wanting to blab~
 

Okay so there is no purpous to this post however im so bord at work and my mind is going a billion different ways first and for most I cant (well can) make it to the gym tonight See I have a little time however I have a birthday party to go to at 7pm so that only gives me a little time and I dont want to go to the party all stinky. But i feel so bad like im giving up 2 easy i mean I missed the gym Saturday and Sunday however I kept busy doing yard work and playing with my nephew, I just feel like im "skipping school" like im being Naughty. :devil:

ALSO Im going to a Mexican restruant for dinner tonight and i think ill crack again and after a bad weekend i think im getting weak!!!!!! :( I keep trying to tell myself to just be cool and all will work out fine but i just cant i keep feeling so bad . Does anyone understand where im coming from???

And what is with cravings do you give in even if you have been Naughty or do u pretend they arent there?????

I have often given thought about Overeaters Anoymous however thats not so anoymous to me..lol Ive also thought about Tops and Being hyptyonised but have never fully looked into it. I have also thought about stumach sugery (sp) however I want a nice flat tummy so I can show it and not a huge scar.. so that leaves me here with extreamily hard work.

Anyway im taking off soon, you all have a great evening and wish me luck 4 tonight...

Viana

Good morning all! :coffee:

good to have you back Nickie :yes: Now don't worry about this last weekend and concentrate on how GOOD you're going to do this week to make up for it. Sorry to hear about your leg. Is that going to effect your exercise routine at all? Get well soon!

Vi, Vi, Vi.... You can't let your eating get you down. I sure hope you didn't crack under pressure at the restaurant. There are always healthy alternatives when you go out, you just have to look for them. I KNOW you can do this, it just takes a HUGE effort on your part. Maybe instead of eating bad all weekend you can take one day off. I used to do that, that's how I lost 150lbs in one year. I would think of all the bad-for-me things I was going to eat all week then I would go wild on Saturday. It worked and I don't know why I quit. Oh yeah, I got married and I gave into hubby's cravings! :lol: It will be worth it in the end, I promise. Go to the gym, eat good and it'll happen. :drill: Listen to me! LOL

Where did Debs go?

Only 2 more days until my husband gets home, yeah! :cb: I really miss the big turd, but I'm sure by Sunday he'll be driving me crazy again. :lol: Today's plan is to do 45 minutes on the bike, and eat good. I didn't exercise yesterday because I was too tired. I know, excuses-exscuses. I did eat right though.

Hubby's on the phone, so I'll write more later,
Kathy :goodvibes

Aww thanks for the inspiration Healthy and Vi and everyone :D I sure need it. It's not easy living off shakes and seeing all the food on TV and driving past them, etc. but - it will be worth it so I'm sticking it out. I'm so glad to hear that your principal has done well with Medifast. It gives me encouragement. I will also say to you Healthy, check it out. I know that diabetics can use the system as they have special shakes, etc. for them so I'm sure that you'd be able to do it. Check with your doc maybe. I also suffer with IBS - have done for over 10 years. I haven't had an attack since I began this diet!! It's wonderful. Lots of fiber, no gas, no anything. You can even take fiber supplements like Metamucil if you want the extra. ;)

Anyway, no diet is for everyone but I'm just having such a good experience I have to share. Forgive me.

Hugs to you all and I'll check back when I have more time! (work!!)

~Alisha xo

hump day
 

Good morning group~

I hope this finds you all well. Lastnight was a horrible evening, however I am trying not to stress I mad crappy choices on picking food at the mexican restruant :eating2: Too many chips and too much food.. I just couldent help myself :(

Well Today is a new day and im planning on going to the gym and working my rear off :tread: :barbell: :ebike:
i still cant get over the feeling of losing when i cheat I just get so damn mad at myself.

I'm here
 

I'm here.....I'm going to catch on posts and I'll be back.

:comp: My computer is back! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!! :comp:



ok....I'll be back....


debs

:cp: Welcome Teddy and Margiann! This is a great group and we keep growing as we shrink!


:D Vi-hey as long as you recognize the indulgence and get back on track that’s ok. I’d go overboard at a Mexican joint too! Cut yourself some slack—but not too much! You are doing great! On the neighbor-he works with your mom?


:coach: Alisha-whatever works for you—great! Do you only drink/eat the shakes? Is it for the rest of your life? I know nothing about Medifast.

:dancer: Kathy-I see that you have found some great icons on your time away from dh! Are you planning anything special for his return….oh wait……some things we don’t need to know ! Did your kids have a good vacation?

:flow1: :flow1: Teddy-I know all about it being hot in Florida. Check the local pools for water aerobics. You don’t necessarily have to be a member to take a class. I’m sure St. Pete has TONS of places. (you are in St. Pete right?).

:spin: :spin: Nikki-How is your knee? I’ve never thought about, probably because I never really thought I over ate! HA! If you think it will be beneficial look into it. I don’t think I’d be able to do it. Admit I eat raw cookie dough and sometimes brownie mix? AHHH (ok…I admitted it  )

:cb: Healthy-what are you eating? I should probably get back to keeping track.

Update
 

I had a nice time on the 4th. Didn't really eat healthy :mad: .
Tuesday I didn't do that much. I was so tired! I was looking places for rent. We went to look at a place :rollpin: It was a dump!

We then drove around for about 1 1/2 hours-no luck.

Today I looked up a few places-left some messages-no one has called me back. UG! I am getting stressed :no: ! Our lease is up on the 26th. I am so not even looking like I am moving-like maybe 2 boxes packed. I have to get some stuff today.

Nathan and I went to the pool. It has HOT outside so the water felt great.

I have no reason to not go to Curves tonight! I'll be ready-when dh gets home I'll leave. I think I need to get weighed and measured. It's been about a month. I don't think there is much change. UGGG. My fault completely.

I only have 3 weeks of vacation left. Next week I have training all week-all day. :( I really wanted to get into my class and get it set up before we have to go back. I moved rooms, so I have to unpack all my stuff! I hate MOVING!!!!

I'm stressed....and I always eat horribly when I am stressed!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

I better get going...tons of stuff to do!

Debs

Hello Debs
 

Thanks for the suppor Debs Im trying to not be so hard on myself but as im sure you know it hard.

As far as Trevor my neighbor goes he works at the sears at the mall across from where my mom works she works at Rite Aid and he comes in to get beer and stuff every few days and they talk all the time, My mom thinks he may like me bust said to just give it time and let things happen.. but my golly he is a hottie!!!

Ohhh, I see
 

You must really be bored at work, Vi! LOL

I'm falling asleep sitting in this chair. I should grab a drink...water! LOL

debs

lol yes Im at lunch well I have 4 min left..... but yes im always bord!!!! wish I got the summer off

Hello Ladies! It's going to take me awhile to get into the swing of things around here, but I plan to be around awhile.

I'm still trying to eat all the right carbs. just in smaller portions. I haven't exercised in about two days and I'm looking forward to getting back into the routine. My body and mind feels better after exercising. As I wrote earlier I'm going through perimenopause and having a difficult time emotionally and physically. Exercising is suppose to help, but believe me my medications are one of my BIGGEST help :). When I first began experiencing symptoms and did not know what was going on I was going semi-regularly :) to a gym. I lost about 30 pounds but my emotional state was not good. Believe me, hormonal imbalance is more than an occasional hot flash. I'm saying this because we hear so much about exercising, exercising, and believe me all the weights, and cardo. did not help my emotional state. Yes, my clothes fit wayyyyyyyy better and I was regaining my girlish waistline, but who cares when you can't get off the sofa, sleep, or function. I think the majority of you ladies her are a lot younger than me so you have some time before you cross this bridge.

Deb, I know about that moving and setting up a classroom. This will be my first year of being in the education profession that I will not have to set up my classroom. I accepted a position working with immigrant students and parents and I'm EXCITED!!!
I bet my family is also glad, because setting up my classroom was a family affair whether they wanted to or not LOL.

Vi, don't beat yourself up today is a new day. I just ate some eggrolls...well they were a little more than some :(, but I plan to put in a few extra minutes of exercising to hopefully burn off 2 or 3 eggrolls :).

Alisha, I'm so proud of you with the Medifast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Blah! Yelled at my dh about moving. Since I'm home, I'm doing the leg work. Well my dh has his own opinions. He's not a jerk, just particular. We *must* have a garage-ok...easier said than done! UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!! We really got a great deal with this place. I so don't want to pack! He's on vacation next week-so I know he'll help out with packing. I know it will all work out.

debs

London
 

My thoughts and prayers go out to London. Brings back memories of 9/11.

:grouphug:

debs

Thursday morning. Woke up with dh telling me about London.

Last night we got a call back about a house for rent. It's in a good neighborhood. It's 2/2 (we live in a 3 bedroom now). We have an appointment this evening. We are bring the $$ with us. We drove by the house last night. We really like it from the outside. It has a HUGE, WOODEN fenced yard--a great thing considering I have a 6yo. We have yard space now, but we don't let Nathan outside unless we are with him. We live off of a VERY busy road---many people drive by. It's less than 10 min. from here. It would only add about 5 min. of work time. There is a Curves up the street. It has a 2 car garage. The rent is the same as here, which is ok with me.

We don't really need 3 bedrooms. We used the 3rd bedroom for over a year as a "junk" room and computer room. My friend came in March with her 5 month old, so I set the room up as a nursery. We put Nathan's crib up and put a few other baby things in there. We moved to the computer to the kitchen. We have a decent size eat in, and we don't use it--so we moved the comuter. Hopefully this new house has enough space for the computer.--our lifeline! LOL. Hopefully they like us and will rent to us. Oh-it's available next week! Perfect for us! That's what I wanted. I wanted to move next week, dh is on vacation. Have a yard sale (here) on the 22 and 23. Go back to work on the 25th.

I better get going. Today is the last day of Nathan's swim lessons-well the 1/2 level. He starts the 2/3 level on Monday. My dh will be taking him because I am at an inservice all week. I have to write all the TO DO things for today. I MUST go to the library-have to return books. I have to stop by the Kirby place to pick up shampoo for the vaccuum. OH! Today is a friend's b-day gotta call her. Plus I never saw my other friend for her b-day.

Talk to you all later!

Debs

A Sad Morning
 

Good Morning all my buddies,

I woke up to a very sad morning today my heart goes out to everyone in London, My heart just breaks with the news of the bombings, It does bring me back to 9/11 and many thoughts of all whom are nolonger with us :( May we take a moment and reflect on all the pain this terror group is causing everyone. my prayers and love is with them all..


Anyway on to better things I had a great night lastnight I worked my butt off at the gym and had a very healthy dinner a Salda with bbq chicken on top. I have gained 3lbs probably because of the horrible weekend but ill just relax and go with the flow and work harder... No news from the hottie across the street... I need to work on that too its so funny its like im in high school all over again..

Hope you all have a good and safe day

Hugs
Viana

Well good afternoon (almost) everyone. Yep, I woke up with the same horrible news about London that put an immediate stone in my stomach. My friend Sarah, who I met while I was living over there, recently moved to live in London to work at the Tate Museum. It just makes me sick with worry and the mobile networks are all down so I don't even know if she's alright. :?: It's a terrible feeling.

So, aside from that..

Debs - It sure sounds like you found a great house after all those trials and tribulations! I know how tough it's been on you and I really hope that everything works out for you. You deserve it. I understand completely about the packing thing. When I had to pack up an entire apartment and three cats to move back to the States I thought I'd lose my mind. Every friend I had within visiting distance sidestepped helping me in one way or another until I was like the cheese who stands alone. But.. after I had a very disturbing panic attack on the train to work one day, I decided that I was going to take one day at a time and quit worrying. I had to put faith in myself that I'd get it done and I did. You'll do the same. Just try and take one thing as it comes and don't worry about the whole picture at once or you'll go cross-eyed. :dizzy: Trust me hun!

Healthy - Thanks so much for the encouragement :angel: I'm not finding this diet hard at all, except for the occasional want for something, but every little helps. I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time health-wise. I haven't gone through what you have yet- I'm hoping to hold it off until I can have at least one child. I just need to find daddy first and I'm not even looking right now. I'm 34 and pushing my envelope a little too far I think. But anyway, I think you're coping brilliantly. To **** with the eggrolls lady! You're working very hard and a treat or indiscretion now and then won't upset the apple cart. :no: You just hang in there and remember, we're all in your corner. :balloons:

Vi - Well darlin it sounds like you're on track. 3lbs? Pshaw! Those will float away in the wind. :bubbles: My guess is that it's just a little water weight. You can't gain 3lbs of fat overnight ;) I found that, when I was doing the Fat Loss for Idiots diet, I'd eat healthy for all 11 days, but when the three cheat days came along, I'd gain about 3lbs. That was because I was intaking MUCH more sodium over my cheat days than what I did following the diet menu. So don't worry hun, you're doing very well. Just check out your ticker!!!

As for me.. well, I was down another pound as of today. I'm going to quit weighing now for at least a week. I don't want to get all obssessive. It's so hard, though. I'm being very good and drinking all of my water - 10 8oz glasses a day. Yesterday was hard getting it down, but I picked up some more flavored water and not it's easy peasy. I really enjoy the Fruit 2 0. I have lemon this time and it's very refreshing, especially in the hot Florida weather. My lovely mother said she'd pick some more up for me today (saves me $$$) and that's probably a good thing with Dennis heading in. :devil: I've never been through a hurricane and I'm in NO hurry to try it out. (Even though I always wanted to be a storm chaser!)

Anyway, my beloved colleague just brought me a diet cherry coke so I'm going to enjoy my treat before my next shake.

Take care ladies. I'll be back to post later.

~Alisha :hat:

Glad to see you are still with us, Healthy. Did you do the exercise you'd planned? I didn't notice the exercise affecting my moods until I'd been at it regularly for a few weeks, then it sort of struck me that, gee, I had been feeling better. I expect my dh probably noticed it before I had become conscious of it. LOL Now that I am aware of it I go for more exercise when I feel stressed, like I used to go for tylenol.

Sea, oh yes I peddled away those pounds last night and felt wonderful. Afterward I took a warm bath some magnesium and slept like a baby :).

Alisha, I just had to laugh when I read about you wanting to be a storm chaser, because your name sake, my dd, could easily have done the samething. She's 21, but when she was a child she would find great delight in storms. She would remain at the window looking for a tornado or some natural disaster. Her brother on the other hand takes cover whenever two drops of rain falls from the sky. Total opposites.

Deb, I am also packing to relocate to Florida. I don't mind packing, but I dislike unpacking. Thank God for my dh who likes to unpack. So we have a unspoken understanding. I do the majority of the packing and he unpacks.

I'll be back after I log in my foods for the day.

It's a long one...a much needed vent
 

Good Morning Everyone!

We left the security deposit for the house. We'll know by Tuesday. They seemed to really like us and our son. The house is SMALL, but that's ok---we need to down size. I'll have to go the permit for a garage sale. We are going to have to sell our den furinture. When we moved to FL we didn't have any livingroom/den furniture. Now we have too much! LOL.

I'm not doing anything today except clean up and pack some stuff and be with my son. We've been doing stuff every day. He went to bed after 11pm!

My friend, S, is driving me crazy. I guess I never realized a few things....1-she's a control freak (actually I discovered on a vacation to the Outer Banks-they drove from FL and we drove from NY.....I'll just say by the end of the trip I was so nuts that I got into the worst fight ever with dh and was calling for a divorce....and he didn't DO ANYTHING...she stressed me so much. 2. She is so unsure of herself.....in every aspect.

That I just figured out last week. Our boys are 10 months apart-mine being the older. They are totally different boys! She was very hard on him (he's only 5) as a toddler/preschooler. I'm a little bit more slack on discipline. I mean I let my son experience things......her son couldn't play with any toy unless he was using the proper way. I could care less if Nathan was taking a toy from something else and playing with it on another toy. She would make him eat his food. I never really forced Nathan...yes he had to eat something. My mother told me not to stress over it....he'll eat when he's hungry.

Just the other day she told me that she doesn't make a seperate meal for her son if he doesn't like what they are having. I do. I don't do it every night, but there some meals that my dh and I enjoy, but my son doesn't. Am I wrong? Nathan is right were he needs to be on his healthy charts. He doesn't have much of a belly.....he's not skin and bones. Her son has a big belly! He walks on the tredmill and does exercises now (he's 5!). When they saw how great Nathan was reading, the next week her son was reading great also (he starts kindergarten in August). It's like whatever my son does, her son better be able to do it also.

Nathan doesn't know how to tie his shoes---well....kinda. Her son has known for a long time time. I don't make him do it...I know he should know...he's rarely worn tie shoes all summer....we'll work on that in the next few weeks. Her son has been riding a 2 wheel bike for about a year....they bought Nathan a bike for his 5 bday.........he doesn't know how to ride a 2 wheel bike. I guess my point is that I don't make him stuff just because J can. I go with the flow of my child.

As you know, Nathan has been taking swimming lessons. He would swim with a life vest on and be as happy as a lark....but it was time. He needed to know how...especially living in FL. Her son had those safe start $300 survival swimming lessons....boy wouldn't swim afterward...terrified of the water. He took them when he was 3? He cried...hated it. Well my lessons are $35-and like a FOOL I said that he was swimming without the floats and was swimming under the water and doing great. Her husband was here last week and I was telling them both this.......I could tell he thought it was stupid that they paid the big bucks and their son couldn't swim....yet Nathan is progressing. Well, well, well....her husband calls me yesterday (he rarely does that anymore) and before we ended the conversation he said he was rushing home because J could swim without his floats. I was like your are f****** ( I don't cus so I was really mad.....I didn't say that to him)kidding me. Am I wrong here. It's as though whatever Nathan can do her son has to be able to do it. She tells him....why can't you behave like Nathan...Nathan isn't doing that. Look what Nathan can do. Her son doesn't need the added pressure. He already has to do everything her way. He must perform exactly as she says. She rides his case about everything! She forces him to do stuff. I could just imigaine how the kid reacted in the pool. She probably yelled at him, told him Nathan can do it...so can you. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME AGE!!!!!! When they are teenagers it won't matter...but 10 months apart is a big deal at this age.

Tell me if I'm wrong...that's only a brief account.
She is like the best "homemaker." Always making dinner/lunch from scratch. House always clean. I'm not a housework kinda gal. I work! She does work, she does home health care the 11-7 shift.....she works more now than she did because of her dh's job...but when her son was first born (1 1/2 years I think) she didn't work. Go to the park and play with my son....or mop the floor. Sorry-my son will come first! I can cook. I enjoy doing it. She acts like its a big deal when I invite her over. She'll say....I don't like when you cook for me...I'm like we were just at your house last week. Give me a break.

Now this friend is like a 6/8. Looks are very important to her. Whenever she describes something she always tells me what the other person looked like and what they were wearing. She likes to be tan so she has a tanning bed (sounds vain....I know). She has been busy lately and wasn't laying in it. Guess what I've been doing? Going to the pool/beach. I am tan. She made a comment--Wow Deb you are so dark! Well in just a few short days she exclaims how she laid in her tanning bed-she needed to get some sun. I was like........being competitive with the boys is one thing.....I'm learning to not let it bug me as much.....but being competitive with me is a whole new thing...don't go there!

I often wonder why she is my friend. Now, I've only painted the part that bugs me! She would do anything for us. She has done a lot for us. She was there when I had Nathan, I was there when she had her son. We are close friends. When we were moving back to FL she spend several weeks going to houses, taking pictures, getting all the information....that's a headache.

I told her husband that I would call her today to do something...truth of the matter is that I don't want to do. I know she will suggest swimming...so I can see her son. She said she'd come see Nathan...never came...he was disappointed. I feel like saying when she tells me his accomplishment (which I am very glad that he is doing it...I just hope it wasn't under harsh circumstances and that he was able to enjoy it!)"I figured you'd have him doing the same thing as Nathan...you always do". No, that's kinda mean. I guess it boils down to this.....she has a wonderful, smart son. She stifles that in him. He's becoming like her. He won't know how to make any decisions for himself because she controls it. She wonders why he lies to her....he doesn't want to disappoint her, get spanked (and boy did she spank him a lot). My son adores her....but he doesn't like the way she yells at her son. He can only handle so much of it.

I'm not perfect. My son isn't perfect. I don't think my disipline methods are the greatest.....but most of the time it works :dizzy: . I have a happy, healthy, confident son. He knows he's loved. He knows its ok to make to mistake. I let him frost the cookies anyway he wants and not CONTROL how he does it (she wouldn't let her son do it his way...she had to tell him step by step how to do that.....imagine the scene......I'm letting my son do it by himself....she is struggling to hold the knife and tell her son how to do it exactly the way she wants).

Ok guys.....thank you for letting me vent. Maybe I'm being the jerk. I don't care that her son can do what Nathan does.........but at what expense is it to him and to how he feels about Nathan. He drew something and he said..."Now am I a little artist like Nathan"--because he probably heard her saying it to him. It broke my heart when she told me he said that. She's like, Nathan is a good artist. I'm thinking...huh? Nathan will draw.....but it's on his time. I told her that he picks up one color and will color the whole page that color, he doesn't really color in the lines. I know that probably bugged her...she has made comments that her son will color everything the same color and not color in the lines...she repeatedly tells him how to do it. I told her that... I don't make Nathan draw (she makes her son). It's not that my son doesn't know how to color in the lines-he wants to finish. He draws when he wants too. I go with the flow. I'm sure she loved that. Her son read the clock at 10:41 instead of 10:14. She said she got on him and said....why did you read that wrong...you know 14 and you know 41. She was telling me she was frustrated that he does that sometimes. (remember he's 5...he won't be 6 until Feb.). I said it's developmental. I know she hates that answer because I tell her that a lot (because she keeps trying to make her son do stuff that Nathan does and 10 months and a year in kindergarten makes a huge difference!). She said...what does that mean....I said, well maybe he learned before he was ready. She stopped asking me about it after that. I told her how Nathan will sometimes rush through his work and he talks in class. I wanted to let her know that kids are kids. Nathan is a good boy......he'll admit he talks....but not when the teacher is looking (great thing to hear since I am a teacher LOL). I don't want to give her the impression that my son is perfect. No one is.

I am so sorry to go on and on and on about this. I just had to get it off my chest. I just think I'm going nuts. My husband said it's probably best that I not do anything with her today because I set myself up. He doesn't think she does it on purpose..it's just her personality. He feels bad for her son. We spend time with him--without her. We watch her son, more than she watches Nathan.

I have another friend (they know eachother) and she said she was surprised we've friends this long. She pegged it about her. She made comments about how she treats her son a few years ago. After Nathan's bday party in April, both sets of friends were there. That hasn't happened in along time-I know Carrie doesn't care for S that much. They got along great. I was so excited. Carrie told me later (like a few weeks ago)-that she was really trying to be nice and friendly...for me. Gee, thanks! I really believe that she pushes people to the point that they don't want to be with her...because she doesn't hang out with that many people. Here my husband and I were invited to like 4 places on the 4th of July! Oh, yeah...we're real popular! LOL :D

I love my son. I am very proud of everything he does. He amazes me with the words he says (good ones). He has a soft, gentle spirit. He obeys (most of the time). He gets excited about things. He is caring. He's eager to learn (he got that award from school). I don't make him learn to ride his bike (he said the other day he wanted to ride it without the training wheels). I don't make him do stuff because J can. Gee, I didn't realize that Nathan was the top reader in his class. His teacher had to send home supplemental reading. (oh yeah, S had her son read the same book one time they were here.......to show me he can read the same as Nathan).

Ok....I've vented enough. It's 9 am! Ahhh...I must get going.

Talk to you all later.

Debs

Good morning all! :coffee:

Debs, way to go on the house! You're friend sounds SO nice! LOL I really do feel sorry for her son. I can't imagine trying to have a "perfect" child. Each kid has their own pace to do things, and own imagination, desires, etc. I hate to see parents push and push when often times all kids really need is a gentle nudge in the right direction and they'll figure things out on thier own. Your DH is right, take a break from spending a lot of time with her, but still spend time with her son, sounds like he needs someone like YOU in hes life. :cp:

I'm going to go pick up my husband from the airport to day! :dance: I can't wait to see him. I have a little cleaning to do before I leave though, not that he'll notice when he comes home. :lol: I'm probably going to skip my workout today, but I did 2 yesterday (cardio in the morning, and weights in the evening) to make up for it. Tomorrow is my free-day of eating and I really don't want anything special. Usually it's chocolate and fatty/salty foods, but I've been eating really good food this week and enjoying every bite of it. So, maybe I'll just have a cheat meal instead of day.

Everyone have a wonderful day, and I'll check back in tomorrow.
Kathy :sunny:

Kathy and her dh sitting in a tree!

Welcome home to Kathy's hubby!

;) :love: :flame: :flame: :cloud9: :cloud9: :cheer: :cheer:

debs

Wow Debs!!!
 

I think we all know someone who is like your friend. :dizzy: I think a lot of women are competitive when it comes to the accomplishments of their kids. You know what's sad? When the kids are all grown up...it doesn't matter when they learned how to tie their shoes or when they learned to read... blah blah blah.
At the end of our lives, our accomplishments are not listed on our tombstones. The memories you leave behind are your legacy.

You're raising your son to be happy and well rounded. It's good that you had some good things to say about your friend. That's what keeps the friendship going. All you can do is to continue being a role model for your friend. My guess is that she had perfectionist parents who were SO hard on her, that she knows no other way to parent.

I'll bet if you ask her about her childhood one day...she'd end up crying. (most of us do...I mean NO parents are perfect) But it may let her know that some of their methods are rubbing off on her son and does she really want that?

She's lucky to have a friend like you, just keep letting her know that it's ok not to be perfect.

You know how a duck swims? sit one day and just watch how it glides-- ever so smoothly, keeping it's head high, being admired by all. but if you look under the water.... HER LITTLE WEBBED FEET ARE PADDLING LIKE **** TO GET TO WHERE SHE'S GOING.

Take Care Debs.

Tgif
 

Good Morning all,

Debs your frend sounds alot like my sister :mad: :devil: I say let her be the way she is and just be how you are. My sister is always trying to compete with her sister in law and its too funny she had to get a air conditinor because her sister in law has on.. My goodness we live is Seattle It rains more than its hot even in summer!!!! I think people like her and like your friend they are miserible with who they are...

Okay so I finally had my meserments done yesterday at the gym and in all im down 9 1/4" down in one month... Is that great or should it have been more??? im new at mererments My trainer dident say anything like good job or nothing all she said was to push my floor excersises and to cut back more on my food intake. because my weight aint going down like it should....

I dont know my trainer was kinda mean like im not doing as well as I should be she really made me feel crappy about everything, in one month ive lost 16lbs and 9 1/4" I know thats not great but its better than nothing Right??? I almost started crying but saved it untill i got into my car then the faucet opened up and i was crying like a babby :(

Well whar are your guys imput??? should I be down more inches and weight being a month into it???

Have a great day
Viana

Viana, that is absolutely fantastic! Your trainer must have either been very distracted or out of her mind! My guess is she doesn't know how to relate to those of us that aren't 19 year old anorexic waifs.

I repeat, YOU HAVE DONE ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC !!! Keep doing what you are doing. It is working.

Viana, your trainer is definitely lacking the needed social skills for that profession. I know that everyone has their bad days, but as a personal trainer they have to be encouraging. Sounds like your trainer should have taken the day off.

You are doing marvelous!!!!! If I was to lose 16 pounds a month in 5 months...(counting my fingers and toes)...I would be 80 pounds lighter!!!!!!!!!! You go girl :)!

Hi! I am in FL, too. I joined Curves in January as well and I love it :) I've been to various other gyms in the past and I've never been able to make myself go to them on a regular basis like I do at Curves.

Hi there everyone. I decided to sneak onto the computer between storms to see how everyone is doing.

Debs - I just can't get over your 'friend' :s: . That whole post really upset me because it reminded me of things I've heard all my life from my biological dad. That man made me so ashamed of myself and so self-conscious - I ended up having court proceedings when I was 24 and disowned him so my step father could adopt me. I was never pretty enough or smart enough or thin enough. I had this friend as a kid, called Diana. She was slimmer than me, but that's about it. Yet, all I heard was "Why can't you be slim like Diana?" "Why can't you do your hair like Diana?" Well I heard that from dawn til dusk some days until one day I screamed at him that I wasn't f****ng Diana :mad: - I was ME and I was his kid. Diana already had a father and that's just one more thing she had better than me! :bomb: Well, he shut up after that, but what a very hard thing for a child to go through. I was in middle school when all that came about, so I can't even fathom the amount of damage that woman is doing to her son. I don't know how I'd handle it, but I suppose I'd quit putting the kids together and I'd quit saying anything about my son at all. Then if she asks why you never talk about Nathan, I'd just tell her. :yes: If she's a friend, she'll appreciate your opinion whether she likes or agrees with it or not. If she isn't, then she'll get nasty. By the sounds of it, it's like Nickie said - she doesn't know any better. Maybe if someone tells her, she may get mad, but she may learn something too. :crossed:

Vi - Way to go! :cheer: I'm so proud of you!! You have done SO incredibly well. I'd be of a mind to tell that trainer that you didn't appreciate her attitude one bit :no: and that she better learn to be a bit more friendly and diplomatic. I know what you mean though... I've been going to Curves since May. In the beginning I was going 4 times a week to try and tone a bit before my cousin's wedding. :wl: The whole time, one of the women who works there was on my back about not coming 4 times a week because muscles have memory and I may not be reaping the benefits blah blah blah :blah: . Well, after the wedding, I slowed it down to 3 times a week and 3 circuits rather that 2.5. That was fine. But now that I'm on Medifast, they tell you to cut your regular exercise routine in half for the first month because due the very low calories of the diet, it could actually impede your weight loss. :tread: After the first month, you can increase it gradually if you want to. So, I go twice a week but only do one circuit. Well everytime I go now, the OTHER woman who works there gives me grief because I don't come 3 times a week. I've explained what the diet is and what they recommend, etc. but that just doesn't seem to be good enough. "Well can't you come 3 times a week and just do the machines and not the aerobics?" or "Can't you come 3 times a week and do 2 circuits?" I keep explaining what the diet says, but last time I really got frustrated. I nearly told her to get off my back, but instead I just let everything go in and run right back out. It's my money, it's MY diet, and I will do what I see fit. :tape:

So yeah, Vi, I know how they can really grate on your nerves. I told them I had lost 11lbs in 9 days and the first thing the woman said to me was, "'Well you know that's water weight". I was so mad! :tantrum: I looked at her and said that certainly some of it was, but I'm drinking at least 80oz of water a day so it certainly had SOME fat in there. I thought, "jerk!". It's like if you don't do it THEIR way, then you're doing something wrong, unhealthy, it won't work or they refuse to give you any sort of praise. Personally I think they need to get their butts out of the abductor and into a class that teaches how to provide support to your gym attendees! :write:

And, a BIG welcome to Cuqt! :wave: I'm in Florida too (but more near the St Pete area. I do like Curves, actually, it's just that sometimes the two women can say the wrong thing and it makes me very cross. Anyway, it's lovely to have you here. :) We're like one big happy family. :grouphug:

So as for me... well I treated myself today! I ventured out to get my hair trimmed and then I decided to go buy a Vans Warped Tour ticket that I've been putting off for two months due to lack of funds! Of course I get there and the TicketMaster outlet is down so I had to go to the mall. I didn't mind too much because I wanted to pick up some of those no sugar/no carb flavored syrups like they use in the coffee houses to put into flavored lattes and such. So I got the ticket and I also bought two syrups - one raspberry and one hazelnut. Oh MY how good! I have Vanilla, Dutch Chocolate and Swiss Mocha shakes so I figured they may taste good with some other flavor. How right I was! I put one oz of the raspberry into my Dutch Chocolate and it was like HEAVEN! :cheers: It was like a choco-raspberry frozen latte! I highly recommend picking some of these up for use in your coffee or even plain water. They are so good and have absolutely NO calories if you get the sugar free. :coffee2:

I still haven't weighed myself - I have three more days and then I'll see. Wednesday morning roll on!

Take care of yourselves and I'll write in between storms!

All the best.

~Alisha :hat:

Alisha, what is the name of the store to get the sugar-free flavored syrups?????

Hi Sea! Well, the place I got mine was a coffee house called Barnies, but I'm sure they sell them at Starbucks (although they're probably outrageous) and they also sell them online. Try www.torani.com. They have several different distributors to choose from and a plethora of flavors, even unique ones like cotton candy, bubblegum and white chocolate! Mine weren't Torani, they are Monin 0'Free, but I'm certain they are all the same. I've had Torani before and these taste no different.

Good luck! These are a great find!!!

~Alisha :hat:

Another Monday
 

Hello all I hope you all had a good weekend... I hope all my buddies in the Fl area is nice and safe from the storms.

Well again I had a nothere horrible weekend I did not go to the gym at all and ate like a pig :ink: I really dont know what is wrong with me I was so badley want to stay with it its just so hard and my parents are so over their diet, I said to them yesterday that nomore will I be cheating on my diet untill the next holiday (thanksgiving) I just really not sure what is wrong with my brain on why I cant keep with it I so badley want to be thin and be able to work out like I use too. HELP what can I do ???? How can I get my frame of mind back?????

Aww Vi, I completely sympathize with you. I want to be thin more than a drowning person wants their next breath but for whatever reason, I just could NOT stick to diets either. :stress: I was thinking about trying Super Glue lip gloss :ziplip: until I found this Medifast diet. Even now, I won't let myself have anything but shakes because I'm afraid that if I get the snack bars and oatmeal, I'll go nuts and binge on them. :corn:

My doctor diagnosed me with compulsive eating disorder in 1995, which helped explain why I just couldn't control my moderation. I'd eat like a starving person at a feast :hun: and then not eat at all for 3 or 4 days because of the guilt I felt. :( I don't begin to know what havoc that wreaked on my body, but even knowing that, I still couldn't control portion sizes, I couldn't say no to food I wanted at social functions, restaurants and movie theaters... it seemed hopeless. :?: So I KNOW exactly what you mean. It's like, "I want to be thin so why can't I just STICK to something?"

This Medifast diet is the only diet I have been able to stick to in over 10 years. I think it's because I KNOW that I'm only allowed the supplements and because I'm not hungry. Chances are, that if I'm watching TV and one of those fast food commercials come on, if I crave it, it's usually time for another shake and I'm hungry. After I have the shake I'm fine and I couldn't care less about them. :mcd: It's so refreshing. I also don't go to restaurants anymore because I can't eat the food. :tape: I don't have to worry about making the "right" choices because I can only have my supplements. I know it doesn't sound very fun and it is hard when my mom and grandma go out to eat and I can't go, but I know that it's not forever. I have to remind myself that the food isn't going anywhere. Once I tackle this obssession with food and the bad habits that go with it, (such as looking to food when I'm sad, happy, bored, etc.) then I can gradually introduce other supplements into my diet such as chili, oatmeal and snack bars. Then, I will have broken those bad binge habits, I will be able to eat only ONE bar a day and NOT the box, so when I go off the program, I will be able to make wiser choices and not feel like I'm on death row doing it. :yes:

What a tremendous amount of effort to put into something as simple as eating, but it goes to show you what kind of damage past eating traumas can affect your life. :cry:

I'm not saying you'd want or should do the diet I'm on, but you may want to sit down and try to work out the reason behind your attraction to food. I had to do that as well. I finally realized that my obssession stemmed from when I was an early teen and living with my biological father. He was an alcoholic and more often than not we'd have condiments in the fridge and vodka in the freezer and that's it. Talk about Ole Mother Hubbard! Then, he'd go to the grocery store, blow $300 on all sorts of food and it was like, "OHMIGOD, what do I eat first????" So I'd binge because the food was there and I knew it wouldn't last. The rest of the time I ate at 7-11 or a friend's house, whose family's cooking ranged from sloppy joes to pizza to hamburgers. I realized that I've carried that whole binge mentality with me right up to the ripe old age of 34. So, I have to have a constant check on myself to remind me that the food isn't going anywhere. I can have it in moderation once I reach my goals and it will be there. It will be there in a year, it will be there from week to week and day to day so there is no need to glut.

I don't know if you had something similar in your early years that may have had an impact on your eating habits, but I find that most overweight people I've ever known usually have some demon to fight :devil: - possibly a parent that forced them to eat everything on their plate or friends/parents who ostracised them because of their weight, causing them to hoard food and eat in private. There are a million reasons that can cause this - it has nothing to do with willpower or desire to be thin. It's some strange, ingrained compulsion that can't be dealt with until you find out where it comes from.

I probably haven't said anything that you don't already know hun. I just feel that it's very important for you to know that you aren't alone in this. I know I still go through it and I'll be here to support you in whatever choices you make. :grouphug:

Hang in there.

~Alisha :hat:

Vi, planning what I eat, using prepackaged foods to manage my portion control for me , as well as having my package of light yogurt or a banana, each 100 calories, for deliberately planned 3 hour snacks, has made a world of difference for my success. Eating every three hours keeps me from feeling so deprived, while preventing the hunger pain and headaches. And it doesn't have to cost a lot to use prepackaged stuff. I eat a lot of Budget Gourmet lasagna or manicotti at 88 cents a meal. Eating lasagna and manicotti, I feel comforted. Being 88 cents and a mere 230 to 300 calories, I don't feel guilty.

Now if I could just get my head around the exercise to make it that easy.... Really, while I don't yet enjoy the exercise, I can see that it helps my weight loss, moods, and sleep. Maybe it's my dh that enjoys my exercise...LOL Just don't give up. You aren't alone. Even if your parents have abandoned their diets, you haven't and we haven't. We're with you, Vi.

Thank you both for your support, Its true im at the point where weight just is not comming off and I think in my mind and heart I gave up.. However I kicked myself in the backside and told my family that was it no more cheats and if they wanted to eat crap to do it when I am not home or before I get home from the gym. Yesterday I did work out and changed it up just a bit, Ive been having some knee pain so i skiped the bike. I also did 200 crunches yesterday. I so deep down inside dont want to give up its just i feel so depressed and feel i cant do this that it is too hard. I want to be thin, I want to be healthy I just never thought it would be this challanging. I am lonley also and when I look in the mirror I make myself ILL think i just look so huge and fat how could I even think the guy i have a crush on would like me when i hate myself.... all I want to do is cry I feel like I hit a wall and have no place to go.......

I'm here.

I don't have time right now to read all the posts.

Inserice all week.

Suppose to get keys for new house today-some hold up....I'm getting nervous

Friend coming over (not that friend...another one)....packing, packing, packing, packing, packing........

debs

Vi, just have faith in youself and you'll get there. Everyone reaches plateaus but let me share some info that an RN shared with me when I was on that clinic diet 10 years ago. It has always stuck with me. When you diet, rather you have a lot or a little weight to lose, it still means that your body is changing. You can loose only so much weight before your body has to take some time to catch up with itself. It needs time to shrink the blood vessels and to re-adjust the skin around the lost fat (just imagine the size of a pound of fat!). This is when you lose the inches!

If you keep going as well as you have been, your weight loss will pick up again - just have faith in yourself and the fact that you can get where you want to be. It just takes a lot of patience but it will pay off.

Please don't be so down on yourself. Everyone has slip-ups and everyone who diets gets discouraged. Just hang in there and remember that we're here to support you all the way!

Debs - It's great to see you despite you being so busy! Deep breaths... everything will work out in the end. ;)

Alisha :hat:

ALISHA~

Thanks for the support, lastnight was an okay night I broke down and had a turkey burger the bad part was I had cheese and light mayo.. I did have a good workout but I know I did not burn off nearly enough cals for it to matter. Ive been very depressed this week and right now im not seeing the light at the end of the tunel. When I look into a mirrow i just get ill all i see is this huge tummy and huge arms I cant see the good changes ive made how can I change this??? I just get so hungry or i think I am, Im thinking maybe I should stop taking Trim Spa and try another supressent.. any suggestions for me ??? Ill do anything!!!!!! Also does anyone know how much fat is in gronila, my mom got some at Costco and it has no nutrational info on it Ive been having that 4 a snack maybe its too high in fat and thats my problem.. what you u think?

Vi hun, you've just got to hang in there. It's unfortunate that when you have quite a bit of weight to lose (like me) the fruits of your endeavors don't show up as fast as they would for those who only have 15 or 20lbs to lose. I have trouble with that too - that's why I needed a plan that I could lose slightly faster on because I simply don't have the patience for 1 or 2lbs a week. I get discouraged because it takes SO long to see the results.

Ground turkey is very good for you - it's a very lean source of protein, so that was not bad at all. A little cheese and light mayo isn't bad either - if you were doing Weight Watchers, you'd be able to have that so I don't think it sabotaged anything.

Granola - well, every single "breakfast bar" I've ever seen always has loads of sugar and fat. Granola itself isn't too bad, but by the time they get finished putting in the chocolate or honey and all the "bird seed" - the fat and sugar raise dramatically. I don't think having one once in awhile will do any damage, but using them for a regular snack may not be as beneficial as the food industry would like you to believe.

I'm trying to adapt my eating style through my diet so I get used to eating (or in this case, drinking!) at least 5 times a day - only smaller portions. I've never been a snacker, but because I'd usually skip breakfast, I'd gorge on lunch because I'd be famished by 1:00pm! So, rather than "snacking" on a piece of fruit (which has a lot of sugar as well) perhaps make up some significant dishes and separate them out so you are eating less but more often. I know it's been proven to keep your metabolism from rising and falling and you don't get those huge sugar rushes. On my past diet, where I was required to eat 4 times a day, I'd do things like brown a whole pack of ground turkey (lean) with bell peppers, onions and spices, (and a touch of Jamaican Wildfire sauce - I love hot sauce) and then I'd put portions into small tubs and take it to work with me. I'd also do the same with salads or 1% fat cottage cheese, etc. That way you're always getting some sort of protein, which helps stabilize your metabolism.

I learned a LONG time ago - before Atkins, before South Beach, etc. - that my body just doesn't like carbs. When I melted away 90lbs on that clinic diet 10 years ago, eating high protein, low carb, low fat, I finally understood what my body was about. I don't mean to cut them out altogether, but I have to be very careful. As soon as I start eating a generous amount of them, I begin to crave sweets. I don't even LIKE most sweets, so that was very bizarre. However, if I cut down the carbs (basically all the white and refined stuff) and stuck to protein and a lot of veggies, the weight came off MUCH easier and after about a week, I stopped craving chocolate and pasta and things like that altogether. I am pretty sedintary at work, so I am just not active enough to burn off all the carbs I was intaking. In turn, they would turn to sugar and, eventually, fat.

I don't know if that helps, but I hope it does. I was a strong believer that I couldn't lose weight unless I used an appetite supressant like Phentermine. However, I realize that it's only the FOODS causing this intense hunger and, in my case, overproduction of stomach acid, which MAKES you feel hungry when you're not. I drink 5 Medifast shakes a day and drink 2 bouillon for the potassium. Once in awhile if I get a hunger pang, I eat a pickle. (2 per day are allowed). Other than that, I'm not hungry! No grumbles, no over-production of stomach acid anymore, and NO cravings for sweets or, anything for that matter. Ketosis, even in a very mild state, has a wonderful way of curbing hunger all on it's own without drugs.

The only other thing I can say (again, only from my point of view with a view to helping you) is that I HAVE to have some sort of reigimented eating routine to lose weight. I don't have the ability to do an open program like WW where you can have "everything in moderation". Moderation for me knows no boundaries. I'm getting better, but I'm not there yet. Maybe some type of regimen would be easier for you to follow than trying to do it all on your own. I don't know why that is, but I find it much easier to say NO if it isn't on my diet rather than trust myself to only eat a little of whatever I want.

Anyway Vi, I can only tell you things from my perspective, however, what works for one is certainly not for all. Either way, you have GOT to stop being so down on yourself. You've done so well and, like I said,your body needs time to catch up with itself. You don't want to lose 50lbs and then have excess skin hanging off everything. :) So just keep on keeping on and you'll surprise yourself. I promise!

I'm with you all the way! :cp:

Alisha :hat:

Thanks again for being here for me Alisha!!!

Im doing okay lastnight was a bore I went to the gym however I quit 10min b4 I was suspose to but thats okay right.. Is that medifast died expansive? so thats all you do is drink the shakes?? I need to reflect on where I am and where I want to be and just take time and not stress about results, at least im trying and a little is better than none at all.. I just had the vision that I would be down so much and look so different that everyone would notice however I cant even see it in my self so how can oters? Its diffcult for me to be patitance and to just be happy with myself maybe I have something other than stress of the diet wrong with me maybe i have a little depression. Plus I find myself worried about Trevor the neighbor across the street like if im this way he wont even look at me and who is to say when Im thin he will look, but then its like its taking so long to see a change he may move or find someone b4 i get thinner... i dunno i think im nuts.. as for the gronla im stopping that im sure that is the deal thats its 2 high in fat...

Quick post--

Alisha-you a great addition to our group!

Vi--we have slumps, but pick right back up.

I didn't really read the post-sorry guys......I'm in the middle of packing/sorting/cleaning.

We are going to move over as much stuff as possible today. We are only going 5 miles-so it won't be that bad.

It's just that we have a LOT of stuff and the house we are going to is considerably smaller! That's ok, though. It is so clean! The stove looks brand new-but it's not. How on earth did she get it to sparkle? I am going to have to clean the stove out every week!!!! And there is no self cleaner on the stove.

My friend I mentioned (um yeah...I mentioned her alright)...is coming over today. They have a small pick up truck and we want to use it. She probably won't be over until noon! I know, she worked last night and needs to rest. I just wish we would have switched vechiles last night. She is going to probably hang out at one of the houses. I don't really want her to help me. I am UNORGANIZED..I want to pack myself. She can keep Nathan busy.

Ok....I've been on break long enough. I told my husband the kitchen would be packed before he got back...lol.

LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Debs

ps...eating-terrible! exercise--horrible drinking water--not at all...
Will drink water today!

tgif~~
 

Well another friday is here and Im so not wanting to be at work today it seems everyone else feels the same way since Im the only one in the office today... Maybe ill take a nap later if we r slow :D Well Lastnight was uneventful I did not do much at all but I did go to the gym had a good workout and I spoke to my "trainer" about what I should do differently she feels i need to just relax and it will happen however she was able to help me with a few thing and I think I will change weightloss sumplments insted of Trim Spa like Ive been on I think I will take the Apex ones from the gym and see how they work, heck they r cheaper then Trim Spa. Well I weighed myself this morning on the flipen devil machine :devil: called the scale..LOL and I went down 2.50lbs so that makes me a little happy :) Sorry for my mid week melt down im so trying to hang in there.. But thanks so much for everyone helping me it means so much to me ;)

hugs
Viana