I hate the fact that I can be SOOOO FOCUSED during the week and then, BOOM....it's the weekend and I have no self control!! I did great all week long but friday evening (after work) all I could think about was a big fat greasy pizza! I even had a decent dinner (turkey sandwich on wheat bread, yogurt and a piece of fruit) Anyway, to make a long story short....by 8pm Friday evening....I ended up having a "late-er" dinner of pizza and wings.....that satisfied me for like 2 minutes and then I was all pissed off over it.....so I did very well on saturday....I went to the gym, ate better and I thought that I was back on track......but then SUNDAY HIT....and, right from breakfast....nothing satisfied me.....I had a yogert for breakfast....a piece of fruit and a half a turkey sandwich an hr later because I was still hungry....at noon I had a nice juillanne salad....I went to the gym at 2 because I figured that'd help me get rid of the "hungries"....but it didn't....and then pretty much the flood gates opened again, I had the left over wings in the fridge, 2 pop tarts and a BIG turkey sandwitch with all the good trimming like mayo, cheeze.....at 7pm (feeling like it just didn't matter what else I ate today, because I blew it soo bad) I made my wife and I a nice plate of past with meat sauce.....oh.....and I had soda for the first time Sunday (ok....that was GOOD!) but it's now monday morning and I feel as though ANY of the progress that I made last week went out the window on Friday and Sunday......ANYBODY ELSE GO THROUGH THIS STUFF???????????? I'm sitting hear truly wondering if I am going to go through another good week, just to kill it this weekend!!!! Any tips or tricks to making it through "down" times would be great.....also, (and I highly doubt this one...lol) any one have a good replacement for that urge for greasy foods?????????
Thanks for listening......I think I could use a "weekend buddy" as I think this will be the toughest time for me!
Well, check out www.bodyforlife.com the idea behind this lifestyle is you have a "freeday". You need it. If you are going to seriously change your weight for life, you have to make it a lifestyle and not a diet.
One of the biggest problems people have is that they look at it as a diet. As soon as they are done losing the weight they want they go back to their old habits. In order for this to work, it have to be seen as a LIFESTYLE and NOT a DIET.
It's all about moderation. You can have your pizza. Just don't eat the pie. Have 2 slices. Have the wings just don't eat the dipping sauce that comes with it.
As far as your sandwiches go, you can have cheese and mayo and stuff just fat free. The small changes add up.
I find, that when I cut things back too drastically, that's when the major cravings come and I end up bingeing. Make sure you are getting enough good fats in your diet. That will help some with the greasy cravings. Also, a lot of our "cravings" are conditioned. It's our mind trained to want them at certain times or while we do certaini things. Like for a very long time, I couldn't watch a movie without a bowl of popcorn. I had conditioned myself to eat popcorn while I watched a movie. So, instead of the HUGE bowl I used to make I started making smaller and smaller portions until, I no longer HAVE to have it.
So... long post... sorry... hope it helps a little.
Nugs - I think alot of us went through that at first...how long have you been on your program? I have been doing mine for about 3 months now and the first month and a half was **** on the weekends...it was a free for all when it came to eating, and I was just like you, if I blew it in the morning with breakfast then the whole day was a major food fest...most of the time I gained back the 1-2 pounds that I had lost for the week, so it was getting me no where fast...but then it hit me, IF I could get through the weekend I may see the weight come off faster, and it did and has...I am so excited lately with the weight loss that blowing the weekend doesnt even enter my mind....I would also say that you might check how much food you are eating, you may not be eating enough therefore triggering a binge....but you can get through a weekend...I dont necessarily think it is a good thing to have a "free day" every week, but that is just because it doesnt work out for me...if you can do it more power to you....I would try to get through 2 or 3 weeks of staying OP, including weekends, and then have a "free day"....it will all work out you just need to find your niche on your program... good luck
Thanks SOOO much for your replies....this is just my 2nd week working on my weight.....so I get what you mean about it being tough at first.....it's really scary for me to think about the QUANTITY of food that I ate (and seem to want to eat!) You mentioned that I might not be eating enough......honestly, that was a problem that I have had in the past.....I have, at times, gone 2-3 days without eating and then on the 3rd or 4th day....just BINGE all day long cause I couldn't stand the hunger anymore.....
This time through though I am really focusing on loosing weight the healthy way (I lost over 100 lbs in like 9 months the other way....but obviously - I put it all back on!) So this time through I am eating every 2 hrs....a piece of fruit or a sandwich....BUT YOUR RIGHT....I might not be eating enough....so I am going to take your advice and make sure that I am eating a little more (especially on Thurs and Friday)
It's funny, I've gone almost my whole life not worrying about how much food I eat....and then when I get more focused about my weight....I HATE to eat....ANYTHING....every time I eat - it's a constant reminder of me being overweight and I just loose my appitite (which is normally not an easy thing! LOL)
OK....just caught myself babbling....sorry.....
I just want to say AGAIN....that these message boards are going to be MY SAVIOR.....It's really helpfull to read and talk with other people and it really helps for me to open up on here and share what's knocking around my noggen.....so THANKS FOR SHARING AND THANKS FOR LISTENING!
It's amazing what a small shift in my routine will do....while at work...I can do so well...and then at home....from the minute I wake to the minute I go to bed....it's a fight to stay out of the fridge (and the cubbards and out of the resturaunts) Litterally half my day Sunday was spent thinking about why I shouldn't eat my way through the house....SUCKED! and by mid afternoon I did stop thinking of it - solely because I was DOING IT!
I hope that these weekend urges stop (or atleast slow) because I can't go through that every weekend!!
HERE'S to week 2!!!
Actually, it just hit me.....I am going to make an ACTIVE effort to be more active this weekend....I don't know what I am going to do YET as the idea just came to me....but I am going to do SOMETHING....I was just going over in my head what my weekend activities were this past weekend....and it consisted of watching NASCAR on Sunday (a nice 4 hr pd on the couch) and sleeping in till 11am on Sat and then sat my A$$ on the couch pretty much all day! I think it's time for that to change!!!!!!!!!
Nugs, your weekend sounds like mine and my husbands...we dont have kids so we can sleep in until whenever on the weekends....it is sooooooooo
wonderful...
Yeah the main problem is sitting at home and having nothing to do to occupy your time...because then you sit at home and think "hmm wonder what is in the fridge that I can eat??" if your time is filled you dont...
I think I read another post from you on another thread about helping your wife out who is having a hard time dealing with her weight...what you wrote was really sweet and I feel for your wife...but she can make it happen and so can you, I am living proof of that, I know exactly how your wife feels but you have to want it and do it!!
My heighest weight was 258 and now I am down to 207 ( need to change my signature ).. I am following the WW plan and it is working and I am so happy about, because I know now that it can be done....
Sorry to preach and go on and on... but I just know how it is...
Your not preaching at all Carri....THIS is exactly the reason I joined this group...I need this type of advice!!
I really feel for my wife too....when we met....she was a size 14....now...she is a BEAUTIFUL, SEXY and PERFECT size 22....She has probably put on 50 lbs since we met in 2001 (I must be a good cook!) and when I met her - I was 220...so I guess that I put on 50 too!! (how funny....I never thought of that until now) ANYWHOO......I have seen many pics of my wife - even as late as 6 years ago where she was....130 (soaking wet) and I know she must be playing her life out in her head over and over again about being that thin and active......and I know it's just killing her.....and to see her upset...is killing me!
Was there even a POINT to my rambling?!?!?
Anyway, I think that she's finally gotten to the point where she is willing to WORK torwards her weight goals....but she is SOOO saddened at night when we sit/lay together.....also....I am blessed with quick weight loss....it's only been a week for me and I don see physical changes in my body (mostly my face) and it isn't going so fast for her (in all honsety, she hasn't eaten as well as I have) so she is getting discouraged - I'm just trying to keep her as motivated as I can - because as soon as she sees the smallest of improvements, I know that she will be on cloud nine!
At this point (and I don't know why?!?) I feel the need to say that my wife is THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD TO ME and I know she can do it!!!
This post ended up being more like a joural entry....I apologize greatly to anyone who read this - I know ya all have better things to do with your time than to read about me and my wife - but it all just came out and I am too lazy to erase and rewrite something more "group worthy"
I promise to make my future posts more for the group... thanks for listening!
Nugs, no you are fine to write all that, it helps to get it out....I was a size 5 when my husband and I first started dating...weighing in at about 115 pounds, after we got married I kept gaining year after year after year, finally getting up to the 258...it is harder for us women when we have been thin before and also harder for us when we know our husbands/boyfriends fell in love with us when we were much thinner....but it sounds like she ( as do I ) have a great supportive husband, and with you helping her she can do it...
My husband has recently lost about 26 pounds doing the Atkins diet, BUT he only had about 35 or so to lose, so his has came off faster and he didnt have as much to lose as myself...it seems to come off faster for men ha....
We walk together almost every night after work and he pushes me to go when I dont want to ( which happens alot, ha )...so doing this together is going to make a big difference...keep me posted....
hey nugs you stick to what your doing ive gained 135 pound since my hubby and ui first married{15 year ago}and his constantly worrying about my health while still loving me made me want to lose weight and the firet step is always the hardest but like me youve found the perfect place to be RIGHT HERE maybe your wife should come on a little encouragement goes a looooong way hang in ther for both of you
This is the story of my life!!! I do so well during the wk and then once the wknd comes it's all down hill!!! My problem is going out with friends all the time and drinking, I don't drink beer (can't imagine how that would work into the diet) but the amount of vodka one can consume in 3 days of going out is just straight up NUTS!!! Did I forget to mention the drunk munchies when I leave a bar, lounge or club...FORGET IT
It knocks me off track and next thing ya know my thoughts of the wk are I can't believe I ate that! Not only that my mind is now thinking about food and food and more well um...food!
I wanna wish you the best of luck with your wknds! I sure do know I'm in need of some serious help with them and with keeping my mind on being thin for the summer rather than the frump girl I've let myself turn into
nugs, I think you have some pretty sound ideas to get yourself going. and your wife certainly sounds lucky to have you. Hope you find some activities the two of you can enjoy. It sounds like you like to cook. maybe tweaking the way you cook a little?
wish my kitty was as sweet as you.
I got my wife a little present today and I thought that I would share it with you guys.....I got her the "walk away the pounds" dvd and and an MTV pilati's DVD.....she has used the walk away the pounds series with some success a year or so ago....but when we remodeled a few of our rooms in our house....the VCR got replaced with DVD players....and since she had tapes....she stopped doing them....she really missed doing the tapes....
I only mention this stuff because my wife feels REALLY uncomfortable going to the YMCA with me - she does not want to work out around other people - so instead of having her feel this way (on top of already being down about other things) I am hoping she will feel more comfortable working out at home....AND BONUS....IT'S NOW SOMETHING THAT WE CAN DO TOGETHER!!!!
So for any of you that feel uncomfortable working out at the gym....this walking away the lbs program is awsome!! I highly recomend it! if you want more info on the tapes....let me know (maybe if someone asks nicely....I can "recycle" the old to a new home! let me know if any are interested....
Take care all.....and just so you know this is my first post of the day....I went through withdrawl all day long not being able to post (STUPID WORK GETTING IN THE WAY!)
Nugs, great job on getting the WATP Dvds .... I also have those and really like them, sometimes it is just too cold here in IN to walk ( or has been lately )
and those are an excellent way to get some exercise inside, I have not heard about the MTV pilates but let me know how she likes it, I might be interested in that....have a good one...
nugs,
I must say that you are a very sweet husband. I have the same feelings as your wife about going to a gym and working out in front of other people so I also work out at home. I seem to also have the some problem as you losing it on the weekends. I am a stay at home wife so I don't know how I do so well during the week and on the weekends go crazy but I do. Well I wish you and your wife well on your weight loss.
F#*@*^$ Weekends!!!!
Actually, it just hit me.....I am going to make an ACTIVE effort to be more active this weekend....I don't know what I am going to do YET as the idea just came to me....but I am going to do SOMETHING....I was just going over in my head what my weekend activities were this past weekend....and it consisted of watching NASCAR on Sunday (a nice 4 hr pd on the couch) and sleeping in till 11am on Sat and then sat my A$$ on the couch pretty much all day! I think it's time for that to change!!!!!!!!!
ha....
