Feeling Discouraged
 

undefined Hi everyone. I am a 36 yr old mother of one. I used to visit this site about a year and a half ago. At that time I had lost almost 30 lbs but have gained back almost 15. I now have 35lbs to lose. I am having a hard time sticking to anything for more than a couple of days and really need someone to help jumpstart me and to share in the frustrating ups and downs of weight loss. This year I am determined to reach my goal and need some support! PLEASE HELP! :(

HelloSprite

I hear you and know how you're feeling. I too have 30lbs to lose and have been trying to loss it for three years. I have four children and a part-time job. It seems like I'm always on the run and yet I can't lose the weight. I think if we have something to work for it'll make it easier. Feb 10th was my 25th anniversary and my husband got us tickets to Europe in the spring, so I have joined the challenges on this site, started walking every nite and joined weight watchers. Join along with me ;)

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:wave: Welcome back!
I too have close to the same amount to lose and we're in the same age group. Good luck and you can do this.

Thanks for the supportive words!
 

Thank you Northern Clipper and DinaMichelle. Your words are very encouraging. Just to know others are in the same boat seems to help.

How are you finding WeightWatchers Northern Clipper? I have started following the TOPS diet but don't belong to a group. I also walk three times a week. I find working full-time and driving my son around to his activities leaves me little time or energy for anything else. Wow a trip to Europe is definately a great incentive! Good Luck I know you can do it. Four kids and you work!?! What a hectic life you must lead!

Dina, are you following any specific diet or exercise plan? With Spring coming on and a large Rubbermaid container full of Spring/Summer clothes that are too tight, I really feel the pressure to get my butt in gear! I have just asked my husband to hide and eat all the leftover Valentine chocolate.

Here's to a successful year for all of us! :^:

I'm not really following a plan right now. I tried Atkins, but it's just not for me. I've been counting calories. Basically, low fat and low carb. Low carb seems to work the best but for protein I try to limit it to lean/lowfat choices. I've been walking but can't wait for warmer weather as I prefer to exercise outdoors. What about yourself?

I used to belong to TOPS several years ago and still have my book with the diet plan and exchanges in it. I am using that. I was very successful with it without belonging to the club a few years ago and so think I will stick with what works. I too prefer to exercise outdoors. I love walking and do not mind the rain as I find it very refreshing. The winters are fairly mild where I live so it makes it easier to exercise outdoors year-round. I just find that I eat when I am stressed out and it seems life is always full of stressful events, that's just a fact of life and I need to realize that.

Do you have kids? How much weight have you lost so far or have you just started?

Hello Sprite and dinamichele
Weight watchers keeps you pretty busy keeping a journal of your daily foods by points.I find that by doing that I have less time to eat and what I do eat is low in points and fat . My kids keep me on the go all the time just getting them here and there. I would like to add the low carb to the mix.

Sprite, is that you?!? the same Sprite that was on the "Doin' It the Old Fashioned Way"?!? I missed you!!

Please say Hi to us over there! :wave: and if you are a different Sprite, well, ahem, I'll just slink over to the corner, totally embarassed! :lol:

Sprite: I have an 11 yr. old daughter and have lost 35 lbs. in 3 years through exercise alone. I realized I would have to adjust my diet in order to lose the last 20 lbs. so that's what I'm doing. Ugh.....those last 10 or 20 are the hardest to lose. I am also a stress-eater. Really an emotional eater, which makes it tough.

Dinamichele

They say the longer it takes to lose it the longer it stays off. It sounds as if you have worked hard the last three years. I have not been as steady as yourself and the last three years and have only netted me 10lbs. But this Feb my husband got us tickets to Europe for our 25th anniversary and I am going to buckle down and lose the last 20lbs. 171/161/140

Europe!!! Yippee!! If that isn't motivation I don't know what is.

2 years ago I sold my car and starting walking just about everywhere. It's amazing, I lost 30 lbs. by not driving. I realize this is not feasible for most people. I didn't do it to lose weight, it was just a benefit. I will say that the initial loss has motivated me to lose the rest.

Just posted a reply and it did not go through! DinaMichelle & Northernclipper, I just realized we weigh the same, I knew we were kindred spirits!

Hi Vermont Mom! Yes it's me. How are you doing? Is that picture of you?

I ate pizza today and a huge dessert at a work function. Sigh....Need to buck up!

Hel-LO, Sprite!!!!! Again, I missed you, kept calling for you, so glad you're here again! :grouphug:

<-----yes, that's me, at my low last summer of 142; my husband, who took the pic, had me hold my bike at an angle so I would be flexing :strong: I had done very well for months; now have gained a few pounds :( am still in the habit of exercising but not doing well in the disciplined-eating area. I am working on changing that!

dinamichele you're right about a motivator but, it's still so hard. The last seven days I've followed ww to a t and I haven't lost anything I just stay the same 161. Most of my life a was 135 to140 and that was fine for 5'6" but the last 5 or 6 years I have been sitting at 165 to 175 and thats the lbs I can't get rid of. I have walked 30minutes a day for the last four days even in the freezing cold and wind. I don't know what else to do. When I read you post it reminded me of my best friend who 5 years ago sold her car and lost 45lbs walking every where. Last spring she got and new one and guess what she has now gained 35 of it back. She has joined ww and walks with me but we both find it very hard. Thur. is my weigh-in day and I hope the scale needle goes down. If it doesn't I not helping myself or my challenge buddies. :(

Vermontmom you look great. I'm in my earlier 40's and could only wish to look half as good. But, if I did you'd see my picture too.

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I fell wayyyyy off plan the last few days but I am back on again. We can all do this if we support eachother. I plan on buying a car next month and am afraid I'll gain some weight back so I'm going to amp up my workout some, I have to.

Vermont Mom, you look fabulous!!! good job.

Vermont Mom, You look absolutely fantastic! I don't think I have ever looked that good. Way to go!

NorthernClipper maybe you should try adding a bit more time to your walk. Instead of 30 min try 40 I'm sure that would help.

DinaMichelle tomorrow is another day, you are right to just jump right back on your plan and keep going. We all have setbacks, but we can do it.

I did very well today and almost broke down a couple of times, but I don't know what came over me, but I resisted.


Have a good day tomorrow everyone!

sprite it seems like we are on the same page, just tonight my friend and I walked for 50minutes. When we got home I jumped on line to resist the calling to the kitchen and junk food. I have to keep positive tonight because tomorrow is my weigh-in and I want to add lost lbs to my challenges ;)

dinamichele buying a car doesn't have to mean weight gain, just stick to your excerise plan and keep eating healthy. The new car means easy transpo when you need it, but don't stop your walking. Good luck! :) :

I hope you have a good and healthy day tomorrow too! :D

Way to go with walking an extra 20 minutes last night Northern Clipper. How was your weigh in today? I'm sure you lost. I weigh in on Saturdays and this being my first week back on the plan I need a loss to stay motivated to continue.

I have been sticking to my diet very well, but am finding it hard to find the time and energy for exercise. I will work on that starting next week. :cool:

Hi DinaMichelle and VermontMom, how have you been doing? :)

I was disheartend it was the second week I stayed the same. I came home angry and jumped on the bike(pedaled quickly for 25 minutes) Later I went for a 30 minute quick paced walk with my friend. I was surprized when I realize that I had drank 32ozs of water and it's only 8pm. I usually don't get 32ozs in a day. I think my anger paid off. Tonight back to business, I back on track.

Sprite I am glad you are sticking to the diet plan but, please make time for the excerise. This morning I nearly cried after weigh-in but after I measured my waist and found I lost 1inch and I gained by confidence back. ;)

If we walk like winners and we look like winners = we are winners!! :smug:

Hello ladies!

thank u very much for the compliments - I never had any muscle tone, and have better shape now than when I was 20, but really need to get back to my disciplined eating of last year.

Kudos to the walkers! especially in winter!! good job!

I have heard many others on this site talk of fitday.com - I have signed on, and it might take a few minutes of your day to enter your foods, but boy howdy :D it's nifty! It just might be the "accountability" I need.

I see by my foods entered that I am a smidge under my 1500 for the day, which is great - it's been weeks since I've been "good". fitday calculated that, with 1500 cals. a day, I should lose 1/2 pound a week, and I would like to be back down to 142 by May 1, as we're going on a bike road trip to Myrtle Beach for Bike Week, the second week of May.

How much water are you ladies able to drink each day? I'm bad, if I can get 48 ounces down, that's a good day. If nothing else, I have to be vain and think of the water helping hydrate my skin, so I don't feel/look older :devil:

Hope everyone is doing well!

Congrats northernclipper!
 

BIG congrats to you on losing the inch!!!! :bravo:

Thanks for the tip about Fitday VermontMom I will definately check it out, I am feeling kind of lightheaded and weak today and I thought I ate enough but maybe I didn't. The trip to Myrtle Beach sounds great and is something for you to work towards. I try to drink 8 glasses a day, but don't always stick to it. I have been told that even if you diet, if you don't drink enough water the pounds won't come off.

NorthernClipper that is excellent that you lost an inch, must mean you are gaining muscle! And you should be proud of yourself for not letting the scale get you down, it made you try even harder.

I have weigh in tomorrow morning and will let you know how it goes. :^:

Hello Sprite and Vermont mom

I have my weigh-in tomorrow so I downing water by the litre. I heard that water does help in the weight loss program. Sprite you didn't say how you did in your last weigh-in( I hope it was a loss). If not keep positive but, let us know one way or another. We have all been there on both sides. :dizzy:

Vermont mom your avatar is enough to motivate me. I hope you reach your goal go from snug to lean/muscular legs.

Hi Northern Clipper. Good luck on your weigh in. And Yes I hear water really, really helps. I also find it a good deterent to food. If I feel hungry I first drink a glass of water and see if I am still hungry after that. Many times I found I was just thirsty.

At my weigh in last Saturday I was down 3 pounds! I was so excited and motivated! I have weigh in again tomorrow so we shall see. I am sure I am down again as I can already feel my stomach getting flatter. Was really sick with a cold/flu all week and usualy would just feel sorry for myself and stuff my face, but not this time. Just eating healthy soups and lots of water.

DinaMichelle, where are you? How are you doing?

Sprite Bravo on the loss and good-luck tomorrow. I hope I can follow your lead ,I have weigh-in tomorrow too. I plan on giving the soup a try and see if it can help me.

Thank you for the kind words Northern Clipper!

I was down another two pounds at my weigh-in today! Yee ha! I am so happy and also strangely a little scared. Can I keep it up? :( I am sure I can do it this time.

How did your weigh-in go Northern Clipper? I have been eating a Campbell's Healthy Request Vegetable soup. I eat the whole can with a little bit of low fat cheese for protein and that is my meal. It really fills me up! And is very low in calories.

Have a great weekend! :)

staying the same
 

Hello sprite

It looks like another week of staying the same no loss ,no gain . I don't know what is wrong this is the 3rd week I've stayed the same and I'm not liking it. :mad: I have walked each night for the pass two weeks(quickly) for 30 to 40 minutes along with any of the other excerise I do and I just don't lose. My only saving grace is tomorrow I'll get measured and see if there is a inch loss. If I lose inches it will be okay. :^:

Monday I'll go buy some of the Campbell's soup and see if that makes a difference.

I glad to hear of your weight loss ;) , keep up the good work. I will use you as my motivator and keep trying so you hang in.

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[QUOTE=northernclipper]Hello sprite

It looks like another week of staying the same no loss ,no gain . I don't know what is wrong this is the 3rd week I've stayed the same and I'm not liking it. :mad:



Northern Clipper, I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but I hope it does :) My scale didn't show much in lbs, but I tried a pair of jeans on that 3 lbs ago didn't fit, and viola! :dance: the zipper went up (and without using plyers :lol: ) so keep the faith baby, it will happen and you'll feel so much better. :smug: and speaking of feeling better. How do you feel? I know eating right and exercising :tread: regularly, you must feel better, body and mind :smug: I give you alot of credit for sticking with the program :high:
Take Care, Donna D :D

By the way :thanks: for inspiring me to do more walking. :goodvibes:

Hey Northern Clipper!

Keep it up! You are so smart to measure yourself. Muscles weighs more than fat and if you are building muscle but not losing on the scale, you will definately be losing in inches. How do your clothes feel? After a while of building up muscle the weight loss on the scale will follow. Keep faith in this and just keep going with your walking. You have determination and will succeed!

I have not done much exercise at all being so sick. The weather is so beautiful here today and I am going to try for a short walk at a local lake. It will be nice just to get outside, I have been so housebound I feel like I am going crazy!


Hi Donna D :) That must feel so great to get on that pair of pants. I have a whole box of too-small-for-me clothes that I cannot wait to fit into! With Spring right around the corner and then SUMMER! - I am determined to look good in capris with little t'shirts and maybe even, do I dare hope----look good in a bathing suit?

Keep up the good work ladies! We can do it!

loss inches not pounds
 

Hello Sprite and DonnaD

I say congrats to both of you on your weight loss and here's hoping for some more. I know you can both do it. We all seem to be in the same weather belt lets hope it stays nice enough for us all to get some walking in. :s:

sprite thanks for the encouragement I stayed the same at weigh-in but, I lost another inch when I measured up. Sprite I sorry you aren't feeling 100% but, if you feel like getting out and taking a short walk go for it. Take it slow and steady while you're starting, then as you feel better go alittle further and faster. It works, I'm proof. I'm sure it's the walking thats helping me lose the inches. I got the soup today and will have it for dinner tonight (thanks) :D

DonnaD I know what you mean about the clothing fit after my measuring of a lost inch I came home and tried some outfits on and they are not as snug. That is the only reason I don't get depressed about no weight loss. If I'm building muscle I'll be happy to see the firmer me and l'll keep up the walking and excerise. I do feel better and have more energy(bonus) ;)

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Take care ladies and lets be losers this week :lol:

muscle over fat anyday! :strong:
 

Northern clipper

That is just super about the inch lost. I am so much more into how I feel than
what the :devil: scale says :blah: and keeping up the hard work is alot easier when you see (whether on the measuring tape, or the :devil: scale)
[do you think I have scale issues :lol: ]

anyway, congrats! you work hard and you deserve it. I wish I was doing more walking. Really need to get my butt in gear.

Talk to you soon, DonnaD :D :D :D

Hi Northern Clipper and DonnaD :sunny:

Another beautiful sunny day here! Makes you really want to go outside for a walk.

Northern Clipper I am so proud of you! Another inch loss that is awesome! :cp: Way to go! I know it feels so good to wear clothes that aren't so snug. So good that you have more energy too! I am going to follow in your footsteps so to speak :lol: and do some more walking of my own.

undefinedDonna D [COLOR=Black]undefined[/COLOR are you following a particular plan? Diet? Exercise? Both?

I was so upset yesterday, my son who is only 7 said mom you should start running. I asked why and he said so you can lose weight. I don't know why it really upset me, maybe because I am in denial about how overweight I am and I know that kids tell-it-like-it-is. The truth hurts :(

Let's have a great week! ;)

Hello ladies! Very sorry for not checking in for a couple of weeks...been working alot of hours (greedy for the $$$ :devil: )

Congrats to those who are losing inches and pounds! Sprite, I'm so sorry that you were upset by what your son said...do you think maybe he said it to encourage you, that he knows you are trying, and he was trying to be helpful? :grouphug:

Is Spring arriving for anyone? We've had freakishly warm weather here for two days; 40's and near 50 today. So much snow has melted; when in town, I saw the CURBS for the first time since December! But I know not to get my hopes up too soon; some of our biggest dumps (like the 15" to 18" range) of snow occur in March. Then we do get occasional snow showers into early April.

I got my motorcycle out for a quick ride yesterday!!! it was great. Maybe thinking of having riding occuring soon will inspire me to stick to more disciplined eating. I'll let you know if that happens :devil:

Have a good night, everyone, and do your best tomorrow!

great support
 

Hello Sprite and DonnaD

I just want to thank you both for all the great support we are in this together. I do feel so much better and today I got another nice surprize -I'm in my size 14 pants and they're baggy. I have been wearing snug 16's, you couldn't slap the smile of my face today. :D I'm heading for size 12's (join me).

Donna I agree with you about the inch loss motivating me and the great feeling if it's a inch loss or pound loss. I have to tell you we all have issues with the scales( they tell it like it is ) and we want them to tell us what we wish. ( mine doesn't know I'm the boss) :lol: My leader at ww was saying if the weather is bad and you can't get out to walk then walk up and down the stairs in your house.( I have 3 floor and lots of stairs) I'm going start doing this also.

Sprite don't be hurt by your son I know he didn't say it to hurt you but, because he loves and wants the best for you. If you are still feeling under the weather why don't you try and put some miles in by walking around the house. It helps and it gives you a starting point. I did that all the time it was snowing here. I had the Campbells soup and a tuna sandwich on ww bread for dinner tonight it was very filling. Thanks!

Vermontmom welcome back missed you, glad to hear you could get the bike out in March. Hope the weather holds so you could ride some more.

I'm so pumped today I just want you both to feel it and be op. Have a great night.

Spring fever....this is just a tease..
 

Nothernclipper: I am sooooooo jealous. I haven't seen size 14 in yrs. Good for you. I've got a long way to go, but I'm hopeful.

Sprite: I'm following sugar busters. My doc is ok with it because of the diabetes. He also likes weight watchers but I'm not disciplined enough. I get started on white carbs and I can't stop.
I think your son was trying to be helpful. He knows your trying to lose weight. If he was older I might not be able to resist the hand to the back of the head. LOL :lol: :lol: :lol:

Vermont Mom: I'm just plain old jealous tonight. Bad me :rollpin: I'm jealous of northern clippers size 14's and jealous of your picture(you go girl) and jealous of your ride. I went down on mine over 2 yrs ago and I took one bop since and haven't been back on. Just a bad passenger on dh's bike. I wish I could get hypnotised because part of me really misses it. Especially on these nice days. I use my health issues as an excuse now.

Well, I've been having trouble getting up early enough to exercise, so I guess I should say good nite "good nite"

Good afternoon!

northernclipper, CONGRATS on being down a size, and into a baggy size at that!!! that is such a great feeling, to feel that looseness in the thighs of a pair of pants. It's such good incentive to keep going strong!

DonnaD, a fellow rider! I'm sorry to hear of your spill in the past, that could be very hard to get over. I hope that, if you really want to, you're able to someday conquer the fear, and enjoy riding again.

Hello Sprite! How are you doing today?

I have started doing a new videotape, Karen Voight's Interval Circuit Something :D I needed something new, as I was getting very much into a rut with the tapes I was doing for a year or so. This new one is VERY challenging; gets me sweating and I feel sore the day after, so I know I'm moving some things that aren't used to it :lol: However, it is SO hard to get used to a new tape! I'm such a klutz at trying to follow her moves; I usually just end up marching in place while she's "rocking horse"-ing :D

I did a little investigating here on the "Fast Food" info...sometimes when I'm doing errands, I stop at evil Dunkin Donuts, get a coffee and my favorite muffin, the coffeecake one...oh my G*D, it has like 700 calories!!!! and I truly thought a muffin would be less bad than a regular donut. I won't be going back!

The supermarket here (Price Chopper) has now come out with it's own variety of Kashi cereals. They're pretty good, and not as expensive as Kashi. My standard breakfast is a cup of low or no-fat light (sweetened with aspartame) yogurt, with a half-cup of Kashi mixed in; and either an orange or an apple cut-up into it. I think the complex carbs in the Kashi keep me filled-up feeling longer than regular cereal (all those "twigs" and "sticks" in that cereal :lol:

I was going to add that, right now, everyone should take measurements, and start keeping those records, 'cause it's so gratifying to see those changes in the months ahead. I have mine from two years ago, and continue to measure once a month.

I hope everyone continues with their strength! Have a nice night.

hello ladies

dear DonnaD don't get jealous get even with myself, vermontmom and others. Lose, excerise , stay op and get into smaller sizes and we will all be in the same boat :D I know each time my dh says I haven't see that outfit before (it was just one I couldn't get into before) I just smile. It's a great feeling and if you stay op you'll feel the same way I do.

Vermontmom I agree we should all measure ourselves each month it feels better to loss inches and firm up. I eat kashi cereals and I will be looking at price choppers for their brand (thanks for the tip). I also was surprised to learn our Tim Horton's muffins were very high in fat and calories, I stay away from them. Good luck on your new work-out tapes a change is always good.

I am trying to finish up drinking my 48ozs of water for the night so I can fast til tomorrow's weigh-in. Keep your fingers crossed for me, I've stayed the same for 3 weeks. I did my evening walk and treadmill time so now I'll just relax for the night.

I hope everyone has a great night.

Hello VermontMom, DonnaD and NorthernClipper!

DinaMichelle Where are you? :shrug:

NorthernClipperWay to go! What a feeling that is when you fit into clothes that you could not before! It must be a real boost for you! :bravo: Good luck with your weigh in!

DonnaDAre you finding SugarBusters easy to stick with? Thank you for your kind words about what my son said to me. I am sure you are right and he was just trying to be helpful. :thanks: One day you too will be in Size 14 and smaller, just take one step at a time. We are all here to support eachother!

Hey VermontMom!
Your video sounds great. It's good to mix up your routine and use muscles that have not been used in other workouts. Yikes! A muffin with 700 Calories! Scary! :fr: It is amazing what some seemingly innocent foods contain. Even drinks for that matter. Some Starbucks concoctions are just over the top with calories. I guess the lesson is just know the contents of everything that's going in your mouth, if you don't know, don't eat it. I will try and start doing this myself thanks for the wake-up call!

I am as excited as a little girl! We are getting a Pug puppy this weekend. I have already put a deposit on him. He's sooooooooo cute! Hopefully he will keep my mind off food.


Keep up the good work everyone! :)

Good morning ladies

I mean good morning, after 3 weeks at a stand still I lost 1 pound today. I was so happy I raced to the store and stalked up on yogurts, pitas and water. I have to jump on the treadmill now so will talk later.

Sprite congrats on your new addition ;) (pug) I'm sure he will keep you busy enough to account for your excerise requirements. I know when we got our kitten I was always watching him and dealing with his needs I put mine on hold. :lol:

Have a great day. :D

Hi Ladies!

Yeah NorthernClipper! You are losing inches and pounds too! Your efforts are paying off. :cheer: Keep up the good work.

I did not sleep well last night and am soooo tired. :tired: I know this lowers my resistance and motivation slips and I have to be aware of that and be strong! The chocolate is calling me but I will not answer!!!!!!

Hope everyone else is doing well today!