Chit Chat # 89
 

Welcome to the Jaded Ladies! :wave:

We are a friendly group who share all the ups and downs of our daily lives... not just weight loss. Won't you join us?

Hiya ladies,

Ellen - did you have fun in chat - see, someone finally showed up, lol. To answer your question from the other thread, you'll find that most of us can post only once (maybe twice) a day... some not even that often. As moderator, I do try to check in morning and night, even if I don't post both times. The JL chat room isn't usually well attended. No matter which day we tried to choose, someone couldn't be there. Any of you are welcome to add chat days... just let me know, and I'll put it on the schedule thread.

Katy - yep, save your $$... we invested quite a bit in both DDs orthodontia. Luckily, DS didn't need it. Were you able to finish your internet class? Hope so!!

Angie - I've gone down 5 sizes... about 15 pounds per size, lol. It feels wonderful!! But as I mentioned, I don't have many clothes right now. But just wait til Spring!! Did you like the chicken and taters? I like the fact that it is so simple to make!

Cristi - hope your DS gets his starter fixed. How's your shoulder?

Julie - sorry about the no news thing! A puppy... how fun!! How's he doing so far?

Marti - yep, lots and lots of chatting... too hard to keep up!! About your weight, when you think of the 10 pounds in terms of percentage, you've done very well!! Try to think of it that way, ok?

Hi also to anyone else reading this!

Did I mention that Katie did get a new cell phone? I feel so much better about it now! She got onto my Verizon family plan, so the charges won't be too bad.

Gotta go... see you tomorrow. :)

Morning Ladies
How is everyone today, I must admit I am tired, hopefully I can muster up some energy for my outing tonight shopping with my daughter, I have to clean and decorate 3 cakes this afternoon as well ,so not a good day to lack energy.I had my first experience of chat , it was fun,but hard talking to more than one person at a time,but everyone seems nice and it sounds like we are, although different , all in the same boat,some just have more oars to paddle with. Its funny how you can be in different places with different circumstances yet everyone shares the same experiences.lWell its finally sunny here today , but cold ,sure beats the last 3 gloomy days we have had here.I hope that everyone is having a great day ,and has plans for a fun weekend, "its FRIDAY" girls. I need some caffine and I need it now,:LOL:

Good morning JL's. Just popping in to say hello. It is sunny and warm here today. When it is in the mid 60's here it feels warmer than the same temp. in Indiana...am I nuts? Ellen....we will be here until mid Dec. and go home for the holidays. Then we come back here until April. So we miss most of the nasty midwest winter. I just made hubby pancakes and an omelet for brunch. I had cereal. We go to a seafood meal on Fri. night's so I eat pretty light all day. (although I do not eat seafood, I can find nice salads and soups) So far I ate too much only one day...I will get back in the swing of things. Have to get back to walking as we did it only one day, but the cleaning I have done has sweated off more than walking. lol.. Today I am scrubing floors, and I do mean scrubbing. Then one day soon we have windows to wash. After that I can finally relax and take it easy.
I did hit a nice jackpot the second day we were here...woo hoo.

Good Afternoon!!

I don't worry about the girls wanting to live with their dad. I think he provides a good place for them.

I worry about if they will feel if I am abandoning them......because that would be horrible - I couldn't bear that. Just when I tell them I want to do it the right way........I guess I haven't figured out how yet.

Rebecca is all for visiting though. Because I said by summer I would like her to take a look at Hawaii and I tell her about the black sand beaches and the turtles laying their eggs...........about it always being summer,.....lol...she is all for that.....

Also, taking Gaby from them is going to be hard......

but I do want to make my life with Rocky.......I think he will make a loving husband and a wonderful father to Gaby.......and we even talked about having another baby together....lol..........but that is still being discussed.....and he has twins on his side...so, we will really have to talk about that.......haha........


anyway - at 146.5......feel so figgin bloated!!!

k- have I vented enough?? lol

Ellen you just made my day,,,sorry but I was still chatting up with the other chat, and read about you and your jammies and cold coffee...like I said I will be there in about 3 weeks,,,unless you want to chat some other night,,,and well the only night I have is Monday. Ellen can you send me your address via private messege?
Jane, I do remember going down is sizes and freaking about having nothing to wear. I worked in the public as a manager and needed clothes. I went from a 22 to a 12. ahhh to be 12 again...*sigh

Susan,,,well good chance you would get your boy...of course it could be twin boys...wooo hooo the fun you guys would have!

Well today was productive,,,and it started last night. I got 14 masks painted and wrinkled up for the dream scene. Needed another 6 which did get today from this awesome hobby shop. Have been up since 4:30 am. My cousin Tanyia did show up last night for me to drive her to the airport this morning. Lucky girl went off to Mexico for a week. Didn't need to be up till 5:30 but you know when you worry about sleeping through the alarm? ya well I finally gave up and got up. Did laundry, showered. Drove her, and then called Monte since hes been up for like 4 hours already. He was delivering at the airport so we got to have a coffee date at 6:30 am. In an airport...lol Ah well doesn't matter where or when...
Went to Didsbury to visit a good friend...and then the madness began, had to shop for soap, laundry and shower, Skittles's baby needed to be replaced. Picked up the football coaches gifts, just need gift bags and I am almost done. Need to make a dessert for the banquet. Then Im done.
We have a football game to go watch tonight, Becky's oldest is the captain of the high school team.
Tomorrow I have a tech. meeting at 9. Who makes those decisions to have meetings at 9 am on a Saturday? They should be flogged!
Well thats about all thats happening with me.....
could use a coffee right now,,,can feel my eyes getting heavy. its only 6:30, and we need to leave for the game right away.
ttfn
Angie

Good morning ladies--

I just got home and thought I would stop in and catch up a little before I head off to bed....not much going on today I see. Hope everyone is had a marvelous Friday!

Angie--Last year in one of my classes....I made gift bags for the girls in my Team Building group. There were 6 of us. I gave them each some bath oil beads, some REALLY good chocolates and then put them in cute little gift bags and tied them together w/a tiny Christmas Ornament that they sell at Walmart. It was so fun! Jhanai is wanting to make gift bags this year so we may do something similar to that! I think that your morning coffee date is sweet. As long as it's with your sweety who cares where you're at right?

Susan--You are such a good mother. I don't think your girls would ever think that you're abondoning them, but I can understand the feeling anyway.(that is just part of being a mother) They are probably real excited with the idea of spending thier school breaks in Hawaii!! They'll love it. And you have to know that those girls want you to be happy....and Rocky is the one to give you that happiness. Twins!? Wouldn't that be fun?! I wish you two all the happiness in the world!!

Sue--You're sure doing a lot of cleaning since you've arrived there haven't you? So how big was your jackpot? That sounds so exciting. I alway get nervous when I'm in a Casino....just knowing that I'm just giving my money away! (I'm not real big winner---in fact I don't think I've ever won money!) Hope you get a chance to relax soon.

Ellen--Glad you got to chat! Who all showed up? I'm sorry I can't make it since I'm at work. Sometime we'll all have to make it a weekend morning! Oh..I too would like to have your address (PM'd to me) if you wouldn't mind sharing. I must add you to my list of JL's. This is only if you're comfortable with that.

Jane--Is there a certain outfit that you're waiting to buy? Reason I ask is because when I was losing weight (when I was doing so well) I bought myself a black dress. I always wanted a little black dress and when I reached a certain weight I finally got it! Now....for me to get back into that dress!! I think it's just great how much you lost so far....are you getting tired of me saying that?? I just have to keep saying how proud I am of you!! I can't wait to feel the same happiness you are with the success!

Hello to everyone else out there!!

Well it's now 3:30 and I really need to get to bed. So I'm heading out...but I will be back to check on you all tomorrow......Hurray! It's Saturday!!!!!!!!!

Night girls!

Good afternoon ladies~

Susan~is there any way that Rocky would/could move to Portland? Maybe that is an alternative. What does your ex think about you moving to HI? Have you talked with him about it yet? Maybe he can help you figure things out. I can only imagine how you are feeling and not knowing what to do. I wouldn't be able to be that far away from my kids, it's one thing to jump in yor car and drive around the block to see them but...okay sorry that is probably not helping you at all. I know you guys will get it worked out. Oh and also, the later you have a baby the chances of having a multiple birth goes up a little higher. And because of your age the chances of getting pregnant are lower so you guys better hurry!

Angie~I agree with Marti, hey a date is a date no matter where it is. All that matters is spending time together. It's great that he could meet you to have coffee.

Sue~glad to hear you made it safely to Vegas. Wishing I was there with you! :)

Marti~I went to Vegas with my friend and took only $200 to blow. Well, I got there and ended up only spending $60 gambling because I would win a little and then lose a little-kept that up for hours. We went around and watched everyone else lose their money. This one guy in less than 5 mintues put 5 $100 bills down and lost it and then went to the ATM to get more. I just keep telling Lourdes that is crazy. I would never blow more than $200 because I always think about what all I could buy with that. But it is fun to go.

Ellen~you had mentioned Michaels and if I liked it-I like it fine. It's not really big but it is close to where I live so I go there instead of Hobby Lobby which I prefer. Hobby Lobby is so much bigger and they have lots of different stuff from Michaels. Oh and yes, sorry but I have to watch my shows on Thursday night, there is nothing that would keep me away. I too like Frasier, Will & Grace and Everybody Loves Raymond and used to watch Will & Grace & Frasier late at night, the reruns. But I had never seen the reruns so they were all new to me. Anyway, I grew tired of Grace-don't think she is that funny, like Karen better.

Anyway, Hi to everyone else :wave:

Trying to hurry and finish this post as Vince will be home in a few minutes and we are off to Lowes-want to look at their Christmas stuff. Not sure why because we don't need anything. Have everything for decorating outdoors except a 60 in. lighted wreath we are going to get at SAMS Monday. We have enough space above the garage where it will be perfect! Already know what we are going to do outdoors, should be nice. Yesterday, DS and I went running around. Had to take him to work and his car wouldn't start Thursday so had to have it towed Friday morning. It was the starter and it is all fixed. V would have done it but it would have taken too long because of time-just not enough. He could have only worked on it a hour here and there so would have been a few days before it would have actually been done. Ran out this morning for a little shopping and a couple of errands. Found some pastel pink and white glass balls at Michaels for my tree I am going to put in my bedroom and then will add white lights, not sure about anything else. We have a window seat and it is the perfect place for a small tree, just a 3-4 ft. one. Just happens our bedroom is in the front of the house, not that it matters.

Anywho...hope everyone is having a great day and has a wonderful weekend. It is supposed to start raining here again, tonight and on thru tomorrow-glad I didn't wash my car. Have a good one ladies :wave:

Good Afternoon ladies--

Well Cristi looks like you were the only one checking in since I last visited. It sounds like your house is going to be so pretty once it's all decorated. I was talking to James about adding more to our outdoor decorating......he said we'll have to see what they have on sale since we'd have to start from scratch! We only have the outdoor lights...but we want a little more. We have a cute front porch area that I would love to decorate with some kind of greenery and bows. (I'm at a loss at what it's called that I want!) I may go out to my grandpa's and just cut some limbs from his trees and save money that way. Will be fun.
With the casinos...James and I try not to spend more than a $100. He always wins. I never do. One weekend we walked around one of the casinos and he kept saying "I gotta feeling about this one" and stop and play it a little and win a little....but this one in particular....he wouldn't leave and our money was just going away! I had kept telling him that it's time to leave....then he said...ok, one more time....and what do you know? He hit the $500 jackpot. So I was pretty happy that he played "one more time"! Would really like to go to a "real" Casino. These in Oregon are ok, but NOTHING like Reno or Vegas. (I've never been to Vegas but have gone to Reno) I like the sound of money tinkling down rather than a receipt!

Well I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend. Not sure what I'm up to today. May go to Walmart for some magical hair dye and a magazine. Other than that, I'm going to try and clean up my office room (again) to make room for a scrapbook area.

Ok....off I go to browse some and then take a shower.

Hi gals - have a little chance to post - don't want Marti to get lonely.....

Just got off the phone with my mother. A conversation that started off perfectly fine, but then got off onto a political tangent, which is also fine because we are pretty much on the same page politically-speaking, but then the conversation took a turn toward the religious, where we definitely have some different beliefs. Y'all would be so proud of me! Usually I would have just smiled and nodded and said,"Yes, Mother" through clenched teeth, then run to raid the fridge after I got off the phone. This time, I said, " I can accept that you and I will not agree on this issue and I really don't want to get into it with you" and no binge :) Is this a NSV or what?

Been an exercising fool this week...Got on the stepper three days in a row, and took a one hour walk around Gabriel Park today. Feels really good.

All this Christmas talk is getting me in the mood to decorate....hmmm. Leigh's preschool has a wreath sale fundraiser and I must say the greens are really gorgeous - and they do UPS! JK, that's not a hint, really :) Anyway, I'm going to order a big, beautiful wreath for my beautiful red front door. I am also going to get enough garland to put on my mantle. I may even splurge for a poinsettia this year. We haven't discussed lights, tho' I know my son wishes we did more outdoor lights.. maybe this year, you never know.


Back later
Katy

Hello ladies…..how are you all doing?

Well, nothing really new here today. Things are the same as they were yesterday….so now real change there.

Right now, I am looking at taking a test sometime this weekend. I am not sure when I will take one….just have to keep you all on your toes for now! I took two on Saturday morning, and they both came back negative. So I am going to say screw it and not think about it until I am/would be due for my next AF. I just went and read the instructions for the tests that I received, and I think I put too much pee on them, or I went too high up on the sticks.

Jane~ My parents are helping us out here and there when they can. I just wish my in-law’s were the same way. Brandon isn’t work since he is almost 7 months old. LOL I knew what you meant though! LOL Tommy is not working right now. He has been looking for jobs and asking if anyone he knows is hiring, but hasn’t been getting anywhere. The place that he was going to apply at a couple months back, well they got robbed Friday night, so thankfully he forgot the website for that place. We have gone into the Family Independence Agency to sign up to get some help, so now we are just waiting for a check list of some sort from either my worker or the lady that we talked to when we were there.

Katy~ When the lady told us about the program she told us both of us would have to take it, and then go on out to get jobs. Sure no problem, since there are some people out there that only go through it just for the money and then stop. I am sure that things will get better around here, and we have looked into getting jobs with opposite shifts and everything. Maybe we will look more into that option.

Ellen~ Thanks for your nice kind words. Things seem to be trucking along on this end.

Julie~ How did your appointment go? I am hoping it went well!

Marti~ Thanks for thinking of us. My parents live 2 ½ to 3 hours away from us. So it would be hard for them to watch Brandon instead of day care. My in-laws would be an option, except my MIL is pretty much retired, and since my FIL already is, they have been out gallivanting around since she was put on permanent lay off a couple months ago.

Good Sunday afternoon to you!

Susan - thank you for the postcard! Hawaii looks so beautiful! Whatever you decide to do with your girls, it will turn out ok. I know they would love to vacation in Hawaii - who wouldn't, lol. Now, is the wedding going to be big or small, or in-between? Marti is the one who is up on on this kind of stuff!

Ellen - hope you got your cakes done. I tried to get into cake decorating a few years ago, and wasn't very good at it. I could make leaves and 4-petaled flowers, and that was just about it, lol. You do this professionally, right? Maybe you could make Susan's wedding cake, lol!!

Sue - glad you got your place all spiffied up. It was 36 degrees when we left for church this morning - aren't you sorry you left Indiana, lol.

Angie - I wore 12's back in my 20's (which are like 10s now!!) but I don't see that happening now. At 5'9", and 51 years old, I have to be realistic - something I can keep up with for the rest of my life. Like Marti said, I think you meeting Monte in the airport was sweet! Hope you get to relax a little this weekend!

Marti - no, I don't have a certain outfit picked out. (yet) I wore my wrap skirt, sweater and boots to church today, and got a lot of compliments on it. When the spring and summer catalogs come out, I'll have a better idea of what's going to be available in the stores. You'll get into that little black dress one of these days, sweetie! And no, I don't ever get tired of your encouraging kudos!

Cristi - the pink and white balls sound so pretty! Maybe you could add some sparkly white snowflakes?

Katy - YAY for your NSV!! That's really something to be proud of, Katy!!

Mindee - well, hey, get that baby boy a paper route or something, lol. So sorry, I DID mean Tommy, of course! Stress may be making you late for your period. Although stress used to make me go more, it can have the opposite effect too, I think.

Hi to anyone else reading this. :wave:

Well, I have been without the internet since Friday night, and it's about to kill me, lol. I am sitting at the university library right now, and Katie is at the computer right next to me, lol. We both were about to have withdrawal!! The IPS says there is something wrong with the phone line, and the phone company says, nuh-uh, it's the IPS!!!! Neal's gonna handle it tomorrow, hopefully.

I'm down 1 1/2 pounds more for an even 80 pounds!!! I'm afraid I'm gonna wake up, and this will have only been a dream....

Not sure when I'll be back, but hopefully some time tomorrow.

Toodles!

Afternoon,

Good news!! Back down to 144.5 this morning - feel better and not as bloated.

Mike served me with visitation papers yesterday. Made me upset but have calmed down now.
In his parenting plan he was asking for 180 day notice if I want to move???? Seems kind of unreasonable. I found my divorce papers from Doug and it just says " a reasonable amount of time".....6 months is not aceptable!!
The thought of not being able to move was making me stir crazy!!

Wedding maybe in July. He has a family reunion at that time with his mother and sisters in from California.....if we want a big wedding. It doesn't matter to me....he is a doll.
We figured out our 1 way tickets for 2 and we are set to go there!!

Need to get the visitation with Gaby taken care of tomorrow, need to get a lawyer.....he was asking for joint custody.......grrrrrrrrrr, what a nut!!! lol

gotta go......sorry

I had posted this afternoon and I must have just logged off the computer rather than send......now that's unusual for me! (I was in a hurry to get to Eugene to do some Christmas shopping)

Well that's what I did today. James & I ran around town find sales. Shopko had some items that I wanted to get for Jhanai. Saved some money on a Retractor tracer...or something along those lines. And a knitting machine. Looks cheap but she wanted it and I figured it would be fun to try. Bought some movies, and then headed to Costco and spend too much money....as we always do at Costco. Seems like we can always go in there for one item and come out w/much more than that!

James made chili tonight. And I didn't even tell him how you all were talking about it the last couple days. Just must be a chili time of year! :lol:

Katy--I think that Definately is considered a NSV! Anything like that! You did great and you should feel proud.

Mindee--Sorry that your test are negative....maybe that's a good thing right now until the two of you get things situated and you're not under a lot of stress. Two babies would just add to it all.

Jane--You WON'T be waking up from a dream....your success is REAL and we are all so PROUD of you!!! 80lbs. is absolutely wonderful! Good for you. Hope you get your computer fixed soon.....if not, go visit the Library often!

Susan--Sure hope that Gaby's dad doesn't cause any issues. He should know better. July wedding sounds great! Especially with all his family going to be there. How about your family? Would they be coming too?

Hello everyone else I missed! Hope you all had a great weekend. Well I need to get myself going. I'm getting tired from all the walking around we did. Who knew that shopping can wear a gal out??? :lol:

You all have great night and I will check in tomorrow.

Night!!

Hello ladies…..how are you all doing?

Well, nothing really new here today. Things are the same as they were yesterday….so now real change there.

I am thinking that Brandon’s teeth are going to be coming in fully in the next day or so. Since putting him down at 11pm, he has already been down and back up about 3 or 4 times. And as soon as I would get him to lay across me, he would be back out asleep. The last time I laid him in there, I just let him go. He cried a couple seconds, and was then stomping his feet on the mattress. Now, all is quiet and I am hoping that he is sleeping.

But I do have to add one thing. He now knows how to clap! It is so cute! He turns his right hand sideways at about throat level, and then uses his left hand to hit the right one.

Jane~ LOL Me and Tommy were playing some blackjack at our kitchen table, and Brandon was trying to play for me! I guess we shouldn’t of let him play with the jokers for that deck. We still have the anti-stress soap, so I am using that any chance I can. Well, that and hitting Tommy up for massages! I am just not going to think about it and see where things go. Congratulations on the weight loss!!

Susan~ Congratulations on the weight loss!!! That reminds me, I need to get my big booty back on the exercise bike and back on the wagon!

Marti~ That is exactly my thinking. So I have decided to put that on the back burner for now, and to concentrate on some other things. Like getting back on the exercising band wagon!

Good Morning Ladies,
Mindee I know that stress does play havic (sp) on the periods. I remember all the first for Brandon and Tanner,,,so long ago.

Marti, I have a love hate relationship with Costco. I love the place, but the money I spend I hate. I did buy one gift this past weekedn,,looked for another gift. Didn't think buying it would be a good idea. Tanner keeps flip flopping on wanting a guitar or violin. Make up your mind !

Jane, relaxing weekend? Anything but...lol Had a 6 hour Q to Q on Saturday, went shopping with Monte, then came home and made the dessert and did the gifts up for the coaches. Went to bed, slept in a bit then went to rehearsal. Got there at 12: 05 left at 8. Tanner left at 5:30 to to his Football Banquet. I couldn't go... When I finally got there they were mostly leaving. Looked across the room and saw Tanner with this huge trophy. He had won best improved player. Considering the kid didn't know how to play at the beginning to being one of the best defensemen...thats pretty good. And I didn't get to see it. I could of cried,,,, Monte was mad at me cause I wasn't there and made him take in the gifts and dessert alone....*sigh What would happen if I died? geesh Anyways he was mad cause the whole giving the coaches the gifts didn't go over very well. I asked him if any other parent came up to help you...nope. I needed to be there to do that. Told him and thats why people keep coming up to me for help....
I hope you get your computer soon, I know how it feels to go without one....*shudder I only found the library computer when our computer was almost fixed...duh Can Katie come over and make dinner for us? I had left over chinese,,,that had too much curry.
Susan,,,you mentioned awhile ago about him possibly going back on the drugs...did he? Can you prove it? Visitation I can see as a good thing,,,under supervision but joint custody? Get a lawyer and explain the situation of his past and your future.
Good mornings to the rest of the Ladies, Cristi, Katie, Ellen..
Angie

Morning ladies and a HAPPY Monday to all~

Not much going on here in my neck of the woods, same old, same old-just a different day. Just wanted to check in and say HI :wave: Won't be checking in tomorrow as V and I have the whole day to ourselves. Of course he has a drs appt. first thing in the morning then we have an appt with Direct Buy. Has anyone heard of this? We talked to some guys at the Log Cabin/Home show and you have to make an appt. to go see the warehouse and to even join. But you can buy stuff for the house for super cheap-supposedly. We will find out what it is all about tomorrow. Then off to the Zoo or Cow Town (a western town downtown that is cool, haven't been there in a while-they even did some scenes for some movies there a while back), that is if is doesn't rain and it is supposed to. If so will probably go to see a movie.

Susan~hope everything goes well for ya with Mike and all. I know he could possibly make it very difficult for you with this custody stuff, and is he willing to pay for Gaby to visit him when you move? Wonder if he thought of that? My friend is going through some of this stuff because her ex, well, not ex yet, moved from CA to AR to be with his girlfriend. But instead of flying them to AR he drives to CA to get them and drives them home. I am surprised he isn't tired of it by now. He's been doing it for almost a year now. Cheryl will not let the kids fly alone and it costs to much for the three so...anyway. I hope an attorney can do something for ya-would hate to see it get all messy.

Marti~chili sounds sooooo good! :T Of course I just had it last week so will wait a week. Glad you and James had a nice time shopping.

Angie~yay for Tanner! :cp: I bet he is loving the trophy.

Mindee~Brandon is such a doll! Loved the duck costume!

Jana~was actually going to add some white angels and some glass icicles. It is not a big tree and don't want to put too much on it, just a simple little tree. I do have some white snowflakes that we got in a Swedish town but they are too big for a 3-4 ft. tree, would look silly. :bravo: on your loss!

Hi to everyone else :wave:

That's about all I have. Take care ladies and have a good day!

Hi Gals,
Sorry I didnt post over the weekend, it was somewhat of a hectic one.. We did go back to the doc's on friday and he ordered more bloodwork, so we have to wait 10 days for those results to come back, so nothing new in that department.....
We did get the puppy on friday night, I have a pic of them to post for you all after, Max is a bit jealous, but hes learning to cope with having a little brother. On saturday we got 4 inches of snow here, which was a shocker for us, cause we dont usually get snow this early!!! DBF hurt himself shoveling, so we ended up at the ER for 5 hours...apparently he twisted a muscle which wrapped around his sciatic nerve, causing horrific pain. So most of the weekend got shot!!! Did go to Walmart yesterday and ran a few errands, but that was about it and now it's back to work already!!!
I was so nervous leaving the pups alone when we went to the hosp saturday, because I didnt know how they would get along being left alone, but they did really well, so I was relieved!!!
Hope all is well with you girls, catch up with you later
Julie

Morning-

Cristi- Mike doesn't have money for gas for his car. I am not going to think about airfare. lol........

He is unemployed. He pays rent though and managed a filing fee and 5 for certified mail. So, how is he getting his money??

I don't know if he is back on drugs or not. When he lied about sending $$$ the last time after counseling that was the last straw. We were suppose to be building trust .......haha......I don't regret it. I tried everything with him in hopes Gaby would have a daddy in her life.

His ex wife has sole custody of their daughter and they were married. Mike and I never were.............he isn't getting joint custody!! lol
He isn't getting a 180 notice if I want to move either.

Good news is I don't have to call a long distance number for answers. I do have to respond in his county though. Waiting for a lawyer to call me back.

Anyway- was up at 3am....way too much to think about. The ex wants more $$$$ for babysitting Gaby.....I have no more to give!! I was better off working part time.....geesh,,,,,,

better get.......venting, sorry :(

Hello Ladies--

Mindee--Poor baby and having his teeth bothering him. Jhanai would always get two teeth at a time. And she really did well, not so much crying during the nights like I thought. Hope he gets them in soon!

Angie--My thoughts exactly on Costco! I really like the stuff I can get and the amount, but the checkbook is always hurtin' after we leave! :dizzy: Congratulations to Tanner for getting a trophy! Sorry you missed it........such a busy woman. When is your next vacation???? You deserve another already!

Julie--Looking forward to seeing a pic of your puppy!! What color is he? Male I take it. Sorry to hear about DBF!! That's must have been painful. Hope he recovers soon.

Susan--I hope you don't get over stressed with all that is going on right now! I'm surprised your ex wants more money for Gaby......why? Does he know of your plans to move to Hawaii? I hope he isn't doing it in spite. My thoughts are with you!!

Hello to everyone else.

This week is going to be a messed up week schedule wise. I have a 2nd. orientation day on Thursday so on Wednesday they had to schedule me early so I would get some sleep since the orientation is at 8:00 in the morning.....so mon & tues will be 6-2:30, Wed. will be 11:30 -8:00 and Thurs. will be 8-6. And Friday I will be back to 6-2:30, but if everything works right I should be able to get off at 12:30 to go get Jhanai. Whew! That was a lot to babble out! I'm going to be losing sleep somewhere in there! but oh well.

I better hit the shower and grab something to eat. You all have a great day and if I have time before work I will check in.

Take Care

hmmm, willl I was kicking closet doors yesterday. I am calm in comparison today Marti....lol

I had some chili and a pumpkin spice latte from Freddies - so good.

One good thing is joint custody won't be granted without both parents approval, so that isn't going to happen.

I don't know why he wants more sitting pay. I have to take care of my own household though. I can find someone who will take what I can afford, it is stressful though!! Can never seem to dance fast enough......

One lawyer wants 2,500 down and 200 an hour *cough *cough....like I can afford that.

better get,......

Better late than never, I guess.. :)

Marti - Christmas sales are everywhere! I just love that, lol. Your schedule will just be wacky for this week during more training? Glad you'll be off early Friday to get Jhanai.

Mindee - Neal and I used to play blackjack with a group of friends, but don't anymore. We play Yahtzee and 500 rummy once in awhile. For Brandon's teeth, give him a cold, whole, cleaned carrot to bite around on - the teeth will come through quicker and the cold carrot will feel good to his little gums.

Angie - aww, doggone it, I'm sorry you had to miss the football banquet! Bet you're all proud of that trophy! Where you gonna put it? Tell him somebody in Indiana is proud of him, and that I said Way To Go, TAN!!!

Cristi - have fun with Vince tomorrow. OIC about the tree. Sounds like it's going to be very pretty!

Julie, Susan, Katy, Ellen, Sue, and anyone else reading this - hello!!

Well, the ISP finally said they had a cut line somewhere, and it didn't get fixed til a little while ago. But at least it's ok now.

Katie stayed home from school today with the flu - poor kid! She tossed her cookies all day. I felt so sorry for her! Finally she kept down some fluids, and is resting now.

Have a good evening, and I'll see you tomorrow!

my little boys, max and scruffy

By the way, a quick hello to all and Cristi, thanks for the card!!!!

Julie

Angie~ I am putting all that on the back burner for now. Cause we have job/insurance issues to deal with first.

Jane~ I hope you get your computer back soon! My sister and her husband just bought a Texas Hold’em poker chip set. We will have to pick up some carrots. He has the baby food carrots, but those won’t help him any. I hope Katy feels better soon!

Cristi~ My favorite pic that my sister took of him in his costume was the one with the ducky background! I will have to get those posted on his page, cause the ducky background really makes his costume and him just pop out of the picture! Thanks for the card!

Julie~ Sorry to hear about your weekend. I hope your week has started out better. Yeah I saw on the news that the west coast and the east coast had gotten the snow that was supposed to be dumped here in MI.

Susan~ I hope things get settled soon for your sanities sake.

Marti~ He is doing better tonight. He went right to sleep and hasn’t woken up since 11:40ish. He has been acting silly lately. He will play with his mouth now. He looks like an older person who doesn’t have any teeth, I hope I don’t offend anyone by saying that. He just loves playing with his mouth now. And when you tell him “shhhh! Be quiet” he will yell or scream as loud as he can. And the more you tell him to be quiet, the louder he gets.

Good morning, ladies!

Ellen - missed you in the chat room. Not sure you even got my PM in time to go there. Hope you're having a good day!

Julie - love the photos of your babies! They are so cute!! Thanks for sharing.

Mindee - funny you should mention Texas Hold 'Em... I just bought the video game for my son for Christmas. It hooks up to the TV and is displayed on the screen. He loves Texas Hold Em, so I'm hoping he will really like this. It looks fun!

Hi to all my Jaded buddies!

Katie is better today, but since she hasn't held down much food, I kept her home again today.

I'm going shopping with Mary later today. Dale is home because he has an appointment this morning, and so he's going to watch the kids. Rarely do Mary and I get out together w/o at least 1 rugrat, lol.

What's on your agenda for the day?

Just checking in with a quick Hi. Didn't make it to the doc with V-kids jumped in the shower first so...no big deal though. I would have just sat in the waiting room for about an hour waiting. But do need to jump in the shower and get ready to go when he gets back. Since it is raining no zoo or cow town. :( And of course the earliest movie is at 1 pm which is when we are supposed to be at Direct Buy, maybe after :dunno: Anyway...going to do a little shopping.

Julie your puppy dogs are sooooo very cute!

Susan, do they have some kind of legal aid thing that could help you out. Didn't realize that you and Mike had never married. Sounds like he is just wanting to upset you. Anyway, hope things go well with that. :crossed:

Jane, glad to hear Katie is feeling better today.

Mindee, I do enjoy looking at the photos of Brandon, and that duck outfit is just adorable.

Anyway, gotta go ladies. Take care and have a good day. :wave:

Oh Julie,,,,a new puppy! And you named him scruffy? How adorable!

Jane, poor Katie,,,I hate feeling like that. I don't toss my cookies well...I once popped all the blood vessels in my face,,,and eyes. Nota pretty sight...arghhh
Have fun shopping!

Susan, is Mike's mom possibly helping him out? Can relate to the can't dance fast enough,,,swear a polka is playing and I want a slow song...

Called my mom the other day to tell her about Tanner's trophy,,,and we got into talking about shopping. She asked what I wanted and I told her this makeup case from Costco...she told me she would send money so I can go pick up myself. Was it rude of me to tell her no that I wouldn't go and do that? I teased a bit about her doing her own shopping and stop asking me to do that. Which she has done in the past.

well not much else happening,,,theatre dress rehearsal tonight...preview tomorrow and opening night Thursday. Which is the day of Brandon's surgery....which have to say we are all not looking forward to. Very painful...
ttfn

Good Morning Ladies :wave:
How is everyone , sorry I haven't had a chance to Post , it seems things got really busy all at once.My Daughter and I went to the Christmas store , we ended up at a garden gallery ,it was amazing , everthing Chrismas, in every color and style,imaginable there was so many things its hard to know where to look first, it was like, oh ,oh or look at this ,wow ,oh look at that ohhhhhh! it was a lot of fun, after we spent our hard earned money we went for dinner , it was really nice. I did get my cakes decorated, and I began Christmas decorating, my kitchen which took the better part of two days ,every nook and cranny is Christmas,and the kids are happy to see this finally getting started, they still get as excited as they did when they were little.So I have been busy busy busy and today I start the living room , which will take another few days for sure , The fireplace mantle takes quite a while arranging everything.then the tree ,and staircase.I must admit I am extemely tired ,I make a lot of work for myself doing this , you have no idea how much stuff we have collected,and still we went shopping for more ,LOL Crazy girls we are. I see every one has much going on since last I was here,I haven't had a chance to read everything in depth but I will, Hi Jane:wave: I'm sorry I missed you this morning, My kitty cat Kobi woke me up out of a deep sleep ,having a seizure ,so I spent a good part of the early morning with him, I hope Katie is feeling better,and have fun shopping today . Hi Julie,:wave: I see puppies, and they are so cute, sounds like you had a stressful weekend ,I hope everything is better,Hi Susan :wave: I"m really sorry to hear that things are ,getting tense for you I hope that it gets all worked out for the best ,try not to worry to much ,and don't kick the doors or you will have to stress some more about fixing them LOL Hi Mindee:wave: I hope Brandons little toothies come through soon ,so he feels better,Hi Marti :wave: sounds like you are going to be busy, did you get a chance to have your ME time this past weekend I sure hope so.Hi Sue :wave: I hope your having a great time Hi Angie:wave: Hows rehearsals going ,it sounds like you never sit down , I bet you are so proud of Tanner ,I know all about the costco scenario they have great stuff I haven't been there for a long time , but I used to buy these huge orange cranberry muffins there, and they were so good ,its so easy to spend a lot of money in a short period of time .LOL Hi Cristi :wave: I guess its today your off shopping ,I love stores where you can buy nice house stuff cheap be interested hearing more about it,have a great day. Well girls I have so much to do today I wish I could chat more but I don't want to stop , if I do I might fall asleep and not wake up for days. I hope that everyone is having a great day , now I must go find my coffee.


*ELLEN*

Hi all!
Susan - what Cristi said... legal aid may be the way to go. BTW, I have a friend who went through this with a very well financed former SO and their agreement called for 3 months notice with the courts to move anywhere. This is a guy who had the $$ to challenge absolutely everything...that's a whole other very long story.....Anyway I do have a friend in Portland who is a family law attorney.. call me if you want her #. Her main office is in Astoria, but she lives in Portland and may be expanding her practice to include both towns..may be helpful for you? Don't know if her rates are that much cheaper than the one you mentioned, but I think she does have a system for charging by the item, and not asking for retainers on all cases... at least she used to, I haven't hired her to do anything for me since we had wills drawn up. Good luck....

Jane - sorry Katie is ill - no fun! Have fun with Mary

Ellen - find your coffee yet? Here, have some of mine, lol! Your house sounds lovely... it's getting me in the spirit, that's for sure.

Cristi - I have seen commercials for Direct Buy...definitely would be interested in your opinion of them... they sounded a little too good to be true, but then I again I can be too skeptical at times

Hi to everyone else - sorry I don't have more time to post. I'm off to a meeting for the preschool...then J has a playdate, then I'm off to a preschool potluck....just found out I've been selected to be on the TAG parent advisory council for my son's school district. I'm kind of nervous about it, but also excited that maybe it can be a force for good, you know, hopefully not something for appearances. We'll see.. it's a new group, so that's good at any rate - no inherited garbage. Anyway, that's tomorrow, plus there's a prschool general meeting tomorrow night - whew! So I'll try to get back when I can - will be thinking of you all
Katy

Good Morning-

No, Cristi- we were never married. thank goodness!!!! lol
Though he asked many times - just always knew it wouldn't work out.
We moved in together when I relocated to Portland.
He was already here, we had broken up- I was still on the coast when I found out I was pregnant.
This was in September 2001 - by the time Gaby was born in Feb 2002 he was using drugs pretty heavy and took a month off from his trucking job to "help" me......
He stressed me out though!! lol
He called and asked if I would meet him at the entry to the hospital- he didn't want to come all the way up to help me out with Gaby.
Jerk.....
I said no - he needed to help with with all the stuff........so he finally did but that really told me what kind of person he was....
He took me home and left to do his drugs.....he was wasted the whole month.
I was so stressed I couldn't nurse Gaby- she was losing weight.
FINALLY had to move, he was being really weird and scaring me...
so,,,,,,,,
hooked up with a community agency who offered to help with housing if I agreed to be "case managed" .......which I jumped at because the only money I was getting was from Doug.
So, the first thing they had me do was go to AFS and describe what was happneing and I was given a grant for $2000 to move based on an abusive situation.

Anyway, I called legal aid yesteray and there is a 24/48 response time, so am waiting to hear back from them.

The thing is......and this happened with Doug....if Mike has been there first regarding this issue they won't help me.....which will really PISS me off!! lol

His mother won't help him, I did kind of mention it to her in an email- though I need to apologize to her because it isn't right to put her in the middle. I do like her and she has helped me with $$$$ in the past.

Mike asked his ex wife not to get involved....lol. He asked me the same thing when they were going to court....she will come with me though when we have to go to court......

I will take a 90 day notice!!! 180 is sooooooo silly. I have to be out of here by April....lol.........

Anyway, I have stress with Gaby - need to find her daycare now......

I will take the info on the lawyer Katy! Thanks :)

best get

Hey Susan - just pm'ed you


back for a bit

Angie - you have alot on your plate this week - will be sending good thoughts your way, particularly for B's surgery.

Marti - hope you can get some sleep this week - I was tired just reading about your schedule. That is so sweet of your coworkers to try to swing it to help you out so you can spend more time with your daughter -

Julie - your puppies are cute - makes us want to get a dog, but we want to wait until we are done with some remodeling and our kids are a little older.

Mindee - sounds like B is coping pretty well with his teething. My kids were a bit fussy until the teeth broke through the gum, then they were fine. They drooled an awful lot, I must say!

Hope everyone's day is going well
Katy

Good morning, ladies!!

Cristi - how'd things go at Direct Buy? Bet you had fun spending time with Vince. Did you get any Christmas shopping done? I have already started getting the ads for the day after Thanksgiving, and there are some darn good bargains out there!

Angie - yes, I think you did the right thing, being honest with your mom. No reason you should have to go get your own present, unless it has to be an exact item. Even then, as long as you describe it well, she should be able to find it. How'd dress rehearsal go last night? Bet Brandon (and his mama) is getting a little nervous about the surgery.

Ellen - sounds like your house is going to be a Christmas fairyland! Can you share with some photos? Glad your daughter is close and can help. Btw, I love reading your "what I'm thankful for today" lists... it's very sweet that you include us in them!!

Katy - good luck at the TAG meeting today. Being a charter member will have its advantages, that's for sure. Like you said, no baggage, lol. What are the specific objectives, or are they yet to be defined?

Susan - so sorry you have all this stress going on right now!! Did you find a new sitter for Gaby? Hope Katy's friend will be able to help you. Just keep focused on next Spring, ok? I know that's easier said than done right now.

Marti - miss you!!

Hi to anyone else reading this.

Gotta tackle Mount Washmore today... how do we get so much, so soon????? It's a gloomy day here, so I may just put on some Christmas music and finish addressing the Christmas cards in between the loads of laundry.

Hope you have a wonderful day!!

Good Morning Ladies,

Ellen, as what Jane said your house will be like a Christmas fairly land....

Susan, Thank you for the card...I can't wait to buy my own one day...meaning I wanna go there!

Jane, so what did you buy? You must be done or close to it....

The dress rehearsal went well last night other then some of my light cues didn't happen...there is no ghosts there so not sure why. Didn't get home till midnight...arghhh the morning came too early.
Brandon went off to school,,,his last day for the next 6 weeks...Im worried about the pain. And I have so much to do...
And on top of everything my van is acting up again so brought it in,,,36 hundred to fix it. The cams and a belt are the problem.
well need to get going to work...
have a great day ladies!
Angie

Hey Ladies

Thanks for all the compliments on my two little angels....They are hysterical...I guess for now they're the only babies we have!! Oh well....
Nothing much else new here, just busy working away I guess, trying to stay caught up on my studies and stay well!!!
Jane" already working on xmas cards??? I wish I was so motivated!!
I do love xmas though, Ill be shopping pretty soon....
Susan: sorry to hear you're going through a rough time, hang in there

I guess theres nothing really much else going on here to update you on
Hi to Mindee, Cristi, Ellen, Angie, Marti, Sue, Rosie Kate, and all the other girls!!
Have a nice day
Julie

Morning ladies--

Sorry I haven't posted earlier....only had time enough to read and then get going.

I have to say......I am SOOOO tired this morning! I got home a little after 3:00 since it was so foggy and I didn't want to risk an accident and drove 55 all the way home. (I hate it when it's so thick you can't see two feet in front of you!) I did't get to bed until 4:00 and had such a time getting to sleep because my back was aching (it's ok at the moment) and then my alarm decides to go off at 8:45! This morning shift is for the birds! I like waking up on my own and not to an alarm clock! Tomorrow I have to get up even earlier.....must be there for orientation by 8:00.....UGH!!!!

Angie--Brandon will be in my thoughts tomorrow while he's in surgery....how is he feeling? I sure hope surgery makes him feel much better!! Give him a hug from Cyber "Aunt Marti"!

Jane--I've been wanting to put on some Christmas music myself! And I still need to tackle my Christmas cards or I won't EVER get them done! This week sure has me thrown off!

Katy--I'm really hoping that Friday I'm able to get off early. It all depends on how the work load looks. Maybe if I shed a tear they'll let me go......

Susan--Keeping you in my prayers that everything turns out ok for you and that the stress level calms down a little. Spring will be here soon and we'll all be celebrating your wedding!!

Ellen--Your house sounds so magical!! I would love to see photos too if you'd like to share! Jhanai is wanting to get some decorating done this weekend....we'll see how it goes.

Cristi--So which movie did you end up seeing? Or did you go? Your "Cow Town" Sounds very interesting.....tell me more about it. I may have to go visit your town now!!

Julie--Adorable puppies!! So glad you shared those photos with us!! Cute, cute, cute!!

Mindee--Glad to hear that Brandon is doing better w/his teething.....every age has something amazing! Keep on sharing with us!

Good Morning to everyone else!!

Ok girls...I'm procrastinating what I need to get done....getting ready for work!...I have to leave here in an hour so I better get ready. You all have a wonderful day and I will try to pop in sometime after work....if I don't collapse!

Take Care!

Hi Ladies~

Katy~I too was skeptical. Well after sitting there listening to their speech and seeing the showroom etc. we turned it down. Okay, it is a great deal if you plan on doing a lot of remodeling, buying a lot of furntiture and such as you can buy wholesale through them, everything from clothes to appliances big and small, furniture, siding for the house, drapes, shoes, just about anything. But the initial sign up fee is a whopping $3400+ for the first two years and then each year after the 2nd there is a $149 membership fee if you wish to stay. Of course they don't give you any time to think about it, you have to decide then and if you decline you will not be invited back for 7 years. Oh well...

Susan~I truly am sorry that what should be a very happy time for you is turning out to be stressful. And that's not right that if Mike has talked to them that they can't help you-not fair at all. Just don't understand him thinking he can waltz in and start demanding this and that especially since he has been carrying on as he has. Well, I know things will work out for the best in the end and you and Rocky will live happily ever after. Hope you find daycare for lil' miss Gaby.

Ellen~oooohhhhh, I bet your house is going to be BEAUTIFUL! I am getting in the Christmas spirit and am wanting to decorate but will wait till Thanksgiving weekend. But then I do this every year. I get jazzed and excited in the beginning and then want it to be over, get a little sad. Would love to see photos of our house all done up, that goes for everyone else too. Maybe we should do a thread to share Christmas photos.

Jane~I had the best time with Vince yesterday even though we didn't go to the zoo or the movie. We don't get to spend too many full days together and the rest of the week he is working till 10 pm. Did some shopping, went to Direct Buy, then to lunch, actually a late lunch, early dinner-it was 3 pm when we got there, then did a little more shopping. Found a 48 in. wreath at Wal-mart so went ahead and got that, will have to put lights on it though. We went to SAMS last week to see if they had the 60 in. ones but they were out, told us we could order one online because they only order so many and that's it, well they showed them online but it said it is an in-store item. So went to the west side store, they had none. We did find one at Hobby Lobby but was $80 without the lights! :yikes: The one at SAMS was $53 or $58 with the lights. Anyway, the 48 in. one will do just fine once I get some lights and a ribbon on it. Spent about 2 1/2 hours at Direct Buy, man was I ready to leave after 30 mns. Vince wanted to see what it was all about so I went. I was pooped when we got home. Went to bed at 10 and I was out in five minutes-didn't even hear Vince leave this morning and he alwasy kisses me on the cheek.

Angie~I don't think you were rude with your mom. My mother would buy everyone else's gifts and by the time she got to us she didn't want to shop anymore so would give us a check. Which I actually wouldn't have minded had she not told me that she bought gifts for the others. I sent a couple back and she would keep sending them so I just tore them up. I just think it is impersonal and felt like I wasn't worth her time.

Well, today is another ugly day. :rain: It is supposed to be this way the rest of the week. But then I guess I better get used to it because for the most part that's the way it is here in the winter time-how easily I forget. Of course what I didn't forget is how when the weather changes the pain I get in my right arm. OUCH! I bought some tylenol arthritis and it actually does help-thank goodness. Going to have to get to doing my exercises again. Did my grocery shopping last night so really nothing to do today except clean the house and do laundry. Man you miss a day of laundry and it piles up. Anyway, that's about all I have. Take care ladies and have a good one! :wave:

Hi Julie and Marti, you ladies snuck in there while I was posting. Sometimes I go down and it will show a new post before I hit submit, I always check. But didn't see any till after.

Julie~I had to show DD and DH your little angels, they really are adorable and making me want another!

Marti~Cow Town is cool, we almost were going to get married there because I thought that old little country church is so cool. But I was afraid I wouldn't be able to find a dress to fit the whole country, cowboy era. Anyway, it's alittle western town that has a lot of different buildings decorated with the authentic furniture from the western days. There's a grocery store. the church, a dentist office, a jail, school, saloon, train station, houses, etc. Most of the people who work there are volunteers and they dress in the clothes from back then. This week topped off their holiday season so they had things going on but with the rain, it's not a good place to be going. They have shoot-outs, and do other stuff on the streets, I'm drawing a blank here, duh! It's just a cool place to go visit. I wish I could remember the movies they shot down there.

Angie~how did I miss that Brandon was having surgery tomorrow??? :dunno: You all will be in my thoughts.

Goofy me just noticed that my ticker is gone. Guess I was messing with my signature the other day and not sure why but must have deleted it. Definitely need to get that back up there.

Okay, take care ladies and HI to everyone else. :wave:

I love your new tickerfactory thing Cristi!! Very pretty. I tried to do one for myself but is too much to digest,.....can't figure it out.

Hope Brandon is doing well today Angie :)

I haven't called Katy's friend yet but I will......

I am applying for our pre paid lawyer thing through my employer, $15 a month to see someone but if it goes to court it would be a 25% discount.
I did talk with legal aid and she gave me some advice.
I went and mailed off my waiver fee application and hope to get some good news on that. I need to come up with a visitation plan for Gaby like I am already in Hawaii........

Would I really send a 3 year old on a plane over to Oregon to spend 2 weeks or a month with this man???
I think not....
Would I send her over to my mothers or even Gaby's half sister mother?? You know..............I would consider that..............when she is like 10.....lol

So, he can visit in Hawaii!!! wooooo hoooo.,.....what are the chances he could afford airfare and lodging???
He CAN'T bunk at my house!!!! lol..........

anyway..........I am working on day care between my mom and sister now...but there was that lady that I interviewed in May that I am trying to track down......at least to get me by til April....

Rocky is a doll!!!! He bought me a cell phone so we can talk for free........he might come in January......maybe, we will see.......

lost down to 143!!!! yay..............love stress............does wonders, lets bottle it and make a million!! lol

gotta go......boss is coming!!

Had a few minutes and thought I would check in and see how everyone is doing.

Susan~yeah, Mike can't or doesn't want to pay child support so how in the world does he think he is going to have joint custody??? I too wouldn't send a three-year-old on a plane alone either, I would even be leary when she is ten but then I am a worry wart really bad. So cool Rocky got you a phone, what a sweetie. I will keep my fingers crossed and send a little luck your way that he does visit you in January. :crossed: :lucky: I am going to have to keep checking back with ticker factory as that is a new one and they had a couple other new ones. Hoping they have a Christmas one soon. :) Also, can't wait to finally weigh in at the end of the month to see that thing changed!

Well, guess I will go finish my cards. I had finished my christmas cards to family and friends but then bought some really cute snoopy ones to send to the kids from MACS (Makeachildsmile.org) there some that I send to on a regular basis. Need to get my dining room table clear of that stuff.

Anyway, have a good night ladies. :wave:

Hey Cristi,

He really does have a sweet spirit. He said no way was Gaby coming to Oregon by herself. I would have to go with her- he would pay for my airfare but Mike would have to come up with Gaby's.

I would even offer to waive child support for ( it isn't like I am getting it now...lol- geesh- though I did get a 3.96 check today!!!)) Mike to have a chance to come up with the airfare.
Course I would put in a 2 year evaluation and room for modifications along the way.

Anyway, just trying to be fair and get my butt to Hawaii!!! lol.....Rocky said I could just come in late December. I have to do a seat belt class on the 8th and after that I am free!! I just need to respond to court issues....if I had a lawyer here though I could just do phone in's????

I did call Mike and offered mediation- get a chance to resolve this before going to court.

omg......rocky is on the phone!!!! Gotta go....