This group is for those dealing with the challenges of having a significant amount of weight to lose and being fit which becomes harder after 40. If you're an old or new friend and not over 40 and feel this is the place to post, jump right in.
Lilion - your pics are WONDERFUL! You say you can't see much of a difference ... well I can! Wow you are looking great. Bet you are feeling good too.
Well I'm still in the land of the living! I've not been doing so well health/weight-wise, and as usual I've been hibernating (staying away from everyone). I'm going back to the dietician tomorrow - first time in 2 weeks - and will find out what the damage is.
I've not been able to shake this flu properly, finding it hard to exercise, having sick kids in the house, trying to keep up/catch up with work, and generally feeling depressed and yuck!
Anyway, I know I have nothing to complain about compared to a lot of other people, so I will shut up now!
I intend to get myself back into this somehow. Baby steps! And its getting warmer here, so it should be easier to exercise in spring/summer.
Leanne
Last edited by hippygoddess; 09-20-2005 at 02:09 AM.
Okay, I might as well share my paranoia / fear of the week - job interviews.
I have a second interview Thurs and a first interview Friday. I work in the automotive industry where my first obstacle to overcome is my gender. The first interview (that thankfully is progressing to a second since this is the one I want) I got the uncomfortable feeling that my gender was their biggest concern. Hey, I've been in this specific industry for 7 years now and I know it's full of men.
I'm always concerned that my weight only adds to this. I'm pretty active on a day to day basis. Some days I feel like I do circles in the plant. Technically it's an office job, but I'm not at my desk all that often. I feel the need to point out that I do usually a minimum of 2 miles on a treadmill .after. work. I don't, but I feel I should. Sigh... I'd like to think I'm only being judged on my experience, certifications and potential. However, I don't think that's often the case.
Oh well, back to cleaning up - which is why I'm at my desk - procrastinating (although at this actual moment I'm on hold).
Good evening, ladies. I do apologize for hibernating. I have came down with the fall crud, which quickly turned into a full blown sinus infection and horrible bronchitis. Ended up giving it to hubby (subconciously on purpose?? ), so we both went to urgent care after hours today. I should have went earlier, but just didn't want to go. I hate going in there and admitting that I am still smoking. The deal with myself that I made when I started WW was to quit smoking when I've lost 50 pounds. I also wonder if that isn't why I have had these frequent sabatoge incidents. Anyway, I did manage to drag my butt out of bed on Saturday and go to WI. I lost another 2.2, which puts me a little over 35 pounds!! I have 15 more pounds to go and I am going to quit smoking for good. You heard it, and you are my witnesses, I am going to do this. It amazes people when they find out I do smoke, because for the most part I am very active and an exercise nut (for someone my size). But I know that's why I get bronchitis at least twice a year (and I let it go into pnuemonia last Spring). So, hubby and I are both home for the next couple of days sick.
Seth's appointment at Children's Mercy is Thursday, and I am taking him anyway, sick or not. I'm hoping to feel at least some better by then. Hubby started his counseling sessions on Monday, and I can honestly say he has made improvements over the last week. He's trying, and I have to give him an "E" for effort (along with a second chance, I guess!!).
Terri - As soon as my chest crud is gone, I would love to come out and walk with you. I took Seth to football practice Saturday morning at a local park (Happy Rock Park) and they have a mile trail that runs around the whole park and I did 3 miles with the dogs. Walking is probably my favorite exercise and I especially enjoy doing it outside. I will let you know when my crud is better and we can make plans. I hope your horses' ringworm is doing better. LAS VEGAS - WOW! I've never been but hear it's great. I hope you have a wonderful time!
Lilion - Don't let that scale get you down. There are so many factors that can make your weight fluctuate. I know when the humidity is high, I retain water like crazy. The weather here was so up and down last week, that could explain some of it. Also, if you had eaten something with a lot of sodium the night before, that would also make you retain. Hang in there and just think about how FAR you've come!! Also, those babies are adorable!! You should see the Halloween costumes I've bought the dogs!! (Yes, I know - but you're talking to a woman who has a dog stroller!!). If I can ever figure out how to post pictures, I will try to post some of them in their costumes. Lacey is a ladybug and Leo is Dogzilla. This is what happens when your only child feels he is too old to dress up!!! As far as the date thing - I hate to tell you this, but it only gets worse! Seth didn't have his first "date" until this year (at 13), so I probably would have really freaked if it had started three years ago. I didn't know whether to cry or make the girl fill out an application! Hang in there and just remember, she will be the first of many!!
Thin - Both boys buying their own home! How exciting and scary at the same time. But at least they are both staying close, and that has to be some relief. My older sister just had to leave her baby in California for his first year at Cal Poly (the first in our immediate family to actually go out of state) and she cried the whole two days before they left California. She says she has cried everytime he's called home, and now he'll only call when he knows his dad is home! Also, enjoy your upcoming trip! With every step you climb just think about how many calories each step is burning off!!!
Ruth - You are a painting maniac and I say GO FOR IT!! Good for you. I did the same thing this summer with our family room, and replaced the dark old curtains with white mini-blinds because of the odd bay window sizes I had. It makes it look so much brighter. I know it's hard work, but it will look so good when you're done. You're going to have a whole new house when you're through!!
Ann - Welcome to our humble "home." I hope you find the inspiration and friendship here that has kept me going through some pretty rough times. This is a great forum and these ladies are wonderful!
Leanne - I'm sorry you're still feeling under the weather. I hope you're on your feet soon, and PM me if you need an ear! Onward and "downward." You can do it girl, I have faith in you.
JoAnne, Barbg and BarbPA - Hi ladies! How're things going??
Well ladies, this is what happens when you hibernate for almost a week. You end up with huge posts like I have here! If I've missed someone, I'm sorry - it isn't intentional. I need to log off and go take my cough syrup before my head explodes from the coughing fits. Take care and hope everyone has a great week. I'll report back after Seth's dr. appt. on Thursday. - Kim
Shipshawana was GREAT! I didn't go as far as I had done last year. Even though the weight is pretty much the same, I guess I'm not in as good a shape this year as I was last. (ok, did I really refer to myself and "in good shape" in the same sentence????) Anyway, I digress.....
I spent my loot and then some. Got a few Christmas presents. Bought a few kitchen wares for the boy's new houses. And a couple of things to sell on eBay (shhhh, we won't tell Honey! )
Tomorrow I'm need to do laundry so I have clothes to pack for this weekend. What a whirlwind.
Honey is headed out of town again to Mexico for a week. He was supposed to leave on Oct. 2nd, but they've postponed until the 9th now. It will actually work out well because #1 Son should close on his house on the 30th so Honey will have a whole week to help with painting and pulling carpet before he leaves for Mexico. And then he'll be home by the time the "baby" closes on his.
Terri: I'm glad that you and DH decided to go to the reunion. I'm sure you're going to have a fabulous time and the fact that it's in Vegas will be really great. * I love that you mentioned shopping for clothes and "those tops that hug the boobs and have a cross-over v-neck". Is it just me or are some of the rest of you too old for your boobs to be perky enough to fit right in those??? Yeesh! Glad you were avle to find some smaller sizes. That always feels good.
Ruth: We painted our family room panelling some years ago and were very happy with it. We live in a quad and so the family room is half underground with a very high window and not much light coming in. It was amazing how much painting it brightened up the room. I think you'll love your room too.
Lilion: The puppies are just adorable!!! AND you really need to take a look again at those before and after pics. Look at how loose your shirt is in the belly now. You look GREAT!!!! Definitely a difference!!!!!! * A 10 year old dating! YIKES! Are you going to let this happen???? Is it a group????
Kim: CONGRATS on the nice loss! Good job!!! * I loved this: "I didn't know whether to cry or make the girl fill out an application!" Trust me, I feel the same way especially since my boys are old enough to be interviewing future wives. With the plethora of diseases and such that can come along with young adults these days I'm not so sure that girls OR boys filling out applications to date are such a bad idea. *Ooooo, good point, I wonder how many calories ARE burned with each step. I'll have to see if I can find that somewhere.
Leanne: Glad to see you checking in. Sorry to hear that your life hasn't smoothed out some. Please don't stay away just because you're not doing well. Keep checking in AND POSTING, eventually you'll "click" again just from all of the positive energy here. [[[hugs]]]
Anne: I'm sorry to say that I don't think it's your gender as much as it is our weight that keeps us back. Honey is heavy, works in the auto industry and has interviewed for several jobs where is in perfect sync with the job description and he just never gets the job. I think it's his weight. They don't want the liability for his health. Actually sometimes I wonder if their benefits administrator dictates who they will insure and therefore he is out of the running before he gets through the first interview. Who knows??? Either way, I'm glad that you have a second interview AND another option. My fingers are crossed that you will get whichever job you truly want.
Ok girls, must run. Time to hit the sack. It was a looooong drive home. See you all later. Love ya bunches!!!
Just checking in. It's been a busy week for me, and I have done terrible in the food dept. Tuesday I had a breakfast meeting and we went to lunch at the Cheesecake Factory, then that night we had a dinner meeting at a wonderful steak house!!! Somehow I can't get past the fact that if I don't pay for the food, the calories STILL count!!! Yesterday was okay, but we always go eat Mexican food before church on Wed. nights. Today is the day t he drug rep's bring lunch to the office so who knows what it will be, and again Free Food doesn't mean the calories don't count. Maybe I should repeat that over and over and maybe it would sink in!!!
Morning, gals! Well heck, it's almost NOT morning. Where does the day go???
Not much news since last night I'm afraid. I slept. Isn't that exciting? I'm supposed to be doing errands and laundry but I find myself here instead.
BarbG: It sounds like you just have too many food opportunities put right in front of your face. It IS very hard to pass up stuff when it's free. And usually free food does not warrant too many "good" choices. Get it together, pull on the "healthy" hat. FREE FOOD DOES HAVE CALORIES TOO!!!!!
Okey dokey, I think my time here is up. Must motivate in the direction of laundry or I will be going to Traverse City NAKED! Oh MY! Won't THAT be a sight????
Been off to a conference the last two days. Ate like a pig . I was actually seeing an improvement in the scale, but I'm not expecting a drop when I WI tomorrow. I usually am so good at least Wed. and Thurs. but this week, and especially today, was just HORRIBLE! Oh well, if I don't gain, I won't worry. I'm quite sure I'm retaining a ton of water anyway...got that bloated, tender-boobs, PMS thing going on big time!
Kim: I can't imagine the puppies in costume...they barely tolerate their collars! But they are just 11 weeks old. We start puppy kindergarten on Saturday. For some reason it appears folks are really big on dressing up boston terriers. I know that they don't do cold weather well, so sweaters will be necessary, I guess they better get used to them, huh? I joined a boston terrier board and while most of them seem very nice, I'm not sure it's the place for me, some of these folks are rabid about dogs (no pun intended). I'm rather sure that if I voiced some of my actual thoughts about some of the posts, I'd be virtually tarred and feathered....I dont know, I loved my Buffy, and I love Suzie and Mac, but I'm afraid I'm not as crazy about dogs as some people. I think I fit in better here...none of you are rabid!
The 10 year old won't be dating! I told him absolutley not. Maybe when he's 12 or 13 he can go to a chaperoned movie with a girl...not before. He was sooo mad and I thought it was pretty funny to be honest. He was complaining that another boy was teasing him because he has a girlfriend and DS doesn't. We told him that if he wanted to have a girlfriend that's fine...he just can't date. He can eat lunch with her and play with her at recess, etc. Turns out he hasn't even talked to the girl yet!!! We told him he wasn't allowed to say he liked a girl until he at least talked to her and he can't call her his girlfriend unless she agrees! So he wrote her a note..."I've had a crush on you since 3rd grade. Do you want to be my girlfriend? Check one YES [] NO[]" How incredibly cute is that! (Isn't there a country music song about that?)
Well ladies, I must go. Hope you all are having a good week and losing tons of weight! (Or at least, staying OP and feeling good about yourselves!)
Hello chickies, thought I had better pop in here for a quick hello, HELLO! I wouldn't want you to think that I had forgotten all of you, never! Just busy, busy, busy!
I am still OP for all of this week. I haven't stood on the scales yet, so I don't know how I am doing there, but that scale is often my downfall, so I thought I would keep away from it for awhile.
We have finished painting the den and now we are into cleanup. washing windows etc. That etc. stuff will just about kill you, much worse than painting! My DH seems to diappear when it comes time to do the grudge work, he doesn't know how to Yeah right, as if women were born knowing how to clean house.
Well, girls I am not going to linger long enough to "talk" to all of you this morning, but be well and OP. See ya later! Iwillbe....Ruth
Good Evening all,
I am new to these boards. I am 40 + and teacher weigh about 370 and need to lose this weight. I have had pnemonia(sp) twice this year and other minor aches and pains. I know it is because all of this weight I have gained in the past 5 years ( 100#),. I look forward to the support and any help you can provide. I had been swimming (5x a week) but got lay wayed because of illness and pure laziness. Well, I am ready to try again and succeed this time.
Becca
Thin - I know you're probably right, although being in Canada with our medical system I'm not sure that health care costs are as much on employers minds. I still get the impression from the place I went back to the second interview that my gender is the concern. It seems funny when the plant manager (who is a woman) brings it up again - that pretty much all the people I'll be working with are men. And the potential boss brings up the fact that I'll likely be on the floor 3/4 of the time (which I am now in my current job). For this job I'm slightly light on the experience which may hold me back as well. Figures that it's the one I really want. The other one I probably have a better chance with as it's pretty much a more automated division of the type of manufacturing I've already been involved with. Oh well, the 2nd interview we started talking money and how much notice I'd want to give my current company. (Since it's an inter-company transfer they tend to take more time.) As well, both introduced me to people as we walked around the plant so I'm taking that as a good sign and keeping my fingers crossed.
Ageoldie and Lilion - I have the same problem at work sometimes as meetings are booked over lunch and they're almost never good foods. A couple of times I've just gone and got my lunch although the last time the woman booking the meeting made a point to tell me she'd put veggies and fruit on the list of food coming in. I still had to watch myself on the sandwiches. The pizza days are the worst because the local pizza guy that a few of them always pick has the <B>best</B> pizza ever. The one thing last year is ask about vegetarian choices. It's not a perfect option, but the vegetable sandwiches may still have some type of spread on them, but the calories are better than the meat ones that have the spreads AND the meat.
Becca - back in June I spent a couple of weeks in the hospital with a very bad case of pneumonia with a pleural effusion (fancy term for fluid around the lung) and then weeks afterwards with a drainage tube. It was not fun and it's forced me to pay more attention to the diet/exercise/body reactions. It also sidetracked me from the diet/exercise routine since I was very into it when I got ill. I've found overall though that the minor aches and pains are gone since I started losing. Oh, there's the occasional twinge from overdoing it now and then, but the almost chronic pains are gone.
So, I had lunch with an old friend of mine yesterday between job interviews. I've only seen her once since I started losing weight (two weeks ago when I had my first interview in town I dropped in on her and her husband) and since I avoided the scales even before that I may have been even heavier than my recorded top weight when I saw her last. It was almost embarassing as she kept telling me how much I've changed and how good I look. And I realise that when I look in the mirror I still see the 400lb+ person I was more than a year ago. I'm thinking as I continue on that I'm still going to have issues seeing the person I'm becoming (will become) instead of the person I was. Even now I'm at least 50 lbs lighter than I've been for at least 15 years. (I've been in denial for so long about what I actually weight that I'm really not sure, I'm guessing - it may be longer.)
Just checking in. We were all prepared to have rain and storms from Rita, but all we have gotten is a little wind.
To make a very long story short, we are closing down our business, and Dh is going to be unemployed. Please pray that he can find something (and soon). But because of that we spend most of the day boxing up stuff and cleaning out offices of things we wanted to keep and bring to the house. There is barely room in the house for all the stuff I have here, much less all we brought in. I have boxes all over the house. Lots of the stuff we brought in is stuff to put up for sale on ebay, but we forgot to bring home the camera!!!
After we got home I went to sleep in my recliner and now I bet I won't be able to sleep tonight.
Well, Monday is here and the weekend is gone. I'm very sad about that, because I really like my weekends! They don't like my diet though.
I didn't even bother to WI on Friday. The home scale said 271, which would be 269 on the Dr scale. Of course, today it said 263 at home....The confusing scale saga continues.
My DS has been spurned! He didn't give his little lady love the note, he asked another girl to ask her if she'd be his girlfriend...and was told no. But Sunday a little girl called him at home. She didn't say anything after he got on the phone, but she called...Ah the soap opera of 5th graders!
Must run home now to let the puppies pee and start dinner in the crockpot for tonight. What an exciting life I lead.
Anne: Don't know if I've said "Hello" to you yet, but "Hello"! You've come such a long way! What great loss. Keep it up!
Ageoldie: So sorry about your DH having to close up shop. One of the main reasons I never decided to hang out my own shingle was the lack of security. I hope he finds something fast, that he'll just love to do!
Hello everyone. I have been so sick I've been hibernating. My bronchitis has gotten worse, not better. To the point that I have actually quit smoking. I decided I would much rather breath than smoke, so I put them down two days ago. Of course, I am not counting my points or anything, but I've decided that I have to give up the cigs before I can go any further with anything. If I gain 15 of my 35 back, so be it. I know I can get it off again, but I just feel like quitting smoking is so much more important than 15 pounds right now.
I am having to sleep sitting up, and take short choppy breaths and in turn, I am not getting enough sleep (or air) and have been having horrible anxiety attacks when I'm driving. So between being sick, quitting smoking and my anxiety attacks, I feel like I'm literally losing my grip. I've only broke down and lost control about five times today - AT WORK!!! My main guy made it clear yesterday that we were going to have a really busy day today and that he needed me here all day, sick or not. I was trying to explain to my female attorney (we are very good friends and I love her to pieces, so it wasn't that bad) that I just couldn't take this not breathing thing anymore and totally lost it in her office and started crying and everything else. Then our admin lady called and asked how I was feeling, and I started crying all over again. Our admin in turn called our floor coordinator to try to get me to go home, and I started crying all over again talking to her. Then I cried when I talked to the doctor, my mom, and hubby. I think I'm seriously on the edge, girls! The doc is calling me out all new meds, including something to help dry up my lungs and I am planning on taking at least tomorrow off to do nothing but rest and stay drugged up!
Seth's appt. last Thursday went good as far as I'm concerned. The doctor does want to do surgery, but he wants to wait two years until his growth spurt is over. He says it's a cartilage problem that's causing the breast bone to be pushed out. He assured me that he can do all of his normal activities without harm. I took this as good news, because you never know what can happen in two years. I figure God knows more than that doctor and since I have been praying for no surgery, I feel God met me half way and He may make it to where we don't have to have surgery in two years!!
Lilion - I can relate to the DS story. The first time Seth got spurned I wanted to march right over to the little girl's house and tell her off! Now that he's almost 14 and had a "steady" for almost five months, we never have a free phone line. I refuse to get him his own phone line, but Steve and I have been reduced to talking to each other on our cell phones! I hate to tell you this, but it just gets worse!! Hope the pups are coming along good.
AgeOldie - I'm so sorry you're having to close up your shop. I'll keep you and hubby in my prayers. Hopefully he'll find something that's a good fit for him, and soon. Hang in there.
Becca - A big welcome to you. This is a great and supportive forum, and not just for weight loss! I look forward to getting to know you better. (I'm normally not as neurotic as my ramblings here today - I promise!!)
Anne - I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your new job. Although we don't like to think about size/gender being issues, they unfortunately are at some places. I can honestly say it's not the case everywhere, and hopefully this won't be one of those places! Keep us posted.
Ladies, I do need to run as my lunch hour is almost over and I have plenty to do. Everyone take care and hang in there. - Kim
Doxie, Hang in there, I know how feeling bad can color everythings we do. I had a rough night last night. We went to a fundraiser dinner for a Christian College last night and I ran into several people who were good friends of my parents. Onen asked my how I was doing, and I started crying and that just started the chain reaction. Every time I saw someone new I started crying all over again.
congrats on giving up the ciggys! You can do it, and we will be here for you when you feel weak.
Old Hens - 40+ and ready to lose - Vol 12.
), so we both went to urgent care after hours today. I should have went earlier, but just didn't want to go. I hate going in there and admitting that I am still smoking. The deal with myself that I made when I started WW was to quit smoking when I've lost 50 pounds. I also wonder if that isn't why I have had these frequent sabatoge incidents. Anyway, I did manage to drag my butt out of bed on Saturday and go to WI. I lost another 2.2, which puts me a little over 35 pounds!! I have 15 more pounds to go and I am going to quit smoking for good. You heard it, and you are my witnesses, I am going to do this. It amazes people when they find out I do smoke, because for the most part I am very active and an exercise nut (for someone my size). But I know that's why I get bronchitis at least twice a year (and I let it go into pnuemonia last Spring). So, hubby and I are both home for the next couple of days sick.
Just checking in briefly between trips. 
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*Ooooo, good point, I wonder how many calories ARE burned with each step. I'll have to see if I can find that somewhere.
Who knows??? Either way, I'm glad that you have a second interview AND another option. My fingers are crossed 
that you will get whichever job you truly want.
ya bunches!!!
FREE FOOD DOES HAVE CALORIES TOO!!!!! 
Oh MY! Won't THAT be a sight????
. I was actually seeing an improvement in the scale, but I'm not expecting a drop when I WI tomorrow. I usually am so good at least Wed. and Thurs. but this week, and especially today, was just HORRIBLE! Oh well, if I don't gain, I won't worry. I'm quite sure I'm retaining a ton of water anyway...got that bloated, tender-boobs, PMS thing going on big time! 
Maybe when he's 12 or 13 he can go to a chaperoned movie with a girl...not before. He was sooo mad and I thought it was pretty funny to be honest. 
He was complaining that another boy was teasing him because he has a girlfriend and DS doesn't. We told him that if he wanted to have a girlfriend that's fine...he just can't date. He can eat lunch with her and play with her at recess, etc. Turns out he hasn't even talked to the girl yet!!! We told him he wasn't allowed to say he liked a girl until he at least talked to her and he can't call her his girlfriend unless she agrees! So he wrote her a note..."I've had a crush on you since 3rd grade. Do you want to be my girlfriend? Check one YES [] NO[]" How incredibly cute is that! (Isn't there a country music song about that?)
I'm very sad about that, because I really like my weekends! They don't like my diet though.
congrats on giving up the ciggys! You can do it, and we will be here for you when you feel weak.
