Ive never felt so strong for anyone before in my life
I was willing to go to the ends of this earth for this guy
Seems like he didnt care, or at least stopped caring.
So he told me that maybe its not working
And I told him that relationships take effort from both sides to work, not just from my side.
And i said ok if its not going to work then its not going to work
And then he thinks that my feelings for him changed, as if I stopped having feelings for him.
I'll just let him go on thinking that, but he'll never know the truth.
Maybe you guys just needed some time apart? Maybe he needed some time to clear his head and put this relationship in perspective? I'm not trying to falsely raise your hopes, but that could be a possibility. In any case, let your feelings out and take baby steps to recovering. You can do it! When I'm down about a guy, I go for a workout. I take my rage/hurt/depression out on the treadmill. It tires you out so you can't dweel on the sadness anymore, plus hey! Calories gone!!!!
Honey - if you feel so strongly for this guy - you should at least tell him what your feelings are. Life is too short and precious to have heartache over miscommunication.
My son and his GF of 3 yrs. just broke up this week. It is really hard seeing both of them so miserable. My heart goes out to you and what you are going through.
Oh, I am so sorry. I broke up with my boyfriend last November. I thought for a while that i had these feelings for him and i didnt want him to go, but the truth was i was just afraid of being left alone again. We've been back and forth with this: Him: I want you back Me: no. And then Me: I want you back and Him: I have a girlfriend. Then finally he said once AGAIN that he wanted me back, but i said no, and can truly say that i dont want him anymore, our relationship was a joke and left me a completely ****ed up mess, to put it frankly.
But anyway, it might take a long time to get over it. Hey, it took me 8 months to get over a 2 month relationship But it'll happen, you just have to give it time. And make sure to take care of yourself in the mean time.
Oh, and BTW, don't hold in the tears. It helps immensly to let it all go. As one of those hold-it-all-in-until-you-break kind of people, i can tell you holding it all in isnt going to help. Its just going to come out eventually.
Last edited by cardsfan2009; 08-18-2006 at 06:05 PM.
You guys are so amazing!!! Thank you thank you thank you for responding.
Maybe its for the best that I dont tell him my feelings and for the best that we broke up.
sunnigummi: Thats all i wanted to do last night when I couldnt fall asleep. I just wanted to go out and run until it hurts. But frankly i was too scared to go outside at 2am.
and cardsfan, Im totally one of those people too. Hold it in until you break. Very nicely put. Ugh... I just keep telling myself that he's not worth my tears.
He said:
Can we still be freinds? You're so pretty and you're so supportive (He's in a band that is trying to make it big) and so amazing. I'd hate to lose that.
It seems a little odd to me that you're "willing to go to the ends of this earth for this guy" but you're not willing to tell him the truth about how you feel about him? From the information you are posting about him, it sounds like he doesn't really want to break up with you. Or maybe I'm missing something here?
Well the reason I say that is because when he tells me that he wants space and doesnt think that our relationship wont work out then I dont see a point in telling him that I still love him.
When I hear that all I can do is say ok and give him what he wants.
Im not going to be "chasing" him
When I hear that all I can do is say ok and give him what he wants.
Sister, you are doing the right thing. I always told myself, that if my guy changes his mind one day, that's just another thing I must accept. The truth is, no matter how much you love one, if the other doesn't feel the same, you cannot blame him, nor can you keep him.
I had the same problem years ago. There was nothing I could do but to let him go. People change their minds all the time, and people lose interest, too. If I'm not the one that steals his heart, that's okay; I don't want to be the one getting in between him and his happiness, and there's always someone who will feel the same way about me like the way I felt about him. Breathe deep, let go- cry all you want, but don't let these tears come down as tears of sorrow or remorse. If it hurts you so much, realize that life is beautiful because it allows us to make relationships and feel this way. Yes, it hurts, but you'll never know love if you didn't feel the pain from loving.
You're a pretty girl (is that you on your avatar?), you'll be fine . You did the right thing, and you have a good head on your shoulders. Cheer up We're always here for ya!
Well the reason I say that is because when he tells me that he wants space and doesnt think that our relationship wont work out then I dont see a point in telling him that I still love him.
When I hear that all I can do is say ok and give him what he wants.
Im not going to be "chasing" him
Hi sweetie, Iam sorry to hear about you and your bf. If he wants space
give it to him. He may rethink his discission. Sometimes that is all it takes.
If not all i can say is time will heal. lol
Pretty Crappy Day
But it'll happen, you just have to give it time. And make sure to take care of yourself in the mean time. 
