[neo98292]

I think body image is a huge struggle for women in general and begins at a young age for most. We play with Barbie, see those pencil thin women in magazines and on Tv while they are eating all those hugely fattening things and when we do it, we get fat-we don't see them spit it out when the director yells cut nor all the airbrushing that happens. The average woman does not have at her disposal, personal trainers, cooks, ect that the more affluent have either. It would be nice to have the mind set of a man in that area. They can have a huge beer belly and no teeth and think they are the cat's meow! I have started saying possitive things to myself out loud (so I can hear it) to change that inner voice that has been telling me all the wrong things for so long.
melissa

[KayElle]

I don't think I'm really an emotional eater. I tend to NOT be able to eat much if I'm upset over something. I think I've been more of a habitual eater. In the past it's been more like if I wasn't so completely stuffed that I couldn't down another bite then I was looking for something (usually something sugary and full of fat) to top off. I'm still working getting used to waiting until I'm truly hungry and recognizing when I really do need to have something to eat. It is getting easier, and I get filled up a whole lot quicker than I used to, too.

The body image thing...I can really relate to that. Even after 74 pounds and dropping from a size 22 to a 10 I still don't see the changes that my family and friends seem to see...instead I see all those problem areas that are still there. I'm hoping that I can get past that because I know that I am always going to have problem areas even when I get to my goal. I think that's part of the reason that I've never been able to maintain my losses in the past. I know now that I will always have issues with my weight no matter how much I lose. I'm hoping the fact that I recognize that it's a problem and I know I have to work on it will help me stick with it this time. I definitely feel different even if I don't look different to myself. The change in my energy level is amazing. That alone should be enough to keep me going. Now I think about when I can fit in a jog or a walk when I used to think about when I could go get some donuts.

[sandisuze]

Hey everyone .. I have not been able to post after yesterday a.m. and find I missed 2 whole pages..
To try and catch up: School starts here August 8 (YAY!)

I am a total emotional overeater Yesterday (friday) was a great morning had a good day at work,had a nice lunch with hubby and youngest daughter , took "little bits" (youngest daughter) to get a haircut and the day was going really great and then....(Dummm Dummm Dummm.. scary music)Oldest daughter (20) called and said she had been laid off from her job of 7 weeks and was very overdramatic about it. Unfortunately we've been having problems with her attitude) (to go into details would take up way too much room.)But we got into the mom/daughter thing and had a big blow out. So she packed a bag and left- 20 minutes later the police are at my door??? I am confused and hear apparently her g/f called the police because my oldest was on the phone with her when we were have our arguement. The g/f thought I was being "mean" so she called the police, Apparently the g/f told the police I kicked down the door to the room and was violent...I calmly talked to the officers and explained that we had an VERBAL discussion (ok- we yelled at each other) I showed them the door and there were NO signs of me kicking it down, there were were no signs of violence..they found my oldest walking to a friends house and she freaked out that her g/f did this.. They felt the g/f was really out there with what she told them.. but still freaked me out.. of course I was upset and was making the kids mac & cheese to have with the chicken and I stood at the stove and shoveled in a big spoonful and then stopped before I shoveled in another one.. I will not allow emotions to control my eating..( repeat over and over again.. )
I almost broke down and weighed myself today... But hubby said don't do it...
I am on track with water/ food- not so good with exercise.. too emotional last night then had to take hubby to urgent care for his leg, this a.m... they thought he had blood poisoning -after 3 hours they said it was a bad bruise - lots of torn muscles and damage under the skin..Then he wants to go to Bob Evans The pancake place.. I am like NOOOOOOO.. but of course we go anyway... I was soo good. only had Whole wheat toast with SF jelly and an veggie omlet with egg beaters and a fruit cup.. almost too much food... Did I say that???
This support group has become so important to me.. I really depend on it for so much .. I told my hubby we were special cause we have our own private support team..He is very happy that I have made new friends and have accountability partners. I will take time to catch up tomorrow and YAY everyone on!

[neo98292]

Lucky you for school starting-I have to wait until sept 7th I believe. I had forgotten how anal (for lack of a better word) my son is about things. He is special needs. So everyday I am told constantly what time it is, what time the next meal is going to be, and then asked about a zillion times what is being prepared. Patients is a virtue they tell me. As far as the mac and cheese...girlfriend if that is all you did during all that turmoil, my hats are off to YOU! The fact too that you stopped yourself from taking that second bite-truly should give yourself a pat on the back for that one. Between police and hospital, I would say you handled yourself wonderfully. It is wonderful you have a good supportive hubby and we are also glad to have you with us. I look forward to the boards everyday and am counting the days till wednesday! Keep up the awesome job!
Melissa

[StillTrying923]

Hi all!

Thanks KayElle, Jjeanne and Macdee for the good wishes on the orthodics! I got themThursday and wore them all day yesterday... a little uncomfortable, so I took today off. The Podiatrist said to start walking with them slowly until my feet get used to them. My walking partner at work comes back from vacation Monday, so hopefully we can try a short walk! Can't wait!
I haven't excercised in two days and the eating has not been good! a party last note and one this afternoon! And going to my nephew's B-Day party tommorrow! YIKES!

So I am determined to walk on Monday and start watching the food again tommorow! Wednesday will be here before I know it!
Take Care all!

[LauraB]

Sandisuze-What an awful day. And you got thru it without using food. WOW
Sometimes I wish my children had the problems they had when they were little. Now it's relationships and cars and money and jobs and real big things that they tell me about and make me nuts cause mostly I can't fix it, like I could when they were little. Then I feel awful, like somehow I didn't do good enough or they wouldn't be upset, and then I have to eat. The next day or so I am still upset and guilty and then discover they are long over the problem.
Today was a good eating day. That's 5 in a row.
Laura

[uncovering]

Sandisuze, you have got to be kidding me! All of that packed into one day? Good job at breakfast, I would have ordered waffles AND eggs AND toast after the day and night you had.

[KayElle]

My gosh, Sandisuze, you had an awful day. It really shows your commitment that you were able to make it through the day without completely going off your plan. That is something to be proud of! I hope the rest of the weekend is being kinder to you than Friday night was.

[JKL]

Hi all,

I am new and just found your thread. I know you got started on Monday - but it is too late to join? Someone give me the quick start version of how this works.

Thanks
Laura

[jjeanne]

Hi Laura (JKL)
Welcome! The more, the merrier. Wednesday is our weigh in day. You can send neo98292 (Melissa) a PM with your email addy and she will add you to our group.
We basically are here to check in with one another and give support as we go through the challenging process of losing weight.
Good luck to you!

[jjeanne]

Sandisuze - I echo the sentiments of the others. You weathered that storm especially well. How is your daughter acting now?

LauraB - congrats on 5 good days. I have been really good with the exercise, but the food thing has been more difficult for me. But I guess when I compare it to how I was eating a few weeks ago, I have made tremendous strides.

[SuzyMc]

Good morning everyone!

Sunday is my official weigh-in day...I lost 3 pounds this week!

Sandi ~ I give you credit...if I had a day like that I would be locked in the bedroom with a carton of butter pecan icecream, a jar of hot fudge and a spoon! I sure hope that things have gotten better for you!

Laura (JKL) ~ Welcome to the group!

Sounds like everyone is really doing great...keep it up!

[neo98292]

Suzy CONGRATULATIONS! Good job. My official day is Tuesday but I weigh again on Wednesday for the group check in.

Yes JKL, please PM me with your email address and I will get you on the weekly list. We use this thread for daily things-struggles and successes and then once a week we send an email to the group to chart progress with our weight loss.

This group is soooo awesome and great with communication. That shows me how serious everyone is and also willing to be a support to one another. I can't tell you what that means to me.
Have a great Sunday everyone!
Melissa

[KayElle]

Hi and welcome, JKL!

Congrats on the 3 lb. loss, SuzyMc! Way to go!

I had good day yesterday. Stuck to my food plan but I didn't get as much exercise as I would have liked. I took a long walk in the morning and wanted to take another in the evening but my hubby decided we should go to a movie and I'm glad we did. It was a fun evening and I wasn't even bothered by his popcorn and was happy with my diet soda. I am having a hard time drinking water but I did drink more yesterday than I have been, the bad thing was that after I got home from the movie I was feeling guilty because I hadn't had enough water so I drank too much too late so then I didn't sleep that well.

This morning has been interesting. We had a thunderstorm with a lot of rain and lightning at daybreak and I went to look outside and saw some little kittens crawling around in the rain. I live on a farm and it's not unusual to get strays here in the summer but this is the first I had seen of them and they are so small. I love cats (and all animals) so I couldn't leave them out in the rain. Ended up finding 4 of them right off and got them dried off and warmed up and they all seem fine. I knew I had heard another one but it took me forever to find her and I thought it was too late when I finally did. She is finally warmed up and has even eaten a little canned catfood and is taking a nap now but she is so shaky when she tries to move around. Poor little thing. I hope she will be ok.

Hope everybody is having a great weekend!

[uncovering]

Hey girls!

Kayelle - lots of good karma coming your way for saving those kittens!

Suzi - That's awesome! Congrats on the 3 pounds!

JKL - Welcome!

I'm okay today... been having a hard couple of days mood-wise. I'm about to go see some friends so hopefully that will cheer me up. Stepped on the scale today (I think sunday is becoming my weigh-in day) and I've lost 4 pounds. I know that's good and, believe me, I'm grateful. But, I have so much weight to lose and I just wish it would come off faster! I'm also having this problem with my tailbone when I'm exercising. It starts hurting like heck after 15 minutes of walking. 15 minutes! I have to like crawl home. I know, I know, I should see a doctor and I will. But I can't stop thinking "What have I done to my body?"

Well, this is only week two and I have to remember that I AM losing weight (11 pounds, so far. Yea!) and I AM working to be healthier. Even though it only took 6 months to pack on the weight, it'll probably take much longer to shead it... but then it'll be gone forever.

I just wish I had done this 6 months ago when I was 70 pound thinner. ARRRGGHH. Anyway, I think I'm thinking about this too much. Thanks for letting me wallow a bit in my message, I 'm hoping my messages will be more perky as a get used to my new habits.

Have a good sunday!