[spiritualwarfare71]

Hey yall! I need more support than ever. My family isn't as supportive as the should be especially at my age. So as far as dieting goes I'm pretty much on my own. My mom will buy me the right food but I have to go shopping with her. I think the reason I'm so lathargic most of the time is because they never push me to go outside or go find something to do. Maybe once a week I'll go play basketball with some of my friends but that's about it. My friends really aren't too great about supporting me either they say I'm fine the way I am and I love
them for that but they just expect me to eat whatever they're eating. Keep in mind most of my friends are twigs. So maybe I just need some support to get this thing up and running.

[honey-dipped]

I don't know. It sounds like you need motivation instead of support. I don't think it's unreasonable that you should go shopping with your mother to get healthy foods. It gives you a chance to get out of the house and you can get exactly what you want. As far as your friends go...you're gonna experience a lot of temptation with food from many different sources and ultimately you're the one who has to deal with those demons. You can't expect them to police your food intake. They're probably telling you the truth when they say that they think you are fine the way you are and maybe that's why they don't push you as much. My advice to that is to push yourself to do the right things and it seems like you're already finding ways to do that, by coming to this site. Good luck!

[DeafinlySmart]

BTW, nobody is responsible for making you excercise. You are! Many of us struggle with it everyday so you are not alone. It's just not a good thing to put the blame of that on your parents.

[Yoyonomore]

I agree. Ultimately you are going to move out and be on your own. Who will motivate you then? You will! So don't rely on anybody else. If you want it badly enough you will do it. It's great your mom is willing to buy healthy foods for you. Take that and run with it (literally).

Karma

[Safiyah_is_Fluffy]

I spent many years blaming my overweight parents for my problem, it doesn't get you anywhere except gaining more weight and being in even more denial....

If you are ready for this, go for it...I wish 10 years ago I had been ready to do what I am now..... don't let the days...and the pounds, add up.

[lindystar]

Hi, I'm glad to see you coming here and trying to get some answers, thats a great first step !! And, wow that is wonderful that your mom is willing to buy you the food that you want. I think that that in itself is a form of support.

Have you considered making a daily food and exercise journal? It is very helpful to a lot of people, myself included. Its a great way to keep track of what you hare eating, and make adjustments. I find that it is inspiration to keep going and stay on track. And I love that at the end of the day I can write down all of my exercise. I feel so good about myself when I write down exercise, and its fun to compete with myself to try and do even more the next day.

Ohh!! And At the end of each day write down something that you are proud of yourself for doing. Like, " I'm proud for going for a walk", or "I'm proud for not eating a second helping at dinner" Sometimes on a bad day it ends up being, "I'm proud I only ate half the pizza, even though I wanted the whole thing." But thats life. Sometimes we really have to be our own cheerleader. And it sounds like you could use some. So go for it !! Be your biggest fan, and your biggest supporter, if not you then who else?

Good luck to you, I hope you keep us updated.

[sandrea91483]

Originally Posted by spiritualwarfare71

Hey yall! I need more support than ever. My family isn't as supportive as the should be especially at my age. So as far as dieting goes I'm pretty much on my own. My mom will buy me the right food but I have to go shopping with her. I think the reason I'm so lathargic most of the time is because they never push me to go outside or go find something to do. Maybe once a week I'll go play basketball with some of my friends but that's about it. My friends really aren't too great about supporting me either they say I'm fine the way I am and I love
them for that but they just expect me to eat whatever they're eating. Keep in mind most of my friends are twigs. So maybe I just need some support to get this thing up and running.

I know what you mean! My fiance gets irritated because there are certain things I RERFUSE to eat now that he wants all the time (such as KFC, etc). Today he said he wanted to take me to lunch tomorrow and immediately suggested three places that someone who is avidly counting calories and sticking to a 1500 Calorie a day limit should NOT eat. I don't think he does it on purpose, it's just that his idea of "healthy" isn't always what I should be eating. For example, he thinks sandwiches are healthy, which they can be, but wants to go to places that serve GIGANTIC subs that pile TONS of meat, cheese, and garnishes on them no matter how much you request that they leave certain things off, LOL. Also these places serve sandwhiches specifically and offer nothing else (local delis mainly). I don't think he does it because he's purposefully not being supportive of my weight loss, but it ends up that I feel he is being unsupportive because my new, picky eating habits annoy him when we want to eat out (as college students, this is quite often, so I have to scout out places with healthier options). Oh, he also suggested we go to this restaurant that serves sandwhiches and soup and salads and things like that but is mainly known for their cheesecake. His solution? Just don't get any cheesecake. YEAH RIGHT. Like I'm going to go, look at all those delicious cakes in the display case, see everyone devouring them INCLUDING HIM and then not order some myself...LOL. I have found I do have some degree of willpower. Usually I have no problem passing up desert, but there are some things I just can't resist.

Oh, my grandma keeps sending me mixed messages as well. LOL She's a retired nurse so when I got up into the obese category she was constantly telling me I needed to lose weight because I was too fat (I think she was concerned for my health, I don't think she intended to sound mean about it). So after several years with my wedding only a year ahead, I decided I'm going to be serious about losing weight (I want to look good at my wedding AND be healthy). Through Curves and a website I use to track my calories, I have lost 11.5 lbs. since January 3rd. Now my grandma, who was constantly telling me I needed to lose weight, is saying that I'm losing it too fast. It's not like I'm starving myself or anything, because I'm not! I'm following instructions and even did some research and found out that sometimes heavier people drop a lot of pounds to start with. Also I've been drinking 104 oz. of water a day which has gotten rid of some of my excess water weight. According to things I have researched it is perfectly normal for me to have dropped this much so fast, as it will level out and slow down. There's no pleasing some people, LOL. I hear you though, it's frustrating...

[maegdaeien]

Weight loss around family is very tough, if they aren't trying to be healthier as well. You always think of home as a comfort place, with comfort people, and lots of comfort food! Do your parents/siblings want to lose weight or work out as well? It would be great if it became something you could do together, like take walks with your mom or something.

And Lindystar, I absolutely love your idea of writing down a positive thing every day. I am going to start that up immediately!