Lo Carb#32 The end of summer!
 

Hey all my gosh we were up to 4 pages!

Pam I neglected to congrats you on teh weight loss!! As well as teh new "children"

We looked at "the house" again last night. We found out that a couple ahead of us have first dibs until 10/01. UGH!!!!!!!!!But that the price is within our range. Still looking elswhere. Have few places that would be OK that are still on teh market. They just have more downs.
I seem for the moment more focused.
Family stuff is bothering me this week. We are having a 65th birethday party this saturday for dad. And if things could go wrong they will!

missed this thread starting. I am sorry that the ohter couple has first dibbs. UGH we can pray they they have some finanacial problems that get them out of the running.

:stress: :shrug: :D :smug:

well it is off to exercise for me so i will not be too late. love to all.

Good morning all
Well another week off the calender.
The birthday party is tomorrow. ANd my head is so boggled I could scream.
I am strating a new position at work after my vacation. The stress just keeps on giving!!
How is everyone else doing?
Pam I hope your back is better. Your homemade sause sounded terrif!
Sue how goes work? Was it teh right move for you?
Lee miss ys girl
Melody, you still hanging in?
Terri , howgoes it with you?

Hello chickees...

I wish I was my normal upbeat self this morning, but I am not. I am taking my zoloft, but I continually find myself down in the dumps more and more. For the first week after the "incident" I was okay, but now I am not. I was running around trying to get everything done, so now I can get a new place, and I think I was running on adrenaline. Now I find myself on the outskirts of depression, and I just can't seem to get myself together. I hate this. So much has changed in the last month, and I just do not know where to go from here. I guess that I just have to wait it out. Wait on a house, wait on everything....

I really think I need to go to therapy! I have alot of isssues that I need to work out, and I do not know where to start myself. Ex-BF is still around, and we have done a few things together, mostly with the kids, but I was just thinking last night that I am not in love with him anymore. I have thought that before...especially when I was pregnant...and it turned out to be my hormones or whatever, but right now I really think that it may be true...if it is I am not sure how I will handle it...I guess just leave him to his own self destructive ways. It is what he needs anyway. I am coming to the point that I can not help him anymore, nor do I want too. I guess I just need to get on with my life...somehow.

I wish the section 8 voucher would come through...then I would be able to concentrate on my house, and have SOMETHING to look forward too.

I am a broke, penniless, single mother, with three beautiful children. But if I had never met him I could have been so much more! I have got to pull myself together!!!!

Pam, the advice the therapist gave you is sooo true. I wish I could just get through this, I wish this part was over. I know that probably in 6 months I wouldn't have anything to do with him. I just wish things would go on, and I could get it together.

Sue, Thanks for caring!

Lee where are you?

Fralick- Thanks for all your advice!

I will probably check in later!

Lots of love being sent your way!

Hello guys....well I am back!

I have made an appointment to get an entire physical, because I need one....also I made an appointment with a domestic violence counselor. I need help, and I think only counseling will get me back to myself....

Thank all you guys for being there for me, even when I do stupid things...

Good Girl , Melody. It is a wise woman who knows to reach out and get the help you need to live a healthy life for you and your children. Those little ones deserve so much better as do you. It is hard my Darling at first. I know. But I promise it gets better and better, one day at a time and life becomes something to enjoy nit suffer through. Physical pain is so much easier than mental becuase the mental suffering does not heal as easily. The first step is to make a life where contentment and peace is average for you. There are always problems and battles to fight but on your terms not as a victim but as a force to be reconed with and kiddo you have more strength and durability than you will ever imagine just by virtue of being a female . God made us that way on purpose. All you have to do is tap into it. I promise it is there. Take care Babe.
Pam

Hi all,
Melody, I think the steps you are taking are the right ones.
If you haven't been taking your Zoloft in awhile or regularly, it's going to be up t p 4 weeks to feel an effect.
And you are still going to be experiencing the stress.
Take one thing at a time
Right now, you and your children are safe
Your current living arrangements are temporay
There are no circomstances that make it OK for anyone to hurt physically, emotionally or spiritually. NONE!But it is up to you not to put yourself in situations where that might happen.
You are and will continue to grow from thisn
And tyeh growth part usually sucks

I am slowing reworking my mind to getting back on track. Just got to get thru the family thing today!

Hey all!!!

Hey guys. You are all right, and I know it. I am so sick today. I feel awful. I wish so much to be at homew in my bed. Today is going to be one of those really hard days where I feel awful, and wish I could curl up in a ball and die. But I can't do that. On Friday I told him not to call me anymore and he didn't all weekend until last night, and then he acted like an *** on hte phone. Then this morning he called, and acted real sweet and told me he loved me. And I am such a fool, because I allow myself to get sucked in by his words....and they are just that words....and I am so stupid to listen...

I am sick like I said. Head cold, vomiting, I feel awful. I feel like I have lost more weight...Haven't weighed though.

Melody I am sorry that you are not feeling well. Stress will make you vulnerable to all those germs. And don't you work w/ children? the germy things!

Well the party went off w/ only a few hitches!
Let me tell you about cake.
Cake is an evil thing. ANd my sister bought one that could feed 50 peoeple. And while I packed most of it up I kept some for us. ANd while I paced myself I can say that it is gone! As can be told by the fluid I am retaining! plus the scale that is up 4#'s. I can also see the hidden carbs I have let into my diet again. Some not so hidden. But time to regroup!!
Worked out yesterday! and it felt awesome!
Water was good.
Sorry that I forgot to list this as lo carb when I started the thread, I have edited it>
Well we are facing Labor Day. ANd teh end of summer. It goes by so quickly!
You all have a good day
See you tomorrow!

Good Morning chicks!

I weigh 196 this morning!!! Can I get a "**** Yeah" in here????? Whoo hooo! That is a 17 pound weight loss from my all time high. A 13 pound weight loss since the beginning of this summer. I have had a little help. Throwing up everything I ate the last two days had to have helped. Even though I was sick I took my nightly walk, and then went and collapsed into bed. I am not going to give up on myself this time.

The pain in my *ss called last night, and again was acting like his normal "charming" self. He was partying up at the house, and he told me he would talk to me when HE decided he was ready. I told him, I didn't want to talk to him anyway, and not to call me anymore. He told me he loved me before we got off the phone, and I hust hung up on him. That is not love it's abuse, and I wish he would drop off the face of the earth!

I feel better today. Still sick though. My chest is sore from coughing. I'll be glad when today is over.

Pat- Sorry about the cake! You are right it is an evil thing!

Have a nice day!:) :D

Hey all,
Melody MAJOR CONGRATS ON THE WEIGHT LOSS!!!!!!
Sorry about the harrassment you have had to deal with. Probably can't change the phone # HuH?

Doing much better. Food wise.
Not much going on

Heloo everybody!!!

Hello ladies...

I walked last night, not as far as I had hoped it rained off and on. I may have to find another activity or go to town to walk. I am beginning to feel that it is not safe to walk on my little country road anymore.

X lives on the same road a half mile away from me. His friends are starting trouble now. He is dealing coke, and his friends are all smoking crack...they are constantly drunk...and they drive on the road where my children and I have to travel.

I think I will start going to town to walk...

Other than that I feel good and strong today...I start counsseling this afternoon...

I put a t shirt on that I have never been able to wear...I got it for Xmas last year and it was always too tight...This morning it was loose!!!! YIPPPEEEEEE!!!!

SUe where are you??? PAm????
Pat keep up the good work!

Everyone have an excellent day!:smug:

My puter got froze and was rebooted then the firewall went up and it thought it was being attacked and went into hiding and i could not get it off since thursday!!! so i am back finally!!!

so i will catch up here but for now let me just give you a huge hug melody!! it is a hard thing to do what you are doing keep up the great work counseling will help. keep strong as you can. and stop in here so we can help. (as long as my firewall is down!)

Hi all,
Well to bring you up on the house thing, the house we fell in love with has been offered to us. Now it is time for $ talk. My poor heart won't take it.

Sue I wante to say that I was lurking over at the 100# site and say your before and current pictures!!
You are awesome!!! You look fantastic and it is such a change. It was a real motivator for me and I felt such pride for you!
I encoursge all us lo carbers and lurkers to check it out. It under pictures. My hat is off to you!

Melody, I am so proud that you are following thru with the counseling. It isn't easy, but so worth it! Congrats on teh shirt, there is nothing so encouraging that that!

Hey Pam how are you holding up? How is your mother and new "kids"

Hello everyone else.

SO So food day.

Melody my dear, at least you now know it is abuse and his wanting control. Listen to his demand for control not his words.
Words are cheap and baby love is an action. Abuse cannot happen where love resides. Anger yes, but not abuse, mentally or emotionally! We all get ticked off. Abuse has no love only control. Once they have control they do not easily let go of it. Why ? when you take your control back he becomes powerless and that is unbare to an abuser. You are doing so very well and I am so proud of you. Keep it up Babe.
My back is not getting better and pain and I are companions again and I am almost sure it is ruptured by the type of pain and the fact it is through out my legs and heels. A type of pain I have known too, too well. It has nothing to do with my weight loss however and is not a factor to my being Op. No worry!
Pat.... I am so happy for you and for your new home to be. Isn't it exciting!!! When something is yours no one can take it from you. If it isn't yours someone else will get it. This must be your house!
Good luck!!!!!!!
Pam

Good morning all,
Pam I am so sorry that that back of yours isn't behaving! Take care as you can. SO many people depend on you. Please take some care of yourself.
I am so sorry that we are facing labor day. The nights here are already in the 40's and 50's. The wind is coming out of the north at times. Fall is right around the corner. Summer is so short.
Melody, I hope the counseling went well. You will probably hear some things that may make you angry. Keep an open mind to the suggestions made. Change isn't easy. When he is charming you. Ask yourself if this lifestyle is soimething that you want your children exposed to. If he can't stay clean you might want to suspend his visits w/ the children. Children know more than we give them credit for.
Het Sue, How goes it with the new job?

Well today I face bankers. Oh my god!!!

Pam thanks for the kind words. I keep telling myself that if it is meant to be it will happen. But I am scared that it will happen. UGH!

Good Morning chickees!

I am full of hope, and strength today! No loser crack head is going to pull me down today! I am very much alive, and loving it! I even put on make up this morning! I am trying to get back to being me again.

Sue_ Sorry about the firewall! I need one of those, except in real life!

Pat- Congrats on the house! I hope it is yours! There is nothing so exciting as getiing your own home, and redoing it, and planning...

(...screw you Josh...)

Pam- Thanks for your support. I am trying not to have those weak feelings about him....it is his way of controlling me, and I will not be controlled anymore. He does not realize it yet, but he has lost me forever...I hope it hurts him like ****...

I have lost 13 pounds in 29 days...and while I am loving it...that is reason for concern. I am more active, and I have cut down on what I have ate...maybe too much...but I don't have an appetite, and food does nothing for me now. I know that will return, so I am trying to make small healthy changes along the way like more veggies, and water, so when my appetite comes back I will be craving better stuff. Also, I have lost weight so quickly that my skin is a little loose...do you know what I mean??..have any of you had this problem? What do you do for it??? I need to start strength training, but I really don't like too...but I think I will make that my goal. It will help ensure I lose fat and not muscle. What is the use of weighing less if you are flabby????

Counseling was good...I go again in two weeks!

You guys have a wonderful day!:) ;) :lol: :smug: :cool:

I envy you the ability to weight train Melody. I remember years ago how hard it was to get myself started and for a while just as hard to be consistant with it. LOL SO , I even found a great personal trainer and low and behold there I was working out two hours a day every other day and felt great!!!! Loose skin at my age(48) and over 70 lbs down , is a real problem but as I can't do anything about it right now I have researched on the web the muscles involved in my "problem areas" and found the most effective exercise for them. As soon as I can I will be working hard to elimanate this part of my weight loss results. If Richard Simmons can do it with out surgery I will too!!!!! Honey you just hang in there it will get easier and easier and easier. I promise.
Pam

Good morning everyone.
Loose skin sucks at 39 too.
Now for the "negotiations" Am going to the court house today to see about the assessment and taxes. Spoke to one banker yesterday and the other one wasn't in till today. This weekend I will do teh applications and get the papperwork in order.

In my line of work we stress "turning things over to God". This has never been something that is easy for me. Or "trust in God" that waht will or is happening is what supposed to happen. But as I get older and pay more attention to things as they are rather than how I want them to be it really has been true for me. Things do work out.

Pam you are very thoughtful and insightful!

Melody I am glad the counseling went well and you are going back.
Hey Sue!!

Terri how goes it?

Lee it's been too long since we heard from you

Have a great Labor day. I am faced with an in-law gathering on Monday MAJOR UGH!

Pat- That is so true...I am trying to come to grips with my latest folly, and trying to leave it in God's hands...it is awfully hard...sometimes the hardest thing to do is do nothing at all, and wait. I just keep hoping that God will give him exactly what he deserves...not Christian like I know...

I didn't weight train last night...DS had Karate, and I took the 2 little ones in to see their grandparents, they hadn't seen them in a while...so I didn't even get to walk.

Pam, Loose skin does suck, has anyone ever tried a body wrap for that? It is suppose to tighten your skin, but they are expensive...

Sue, How are you hanging in there?

I don't know what I am going to do this weekend...probably go have a few drinks with friends, go dancing, something like that...

Now that I don't have a home of my own to take care of I wander around aimlessly alot...almost like I am lost. I will be glad when things get more normal again...Do you think anything will ever be the same?:dizzy:

He hasn't called since Monday, which makes me wonder what he has up his sleeve...

Everyone have a great holiday weekend...if I get a chance I will stop back in!

Yes I have had the skin wrap and it does help but is not close to exercising. There are no easy ways but Lord the work and effort is so worth it!
Today is my weigh in and last week I weighed in at 287lbs.
I have been doing only protein and over a gallon of water a day in order to keep a little momentium going........the result is.........

I weighed in at 277 lbs down 10 lbs!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just think of what it would have been if I could have exercised!!!!!

I am in a lot of pain but who cares.... it is not a factor to my weight loss. I am overjoyed!!!!! I know I will have weeks where I have to fight for that one pound loss and so what I am getting there!!!! Only 4 lbs to go to have lost 80lbs!!!!!!
Pam

Pam YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!!!
THAT IS GREAT!! What a milestone 80#'s!!
I am sorry about the pain.

Melody, Things will eventually work out. You will heal and be better because of all the pain.

Hey Sue is your computrer acting up or are you trying to get the kids ready for school? I am thinking of you and hope all is well!

Well , I spoke to teh other bank today. DH and I will have a heart to heart before Tuesday. Make sure thsi is teh house etc. looks at the financial stuff etc. What a big decision.

Have a great weekend

Happy Holiday!!!!
 

Hello all,

Ahhh, the long weekend is finally here!!!! Yippee!!!!!!!!!... sorry I havent been around much. what with school starting back up for the girls, which means sports with practices, etc....I havent had much time..

Melody---Hang in there girl........I know its tough but you will prevail!!!!! just so you wont feel lonely, I also started counseling last week.........just need to know how to deal with those feelings and thoughts ya know?????

and to add to the prob....my 12 (almost 13) yr old has been giving me trouble and I got so mad I told her to go live with her dad!!! YIKES!!!! I didnt think I would ever say that to one of my girls but she made me so mad it just slipped out and now she keeps throwing that in my face and oh, yeah, let's not even talk about her dad right now,,,I am also very angry with himmmm shoot, no wonder Im in counseling haha

hope everyone has a good long weekend...I will check back later during the time off..........take care.........

Hi girls working my hiney off but i wiah that that also diaapaeard while doing ti. not much except work here and staying totaly OP, and still exercising not as much time but still going at it. so hi to all melody i am still thinking of you. and great with the exercise pam great news on the loss i am so proud of you you are losing virgine fat!!! and blasted past those bloks so great how is dh thinking of this???

terri my dh is in the dog house too and i have been thinking some very mean things too. it must be inthe air. i can not go further b as i have to run.

Pat i am praying for your decision. if it feels right and younow inyur heart it will be hard but well worth it if this is the house. good luck on the decisison. i am right there behind you!!

Hubby is tickled pink!!!! I reminded Mom and Hubby of just how sceptial they were when I began. The snickers and , comments , sure you are , weve heard that before and for real reasons. I said see I told you it takes practice to get this thing down pat! Onward and upward!
Pam

Good morning all!
The holiday is over and the kids are back in school, the leaves are falling from the trees and cider is being offered.. We are on such a schedule.

Well house news...
First thank you for all the well wishes and prayers. We met with the lady last night and agreed on a price. I'll tell you, it went so smoothly that I was stunned. No hagling! We have never done this before so we really didn't know what to expect. She was writing things down on a piece of paper. She started to talk of other things and I said we probably should try and agree on a price first. So she stated what she was asking and we countered with a price 2000 $ less and she wrote it down. And we went on takling. then she started talking about what she should list in teh aggreement and I thought I better make sure teh price we offered was OK and she said yes. I was stunned! ANd then she was so agreeable about other things. So... she is having her attorney draw up teh purchace aggreement . And once that is signed we just need to get the paperwork to the bank and wait to see if they are OK with it!
So we are on our way to teh next step!

Doing OK program wise. A couple of minor slips.
Pam- I am glad that your family is proud of you ! that support is so important!!
Sue- You have been doing so well, with all teh stress and still doing what you need to do! teh kids must be going back today huh?
Hey Terri glad to haer from you. Boy you have had some emotional stuff going on! how are you doing with it all?

Lee , How are you?

Melody how was your weekend?
Hello everyone else
Well it will be a phone and paperwork day!

Thanks again guys!

Hello everyone!

Weekend started off bad. EX tried to kidnap my 4 year old!!! And he got everyone in his house to lie for him, so the cops couldn't do anything!!!! If you want to read a detailed account of what happened go to www.shesgothelp.com, under abuse issues on the message board. I have been talking to another woman there. Sunday I took the kids swimming, and we had a picnic. It was a good day. Monday we just hung out. My 4 year old is really traumatized, and I feel so bad that he was put through that. I go to court today for our DVO review. I am scared. He told me he was going to try to get visitation with the children without supervision, and that scares me to death...after Sat., there is no doubt in my mind he is truly evil. I want him out of our life.

On a brighter note...I lost 2 more pounds!!! Down to 194!!!! Isn't it great!!!

You chickees have a great day! Congrats on the house Pat! Terri, I'm thinking of you! Pam, Congrats on the loss! Sue, Keep up the great work! I love you guys!

Oh Melody, he will try and control you through the children, but make no mistake it is not his love for you that prompts this typw of action but rather his desire to punish you for getting free of his control. He doesn't even care about your son. No parent who really loves their children would tramatize them in that way. He is a self, self man who only ares about what he wants...period! I hope the judge can see what is going on . Document every thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God Bless
Pam

Melody OMG how horrible!! get an order of protection for you and the kids. then if he gets close have him arrested. have them talk to your sonm for proof!! what legal rights does he have for the kids?? I can not get to the link as the puter is having problems. I am sure hs is trying to do that just to hurt you. fight back!!!

My sister had to go through the similar thing but he did take her daughter 15 years old and poisend her mind but now he has take off and can not be found!! but daughter hs turned againster her mom so it would be futile for them to try and find her.

Oh Pat congrats!!! way to go. hope things go smoothly. i knew that if you were ment for that house you would get it!!!

Good morning!

I do have an order of protection against him, and they didn't do anything about it. He had his aunt and some friends lie to cover his butt, and the police wouldn't arrest him. I went and talked to the county attorney and he filled out an arrest warrant, but then proceeded to tell me that since he had all these witnesses that he probably wouldn't be convicted. I had one witness my Mother and statements from members of my family where he had been calling me, pictures of my car where he did $800 damage to it, and they still don't want to do anything about it! I swear I think he could kill me and get away with it. I am so sick of this crap. I wish he would just leave me alone.

I haven't been walking...I have been too scared to. My muscle tone in my legs has already decreased. I have got to get back on the ball, and get to moving my butt.

I hope everyone has a great weekend! I think we may go camping at the lake. Get away from psycho boy for awhile.

Love you guys! Stay safe, happy, and healthy!

Oh my god melody, I am so sorry. I know that doesn't even begin to help. Start writing evrything down as it happens and go back as far as you can. You will be prepared when you are in court, and you will look polished and organized. Do not underestamate him. Listen to your heart. Are the kids in counseling? Are you in a position to put some money away? Just in case? Take care my friend. When you go to court suggest that he undergo drug testing and get an evaluation for substance abuse and must comply with teh recomendations. That should keep him busy.

Hello everyone else!!
Thanks for the congrats
Vacation alomost over
Thank God, I can get back on tract!

Melody get away!!! enjoy your weekend! (I hope you are already gone) I do not know what to tell you at this time. like pat says tape everything and tape your phone conversations too. they are not admissable in court i think but they will help somehow. keep one of those little recorders on hand if you can they do not cost much at wally world. let your machine pick up all the phone calls and screen them first. keep a caller id record too.

and do like pat says the drug testing too!!!

we are here for you.

Hello everybody...

No i did not get out of this town like I had wanted. My Mom didn't want to go camping. Honestly, i was afraid to leave the house unattended, and my dog....Josh wanted the dog back and i am scared that he is going to try to steal him. He's my dog, my dog had him, I took care of him, I fed him, and walked him....he never did anything with him. I wouldn't let him have custody of my dog anymore than I would let him have custody of the kids. He's a useless b*st*rd. I haven't heard anything from him though, and I hope I don't. I think that he will eventually just ffade out of our lives and that is what is best for me and my children.

I still haven't done anything...exercise wise yet. I just am in a rut. I did get in my sisters pool and run around it a few times. And this morning I helped coach my 4 year olds soccer team. That absolutely wore me out. It's over 90 degrees here. The poor things were so hot and thirsty. They did not want to play at all.

If I was financially able I would probably take my kids away for awhile, but I don't. I am about as poor as you can get. I try not togo anywhere by myself...I can not trust him, and I am not going to let my guard down.

Thanks for all of your advice. I probably will not get a chance to get back on until Monday. You ladies have a great day! You guys are in my heart and my prayers...keep me and the kids in yours.

Love you guys!;)

Melody sure glad that you are keeping on top of things. I wish things could be different for you. finances can be very hard. and keep the puppy, and the house if at all you can but the house is the most disposable thing when it compares to the kids. hopefully he will just fade out. but if he does rattle the door knob then keep all that pat has said in mind like the drug testing and complience. Do not worry about the exercise right now. do little things in the house like lift the soup cans and stretch. tae bo is great too and the kids like to get involved in that too. You are always in my prayers!!!

Hey! Where is everybody????

Things here are good. Did not hear from loser this weekend. I just wish he would drop off the face of the earth. He didn't call my sister to see the kids...he hasn't sen them in 2 weeks. That is just fine with me.

I didn't keep the house. I can not afford it, and my name wasn't on it, so I let him have it. Since he is jobless he will probably lose it anyway...loser...

I did get to walk/run on Saturday. I tied my husky pup (he's 4 and a half months old and almost as big as his DADDY) to the front of Trini's stroller, and then we went for a walk...or should I say run. The dog pulled her like she was nothing...up and down hills. He would take off running, with me hanging on to the stroller, he would get going so fast that the front wheels would come up off the ground, and Trini would just cackle! She loved it. It was alot of fun. We will definitely do that again.

I took Trini's bottle from her...she's 17 months old, it's well past time, and she is doing great....she only asked for he "BA" once yesterday, and Mom called to report that although she has been grumpy today, she has not asked for it yet...so far so good.

Tonight I am hoping to walk again, and do some crunches...get this flabby belly tight.

Well guys...I hope you all check in soon! Sue as always thanks for caring! Love you guys!!!:smug: