To Sweetooth
 

Finally!!! someone who understands my post. You know exactly what I mean. Rude comments are one thing but genuine compliments are another.

The man who makes comments to your husband could be 1 of 3 things that I can think of. 1. He is jealous of your husband because he has such a beautiful wife and he wishes he had a beautiful wife. 2. He has (from personal exerience) or seen it happen in a friends life, the woman loses a lot of weight and gets all this confidence and has an affair due to the new attention, I have seen this happen myself, in fact some of my friends are divorced because of this and when you ask the husband what happened he says, "she just wasn't the same after she lost weight". 3. He is simply an idiot (no insult intended), who needs to get a life.

By the way I don't know how your husband reacts to this but some men actually find this rather flattering that another man finds their wife to be so attractive.

I think my husband is feeling threatened by my losing weight. He knows that as long as I stay fat then I won't be a threat to him as a male, that is just his feelings of low self esteem or whatever. I love my husband and I would never do this, however in the past he has given me "plenty" of reasons to be jealous and it tickles the ;) :D :devil: out of me that I might make him jealous one day. I would bask in the glory of it all. Today is actually my first day to my new life as a healthier person. I am currently over 100 lbs overweight and I started a walking program this morning and as I left the house I told my husband, well today I start my journey, he just sort of looked at me but did not say anything. Don't get me wrong he can be super supportive of me and in our 17 years of marriage he has never made me feel bad about my weight, its just that I think he might be a little threatened by it all. This time is different, I am hard core determined to get this weight off and live healthier. I am sick of waking up every day of my life and crying due to my appearance.

Hang in there sweetooth. You must look pretty incredible for this man -People- to be acting this way, bask in the glory of it all. As for the women at work, are they overweight? If so they are probably green:devil: with jealousy and envy, that's sad, if they could just get a grip ya'll could be diet partners together, maybe.
When another overweight person that I know or that I meet in a forum loses weight it makes me happy all over. I mean really happy for them and their success.

Well gotta go. Sorry if this was preachy and long. Thanks for responding to my reply.

Hope you have a successful/good week.

Teresa

Kyra,
I really understand the feelings you are experiencing right now. But look at the bright side you get to know who your realy friends are even though it might be tough finding out the truth. Those who know how hard it was for you to carry that weight around and are now happy to see how you look and feel . Friends that can enjoy with you your sucess, those are real friends. The rest don't matter. Continued sucsess to you.

It hard getting all this attention and once the weight comes back on you feel like a real failure. Thats what happened to me i lost alot of weight through weight watchers gained all the weight and an extra 50lbs. Given after gaining the weight back i feel into a depression which allowed me to gain the extra 50lbs. However i have taken it all off again. And feel much better but i realize these compliments people give me i cant take them to serious. What i do appreciate is the support from people, but people who tell me how pretty i am cause im thin i dont take it to serious. Cause if i should put the weight back on it doesnt make me a bad person, doesnt make me any less of a person then i am now.

People offering food
 

Couldnt just lurk, so much of what was being said it home.

I haven't lost enough for people to say much but I'm new at my job so that's understandable. What I did pick up on was that so many of the ones bringing in homemade goodies and etc- Are not overweight- these people evidently can make cookies and have plenty to share --They don't seem to have any problem stopping at one or two- they have no concept what it's like NOT to be able to stop.
At first, I thought I was hurting their feelings when I said" Thanks, but no thanks" - I finally said something to one and she said" Oh, didnt really notice, I just figured you werent hungry"

What a concept- Refusing food isnt rude, it's understood as "Not being hungry". What a relief. As long as I can stay away from white flour and sugar processed foods the cravings are minimal and then quite bearable.

As for people looking for attention- as I said, I just changed jobs- and the the new place has the same characters, just different actors- Drama queen, the leader, the baby, the gossip, the rebel, etc,etc. Group dyanmics are interesting- often annoying- could be worse, I guess.
But the folks in constant need of attention, they'll need it if they keep losing weight or if they don't.

Thanks for listening. It was an interesting discussion.