Hope you guys don't mind if I join this post :)

Being me, absolutely TERRIFIED of cockroaches, I probably would not have time to think of the most tactful approach to the situation, because I would scream! I suppose the tactful thing to do would be to kill the roach, discard of it, and talk to your friend after the party.

OK heres one that happened to me:

My friend at work came up with the idea for a few of us to go out to dinner one night, and then go to a movie afterwards. So, the night came by & she showed up with her boyfriend (which I totally don't mind) but wouldn't even SIT with us. And she didn't go to the movie with us either.

THEN...

The next weekend we decided to go to our usual hang out at the bar & have a few drinks. She called us after she got out of work & said she was on her way. About an hour later we called her because we were getting worried, and she wouldn't answer her phone. We probably called about 5 or 6 times, trying to get ahold of her. The next day, we asked her what happened, and she just said "oh, I just felt like staying home" I was super pissed because she could have either CALLED US or at LEAST ANSWERED HER FREAKING PHONE when we called her.

What would you say to her? Would you hang out with her anymore? Keep in mind that when she DOES go, we always have a GREAT time.

I don't really see the big deal but do think it a bit rude that she wanted to go and didn't bother to sit with you guys. And yeah, I think she should have called and said she couldn't or wasn't going to make it to the hang-out instead of leaving you guys hanging and not knowing if she was in an accident. But if the friendship is a good one I don't see why you wouldn't hang out with her anymore. I would just come out and tell her that you thought it was rude the way she carried on, that is if you did. And that the next time you guys all decide to go out if she decides later on she doesn't want to to please call and say so. She at least does owe you that. Or since she has been carrying on this way and if you don't want to leave her out, invite her but keep in thought that you will go and have a good time without her. You know, if she shows, she shows, if not oh well. I think if you exclude her it wouldn't be good especially since you work together. Anyway...that's my 2 cents.


What would you do if you were at a friends house for dinner and she had things on the kitchen counter, preparing food and prepared food, and her cat jumped up on the kitchen counter and walked right over the food? Would you eat it? Would you say something, or would you just pass on it? Or would you try to get the cat off the counter? This did happen! :yikes:

There is NO way I would eat it. That cat was in a litter box and who knows where else. I would just exclaim "OMG!! The cat just trampled over our food...lets just go out for lunch"
But I guess you just asked if the cat just went up to the food...I would grab the cat right away and then ask the person preparring food what do with it or if it was my preparing.....get rid of what the cat got too.


Ok....You see this extremely large woman waiting for her ride, she is in extreme pain just standing up holding her weight, when the car arrives, she struggles to walk to it and get in....and she's angry. That seems to be her personality from being overweight. Would you have offered her some support or some help getting in or keep walking?

Angry people don't usually calm down instantly, so, I'd keep on going and say a silent little prayer for her under my breath. No way do I want to draw attention to myself with a pain-filled woman with an attitude, , especially a very large one at that! Whoever is driving the car should help her.....


What's a Jaded Lady to do about a guest who won't leave? She came for lunch, now it's 5-ish and you have to get things done....

I would politely tell the guest that although I have enjoyed her company/visit I really have things I need to get done and the family will be home soon. And maybe we can get together again some other day.

What would you do about a friend or so-called friend you think is a backstabber? She comes off like she is all sweet and innocent but when with you she talks about others and then turns around and talks to the others like they are the best of friends which leaves you wondering about all kinds of things she says and does. So you don't know if you can really trust this person.

I know a woman just like this!! I have remained friends, but don't share anything with her that I wouldn't want published on the front page of the newspaper, and she lost my trust completely!

What's a Jaded Lady to do about someone who is repeatedly late for meetings, get-togethers, etc?

Know exactly what ya mean Jane. I know several women like that and I don't say anything I wouldn't want repeated. But then I don't have anything against anyone that I would be talking about them anyway, so that's not a problem. Don't trust them and never will and while I said friends they really aren't friends. Anywhoo...on to your question...

For me it depends on how late they are. I have a friend who is habitually late, no matter what. I have learned to accept it and compensate. When we meet I know not to get there too early as I really don't like to wait on people. Again it depends on how long a wait. If it is less than 1/2 hour I can deal with it but longer than that no way. I honestly don't care to wait on someone for very long. I would definitely say something though like "If you are going to be late from now on could you please give me a call" unless of course there was an accident and the traffic was backed up to cause her to be late or if there was an emergency. I tend to worry that something happened if they are too late. Again, I think it goes back to the person, like my friend who is late for everything-everything! I just expect it from her.

What would you do if you caught your hubby kissing your sister and they said it was nothing, just a greeting kind of kiss? But it looked pretty hot and heavy to you?

(This is totally hypothetical as my hubby has never met my sisters!)

I'd throw a fit! Call me insecure but I can just see myself be that way. Although, I can NEVER even imagine any of my sisters and James.....He loves me too much! :D

Ok....this one happened at work today.....so here it goes.

One of the lead ladies told me that a former Sony worker applied at OML, told me who it was and asked me what I thought of her......this woman was slow, hard to train and had many many problems w/orders, but she tried hard and was a very nice person....what woudl JL tell the lead?


BTW.....the other one I wrote about the heavy woman, that happened to me too when I went up to the employment office. I did exactly what you suggested, kept walking. She scared me although I felt for her.

I could/would never be a boss because I have such a big heart and believe in giving everyone a chance so...I would just tell her she is a nice person and a hard worker. Because you don't really know if maybe she has changed since working at Sony. Maybe now she is really needing a job and is willing to try even harder. And if not they will find out and fire her or at least have a talk with her.


What would a JL do if her best friend that you have known for 10 years or better, or you thought she was your best friend, was getting married and she asked someone she has known only a couple of months to be her maid of honor and you thought for sure she would ask you? Or at least ask you to be a bridesmaid. And she doesn't even bother to include you in any part of it, just to be there on the day and to be at the shower. Then when the day finally arrives she totally ignores you and you find out later that they went to a hotel with some other friends to party before going off on their honeymoon.

OUCH. That would hurt big time. I would probably call her up, after the wedding, honeymoon, after everything has settled back down, and ask her why she did that to me. It's possible she didn't mean to hurt you, but it's also possible that she doesn't feel the same way about you, and maybe you should keep your distance.

What would you do if:

You made a wonderful pot of chili for you & your husband. There might be a little bit extra for leftovers. Just as you are starting to eat, your neighbor comes over to hang out, so being a nice Jaded Lady, you offer her a small bowl. She goes home to get a HUGE bowl & fills it up, even though your husband isn't home from work to eat yet, and now there isn't enough left for him! What would you do?

Well, since she's already filled it up, I'd let it go. No way would I humiliate her by asking her to put some back. And I would consider it a lesson learned, lol, while I call out for pizza for DH.


This really happened: Neal, being very proud of me, told one of the other professors (teeny tiny female) that I've lost 78 pounds now, and she said "Wow, that's great... how much does she weigh now?" Neal said "I don't know how much she weighs and I'm sure not going to ask her, ha ha." But don't you think this took nerve on her part??? If/when I run into her, I won't bring it up, but if she does, what should I say?

(Btw, a church friend said to me "What size do you wear now, if you don't mind my asking?" And I replied, "Well, I don't really discuss that since sizes vary so much and aren't really a true indicator of my loss.")

To be honest I don't really see anything wrong with the question but that's me and everyone is different. The people that I have known that have lost a lot of weight were very proud of making it to goal and didn't mind at all telling others what their starting weight was and what they were at at goal. And I would do the same because when I make my goal I would be more than happy to tell anyone and everyone what I weigh or what size I wear. Shoot, you ladies all know how much I weigh now and I keep going up and down!! But if it is too personal for you and you think it is no ones business then I would just say politely that "It is personal and I would rather not discuss it" (I hope that came out right??)

Anyhoo...

What would a JL do if she went to the show with a friend who you knew was trying to lose weight but for some reason she decided to pig out? She bought nachos, a hot dog, popcorn, candy and to top it off a jumbo sized soda!

(And no I didn't do that today at the show!! :lol: There is no way I could ever eat that much food in one sitting! I am having a hard time coming up with questions to ask!)

Maybe she saved all her WW points just for that, lol!!! But since that's highly doubtful, I'd leave her to her own demons, and stay out of it.

Hmmm.... I, too, am running out of questions... :?:

What would a phoneless JL do if she was being flagged down on a dark road by a woman?

Slow down not rolling down the windows all the way,,,keeping doors locked and eyes open for all around the vehicle ask her what the problem is? She may have a phone and had called already. If not tell her you would be glad to call someone for her once you get to your destination. And tell her to get back in her vehicle cause its not safe.


this is what Im dealing with right now.

When ever we have a cast / crew member do something great we always make sure to let them know our appreciations by bring it up infront of everyone and applauding their hard work or thoughtfulness. Anyways the problem is, we have one guy who each time this happens makes sure to run over to that person and does something goofy and takes the attention away from that person. I feel that each person is intitled to credit without him interferring.
So what would a JL do about this?