[wyattsmomee]

Hi my friend introduced me to the south beach and also this site. After telling her of my concerns of how my weight is affecting my relationship she told me how this plan worked for her and could for me. Im really clueless about it, but have been reading as much as i can up here. Cant wait to start this diet and fix my relationship, and make myself feel better

Im currently at 156. Ive had a hard time sheading that pregnancy weight, plus post partum depression didnt help. My fiance recently experssed his concerns of how I was gaining.I am small framed leaving me with a flabby tum at 156. My goal is 125 by new years, if not before.

I admit I've bene doing it very unhealthy by just not eating last few days since my fiance let me know exactly how he felt. My friend talked to me though and expressed her conern which I took to heart and am now trying the healthier way of getting rid of this weight.

Thats enougth rambling from me for one post. Im off to read more

[H-ko]

wyattsmomee - Welcome to the Beach! The SBD is really about living a healthy lifestyle, and getting to a reasonable weight is only part of it. Be sure to take a few minutes to look over the FAQ forum, with such helpful information as the most current food lists and transition advice, and the recipes forum, which is chock-full of delicious recipes for the different phases of the SBD. There is also a daily chat thread; feel free to join in anytime and chat away! Everyone here is extremely helpful and supportive.

Finally, be sure to set realistic goals for yourself. Doing otherwise is simply setting yourself up for failure, disappointment, and depression (which you don't need on top of post partum depression!). Generally, allowing for a loss of about 1 lb a week is not unreasonable, although be aware that as you draw near to your goal weight, you may find the weight is slower to come off. With that in mind, you might want to rethink your weight loss goals, which I see currently require you to lose approximately 2 lbs a week. I don't want to discourage you - far from it - but I don't want you to get discouraged by not reaching your goals, either. If you set a modest goal and reach it, you will feel good. If you set a modest goal and exceed it, you will feel terrific!

Good luck to you!

[pearshape]

Hi, wyattsmomee! Welcome to the beach! You will see that you will start to look and feel great on this plan. I wish you the best of luck in this and we are all here for you, just remember that gaining or losing weight will not "fix" a relationship. Do it for yourself, first of all. If your man really loves you he will love you no matter what. I personally think that any disparaging comments from a SO regarding weight are inexcusable. You deserve better than that...esp after having a baby. Good luck! This site is great and will be a huge help!

[Schatzi]

Pear and HKO SPEAKUM TRUTH! Welcome to the Beach Wyattsmomee!

[beachgal]

Hi, Wyattsmomee!

I think you'll love SBD...it's so healthy, so it's great for you, and good for your child in that you'll be showing him how to eat healthy and live healthy. You'll be a great role model!

WM, I agree with Pear. If your fiance was making fun of you or making you feel badly about your weight, he needs to step back! That's totally inexcusable. Most women find it difficult to lose their pregnancy weight, and it does take time. Having Post Partum Depression can affect this a lot, especially if your meds affect weight. Don't let him pressure you and know that losing weight doesn't fix anything other than your health. If there are problems, losing the fat will just make them more obvious. We eat, often, to hide our problems...they don't go away when we lose weight. Pear is right...you need to do this for you, for your son, but not for your fiance.

If, on the other hand, he's telling you that he's worried for your health, that's another thing all together. Enlist his help in putting SBD in place, get him to keep junk food out of the house and ask him to eat dinners with you. He can be a great support!

WM, make sure you read the book before you start. You can get it from your local library. It might look long, but half the book is recipes and menus, so it's not, really. SBD can be tricky even after you read the book...without reading it, you are unlikely to be able to figure it out well. So please, please, please read the book first. Take the time to stock your kitchen with good foods and to clear it of off plan foods. Figure out how you are going to make it through Phase 1...make sure you don't have any temptations and that everyone knows what you are doing so they can support you and not sabotage your efforts. Then start. You'll do much better if you prepare first.

Check out the stickies in the FAQ for tons of info and help, check out the recipe forum for amazing recipes, especially for Phase 1, and join us on the daily...the thread with the name of the day in the title.

Glad to have you here!

[Ruthxxx]

Welcome to The Beach and a new way of life. The Chickies all have good advice, as usual. Please note that the Phase I Food List in the FAQ is updated from the one in the book!

[Barb1037]

Wyattsmomee,

Welcome to the Beach! I agree with all of these smart chicks when they say that your fiance' needs to be a bit more sensitive and supportive!

Stay with us and feel free to tell us how things are going!

[Barb0522]

Welcome to the Beach! You've been given some wonderful advice. I just want to add that it isn't all that easy to go back to a flat belly after having a baby. You might want to consider adding some abdominal exercises to help you. I've lost a lot of weight and have really toned arms and legs but I still have lots of loose skin on my belly from my son. Now, you may be a lot younger than I am (I'm 42) so your skin may be more elastic but I can definitely say that abdominal exercises will help tone your stomach muscles. A slow weight loss (1-2 lbs a week) is best to give the skin time to shrink as you lose the weight. And it will probably take you longer to lose than some of us who had a lot more to lose - especially as you get closer to goal. But every little bit will help you to be healthier. And will help you to introduce your child to healthier food as he/she gets older.

[wyattsmomee]

thanks for all the advice and welcome! Im changing my short term goal to 5lbs. I agree i dont want to get disappointed with not meeting 10, and by chance if i did lose 10 that would be an even bigger boost for me and moral. I joined yesterday, but i may officially start this weekend. I need to shop right to get the things to eat. Im so happy to have found this site.

As far as my situation with my fiance goes, I am doing it more for myself. We're on a rocky path right now and if this doesnt work...hey atleast i'll be in shape and be more confident to et out there and start dating again one day. LoL

[Barb1037]

I like the way you think wyattsmomee! I hope your relationship works itself out, but you need to put yourself and your DS ahead of your fiance'!