Hello All.
Doni: What a mean thing for your husband to say to you! Weight doesn't make a person. You are the same woman he married 17 years ago!! Weight doesn't change that!
I would feel betrayed the same as you if my hubby was checking out porn on the computer. If fact he did do it once about 5 years or so ago and we had a long discussion about it. He no longer does it anymore. He really didn't think he was doing anything wrong.
You sound like you treat hubby pretty darn good. When your arthritis flares up he should be more understanding about what you can and can't do. I definately understand that with me having arthritis too. My only problem is that I don't have flare ups, mine is constant. Every step I take is painful. I am not sure what my answer is but still looking for ways to feel better.
Sounds like you may be right about hubby making excuses for not wanting to use condoms and he is blaming you instead of taking responsibility. That is cruel. Your gonna be one skinny momma one of these days real soon and then he will be sorry for treating you so badly. He will jealous of all those guys looking at you!!!
Thanks for feeling like you could vent to us. We are here for you.
You have a great day!!!
{{{HUGS}}}}}
Since I have been so bad about posting lately, I am going to try to post to each one of you individually over the next few days. No one liners.

Real posts!! I will be back to post more later.
Love you all