Weighty Issues #18
 

Welcome to the August edition of the Weighty Issues Thread.

We are a group of awesome women who support each other through the highs and lows of every day life--it's not just about weight loss, it's about LIFE. If you have something to say or need a shoulder to cry on, Weighty Issues is the place to be. Come on in, grab a chair and stay and chat a while. You'll be glad you did!

If you are like me and you can lose your weight only to regain it all back shortly after than we may be the group for you. I would love to learn how to manage and control my weight for the long haul.
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Hi girls. I am sorry for leaving you for a while there but I am having a very hard time dealing with the fact that I let myself gain all of my weight back plus some extra again. I have been having a pity party for myself for the last few months. I know I need to just suck it up and move on and concentrate on losing it again. I want you to all know how much I love you guys and how much I really appreciate you all for being there for me.

What have I been up to? Lets see. Mickey fits right in. He is a little doll(that barks ALOT) We have a bark collar and he hates it but it does shut him up. :lol: I have tons of cute pics of him that I will try to post in a while.

We have been super busy with the business but the tourist season is almost over. Hopefully I can get all my bills paid plus save the rest of the vacation money in time for December 19.

We traded the car in on another black Durango(what can I say we love them. :lol: ) It is really nice and now we have room for the dogs in the back and the kids can actually come with us too. :rofl: Who da thunk it!!!

We had a huge lobster feast this weekend. Everybody came and I ate so much food that I was physically ill.(but the food was awesome) I made an awesome dessert for it. It is called Chocolate Velvet dessert. YUM!! Julie, You get the Taste of Home magz right? It was in there.

Well, I have to eat lunch and go to work but I love you guys!!!

Here are a couple pics of the pups

Angie cute pics, I just love the big floppy ears they make me melt inside. Yes, I do get that magazine. I will have to go through it and look for it, it does sound wonderful. I want you to know I luv ya like a sister. I wish I had sisters. But I consider you guys mine. Can you believe I have been here a year all ready? I just wish I could give you a hug. You are a strong person. You will and can be at a healthy weight again, do not give up!! Take it day by day, hour by hour. Thats what I do in my life. I don't want to throw religion or God on you, but the way I view life is he would not give you anything you can not handle. Start slow, you are in my thoughts. Luv ya Julie :)

Angie

Don't be down on yourself girl! You are loved. IT is a step at a time a day at a time. Look it at it like that so you are not overwhelmed. You are an amazing encourager, baker, mother, wife and friend.

:grouphug:

Summer

CUTE PUPPY! he looks like a doll!

Hi Summer you snuck in on me. How are you? I am glad you posted
Angie I agree with everything Summer said. Julie :)

I'm crazy :crazy:

I'll post more later!

I hope everyone is well

Angie if it makes you feel any better, I got something funny to tell ya. Friday I went and got a hair cut. I have been going to the same person for a gazillion years, well anyway she did not have anything that day (wanted one on Friday afternoon because I was coming from another appt.) So I tried a new place and I hate it! I said keep it below the shoulders and she chopped it. It is really short. But the funny part is I pulled into the garage after my cut and my hus opened the garage door and hysterically starting laughing at me! I mean he could not even talk :lol:. I hate to say it but it kinda looks like a mullet :yikes:, not really. But I HATE it! I wonder what food makes your hair grow faster? Julie

now I won't be posting a pic of me soon, I am way to embarrassd. I don't even want to see anyone I know :( :lol:.

Hi again. My kids just left for a few days. :cheer: haha. Me and jay could definately use some quiet time. School starts on August 26 (the day after my wedding anniversary) I cant wait. I love my kids to death but I am the happiest mom on earth when the school bus pulls up. :lol:

Thanks for the kind words guys. I love you all like my sisters(more haha). You are my best friends in the whole world!!!

Julie, I use the same hair dresser that I had since I was 5. I dont dare to go to someone else because I have done it once myself. I hope you like your hair better once you get used to it. Or at least I hope it grows real quick for ya.

I wanted to post this for you guys to read. Someone posted it on Petfinder and it made me cry. It is so sad.

How Could You? - http://www.crean.com/jimwillis/hcy.html
Copyright ? Jim Willis 2001, all rights reserved
When I was a puppy I entertained you with my antics and made you laugh. You called me your child and despite a number of chewed shoes and a couple of murdered throw pillows, I became your best friend. Whenever I was "bad," you'd shake your finger at me and ask "How could you?" - but then you'd relent and roll me over for a bellyrub.

My housetraining took a little longer than expected, because you were terribly busy, but we worked on that together. I remember those nights of nuzzling you in bed, listening to your confidences and secret dreams, and I believed that life could not be any more perfect. We went for long walks and runs in the park, car rides, stops for ice cream (I only got the cone because "ice cream is bad for dogs," you said), and I took long naps in the sun waiting for you to come home at the end of the day.

Gradually, you began spending more time at work and on your career, and more time searching for a human mate. I waited for you patiently, comforted you through heartbreaks and disappointments, never chided you about bad decisions, and romped with glee at your homecomings, and when you fell in love.

She, now your wife, is not a "dog person" - still I welcomed her into our home, tried to show her affection, and obeyed her. I was happy because you were happy. Then the human babies came along and I shared your excitement. I was fascinated by their pinkness, how they smelled, and I wanted to mother them, too. Only she and you worried that I might hurt them, and I spent most of my time banished to another room, or to a dog crate. Oh, how I wanted to love them, but I became a "prisoner of love."

As they began to grow, I became their friend. They clung to my fur and pulled themselves up on wobbly legs, poked fingers in my eyes, investigated my ears and gave me kisses on my nose. I loved everything about them, especially their touch - because your touch was now so infrequent - and I would have defended them with my life if need be.

I would sneak into their beds and listen to their worries and secret dreams. Together we waited for the sound of your car in the driveway. There had been a time, when others asked you if you had a dog, that you produced a photo of me from your wallet and told them stories about me. These past few years, you just answered "yes" and changed the subject. I had gone from being your dog to "just a dog," and you resented every expenditure on my behalf.

Now you have a new career opportunity in another city and you and they will be moving to an apartment that does not allow pets. You've made the right decision for your "family," but there was a time when I was your only family.

I was excited about the car ride until we arrived at the animal shelter. It smelled of dogs and cats, of fear, of hopelessness. You filled out the paperwork and said "I know you will find a good home for her." They shrugged and gave you a pained look. They understand the realities facing a middle-aged dog or cat, even one with "papers."

You had to pry your son's fingers loose from my collar as he screamed "No, Daddy! Please don't let them take my dog!" And I worried for him and what lessons you had just taught him about friendship and loyalty, about love and responsibility, and about respect for all life. You gave me a goodbye pat on the head, avoided my eyes, and politely refused to take my collar and leash with you. You had a deadline to meet and now I have one, too.

After you left, the two nice ladies said you probably knew about your upcoming move months ago and made no attempt to find me another good home. They shook their heads and asked "How could you?"

They are as attentive to us here in the shelter as their busy schedules allow. They feed us, of course, but I lost my appetite days ago. At first, whenever anyone passed my pen, I rushed to the front, hoping it was you - that you had changed your mind - that this was all a bad dream...or I hoped it would at least be someone who cared, anyone who might save me. When I realized I could not compete with the frolicking for attention of happy puppies, oblivious to their own fate, I retreated to a far corner and waited.

I heard her footsteps as she came for me at the end of the day and I padded along the aisle after her to a separate room. A blissfully quiet room. She placed me on the table, rubbed my ears and told me not to worry. My heart pounded in anticipation of what was to come, but there was also a sense of relief. The prisoner of love had run out of days. As is my nature, I was more concerned about her. The burden which she bears weighs heavily on her and I know that, the same way I knew your every mood.

She gently placed a tourniquet around my foreleg as a tear ran down her cheek. I licked her hand in the same way I used to comfort you so many years ago. She expertly slid the hypodermic needle into my vein. As I felt the sting and the cool liquid coursing through my body, I lay down sleepily, looked into her kind eyes and murmured "How could you?"

Perhaps because she understood my dogspeak, she said "I'm so sorry." She hugged me and hurriedly explained it was her job to make sure I went to a better place, where I wouldn't be ignored or abused or abandoned, or have to fend for myself - a place of love and light so very different from this earthly place. With my last bit of energy, I tried to convey to her with a thump of my tail that my "How could you?" was not meant for her. It was you, My Beloved Master, I was thinking of. I will think of you and wait for you forever.

May everyone in your life continue to show you so much loyalty.

Okay now I'm crying! :cry:
Making me think about adopting another dog.

:cry: OK, not exactly the way I wanted to start my morning but that was heartbreaking!!!! Thanks Angie :). I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE BACK!!! :grouphug:
I love you girl, don't stay away like that I get worried and chew my fake fingernails *blech*. You are a wonderful, caring, NORMAL person who has issues with weight--just like the rest of us. You and me sister, I can totally relate (with the gain/lose/gain/lose) so don't feel like you're alone. I love you guys like my sisters too, it's even better since we don't get into catfights :lol:. Your dogs are so adorable and they are so lucky to have a mom like you.

Kempy, your girls are beautiful too. I can't believe how big Rhea is already, just like big sis Echo. Woo-Hoo, how many more days of school left? Can ya count 'em on one hand yet?

Cal, we may wax and wane here but I don't think I could ever leave you guys. Sorry the school year started up so quickly for ya, but let's just work our way to the next intersession, huh? :lol: See ya @ Disney?

Julie, how rude of your husband to laugh at the new 'do. Would you like to know how much of a mean-streak I have in me? If Rick laughed at me for that reason, I'd wait until he fell asleep then shave off one of his eyebrows :s:. Well, I dunno if I'd really, but I'd seriously think about it :devil: Hope it grows back quickly for ya. Have you seen the commercials for AI Season 4??? :lol: Can't wait for the laughs.

Hey Summer, wise words from a wise woman :). Don't work too hard today.


Hello to Holly :wave:

I'm sneaking in here just for a moment, but I'll be back later in the day. Have a good one everybody.

Good Evening Everyone,

Well Monday was Mexican again night again! Had left over roast beef so I made some wraps. Ate way to many damn chips though. Oh well. I am so glad to see some post on this board.

Noelle, that is a good idea about the eyebrow!! I had to even laugh at myself though. I ate a whole bunch of walnuts today because they are suppose to be good for your hair? I would do anything at this point to get it to grow . We did not get invited to any parties this summer, now that I look and feel like a freak hus said two of his friends are having parites, hahaha....and it will be TOM time. I just can't win. Oh I should stop my bit**ing and be thankful that I have what I have right?

HI everyone else. Julie

Noelle I have not seen any of the commericals yet. I can't wait though. I love that show. I know they were interviewing and auditioning in Clevland, Ohio. Go William Hung!! Hahahaha....I am such a dork!
Hello and Good Night Everyone. Julie

Well, it is late but I am here. I was stuck with a schedule to write at work and it literally took me all day. Then, I get home and I had torun to a home owners ***. meeting. That was a hoot. Two of the guys got into it and I mean they were yelling at each other. One of the guys is a cop so you know that he was yelling. :lol: It was a good ending to the day. I had a good laugh.

Angie I am glad that you are back too. I need to post the pics I sent to you on the site too. I love your little guys. Rebel makes me laugh every time I see him. He is just so damn cute and his facial expressions a great.

Julie eat protein and take prenatal vits. That should speed things along. I hate bad haircuts. Is it to short to pull into a ponytail. I live with one of those things.

Noelle I am almost to the single hand days and yes I am counting down. I tell everybody everyday how many days I have. It is usually accompanied by a little dance too. I should be studying right now but I took a break to say hi to you guys.

Summer I wish I could take our dogs to the tennis courts but it is sooooo hot right now we would all die form the heat. I need to get my butt moving like you though.

Ok, I am going to see if I can get the pics up.

I hope they come through.

Kempy, Echo and Rhea are such beautiful girls. They look so happy.Rebel always looks so happy in his pics. :lol:

Julie, I would love to eat at your house. You always have such good stuff. Me and Jay ate Subway for supper last night. I agree with Noell also. If Jay laughed at me like that I would have decked him. :lol: Could you get some barrettes and put it up on the sides? I do that somethimes with mine and it looks pretty good.

Noelle, You sound busy. I hope things slow down soon.

Summer, Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate them.

Well, Me and Jay took the dogs on the riverwalk this morning. I have a strap that attatches Rebel and Mickey to the same leash. It was pretty funny to watch. :lol: They got the hang of it after a while but poor Mickey got dragged a bit when he stopped to pee.

Hi Girls

How is everyone today? I am a little tired. But moving along :lol:.
Thanks for all the hair tips everyone....I will try some. When I took the vits. when I was pregnant I got sick from them or maybe it was just morning, actually all day sickness :lol:. But I really should take a multivitamin of some sort. Not to be in the complaining mode, okay I am, I have a huge zit on top of it :lol:!!!! I thought they ended after this age? Anywho, whats going on today? I might take the kids to the book store or the library. Its cloudy and cold here. Can you believe August and it is in the 60's? Whats up with that. Whats everyone making for dinner? I might go back into the two week induction phase of sbd. So maybe steaks, burgers, or salmon or omlettes. Well gotta run. Love the pics Kempy! So cute. I can't believe how big your baby is now. Julie

Wow I can't believe that was my 500th post. Actually it would be higher if the system at 3fc did not have that crash. But I thought that was pretty cool ;).

Good Afternoon,

Just wanted to pop in and see if anyone is here!! I hope you all are having a great day. Well not much else to say. Gotta go change a diaper, fun fun :lol:!! Later chickies

Thanks guys about the babies. Thay are pretty cute, huh? :D

Nothing is going on here but the usual work stuff. i am keeping my eye on that second storm in the caribean. I don't want that thing messing up my vacation.

Julie I have no idea what is for dinner. We have a pretty busy week so I am trying to get things together for that. I guess whatever I can find around the house will have to work. I have to start to get a food list together for vacation. I think we are going to try to cook more than go out. Joe said he would much rather do that than worry about going out to dinner every night.

Angie I have thought about getting one of those leases for our guys but I don't think it would work to well. They try to fight for first place as it is when we go for a walk. Plus, the both kind of have their own way of doing things when we go for walks.

I hope I can check back in today.

Kempy, It does work pretty good. They get used to it and they figure out how to walk with it. Rebel and Candi do that and they walk really good on it. I bought mine at Drs. Foster and Smith off the internet.

I am supposed to be working but I needed to get a soda. Jay wouldnt give me his (the *** :lol: ) so I said "fine I will be out when I am out" :lol:

Julie, I am having creole chicken with chicken rice and corn for supper.

Angie your supper sounds yummy! And healthy too. You tell Jay to give you a sip next time :lol:! It must be hot in there. It is only 61 degrees, can you believe it? In August? Do you watch the show trading spouses? I missed the epi. last week but saw the first show and it was so funny. So I might catch up on it tonight.

Kempy prayers that you have good weather for vacation.

Well gotta run girls, Hi Noelle, Summer, Cal, Holly and everyone else. Have a great night. Julie

I saw the one where the black lady and the rich lady switched. That was so funny. The rich lady was pissed that they left the money to the grandma. :lol: I want to watch that too.

So glad you're back, Angie; missed you.

Kempy: Your babies are soooo cute. Ashley wants a puppy; a black puddle to be exact. We're going to try her with a small pet first like a fish, bird, or hamster. We can't have cats because I'm allergic.

Noelle: Yes!! See you at Disney. It will be so much fun and I really look forward to meeting you. I'm going to try to get my hubbie to go with us. If he does then your hubbie and mine can take the kiddos and we can have a girls night out!! :D Just keep me posted about where you will be staying.

School is going great so far. My kiddos are realizing that I mean business when it comes to following rules. Our new teacher (she is new too, just out of college) doesn't want to come down too hard on the kiddos. I told her she has to or they will walk all over her. She said it's not her style. I hope she learns quick that they do need her to be firm or they will not respect her because she'll come off as a pushover. I'm already seeing the attitudes that the kids had last year at the inner city school I taught at. I can also already identify at least 4-5 gang wannabes. It's amazing that people think that just because kids come from a higher income neighborhood there won't be the problems associated with the inner city schools. It's there, just on a smaller scale. Overall, I have some really good kids. Because the language barrier isn't there (all these kids speak English) I have some pretty proficient writers and very good readers.

Have a good night everyone.

Cal

Hey, no fair that Cal and Noelle get to hang out together. And at Disney! I want to come. When are you guys going there? Joe and I will be in CA in Dec. If it is around then, I might be able to go play too. That would be great!

Angie and Julie I saw some of the first trading spouses but I hated that rich lady so I stopped about half way through. I felt bad for the family she was with.

I think we are going to miss the storms. They are both going to go through one right after the other adn will be gone by Saturday so I am happy about that. Ihave no problem sitting in the room though waiting it out. I have been through enough hurricanes to not be scared anymore. It is just alot of rain to me now.

I have got so much stuff to do between now and Saturday morning. I just hope I can get it all in. To top it all off I have a test Friday too. It should be easy though. It is on business but I still need to make time to look over it. My final is set for Sept. 4th. That day can't get here fast enough.

Kempy you are one busy chick! Hang in there. The day will be here before you know it. I am glad those nasty storms are going to miss you. I agree Cal and Noelle meeting, that is so exciting that some of the group get to meet in person!!

Well gotta do lunch! Check in later! Julie

Kempy I know I could not believe how that first lady treated that family! "I want real coffee!" All they had was instant. I mean god she was a guest, act like one. Last night the rich Dad treated the woman terribly, I don't know if I am even going to watch anymore. Well I really gotta go now!

Hello peoples!!! I wasnt here today because I had to take the kids school shopping :yikes: We spent $350.00 and we arent even done yet. Whatever happened to the days when the schools provided the glue and stuff anyways? :lol:

Cal, WOW gangs. That is like the only good thing about Maine. We are so far in the boonies that crime is really low. That was one thing that scared me about moving down south. I didnt want to put my kids in danger if I didnt have to. Everyone in my town still leaves their doors unlocked and sleep with the windows open at night. I dont because I am a worry wart. :lol: I figure it would be my house they pick!!!

Kempy, When do you leave and for how long? Are you going to Destin again?

Julie, I watched last night and I couldnt believe how mean those rich *****es were to her. Granted she wasnt the nicest lady herself but geesh!!! "It isnt our fault we were blessed with these good looks" Give me a break!!!!:lol: I think they meant we were blessed to have enough money to buy these good looks. :lol: :rofl: I hate people who think they are better than everyone else.

I had Wendy's for lunch today. I was running late and still had to go to work so we stopped there.

Hey girls, how's everyone doing today? I've watched the first episode of Trading Spouses with the nipped/tucked "perpetually suprised looking " rich white lady. Do you think her husband did that to her? :lol: Anyway, I felt sorry for the black lady's family too. I haven't watched any of the current episodes other than passing glances but the lady trading off with the rich family didn't come off as to friendly either.

We've decided to let the office girl go...in a way it's good because her life was getting in the way WAY too much with her work, and on the other hand we're not as busy as we should be. Rick is killing himself working some major late hours just to keep everybody paid--the new guy running the van is not quite as proficient as he says he was. I've told her that I appreciated all that she's accomplished while she was here but that we've got to do what's right for business right now. It was a pretty sh*tty feeling having to let her down like that, but I'm keeping her til Friday then it's back to my lonesome again :D. I can come back here more often, just like the old days!!!!

Kempy, I'm praying the hurriancane/storm stays well below your destination. You deserve the vacation! I will be in CA the 2nd of October
thru the 7th. Can ya come out early? Doesn't Joe's mom or someone live out there?

Angie, yeah school supplies are a major expense--yikes with three kids too. My son's school wanted something ridiculous like 36 rolls of paper towels per kid (one grade only). My God! What are they supplying, the whole school instead of just the class?!?!!

Julie I wish it would cool off here, it's humid and hot. Belated congratulations on your 500th post :). How are your kiddos doing?

Cal, I can't wait for vacation either and getting to meet you. That's going to be fun.

Well, I gotta run out and get lunch--been so busy I've been skipping breakfast and now I'm starving... i'll try and be back later.

Good Morning!!!

Food yesterday was bad and today started off with cake. OUCH!!

Noelle, I am sorry you had to let your help go. I would be so bad at having to fire people. I am not good at standing up to people. If there is a problem I like to hope it goes away on its own. :lol: Good Management materieal I am!!!!! :lol:

Hi girlies,

Angie I have a cake in my fridge that is calling my name. So far I have not had a piece though. And hus bought some Mrs. Field's white choc. chip macadamia nut cookies, one of my favorites. Ugh, but I have not had one of those yet either. I could eat the whole darn box! Hang in there, today is a new day!

Sorry Noelle about letting the girl go. But now we can have more time with you :devil: :D!! At least you got major filing and some stuff done when she was there to help, right? My kids are doing great, I am getting ds ready for preschool. Why do I feel like a nervous wreck? I am such a worrier!! I hate that about myself. Well I hope it cools down for you. Any plans for the weekend?

Hi, Holly, Cal, Kempy, Summer and everyone! Julie

Oh I wanted to ask you guys, anyone know if drinking coffee speeds up your metabolism? I am tired all the time and I might start drinking it again. Kempy you might know this one? Thanks, Julie

Hi guys sometimes I feel like I am talking to myself :dizzy: :lol:, just kidding....How is everyone's night going? Are we all staying OP? So far this week I have except for Monday. Tonight for supper we had bratwaurst, sauerkraut, green beans, buns etc. But I skipped the buns. Trying low carbing this week. Hey Angie don't forget House Hunters is on tonight. I love that show. Between that and the Food Network I could watch tv all day long. haha....
How is it going with the kids gone. Peace and quiet I bet?

Well wanted to see if anyone popped in, hi everyone. Julie

No OP for me.

Hey girls, finally a moment to sit down and relax. I had a visit with the accountant today for our corp. taxes so that's a load off my chest (at least until December anyway). I've been running around like crazy today, all over the island. I must've put close to 100 miles on my car today, no joke. I know that may not sound like much to you guys but here on this tiny rock in the middle of the ocean, that's like going around one and a half times. I'm not exactly OP either but the scale is staying put for now. Now w/the office girl gone I can go back to being fanatically obsessed with measuring out my cereal and milk in the morning, drinking exactly 100 oz of water and counting my points with abandon! :lol: I'm feeling goofy right now. Rick just sprang this on me that he was going to Kauai for the weekend so I just said, see ya, and dropped him off at the airport. I'm looking forward to spending some time by myself anyway.

Julie, I don't know if coffee actually speeds up metabolism but I know when I drink it (and it has to have caffiene), it makes me feel amped up so I move around a lot more + it makes me walk to the bathroom a couple of extra times :lol:, sorry if that was TMI :lol:, I only meant #1 :lol: :lol:.

Angie, Rick's b-day was on Sunday so we had Hagen-Daaz vanilla ice cream w/a Sam's club carrot cake--the cheesecake frosting was studded with crushed almonds on the sides...OMG it was so rich, and I ate it two days in a row :ink: Heck, we all need cake sometimes. Sometimes you just gotta go with the flow of things.

Cal, glad to hear the school year is starting off right and you sound like you mean business. I think it's good for kids to have a teacher that sets boundaries, those are the ones you really remember after you leave school--the ones that you actually learned from. Does Ashley have a preference to what kind of pet she would like? Michael is trying to convince me to get a poodle, since he enjoyed the one we babysat for my sister's boss for 6 weeks.

Kempy, how is your neck of the woods faring with those hurricanes? HOpe they pass by! I gotta check the news. I'm praying that it goes easy. Good luck on your test tomorrow too.

Hello to Summer, Holly and everyone else. Gotta run for now. Have a good night.

Good Morning!!! Hurricane Bonnie is coming up this way now. It sownpoured all night. The pool is overflowing Litterally. My walkway around it is a big puddle. Part of the yard that we had brought up recently washed out so we have a big hole in the driveway. I guess the heavy rain wont actually be here until tonight. :lol:

Noelle, You are one busy girl!! I hope you get a chance to relax this weekend.

Julie, Did you love the houses in Vegas? I would have been happy with any one of them. The first couples house was so UGLY!!! That lady didnt have any sense of color. :lol:

Me and Jay are going down to Southern Maine tomorrow to spend the day. We are going to the Sebago Lakes area. That is the area we wanted to move a while back because it is touristy.