We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
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We share laughter and tears.
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Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
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Cleo--!! Everyone here is so awesome, caring, and helpful. I havent been here long myself but already feel a closeness with everyone here.
Wyllenn--Good job on just having the salad! It can be hard when your determination wavers like that. Or maybe its not determination...your "gung-ho-ness", maybe? I'm sure I'll feel like that at some point, too. It must be hard to have lost all this weight but still have to shop the plus sizes. The good thing is that at a size 20 you can still shop at like Target and Shopko and stuff. I'm a size 28 but luckily can still fit into a 3X shirt. So I can still buy shirts at the "discount stores" but I have to go to Lane Bryant for pretty much anything else. And I am SO tired of spending $30 (minimum) for jeans!!!
Brenda--The laziness you are feeling is probably related to that "blah" feeling a lot of us have been feeling lately. But I have faith in you! And HOORAY on your NSV!! Noticing changes in your body that you can feel w/your hands and see in the mirror actually means something, whereas weight is just numbers on a scale.
MariaLucia--Your day sounds absolutely fabulous! Good for you for celebrating your victories! My sister suggested I think of some (non-food, of course ) rewards for myself for certain milestones and this sounds like a good idea! I LOVE pampering but how often do we actually take the time to do it? My first milestone is 10% of my starting weight which is 35lbs (I rounded the .8 up ). After I lose 35 lbs I'm having a party for myself as that is really major to me!
As for me, I am having a crappy day. I was supposed to go to my mom's for the weekend but that got shot to **** because of the weather. I dont know why but I just cried and cried over it . I know this may come as a shock (ha, ha), but I can be kinda mello-dramatic sometimes . Saturdays are usually my day to sleep in but I got up early so I could hit Curves and go to the library to pick up a book on tape for the 2 hr drive and do some other errands before I left town. I spent a little too much time at the library (I LOVE the library ) so I was running late getting out of town. I came home and rushed through my shower and getting ready and ran my errands really fast so I could get out of town. It was 1:00 and I was on the highway out of town and I decided to call my mom and let her know I was just now leaving so she wouldnt worry. She tells me Grand Island (where she lives) is supposed to get 6-17 inches of snow between tonight and tomorrow so maybe I shouldnt come. I dont know why but I just started crying. It wasnt because I felt like my mom was trying to be hurtful or anything. I know she was just trying to protect me and didnt want me to be stranded there and have to call into work or, worse have to drive home on bad roads. She was just as disappointed as I was.
But we had this whole day planned! We were going take my grandma to a craft show and then to this place you make and take your own jewlery that my grandma has really wanted to go to. Now that is all shot to sh*t and so is the rest of my day now.
I dunno, I just feel lonely today. I know I was just saying that I dont get lonely often, but today I am and I feel like no one else can relate to that. I dont have any friends in town and it gets old sitting at home or going places by myself. I dont just sit at home, I do go to the library and go shopping and stuff, but it gets old doing these things by myself. I see other people w/thier friends or family or significant others and it makes me feel jealous and sad beacuse I want that.
I feel like no one knows how this feels. My sister has her kids to come home to, and her boyfriend to spend time w/. My mom has my little bro and step dad, all my friends either live w/roommates or have families of thier own. Even my boyfriend has family living w/him. I wake up, no one's here. I go to bed, no one's here. And all the time in between. I guess that explains why I have so much time to write these long responses . I dunno, I'm just sad today. Could be Aunt Flo, could be the weather... Could be that I am just tired of being alone all the time.
I might to Omaha later but that is 50 mi away and I know when I get there my friends will just want to drink and party and I'm not really down w/that right now. My friends there are a bit younger than I am and are still in that "early-20s partying phase" that I grew out of about a year ago. The last time I went to Omaha I drank so much I was sick and it was not pleasant. I told them (and myself) that it would be a long time before I drink to get drunk again. I dont mind having a couple beers but dont want to be sober hanging w/a bunch of drunks. They're good people, but that seems to be all we do when we go down there. I dont get down there much and when I do its like we really have to party and make it worthwile. I'd just rather watch some movies or something. I guess this is what getting old is like. Ah well.
Brenda – How frustrating about your machine! I assume it is just going to take a while to get one to you, is that right? That seems to be a LONG time to wait. I know isolation can have its restrictions, but when your health is concerned you would think that someone would be able to fast-track getting one for you. It must have been quite the kick in the guts to finally work out what was wrong and what the solution is, but to have to wait for that solution. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that they find some way of getting you one earlier.
Isn’t it wonderful when you first find your waist!!! The first time I noticed mine was when I tried on a dress and actually saw that it went ‘in’ at the middle instead of out. I was SO excited because I have never had a waist. I had a straight up and down shape as a kid and went from that to that lovely ‘round’ shape as an adult. Enjoy your waist!
Lilion – I’ve always been the fat friend or family member too. Now I just want to go and see all my old friends to show them the ‘new’ me. I was actually lucky with my friends and none of them ever said anything about my weight. A work colleague once told me I would be beautiful if I lost weight. Oh well… she was kind of a bitter person anyway, so I took that comment with a pinch of salt. Oh… and I can certainly relate to being ‘invisible’ when I went out with my slimmer friends. I used to think it didn’t hurt, but I know it really did.
My mum was the worst culprit with me. EVERY single time I would visit or call she would talk about another diet she had found. I suppose she was just worried about me and wanted to help, but couldn’t she see that I was just moving further away from her, visiting WAY less and calling very rarely. I think that my sister may have said something to her after I had finally told my sister why I didn’t contact my parents, because she stopped talking about diets suddenly. Now, both my parents are finally proud of me I think, which is sad huh? Anyway… they are both overweight, but now talk about other overweight people as though they have no control and are just lazy. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! Oh well… I still spend as little time with them as I can. I refuse to be around people I call ‘poisonous’. I want to stay positive and they just bring me down. I hope you can distance yourself from as many of these people as possible. It is wonderful to see your determination. Good for you!
Catherine – I hope that the toilet ‘operation’ went well. I really wouldn’t even know where to start with something like that. Hopeless huh? Mind you, hubby isn’t much better, so we usually just call a plumber.
How are your latest efforts at converting Alberta into a healthier lifestyle? I know that you are working successfully with your new hubby, but have you managed to show some more people how they can actually ‘survive’ on healthy food? I try to do that all the time at school and I think it is finally starting to rub off onto a few people. I had a student teacher in last year who is now teaching in the same block with me and she brings some very healthy food to school since she saw what I was eating. I have another student teacher starting next term and she has made a few visits. She was at our school 3 years ago and saw me earlier this year and was simply amazed at the change in me, so she said that from that day on she has been working towards losing weight as I have been an inspiration. It is wonderful to know that we can change the world one person at a time. They may not make life-time changes, but at least they are a little more educated.
MsCrockett – I had to laugh when I read about your friend thinking that your weight loss would affect her son. Was she serious???? What a joke! He probably doesn’t even relate his name for you with your size any more, it is just a ‘name’. She obviously has problems of her own that she has to deal with.
Good luck on trying to make healthy eating choices with what you already have. You never know, you may come up with some weird and wonderful recipes using bits and pieces you would never have put together at any other time. You’ll have to share any ideas you come up with.
Melinda – It must be confusing to be drinking but not ‘releasing’ that much. I have the opposite problem and tend to ‘go’ every 15 minutes if I drink lots. (Oh… what is AF? It is probably something really logical, but I’ve not heard of it) It sounds as though you are really doing well with exercising. You are certainly starting better than I did. Mind you, I didn’t even THINK of getting exercise videos, which would have helped immensely. Keep up the great movin’ and groovin’.
Kayley – I’m glad that you got a ‘little’ sleep, but I wish it was more. Perhaps tonight? How did your hair turn out? I’d love to see photos when you finally get the green in. I wouldn’t have thought of St Patrick’s Day being the reason for there being no green hair dye. It usually takes me a while to connect things like that. I hope you can get some before the concert.
Oh, and 1 pound short of your goal is nothing! You are doing such an incredible job, and you already know that your body is still changing, even if the scales aren’t, because you keep finding new clothes that fit now.
ThisGirlsLosing – I’m so sorry that your friend put a dampener on your great news. You have made such a wonderful change in your life and it is great to be able to share it with those you care about. Some people just don’t know how to handle the changes in others I don’t think. I have a feeling that she doesn’t really want you to become a ‘slim’ friend and may be trying to discourage you. I hope I’m wrong. I certainly understand about not doing this for looks and simply for health. Most people don’t really understand this though. I think that is why people at my work tell me not to lose any more weight. They see that I “look” OK and don’t see why I still need to reach a ‘healthy’ weight. They are two totally different things.
I hope that your friend overcomes her insecurities (if that is what it is) and will come around to supporting you as much as you deserve. I’m glad you had a talk and hopefully things will improve from here on.
Well done on losing those inches as well! I WISH I’d taken measurements early on! I would love to be able to compare.
It sounds as though you have a beautiful Saturday afternoon planned. Have fun!!!
LChin – I hope that your son is feeling better. It must be awful when the little ones aren’t well.
I hope that your doctor can help you work out why you are gaining weight. It can be frustrating when you feel as though you are doing everything right, but things aren’t showing up well on the scales.
Ammi – Sorry about this extra weight gain. It sounds very unusual. You said that you gained a pound after a week off plan. Was this last week off plan as well, or were you back on plan? I can see a little gain if you were still off plan, but not 10lbs. Hopefully your doctor can let you know the cause. It is SO frustrating and wouldn’t be helping your already ‘blah’ mood one little bit. I wish I could send you a little bit of our sunshine, to give you a little boost. Mind you, I’m sure our winter will be upon us soon enough and I’ll be wishing I had saved a little sunshine for myself. The cold and wind tends to get to me after a while too. We live in a VERY windy part of the state.
Please let us know if the doctor has any positive news for you. And just post whenever you can. We know that you will come on when you can.
Julee – I’m not sure how your friend thought that it would be helpful to show you her ‘fat’ pictures. Especially seeing as she was kinda really insinuating that she only got that way during her pregnancy, so she wasn’t really empathizing with you I don’t think. I could be wrong though. I tend to see too much negativity in others at times.
It is great that you are seeing all of the wonderful changes you have made in your life already. PLEASE don’t lose sight of what you have already achieved. 89lbs lost!!!!! WOW!!!!! You should have a smile from ear to ear. I had to do just as you are and I had to sit back and look at just how far I have come from 2 years ago. I am healthier, fitter and slimmer than I have ever been in my adult life and I wasn’t letting myself appreciate that, as I was so ‘hooked’ on getting to that target weight. And, in answer to your question about going back to the way I was… a resounding NO! I definitely know too much now about a healthy lifestyle and nutrition to ever go back to eating the way I was and being as sedentary as I was. It is such a relief to realize that.
Thank you for your post. It got me reflecting again, which is always a good thing.
Amy – I take my hat off to all working moms. Your sister certainly seems to have a grasp on how to make her lifestyle work well though. I would be a mess! I have enough trouble organizing myself, let alone kids as well.
You are right about obesity being the last acceptable prejudice. I am always amazed at how people feel they have a right to comment on the weight of others. I will NEVER understand it. I spent 30 years listening to comments that ate right into my soul and nobody seemed to care. They were usually from strangers, which was even more interesting, because these people had NO idea how I had come to be the weight I was. Yes… I may have been lazy and eaten too much, but I may have also had some kind of disease or medical condition that caused the weight gain. They didn’t really care. They just snickered and made their snide comments, then probably went on to pick on someone else. You know… no matter how many times I told myself that this was THEIR problem and they were just small-minded, cruel, ignorant people, their comments still cut to the bone. I’m not sure whether I just wasn’t tough enough, or whether nobody can be expected to put up with things like that and come out smiling.
One of the first things I try to instill into each new class I have is the old saying from Bambi (I think it was a quote from Thumper) – If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. (Or words to that effect) It works on children for the most part, but then they grow up…
Oh and WELL DONE on resisting that cup cake! Don’t you get such a rush of “power” when you do something like that? I always feel SO good when I can show that I have control over the food, instead of the other way around.
Sorry you didn’t get to see your family. What a disappointment! Especially seeing as you were actually all organized and on your way. It must have been so hard to turn around and go back home. I hope you can find something to do that will give you the lift you need. I don’t think that going to Omaha to be with your friends sounds like what you REALLY want to do. And of course, the alcohol wouldn’t be the best choice either, which may make you feel even worse. Is there somewhere you could go to volunteer to help others? I’ve often thought that I would like to do something like that when I am having a ‘lull’ in my life. Or perhaps you could find something that would thoroughly ‘pamper’ YOU! You deserve it.
Cleo – Welcome! I’m sure you will love it here. Whenever you need support, advice, encouragement, a hug or simply a chat, there are always plenty of people to provide it here.
I am like you with the SlimFast. I lost 20kg (44lbs?) on it, then stopped and gained it all back, plus another 20kg! I’m glad that it works for some people, but I obviously didn’t learn the right way of eating while I was on them. I relied upon them too much, which isn’t what you are supposed to do I don’t think.
I hope to read many posts from you.
Wyllen – Sorry to hear that you are in a rut with your weight loss. I can understand how this happens, but I hope that you don’t give in to it. It doesn’t sound as though you will, as you are still making great choices. I suppose I have had a number of times where I felt like that, but as you said, it is just mind games and I have usually come out on top feeling stronger than ever. I still feel now and then that I would love to just ‘pig out’ as I see many people doing every day around me, but then I get such a feeling of power when I make the better choice. Keep staying strong! 70lbs is amazing! I can understand the fact that you still feel ‘fat’ even after losing so much. I had to lose probably 100lbs or more before I could even shop in the larger section of regular stores. It was so exciting to be able to do that, but I knew that I was still obese and had a long way to go. It gets a little depressing at times, but the final result will be worth it.
Well, that’s about it I think. We are going out early this morning (hopefully leaving before 6:30am) to go for a walk before the markets. After shopping for fruit and veg we will bring them home and then head off again to Fremantle, which is a bustling port where there are different sorts of markets with food, souvenirs, crafts and all sorts. It is also just a lovely place to wander. We are expecting a fairly warm day so we want to get out early and back home before the real heat sets in. Then the afternoon SHOULD be spent doing school work and cleaning. We’ll have to see how that progresses.
Dieters focus on the end...women like us, we focus on the process.
Julee: What a great post! The WHOLE thing! You are a wonderful, proud, accomplished woman and from your post, see to have it all in perspective. GOOD for you! We should all be able to stand back and look at ourselves the way you have. I had to pick out the quote above from your post. That's a good one for the fridge. Thanks for sharing.
I wanted the time today to respond to several of the posts from the last few days, but I won't have time tonight. I have been cleaning all day because my stepmother is spending the night tonight. It was a good excuse because the house was a disaster. It feels so good to have it really clean again. I then did my workout and by that time I was out of time! She should be arriving any minute and we are going out to dinner at a Korean BBQ place right around the corner.
The one thing I think I have time for is Ammi - yes it was the new Dr. Who with Christopher Eccleston and Billie Piper and it was really good! The one thing I couldn't figure out was how the plastic mannequins got guns in their hands. But the dialogue was terrific and the effects were pretty good too. The actors were really good and had a good chemistry. I will definitely be watching it again.
Tomorrow should be nice and quiet and I will have time to catch up. There was the doorbell – got to go!
Lillion- I'm glad you still found a way to honor your co-worker's birthday...and get a chance to raze him for turning 40 If you get a chance, try the new silicone mini-muffin pans...I love them, when muffins are cool enough, just pop them out & sometimes that means pushing the muffin cup inside out- but no Pam (Blechhh!- hate that chemical taste) or even pure oil spray (I use a Mr Misto with Canola oil).
Nancy- I totally forgot to take/wear my heart rate monitor to Curves today I really wanted to see how it compares with me trying to read my own pulse when they have you do the 10 second count. I found when I was using my HR monitor before that its really helpful at our weight/fitness level. We really don't have a good idea of what hard, moderate & easy exercise is- and it is different for someone 300+ then someone who 30 pounds over weight. Also, as we get stronger, we have to keep pushing ourselves more- and the heart rate monitor makes sure we're still in the right zone & not just coasting along.
Luan- Its okay- I caught a simple stomach flu 5 years ago that damaged the nerves to my stomach so it doesn't empty as fast as it should, which causes nausea & vomiting (gastroparesis). I'm at a point I can eat some stuff by mouth, but not enough & not consistently, so I still rely on the feeding tube that bypasses my stomach to get the rest of my nutrition. What I can eat changes from day to day- I can eat something fine one day & then try to eat it a week later and won't be able to tolerate it. If I would have been smart, I would have done everything I could have not to gain all the weight back I had lost, but there were a lot of thing working against me. My metabolism had gotten so screwed up from being in starvation mode (literally was at the point my body had started to break down muscles & organs when I finally had the feeding tube put in), being practically housebound due to multiple medical problems, gaining 20-30 pounds in water weight due to an allergy to an ingredient in the formula (and we know how just a few pounds can quickly turn into way too many) & of course the stupid entitlement mentality that if I found something I could eat, I should eat as much as I could since there were so few things I could eat- plus I didn't know when I'd be able to 'eat' again...all that added up to gaining all the weight back, plus more in the first couple years. I've pretty much maintained the same weight for 2 1/2 years- ever since they diagnosed my sleep disorders & I was able to be more active, which was enough of a goal for awhile; but now that more things are falling into place medically, I can actually be active enough to lose weight because cutting calories along is not enough with my metabolism anymore unfortunately.
Brenda- that sucks you can't get your CPAP for another 6 weeks or so- if you were closer, I would lend you my backup machine (My mom & a couple friends used it while they were waiting for theirs). I was so happy when the sleep doc told me 2 1/2 years ago that I more then likely had Obstructive Sleep Apnea, unfortunately he was wrong- I have apnea all right, but I have the more rare type were you just totally forget to breath called Central Sleep Apnea, plus I have Alpha Wave Intrusion so I don't get enough restorative sleep. I went for my titration study (were they figure out what machine & settings you need) & figured I'd be all set...until I got the call a few days later that the most advanced type of PAP (BiPAP ST) didn't help much & I wouldn't be getting a machine- I cried so hard when I got off the phone. Luckily my doctor had me try it for a month anyways & even though I still have more central apneas then either of would like, my sleep is a lot better then without it. I wish I didn't have to rely on all the meds & machines for sleep and to stay awake, but I never want to go back to being basically housebound again from the sleepiness. If you have any questions or anything, let me know- since I was diagnosed, I've convinced several friends & family members to get tested & every one of them had OSA, including my Mom. I've been through it all with different masks & such- and know which ones tend to fit women better (the manufactures still think if they just make ones that fit men smaller it will be fine). BTW- most people with apnea find it easier to lose weight once they get treatment because of the improvement in the quality of sleep; though if you can at all possible, push for an auto-CPAP/autotitrating-CPAP that will adjust as you lose weight, since pressure requirements typically go down along with your weight. Losing weight can help with OSA- it may not cure it, but it usually makes it less severe.
Laura- I agree with some of the others that 1000 calories per day is way too low for someone over 300#...even for someone who weighs 130, its not enough. When I recently saw a dietitian, she recommended 1700 calories as my target to lose weight. In my case with my GI problems, I go through days & weeks where I struggle to get enough in, and on my worse days, she wants me to try to get to at least 1200 calories & try to keep my weekly average near 1700. Are you drinking enough water/fluids? I can tell a big difference when I up my fluid intake from 64oz to 130-150oz- the scales get stuck, or even go up, if I only get 64oz.
Tasha- Now I know why most of my married friends have more then one computer I hope things start looking up for you soon- I know how hard it is when it seems nothing is working yet. All of us struggle finding what works best for us- I don't think anyone is successful just following one plan to a T, but by combining what they learn from different plans & finding what works best for them. I always figure even if I wasn't successful with a certain diet plan, I at least learned more about myself by trying that I wouldn't have known.
Kayley- What about checking to see what your local library has? Some are better then others, but you may be able to check them out from other libraries if you get a MichCard...not sure if they do interlibrary lone on DVDs??? Have you tried any of the Walk Away the Pounds videos? I did the 1mile Abs one with the resistant bands hooked on the belt the other day & I really felt it in my arms & shoulders the next day- not a bad hurt or anything, but just enough to let me know theres some muscles there I'd forgotten about.
Countess- At least you know now & can go forward from here with the correct weight. You've still made great progress- and making progress is just as important as getting to goal. How often do you weigh yourself at Curves? I know they officially weigh & measure once a month, but today I was the only one in there so I figured I might as well sneak on the scales
LAnne- that's so cool about the new jobs! You'll have to keep us posted on your first assignment.
Violet- I know how well that entitlement mentality can get me in trouble. With my GI problems & not being able to eat much over the past few years, when I found something my stomach could tolerate, I would over do it big time. Its like it becomes a license to eat whatever you want- and in my case, since stuff with sugar makes the stomach work faster, it was easy to 'justify' eating empty calories.
honiangel- I didn't realize the recipe I use for the Irish Soda Bread is all in grams. I use my kitchen scales to make & don't think anything of it- that's how we did everything when I worked in bakeries. The next time I make it, I'm going to measure everything so I can write it out in cups.
Lillion was a bad influence on me :P I was responding to the post & when I read hers about the Coke-muffins,I couldn't help but try something. I can't have Coke/Pepsi (allergic to caramel food coloring), so I used 7UP-plus Island Fruit with a Lemon cake mix & a medium can of crushed pineapple. They're in the oven now...I'll let you know if it works or not (I'm thinking I might have had a little too much liquid...not sure yet). I did my workout at Curves this morning- I almost didn't go because it was getting close to 11:30 & they close at noon, but I decided NO EXCUSES!!! & went. I was down a couple pounds from last Saturday on their scales & my home scales- I am so close to leaving the 300's, maybe by the end of the month. I took my measurements again today & even though I haven't seen too much movement in the scales (other then their normal fluctuations up & down), there are some big changes in my measurements. I've lost 7+ inches off my hips, 6” off my waist, 7” off my bust, 6” off one thigh & 4” off my calf. To all those who have been struggling with the scales, get your tape measure out & start keeping track of more then just the number of pounds lost. If you don't have a cloth tape measure, use ¾” wide ribbon & then measure it with a ruler or whatever you do have. If you're worried a 60” tape measure isn't long enough, ask for a quilting tape measure at a fabric store- they go up to 120”. It is so worth it to see those numbers- I knew I had lost some, but I didn't realize it was that much yet.
My sister invited me to have dinner at her house w/her, her man, the kids, and some friends she has coming over. I am feeling better. I told her how lonely I'd felt and she said there was no reason I shouldnt be at her house (she just lives upstairs from me). I just dont want to wear out my welcome so I havent been hanging out there much lately.
I have been thinking about raising my goal weight. I think 153 is pretty low. I am pretty muscular and have a large bone structure. My sister is 5'3" and weights about 165 and she looks really good. I think any thinner and she'd look unhealthy. I'm 3" taller than she is so I am thinking of setting mine at 175. What do you guys think?
I also decided I am not going to buy any bras for now (I had talked about my quest for bras before). I have 3 bras and one sports bra that will work for now. As I continue to lose weight my bra size will go down so I dont want to buy any till I get down a size. It if gets really bad and I really need bras, I wont hesistate to buy any even if I havent went down a size. But I am so close to being able to buy bras in the regular stores that I dont want to spend $30 for a bra online or something and have it be too big in a couple mos. I'm a 46C now and the sizes in the stores go up to 44C. I feel like I'm too close that it would be kinda foolish not to wait. That could also be my little reward for losing weight, too.
I tried calling Nat (my boyfriend) earlier when I was so upset and his crazy (yes, literally) mom answered the phone. She is such a evil coniving wench, I cant stand her! She says she just woke up and she doesnt know if he's there but "maybe you can call him later". Um, thanks. Yeah, dont ask any of the other 3 people that live there if he's there, and dont take a message; just make me call back. (I feel like I should clarify that my 31-yr old boyfriend does NOT live w/his parents--his parents live w/HIM). I tried calling later and now I just get the answering machine. Grrr, how frustrating! I cannot stand that woman! She is a huge victim who spreads ill will like plague to anyone around her. Nat put it best: "she's a spirit-sniper". She makes me sick! Nat has a knack for saying the right things in the worst situations and always makes me feel better, and I really needed that earlier. Nat lives 200 mi away and by the time we see each other again it will have been 4 weeks since we saw each other last! Connecting over the phone is really important to us and she knows that! Stupid spirit-sniper.
Brenda – I am sorry that you are in the rut, too, but so pleased that I am not alone. I feel like I’ve been fighting with myself all week to stay on track.
I think part of my problem is that I am just going through a routine. Work, cook, workout, go to the grocery store, repeat. I mean, part of the reason I got on this journey was to be able to DO more, and yet I just do the same things over and over again. We have some fun activities planned in the next few weeks, however, and I’m hoping that helps break things up.
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Thanks everyone for being here and for being so honest about your struggles and your victories. I am finally among people who get it on a personal level. I've been feeling so lonely for people who really, really get it.
Oh yes, we get it. That is such a strength of this place! Not only can we get advice when we post struggles, but I think it helps us understand that what we go through is NORMAL.
Amy – I was alone like that for a lot of my life, and I understand how isolating it can be. I am hoping that through becoming healthier I see how to make better food and exercise choices, but hopefully I will get the confidence in other areas of my life. Also, this may just be a blip for you – sounds like you’re having one of those days. [update: sounds like you MIGHT be feeling a little better?]
Zelma – Thanks for your kind words. I enjoy your stories. The interesting thing is I don’t feel in a rut with the weight loss per se (I did gain a pound last week, but otherwise I progress)… it’s just a rut of life perhaps. And the wanting to pig out – zowie is that present!
I have been a lump all week. Well, since last Friday actually, when my friend picked me up. I had fun with her (book shopping) but no working out except walking in the shops. Then of course my shoulder has been bothering me but it is much better now so that's no excuse. All I have been doing since I got back from my friend's house Monday is laying around in bed reading or sleeping. I am all dressed up to workout today but waiting on a ride, mom wants to go but has something she has to do first. I dread getting on the scale. I have been having a lot of sub sandwiches (turkey) which is more bread than I am supposed to have so I am sure i will have a gain. It is just a matter of how much a gain. Then of course mom brought home chocolates for me....why she does this I do not know and why I dont just toss them in the trash is beyond me, I guess I toss them in me and treat myself as a trash can like usual. But I had been doing so much better. I have to get out of this funk!
I finished reading Richard Simmons' Never Say Diet book and did exercises from it last night. Made me sweat too! I should have done the AM exercises today but I have not. I just cant seem to get "into" the whole process right now. I ate mexican food yesterday night (cheese enchiladas, tostada, taco, queso tostada, guacamole and soft serve frozen yogurt) No chips though, I did skip the chips somehow. I even considered ordering a salad because they have a few good ones on the menu (I never tried them but they sound healthy) but I copped out and ate the mexican plate...not even what I wanted which would have been just as bad maybe but still, I should have gotten the chicken breast with the shrimp and crawfish tails in butter sauce if I was going to go off the diet. I just dont know what is wrong with me. I am sabotaging myself and i dont know why. Does anyone else ever get like this?? My psych thinks I abuse myself with food. I am beginning to think she is right.
I mean, I want to lose the weight so I can be more comfortable in my body and dress the way I want to....but with that comes the potential of getting attention from strangers in a "positive" way and I dont want to deal with dating or making a lot of friends and that social stuff. It scares me. I have had too many bad experiences with people and I would like to lose the weight without having to deal with the people out there. NOt that i think I am all that and as soon as I lose weight people are going to be beating down my door to get next to me..... But my fat protects me in my mind, it keeps people away and I like that about it.
From what I have been reading no one is having that great of a time with their "friends" and coworkers and such, a lot of people are just plain cruel.
But reading this, I am getting angry. Why should I have to hide away in an unhealthy body to avoid nasty people? Just because I am basically a welcome mat for jerks most of the time??? Well, I can change that. I have to change that and get out of this funk and get back to losing weight! I am such a stupid wretch!
I hope everyone else is doing better than I am! I am just in a bad place right now. Please excuse me and my posting...I try not to post when I feel this way which is why I disappear a lot. Maybe it is healthier for me to go ahead and post how I feel but is it any good for y'all to read it?? I dont want to bring everybody down...but if it makes you feel better to compare how you are next to what a wreck I am right now, that is a good thing, I guess.
Enough!
Someone said they were drinking a lot of water but not peeing a lot, me too. I wonder what is up with that. I dont do TOM so I have no clue, except I have been having more salt than usual but you wouldnt think it would keep me from peeing with as much as I am drinking. Weird.
I used to love the old Dr. Who show, Maybe I will check out the new one. I dont think I watch enough TV.
Congratulations everyone who continues to post losses! That is great!
For those of us who are not losing right now, chin(s) up! There has to be something we can do differently to make the scale more friendly to us. I know I have to cut out the bread and start ordering salads in restaurants for meals. Not to mention dragging my big old butt out of bed earlier and moving around more.
Kaylee your hair sounds roxors. I always thought it would be cool if you had the patience and help to die one's hair in checks or a plaid sort of design. But I never even had a wild color in mine at all. I had a girlfriend once who died the hair just where you tuck behind your ears a vivid green. She was very interesting, she was a dancer at a club fresh out of High School. I wonder whatever happened to her. As it is, I stopped dying my hair in protest to the things women do to feel acceptable in society so I am 43 with silver and black hair, very short. I also do not shave for the same reason. Of course, if I had a love interest or were interested in love I should say, I could be persueded to shave and dye if it made them feel better I guess. I have been au natural for 6 years now. Funny though, I still pluck my eyebrows....quirky.
Ammi - Have you done your measurements yet? Even though I dont lose weight sometimes I lose inches.
Well, I was going to erase all of the above drivel and just post the good stuff but I decided to let it all hang out. I hope you closed your eyes over the parts you dont like...ha ha ha
I finally went back to the gym tonight, just got back and viola' I have not gained any weight since I weighed Tuesday before this most recent Tuesday. I have not lost either but I have verified the weight of 276 which I thought was just a fluke. Apparantly I am not doing as bad as I think I am on the dieting. Maybe it is not so great for South Beach but still low calorie enough to lose weight???
Anyway, I am proud to say I weigh 276 today. Now to get back to work on reducing that number now that I believe the scale.
Isnt it weird how charged up a good work out can make you feel? and a silly little number on a man-made machine?
Zelma~ Yes she was as serious as she could be,, seems some people pull out all the stops.... I laughed silently about it of course.. and you are right, it is a name to him, No he does not use it everyday, but deed I think I could weigh 100lbs in the future here and I will still be his "Fat Nonnie" .. Humor is good medicine, aye? I am doing okay this weekend Oatmeal, Cottage cheese apples, lettuce and tomorrow I will be making catfish, I forgot I had some in the freezer that I had caught not long ago.... Thanks for you incite...
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Amy~ Actually I dont have a set goal, here is my humor about it, when other girls start calling me a whore, or when I am talking to a man and his significant other is compelled to walk up and kiss him, then and only then I know I am at the right weight.......
Garnet--Please please please continue to post things like this! What is the forum for if not to share our struggles as well as triumphs! It cant be all balloons and seashells all the time. It also cant rain all the time.
Wyllenn--Thanks for sharing your experience and relating to me. I really do appreciate it.
I am feeling better. I had a piece of pizza and some chili and a corn muffin for dinner at my sister's house and I am stuffed! She also cut up a bunch of fresh fruit and that was really refreshing to have w/dinner, too. She is such a good hostes. Surprisingly I still have 3 pts left for the rest of the day and like 24 left of my Flex.
They were going to watch a movie but my sister's friend that came over for dinner was kinda getting on my nerves so I came home. My sister made chili w/meat in it and this girl does not eat meat so my sis got a pizza and purposely got 1/2 vegetarian for her. So the girl comes over and my sister says "help yourself to some pizza" and the girl says something directly to my sister (not under her breath) about all the "icky olives" on the pizza. What??? Geez, lady! Someone invites you over for a free meal and that is the first thing you can say? She had 1 piece and picked all the olives and tomatoes off and threw them in the trash. What a waste. And how rude! Like the olives were going to cause her to spontaneously combust or something . And she could've just picked them off and kept her trap shut! Some people just do NOT know how to be a guest in someone's home. It continually amazes me. The sad thing is that I know my sister feels embarassed sometimes because this girl has more money than she does and can afford nicer things (she also has 2 incomes and only 1 kid). Well sorry honey, but money don't buy class. Whatever. I hate it when anyone in my family feels "less than" because of income or looks or whatever! It's such bullsh*t and makes me mad!
But yes, even though this is like my 400th rant of the day I am feeling better.
I decided to change my goal to 175. I changed my ticker and stuff.
Had a lot of fun shopping at an outlet mall...it's really nifty. Outdoors and everything. But it was so cold, didn't do much WALKING. We're going to go back when it's warmer.
About to go to Walmart for grocery shopping, and I MIGHT pick up a pair of capris , and some flip flops. Love me some flip flops!
Christine...I do have a Michicard...maybe I'll see what I can do.
Sorry about lack of time! Time to go already! Later, chicks!
Ate too much at dinner...not bad food..just too much food..plus a soy latte. I may burst.
Last night I bought a new dress at Target....size XL. Way cute. So today I went to syangogue and wore it..along with the new super-gut-sucking bike shorts I bought...wowee do those things hold it all in...oh and my black knee-high boots.
A few of the older ladies told me that I look "prettier every time they see me". They said prettier and not thinner. It made me think...do they equate being pretty with being thin? Can I not be pretty and heavy? One did try to ammend her statement saying that I was always pretty...but that now you could really see it...
Or is this my fat head not letting me take a genuine compliment?
Honestly...I have never thought of myself as pretty..ever. I like my eyes and my smile..the rest...eh. I am happer now with what I see in the mirror..and how I feel in general (mentally and emotionally) but I still don't feel pretty...I must not see what other people do. I guess if you have never felt pretty it can be hard to see pretty. Sometimes I feel like pretty is one of those stupid magic eye posters where if you stare at it long enough you can see the sailboat. I never saw the sailboat either.
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!! Everyone here is so awesome, caring, and helpful. I havent been here long myself but already feel a closeness with everyone here. 
I'm sure I'll feel like that at some point, too. It must be hard to have lost all this weight but still have to shop the plus sizes. The good thing is that at a size 20 you can still shop at like Target and Shopko and stuff. I'm a size 28 but luckily can still fit into a 3X shirt. So I can still buy shirts at the "discount stores" but I have to go to Lane Bryant for pretty much anything else. And I am SO tired of spending $30 (minimum) for jeans!!!
). After I lose 35 lbs I'm having a party for myself as that is really major to me!
. I know this may come as a shock (ha, ha), but I can be kinda mello-dramatic sometimes 
. Saturdays are usually my day to sleep in but I got up early so I could hit Curves and go to the library to pick up a book on tape for the 2 hr drive and do some other errands before I left town. I spent a little too much time at the library (I LOVE the library 
) so I was running late getting out of town. I came home and rushed through my shower and getting ready and ran my errands really fast so I could get out of town. It was 1:00 and I was on the highway out of town and I decided to call my mom and let her know I was just now leaving so she wouldnt worry. She tells me Grand Island (where she lives) is supposed to get 6-17 inches of snow between tonight and tomorrow so maybe I shouldnt come. I dont know why but I just started crying. It wasnt because I felt like my mom was trying to be hurtful or anything. I know she was just trying to protect me and didnt want me to be stranded there and have to call into work or, worse have to drive home on bad roads. She was just as disappointed as I was. 
. I dunno, I'm just sad today. Could be Aunt Flo, could be the weather... Could be that I am just tired of being alone all the time. 
I really wanted to see how it compares with me trying to read my own pulse when they have you do the 10 second count. I found when I was using my HR monitor before that its really helpful at our weight/fitness level. We really don't have a good idea of what hard, moderate & easy exercise is- and it is different for someone 300+ then someone who 30 pounds over weight. Also, as we get stronger, we have to keep pushing ourselves more- and the heart rate monitor makes sure we're still in the right zone & not just coasting along.
I hope things start looking up for you soon- I know how hard it is when it seems nothing is working yet. All of us struggle finding what works best for us- I don't think anyone is successful just following one plan to a T, but by combining what they learn from different plans & finding what works best for them. I always figure even if I wasn't successful with a certain diet plan, I at least learned more about myself by trying that I wouldn't have known. 
). I just dont want to wear out my welcome so I havent been hanging out there much lately.
Nat has a knack for saying the right things in the worst situations and always makes me feel better, and I really needed that earlier. Nat lives 200 mi away and by the time we see each other again it will have been 4 weeks since we saw each other last! Connecting over the phone is really important to us and she knows that! Stupid spirit-sniper. 
I am feeling better. 
