[GonnaLooseitagain]

OK, as you know I made my Halloween Challenge (Goal #1) I am half way to the goal weight I want to be. Well I was standing in front of DH today and he makes this comment on "how skinny you look, you need to stop loosing weight now". I am at 185lbs and a size 12/14. I have always told him that I only want to get to where I was 5 1/2 years ago when he and I met. He said that is fine...well honestly, I am about 15-20 pounds from that at this point, and my final goal is a little below (10 lbs). I know I will *KNOW* when to slow down and start a maintenance schedule when it is time, but when I tried to explain that I only have 15(ish) more pounds before I am at the size we discussed, he said I am already there! I know I am not. CLOSE but not there yet. I know he is affraid of my getting toooo thin, but I know he doesnt have to worry about that. He said "I didnt marry a bag of bones" and I know this. He is supportive in everyway possible, but he is scared I will get thin. (Even at 135 pounds I am NOT THIN..I will never be able to loose my larger than avg. REAR..lol and that is fine with me). I want to be a size 8/10 and then I will be good. How can I explain this to him honestly and easily. I know he isnt affraid of me leaving him once I am thin or anything like that..but he is scared that I will get skinny because he likes meaty women...NOT FAT, just meaty. HE is german..lol (No, I am not trying to insult any German people, but I am Italian and carry weight different than the German people tend to). So please any advice would be greatly appreciated....I dont want to get "SKINNY" just want to get back to being *ME*...thanks in advance for all the great advice I know you can all give me.

[mandy71480]

Just explain to him that you want to see how you look in a size 8/10 and it's important to you to reach your goal. You could also tell him you want to get in that range because it's healthier, or so you can have some "room" in case you decide to gain a little weight back. Men tend to think one sidedly- so you have to explain it in terms he'll understand. remind him that super skinny is a size 1 or 2, and that 8/10 is still plenty curvy

Hope this helps!

[mandy71480]

OH and congrats on your loss so far, too!!

[dangerousmuffins]

Exactly what mandy71480 said!

But remember, you are losing weight for you, not him, you! And hopefully you will stop when you are happy, not when he is happy!

[GonnaLooseitagain]

Thanks, like I said he IS very supportive, just scared I think. He knows that I am NOT doing this for him or anyone else but me....so that helps. I like the "incase I gain a little back" line..lol I may have to use it...I have also considered just NOT telling him how much I am actually loosing (like not giving him the #'s) I think he gets hung up on the actual # and not the size...(did that make sense?) So I may just refrain from "announcing" each pound to him...lol That may help also. Thanks for the advice I appreciate it.