an ice cream sundae and I might do a "Hacker" and spend a full days 1200 calories on ice cream and then feel stuffed and yucky and be done with needing ice cream.
Laura

Believe me it is tempting. It is times like this I wish I were remarried because he wouldn't pull half of what he does if I were. He was hovering yet again at my porch when he dropped josh off and glaring at me-like that is supposed to initimidate me or something. I don't care anymore and I didn't hit the fridge either. I ranted a bit and fumed alot but hey that burns calories right?
Melissa

Isn't it wonderful to be done hitting the fridge. We just went to dinner at a friend's. She is one of the few friends I have who know I am dieting so she baked some fish for me. Everyone else had huge slabs of bloody roast beef. Then there were lots of veggies. I had a tiny piece of apple pie and no guilt cause I don't think the fish and veggies were even 250 calories, no bread or appetizers. I didn't feel left out or bad or anything, just pleased to be with friends. What a change!
Laura

Melissa, sorry to hear what you are going thru with the ex. I never had a child with my ex so he had no reason to stay in my life- a mixed blessing --I married a wonderful man who couldn't have children. Life is strange sometimes. I know it was hard to turn down the money but you did the right thing. :grouphug:
I went shopping Sunday with the hubby, I wasn't going to try on anything, we were looking for a jacket for him. Anyway, he talked me into trying on some dress pants :yikes: I ended up wearing a Misses size :faint: (true it was a LARGE misses size ;) , but hey, I haven't seen that size in 11 years!) :spin:
So I came home on :cloud9: , I can't remember the last time I had a good experience clothes shopping. Weighed my self and am down 3 pounds :goodscale
Good luck to everyone this week. I might fall behind on posts (this is my 60 hour week) :tired:
Maybe I'll do a MELRA on my boss :rollpin: :lol3:

congrats on the loss Misty
Melissa- I have a blue ribbon in dealing with annoying neighbors and ex's :lol: !
I on a real quick early lunch today so i stopped by to see what's up.
After I get home I will post and :bravo: everyone
But the next person to read this please check and see if my fitday link works??? and let me know??
I would be very thankful - that way my sig is ok and I don't spend all day wondering if someone is going - geez she can't even put in a url correctly :lol:
Have a great day!

Thanks guys for all the support! I really appreciated it alot. All that fussing and fuming must burn calories cause I was down two more pounds today! How different from a time when I would have been up 2 pounds or more from that kind of thing. I am still struggling with the seeing myself at 250 still but soon I can start my picture journal and I am really hoping that helps me out. I can tell a difference in my clothes and congrats Misty too on the clothing change! I know what an awesome feeling it is.

Busy day for me today. I have to go see my son's therapist today. He is the one with the issues but I get to go. I told her a long time ago that I have her for 50 minutes and so it will be some therapy for me too LOL. I do like her alot. Then the big grocery shop today too. Man I tell you I am so excited to go! How pathetic is that? It also looks like I got the excersize bike too! She emailed her phone number so when I get a chance will need to call her. Now I will feel like I am doing something-not that I am not moving most of the day but it will give me some intentional excersize which I am thinking I need to do. I know it will be hard to keep josh off it but that is ok as we are still fighting against the medications that cause him to gain weight. I also decided if Dennis ever pulls anything like he did yesterday, I will definately go Melra on him and have him removed from my property. It is just so stupid for him to act that way, especially in front of Josh.

Melissa

Yes your fitday works perfectly!
Melissa

WOOHOO!! I got the excersize bike! Now I just have to get Dad to get it for me LOL. Hopefully I will have it by tomorrow.
Melissa

Yay on the bike Melissa! Maybe you should call the police next time he does something like this? Seriously, if he knows that you are going to take it serious and do something like call on him, he might think twice before doing it again. Then, if he files on you with cps (thinkt that's what ya called it there) then you have some official proff that he is just getting back at you and filing for nothing....have the police file an official report and make sure it includes his threat to call on you. Then if he does call cps, you have proof it's not legit. You just need proof that he is doing this to you. If you have a camcorder, then maybe put it in a window aimed to the porch or wherever he does this at, and turn it on to record when he comes to get Josh again. He won't know it's there, but you'll have solid evidence of him banging your door down. I just think you need evidence, not to hang over his head but just to protect yourself if it winds up in court or something. You might even use it to get his visitations cut down or ended completely. If you can prove he's being a hazard to the child (as he is with this behavior) than you may be able to prove him unfit.

Maybe I'm no help, but I would try to get some evidence on him. Even recording the noise somehow migh work, like a tape recorder. Check on Freecycle for a camcorder next ;) ya never know.

Theresa

Alright Melissa! way to go on the bike- and I agree with Theresa- Document every threat/annoyance/ irritation he makes- time, place, what he says or does.
A short burst on an air horn works great for annoying neighbor kids as they ride by..
Thank you for telling me the fitday is ok. I am doing it so I can be honest- and if anyone wants to look I am warning you :lol: they DO say laughing burn calories!

Laura -you said apple pie.I am craving now... YUM hmmm I got some beautiful apples yesterday and I do believe I will bake (ok microwave) one tonight with cinnamon and splenda- oh I am getting hungry

So far so good today- drank my h2o- i got up this a.m. and exercised- I am tracking my food- a good start to a good week ! I hope everyone else is doing good today!
Have a great afternoon all!

Yeah I had kind of started too but now it is more detailed ect. I talked to Josh's shrink about it and she was concerned that he seems to be losing control of himself and that I may have to get a restraining order which would suit me fine because then I would never have to see him. Still waiting for dad to call about picking up the bike. got the shopping and and whew it is nice to have produce ect again. I am making a huge salad tonight to go with the mandarine beef I am making. Tomorrow my grandmother turns 92 and Odessa turns 3. I guess I better find out if there are plans before I make my menu for tomorrow. We are doing Odessa's party on Saturday so Maryann can be here (other grandma). I am really pretty birthdayed out. I am in the clear after Saturday until January so that is nice. I am off the chop veggies but will check in later.
Melissa

Hi all! I have been terrible about keeping up with the thread lately but I just wanted to pop in and say hello! I hope everyone is doing well and staying on track to a healthier lifestyle!

Yesterday was my day to weigh and I got to move the ticker down 2 more! I had been holding steady at 156 the two previous weeks so things are slowing down for me but I'm ok with that because I only have 4 more to go!! I can't even put in to words how good it feels. I don't obsess about food, I don't worry about what clothes I'll be able to squeeze into for work tomorrow, I don't stay home every weekend just because I'd rather not be seen...I'm having FUN.

Exercise has been mostly walking. I feel like I'm not getting enough and need to do something more strenuous once in a while. I think I am going to have to start getting on the NordicTrack again or doing an aerobics tape once in a while. I just feel like I'm slacking in the exercise department lately. I did jog a couple of times last week but other than that I haven't done anything but walk. At least I am getting some leg muscles out of the deal. Really surprised me when I was jogging one morning and reached down to scratch my leg and felt muscle instead of flab...I was so excited I went straight home to show my husband. We had a really nice day today and I had the day off so I spent a lot of time outside. My husband was working on things around the farm so he didn't want to take the time to go with me so I took one of the new llamas with me instead. Actually he was a pretty good walking partner....didn't argue, complain, or talk back...and even hummed part of the time. I did get some pretty strange looks from some of the farmers in the fields but that's ok. If you spend much time with llamas you get used to funny looks and lots of questions.

Eating has been fine. Even with eating out a couple of times last week, and going to a baptism reception on Sunday, food just hasn't been much of an issue. I had salads in the restaurants because that's what sounded the best on the menu, and at the baptism I had sliced peppered turkey on a wheat bun and a big plate of fruit salad. I didn't even feel deprived saying "no" to the cake. I don't really have to count calories anymore and I can pretty much eat whenever I want to as long as I make the right food choices.

Hope everybody is doing great! I'm going to go do some reading and try to catch up on what everybody is up to. I've missed you all!!