Hi Lovelies - Just a quick note to say I have been busy and lost track of posts in the middle of the week. Have to go shopping this a.m. - having a Landmark intro at my house this afternoon - then I am off to take dd shopping for her 14th bd. Will check in later and give u my personal attention.

Back on focus starting Friday - renewed my commitment and developed plan that I can live with considering my hectic schedule. The new plan involves an action plan to get my water and daily exercise in and a minimum lbs down goal for each week. I stay on plan pretty well most days. So I am happy to report as of yesterday I was down 3 lbs since last week - even though they are repeat lbs. No more yo- yoing for me! 227 is my new high weight and I am not going to go above it again! Got more hope when I was down to 226 this a.m. although I know that life happens and there is no guarantee that will hold all day or even for the weekend. However my 227 held all day yesterday - so who knows what today will bring. All I know is I am inspired.

Have a great day - mscat

239/226/140

Hello Lovelies!
Just coming in to say hello. My last post was in April. Last February I joined Overeaters Anonymous after battling to get back on a diet and failing miserably. I was becoming increasing more frustrated and depressed. I am happy to report that I am still attending OA meetings and have lost a little weight but not much. About a pound a month or so. I am so glad to see that this group is still going strong. At first I couldn't find it and that made me so sad! Congratulations and great job for everyone making a statement to themselves about how much they love themselves by doing something good for their health. WTG!

Nice to see you all, thanks for being here,
Kim

Sandy B - I just want to say that none of us are in a position to judge you or your marriage. I'm sorry that your marriage is ending - it will be a difficult time for you and your family. I think you need to be honest with your husband and tell him you want a divorce - he deserves to know where he stands.

Good luck - we still love you!

Love Amanda x

POINTS POINTS:

Amanda
SandyB
Faye

Amanda: To get on top of this, you MUST replace the eating with something else. It has got to be a conscious effort on your part that when you are feeling depressed, emotional etc that instead of picking up food you must do something else. I know it is easier said than done, but if you break the cycle, the easier it becomes the next time.

SandyB: Your husband does deserve to know how you feel. You need to sit down and talk with him. Blame has no place here, yours or his. You just need to work it out between you WITHOUT ANY ANGER. When you can do that and basically wish each other well, then if you feel divorce is the only alternative then so be it. As for this other gentlemen, don't muddy the waters right now until you solve your marriage problems. Being with someone else when you are still married only makes things worse and promotes guilt.

Gotta go, just wanted to check in.

Welcome back Kimmy

Faye

Evening.

Dang, have I missed alot. Where to begin.

Sandy, Amanda is right none of us have any right to judge. I am a firm believer that you have to do what is going to make you truly happy in life. If you are certain beyond a shadow of a doubt then tell your hubby and do what you need to do. Whatever you do remember that I am here for you and I support you in whatever you decide to do.

Amanda, Sandy and Faye are both right. It sounds like you really need to go to consouling(sp) and work things thru. I know it is easier than it sounds. But honey look at it this way we all are here for you and ready to support you.

Mscat, sounds as if you are getting right on top of things. Keep it up.

Well, everyone was talking about getting a cut and color and belive it or not I got mine done today. My girlfriend took me to the beauty shop and had my hair colored and cut, then she took Corey and I out to eat tonight. I tried to keep her from doing so seeing how I know that money is tight but she insisted saying that she was giving me this "gift" for all that I do for her and her son. I appericated it so much that it brings tears to my eyes. I felt truly pampered today and it was great. Gonna get time to get some rest

later
sandy

SUNDAY: Today is Silly Poll Sunday and our poll this week is:

What is your favorite thing to do to pamper yourself?

SandyB: I think that SandyB knows that not one lady judges her here. We all love her and want what is the very best for her. IF that is not the case, then know that I will not let anyone judge you here so this would be a safe haven for you to come to like everyone else.

SandyG: There is absolutely nothing like good friends. It is terrific that you seem to have a wonderful one! I do too and I even get to take him to bed with me!

For me pampering doesn't involve my body because I tend to kind of make those things routine like hair cuts and color, manicures, etc. So with that being said, I would say BUYING something like shoes or handbags, especially handbags or BOOKS! I love books and how could that be bad, right?

Later girls

Faye

Morning everyone,
My golly I'm gone for a couple days, and all heck breaks loose! Not really....just life, right?

SandyB--I've been wondering about you and your dh for some time because I remember you having a rough time with him last year...not sure how long ago it was. None of us is here to judge you, all you can do is what makes you happy. The important thing is to be SURE....I think Faye is right about a clean break without another person complicating things. (I kinda know about this first hand...my dh had to get a divorce to marry me) Just be true to yourself and don't drag it on needlessly. You'll just be miserable. Remember we all love you here and you can talk to us whenever you need to.

Amanda--HONEY! You are NOT the only one having problems "getting it all together" lately. I'm in the same boat. Back at the beginning of the month I set a goal to be under 200 by Oct. 1st. Well, I'll be lucky if I don't weigh MORE You just keep plugging away at it....Faye is right, there has to be something you can replace the eating with. Reading a book, taking a stroll, phoning a friend. Something that gets your MIND active...watching tv won't work, it's anesthetizing and makes me sleepwalk right to the fridge! Hang in there, counselors can only help you. And remember you're not alone

Faye, my favorite pampering thing is also to buy books. I've gotten back into the habit of reading every night before bed, since it's the only time I really have to myself. Keeps me away from the tv. I've been looking around at my growing collection of books that I'll probably only read once...I'm going to make it a point in October to go to a library...I haven't been to one since college.

SandyG--I bet you look MAHVELOUS, DAHLING! Glad you had a fun day out with the girls...

Susan, MsCat, Carrie, everyone else...........Hope you are all having a great weekend!

TTFN,
Julie

Hi gals,

Thanks to you all for your kind words, they really helped!

I am no stranger to counselling, and I think it could help me - I've been given some numbers of free counsellors, so I'll see if anyone is available, but I'll probably have to go on a waiting list.

You know I said that I've put on 5lb in one week? well I've been thinking about this and it just doesn't make sense. As I said before, I don't think it's even POSSIBLE to put on 5lb in one week! I did go off track a bit, but it wasn't like a 5 day binge fest or anything! So I realised that this weight gain has coincided with me increasing my anti depressants - so I bet that they are to blame. Since I've increased my dose, I've felt awful - really drowsy and heavy. AND they haven't made me feel any better at all - just worse! So I'm cutting the dose back down, and I'm thinking of reducing them more over time. I think they have played a part in my weight gain (and my doctor agrees) and they certainly make it harder for the weight to come off - which makes me feel MORE depressed, so I am stuck in a viscious cycle.

I think maybe counselling and diet and exercise will make me happier in the long run, but I won't rush into anything.

SILLY POLL - We have a shop here called 'Lush' - do you have it in the US? It sells gorgeous handmade toiletries, full of essential oils and free from preservatives etc - they are not cheap, and you can end up spending a fortune in there! When I was working, I used to buy loads of stuff there - but now it is a rare treat! To pamper myself, I would have a lovely long bath with some bath ballistics in it,and loads of bubbles,I'd use thier 'buffy the backside slayer' body exfoliater, which is full of cocoa butter and leaves my skin soft and silky, and then use a Lush facemask, which always really sorts my skin out. A haircut is also a nice treat these days - I'm getting mine cut tomorrow! Yay - I can't wait as my hair looks so awful at the moment, it's been really getting me down.

Do you girls think that as well as sharing the same TOM cycles, we are now sharing the same haircut cycles?

Love Amanda x

Evening everyone.

Amanda, you could be right about TOM but that is one thing that I don't have to worry about. LOL! I'm a lucky dog!

Not too much to report here today. I am not keeping points til I am healed up enough to exercise. I am going to try to take it slow and easy at first don't want to make any trouble for myself. As for the poll to pamper myself I am going to say a nice backrub by a sexy man of course. LOL! A girl can wish can't she? Time to get off here and get ready for bed talk to everyone later.

hugs