hello everyone. I'm feeling down in the dumps right now. I've been tired all day, my back is killing me and I'm depressed.
When I 1st started losing weight, I felt really good. I had a lot of energy and was happy, my back pain went away. But now it's all coming back. And i'm way thinner than i was. I have no energy to workout, I feel sad all the time. i don't have any friends here, no one to talk to. Nothing to do.
I live in a really small town right now. My boyfriend is at work all day. I just don't know what to do with myself. Even if i did i would be too tired to do it. Even though I ate good today I still feel terrible. I'm getting to that awful place where I'm saying to myself what's the point! Someone please remind me!
Hello Alice Sorry to hear you've had such a bad day.It is definitely discouraging to do well for awhile then have setbacks. Do you have any idea what is causing your back pain?? It's hard enough for me to keep motivated to exercise WITHOUT pain, but with it, I'm sure I'd never get in a workout. Wish I had some helpful advice for you. Maybe you should visit your doctor for a checkup? There could be a physical problem for the tiredness, backpain and for the depression. Good for you for keeping on track with your eating tho! If I get depressed, eating is what I do most. (and when I am sad, angry, excited, happy, etc etc etc.....see my pattern?? ) I'm working on that and have to say I have improved a good deal on that bad habit....just still have a ways to go. One important thing for you to remember is this: ANYTIME you need someone to talk to or you feel the need to vent, this is the place! We are open for business 7 days a week, 24 hrs a day...just post anytime and as often as you want.. I promise you'll feel better. This site has probably had the biggest impact on my weightloss thus far. I know I had to change my eating habits and exercise to lose, but I would NEVER have managed the success I've had without everyone here. Many times I've wanted to quit, but I'd come here and soon I'd once again be inspired, encouraged, and motivated to get back on track. Keep in mind what you've accomplished anytime you want to give up....you dont want to end up having to start over for sure! I hope tomorrow is much better for you. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers and you're welcome to email or pm me anytime.
Thanks so much for you kind words! This MB is a great place for support. My boyfriend supports me a lot but sometimes you need it from the people that are going through the same thing.
I'm visiting home next week (philadelphia) I'll be there for 3 weeks, While i'm there i do plan to see a doctor. Even though I'm scared to cause Sometimes I feel that I'm not being properly treated. I went to see a doctor for my back and knee. I hurt my knee about 3 years ago and I asked him to listen to it cause it makes the most terrible sound. Like bone grinding on bone. And he said OH that's normal. don't worry about it. And sent me on my way, i waited 2 hours for a 3 minute visit. no lie! he was like ok this should help with the pain and that was it. That was last year. The sound has gotten worse and it worries me. People that had knee surgery listen to my knee and gasp. They say that is not normal.
And while I was living here in MN i went to an OBGYN cause my period is messed up. Sometimes I don't get it for months and sometimes I bleed for months. the doctor put me on birth control pills which cause me so much pain that I couldn't even walk. I had excessive bleeding. It was NON stop. I don't mean to gross anyone out but I had to change my pad every hour, the super super HUGE mattress kind. And that was for 3 weeks straight. When I did get my period in the past is was very painful and the flow was always very very heavy, but never ever like this. I told the doctor, she said give it two more months. And that's it. She didn't say why or maybe there is something else i could try, she said give it two more months. I talked to another doctor on the phone and she said to stop the medication right away. I did and the bleeding - along with the extreme cramps and back pain - stopped.
that's another thing that's depressing me. What if I can't find a doctor that will help me. OR be honest with me. It's like no one cares anymore. I hope I don't sound paranoid.
Hi Alice, I can certainly sympathize with having a hard time finding a doctor that you like. I went for years without going to a doctor at all because I so hated the one I had been going to. I finally was convinced to change docs and get a checkup a few months ago (my eye dr. found a problem with my retina and sent me to a specialist who insisted I get a general checkup). I ended up having a lot of tests and everything was fine, and really it wasn't anywhere near the rotten experience I was dreading.
If I were you, I wouldn't hesitate to find a new doctor for your knee; the last thing you need is one who can't be bothered to listen to you.
I had some thoughts on your mood since you've been dieting -- I can't speak from personal experience, because I haven't made all that much progress -- but my mother once lost a whole lot of weight and the next thing she knew, she was severely depressed. She ended up taking meds for it, but what the doctors told her was that she had probably been sublimating those feelings behind her overeating/lack of exercise. Losing the weight meant she had to look at stuff she'd been avoiding for years. I guess you could say she was used to feeling badly for being overweight and when she no longer had that to feel bad about, she discovered that feeling bad stood on its own--it wasn't about the weight, it was about herself. So it meant she had more work to do, but hey, she looked great doing it!
I'm in the same boat as you..I live in the sticks..hubby working blah..blah..blah. I've lived in Canada for 9.5yrs and i have no friends to do anything with and YES it is depressing I came back from a 5 week trip to England about a month ago and went into an instant depression and i now know it is'nt a 'mental' problem that needs treating with drugs its a physical one i.e. the surroundings that i live in. When i was home surrounded by friends and family i could'nt wipe the smile off of my face..i have never laughed so much for years I was so HAPPY I was'nt depressed!! so now i have to decide if i can carry on living like this or just 'up sticks' and move back home. I bet your trip home will be just the 'medicine' you need
I'm going to go for an interview for a temporary job next week and i'm hoping that if i get it..it will get me out of this rut..if not i'll just continue coming here to chat with my online buddies and ponder my future.
I hope you are feeling better and if i were you i would'nt worry too much about the knee..if you can stand the pain (it sounds like the cartilidge has worn away) I have a shoulder that is just the same..the result of a car accident and age but i would certainly get some treatment for your 'monthly' problem..you should'nt have to live with that.
I hope you have a wonderful visit in Philly! Like Cat said, I bet that will do you more good than anything! I live in a small place also, but have lots of family around and I work alot. There's nowhere I'd rather live, but I can definitely understand how hard it would be to live here without my family. Ya know, I bet there are others who live near you that are in the same boat. Maybe at a library, the grocery store, church...anywhere there are people, why not just start up a conversation sometime if you see someone else there by themselves. ( I know that's easier said than done..I'm very shy when it comes to talking one on one to someone I dont know well) Everyone needs a friend who lives close. I hope soon you'll find someone you have lots in common with. Until then, tho, just keep coming here. You'll never be without a friend that way.
Thanks so much everyone! You guys are so nice and supportive. I do feel a lot better. The weekend wasn't so great, i didn't workout or follow my meal plan and i was feeling so down, but today I feel great and I plan on eating better and working out. I feel more positive. When I go back home to get everything checked out I'll give everyone an update.
Going home does make me feel better. cause I love seeing my 2 year old niece. I miss her the most. I miss my parents and brother as well but they're not as cute as her lol. I've always been depressed though. And always did use food to make me feel better, or make me feel something other than pain. And it does make sense that since I don't have it anymore (in super large amounts) I have to feel everything I tried to bury. I always thought that it's just the weight and if I lose it I'll be fine. Cause that's what everyone tells you, if you lose weight you'll feel better. But i'm feeling very positive right now. I'm going to get through this cause i've gotten through much worse in my life.
I wish it was the easy to make friends.
Before I moved here with my boyfriend, he told me all the young people (18-25) do here is drink, smoke, throw parties and hang out at bars. All the things I never do. I was like yea I guess they all do that right (sarcasm). And when I moved here I found out for myself that it's true lol! The people that use to live in the apt next to us threw parties every night. They got kicked out after one of their drunk friends went crazy and started tearing things apart. I have to admit it was fun to watch but called the cops anyway. Me and jeremy go for walks a lot and we always pass by a party, no matter what street we are on, there are a bunch of kids drinking and acting stupid. I was amazed. So all I have here is jeremy. I don't need a lot of friends to feel better but one would do just fine. It's nice to hang out with just the girls. Jeremy hates when I give him a facial and paint his nails. LOL
I do go to the library a lot. But i'm way too shy to start talking to people. But Once people get to know me, they tell me to shut up lol!
Well I'm going to do some ab toning. Thanks again! You guys rock!!!
good luck on that job interview!!
I'm feeling tired and depressed! Bad Day!
Sorry to hear you've had such a bad day.
It is definitely discouraging to do well for awhile then have setbacks. Do you have any idea what is causing your back pain?? It's hard enough for me to keep motivated to exercise WITHOUT pain, but with it, I'm sure I'd never get in a workout. Wish I had some helpful advice for you. Maybe you should visit your doctor for a checkup? There could be a physical problem for the tiredness, backpain and for the depression. Good for you for keeping on track with your eating tho! If I get depressed, eating is what I do most. (and when I am sad, angry, excited, happy, etc etc etc.....see my pattern?? 
) I'm working on that and have to say I have improved a good deal on that bad habit....just still have a ways to go. One important thing for you to remember is this: ANYTIME you need someone to talk to or you feel the need to vent, this is the place! We are open for business 7 days a week, 24 hrs a day...just post anytime and as often as you want.. I promise you'll feel better. This site has probably had the biggest impact on my weightloss thus far. I know I had to change my eating habits and exercise to lose, but I would NEVER have managed the success I've had without everyone here. Many times I've wanted to quit, but I'd come here and soon I'd once again be inspired, encouraged, and motivated to get back on track. Keep in mind what you've accomplished anytime you want to give up....you dont want to end up having to start over for sure! I hope tomorrow is much better for you. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers and you're welcome to email or pm me anytime. 
-- but my mother once lost a whole lot of weight and the next thing she knew, she was severely depressed. She ended up taking meds for it, but what the doctors told her was that she had probably been sublimating those feelings behind her overeating/lack of exercise. Losing the weight meant she had to look at stuff she'd been avoiding for years. I guess you could say she was used to feeling badly for being overweight and when she no longer had that to feel bad about, she discovered that feeling bad stood on its own--it wasn't about the weight, it was about herself. So it meant she had more work to do, but hey, she looked great doing it! 
and i now know it is'nt a 'mental' problem that needs treating with drugs its a physical one i.e. the surroundings that i live in. When i was home surrounded by friends and family i could'nt wipe the smile off of my face..i have never laughed so much for years 
and ponder my future.
