Yesterday my husband brought home cookies. Today it was pizza. What really irks me about that is my daughter just started her diet today. She's 15 and a complete junk food addict. I thought she was going to cry when she saw that pizza come in the door. To make matters worse, it had her favorite topping on it. When she said she wasn't going to eat any, his comment was "good, you're using will power". Does he think he's helping?

So I put my work aside, grabbed her, said come on, we're going to the grocery store and bought her a bunch of snacks that she could have on her diet. Then we came home and had salad.

I just don't understand why someone who is usually so supportive, can be so horrible in this area!!!

well, anyway I'm patting myself on the back for resisting and I'm saying Hooray Sarah!! You resisted as well!

That's crazy. Have you talked to him about it?

My ex did that kind of stuff. I wish I would have had your will power though... I caved every time...

Congrats to you and your daughter for resisting

It isn't a war - win or lose, but a change in thinking. He doesn't have to worry about weight so he doesn't realize how incrediably hard it is to have yummy smelling temptations walk through your front door. It isn't fair to make him "diet" just because you want to either. So how about, "tonight, I am going to cook a yummy dinner, it will be ready at 7, does that time work for you?" Then he doesn't need to bring home take-out pizza, and he looks forward to a good dinner with his family. He doesn't need to know that it is low-cal or anything, just enjoy the time together.

I bet the temptation problem disappears ... *Crossing-fingers*

Sheila, what a wonderful mom you are to be so supportive of your daughter. Whatever your husband's failings are, your daughter has you on her side, and that is huge.

You are a great mom! I'm mean and would probably smack your DH in the face, but that's just me. your daughter very blessed to have such a thoughtful mommy!

Sassy, you are so right. He has never had to deal with weight issues so he just doesn't get it. Hopefully with time, he'll start understanding. I told him that it was really hard to resist the pizza and cookies and stuff. So hopefully, things will change

Sheila I just wanted to acknowledge what an awesome support system you've proven to be to your daughter. I'm sure that meant the world to her and you turned a bad situation into something special between the two of you.

Sheila, sorry your husband is not more supportive! But I am so proud of you for encouraging your daughter the way you did and resisting for yourself so both of you can stick with the plan! "Nice save" of a difficult situation.

i think you did an excellent job of resisting and i'm glad you were there for your daughter. although, i may have handled it a bit different. losing weight is about changing your habits and learning to eat foods in moderation....rather they are good for you foods, or bad for you foods. and your daughter has to learn how to handle herself in the outside world when temptation is near by. a good way to set an example for her would have also been to have a huge salad with lots of healthy foods in it, and then each of you could have one slice of pizza with it. and when you put one slice of pizza on your plate, put the rest in the fridge. if it is cold, it doesn't have the same aroma as a hot pizza.

please don't think i'm condesending your course of action. I'm not. That was excellent how you were there for your daughter. I am soooo happy she has you to help her through the tough times and that you have a companion on your weight loss also. That is awesome!!

just keep supporting each other and you two will make it through this. and hopefully hubby will get it through his head to not bring home so much temptation. maybe next time he can get a small pizza that won't have any leftovers and such. or maybe he'll plan to do his eating...out!!

anyways, good luck to you both and congrats on your amazing will power. i know i couldn't have done it. I LOVE pizza!!!

The problem with having one slice of pizza is that it's not allowed on Sonoma

This almost makes me giggle but I do know it's not funny. I live with my boyfriend, he thinks he doesn't need a diet although he has a little tummy on him..lol anyways...when I told him I was doing weight watchers he said "Oh great, that means i'm going on a diet too?" lol..I said "nope, you're more than welcomed to eat what I cook or learn to cook for yourself." lol..he's dying because he knows this means no more cookies and ice cream from me, and I swear he's so pitiful he doesn't know how to go to the grocery store himself to get the junkfood so he's blaming me...lol Oh well! If he wanted the junkfood then maybe he shouldn't have poked me in my tummy and said "what's that?" what a great guy! ;-)

Jeanette

Good for you, Sheila! Sometimes it seems like it really is tough for people who have never had a weight problem to relate to people who do. It's the same as bringing in a great big glass of grey goose to a housefull of alcoholics! EXCEPT SMELLIER AND MORE TEMPTING!!! Most people have sense enough to know not to put their alcoholic friends in such a difficult situation, so maybe there's still hope for us that the people who we love will figure out that it's NOT NICE TO BRING IN YUMMY SMELLING FOODS (pizza, pasta, cheesiness...ARGH!!!) into a house of dieters.

Hopefully your dh will remember this situation and think twice before making the same indiscretion...

I had to giggle last night because my daughter wanted pork chops last night for dinner and my husband HATES them. So I said of course, we can have pork chops. Well, then he said, but I don't like them. My response was "why should we have to suffer because you don't like pork chops?" He gave a huge sigh and then said, "fine, you win" LOL!!

Wow, I know how that feels.
I lived with my 29 year old boyfriend for 3 years, I was about 125 when we moved in together... look at me now He was a fast-food junkie who coud eat whatever he wanted and would (and bring enough home for me too!)
Fortunately now with a place to myself stocked with healthy foods the weight is melting off... but darn those men.