[Sakai]

I think I know my issues with my DB... I have Separation anxiety. @_@

I’ve kept in touch with him via the net almost every night for almost 3 years now. But last weekend, they were hit with monster storms and they had many power surges and it killed his computer. Now we have no way to keep in touch. (nether of us have long distance.)

I was like.. “Oh, no biggy.” Wrong! I’m a total mess. I had a breakdown last night and half way into it I realized I was acting so irrationally. What was I so upset for? I then stopped acting like a child and looked back on this last week.

I Haven’t gone to the gym at all… been eating fast food…tons of ice cream; two of my most comfort of comfort foods.

I feel like a psycho.

I think that was why my DB and I had such issues last time he was here for college, and why I was never happy and always emotional at the drop of a hat. Because I was so use to hearing from him every night… then suddenly it would be a few days before talking to him. I always had to see him, always had to have him around. He’s coming back to college and the very LAST thing I want is a repeat of the year before.

Wow, I feel like I have some major issues. And it’s crazy that I only just now figured it out.

[Abbeycat36]

Hi, just wondering if DB means brother?

Assuming it does, here's my reply! it's really wonderful that you and your brother are so close and get along so well. Consider that a great blessing. It is tough when you have a person that you like to talk to every day and can't for a period of time. I have a friend who lives on the opposite coast and we talk every day too.

Don't beat yourself up too much. Consider it a 'bad week' if you can. It happens. You're not without flaws, it's normal.

Somehow, things will get back on track and you will feel better soon, I am sure.

~ Angie

[Sakai]

lol hehe no DB mean Dear Boyfriend. Though now that I look at it I can see how you could have thought it was brother @_@.

I think I would have taken this a bit better but I know he's going through some issues right niw with family, and I'm like his stress reliver.. I make him feel better. I'm worried that he's just holding it all in till he does something stupid.

I feel guilty for not being there for him when he really needs me. ( I know it's not my fault but still,... that's just how I feel.) last year I was worried because he talked about his problems with other girls.. I felt he would replace me.....
and he did....but only untill he found out that she didn't care about him AT ALL... just wanted a boy toy.

Now he knows better ( I hope)... I just don't want to be smothering him and being all clingy like I was because I can't stand not being there with him at least once a day for a bit. @_@.. I feel like a crazy person.

[freiamaya]

Oh GOSH, I thought we might have some SERIOUS issues to deal with if DB = Dear BROTHER -- kind of going into Angelina Jolie territory, no???
Anyways, perhaps you need to sort out why you feel you need daily contact with him. Sounds silly, but maybe you aren't comfortable being alone/ by yourself? If this IS the case, then you need to sort out if you are with the right person or if you are with someone so you won't be alone. Maybe you need to think too about why you feel responsible for his happiness, because that alone can put you in a not-so-happy place.
Just some thoughts, but while you are thinking, don't self-destruct and eat...
Best of luck!!!

[Abbeycat36]

Hi.. sorry I am not up on the DB's stuff I thought brother because I didn't hear any specific descriptions that gave me that idea. I just thought how nice it was that you and your bro were so close! haha

Okay then! now that I know what we're talking about...
I just want to give a little weeee bit of advisement on a couple of things that flagged for me in your last msg.

I think it's nice you feel that you are there for your bf and you help him with his issues. I think it would be better if you both felt stable in times where you cannot be together/talking every available moment. Perhaps you should give that a little thought. It is great to be able to be so very close, but everyone needs room to grow.

If you feel fear that he may feel desperate and this would cause his eye to wander, then you need to look at this as something that needs attention. A short period of time should not cause him to just move on so quickly!!!

Every relationship has it's trials, mistakes and rough spots. To make a relationship stronger, takes time. I hope it all works out for you.