i admittedly have an unhealthy history with weight loss. every time ive lost any weight in my life, it has been thru restriction of some kind, fueled by self hate, and it would be hard for me to stop doing what i was doing bc of my low self esteem and the instant satisfaction of losing weight quickly.
obviously that method of weight loss didnt do me any favors LMAO. ik that my only hope now is just being normal about weight loss, but my biggest challenge is being okay with the weight loss being slower. its hard for me to feel good about myself in the state my body is in and i just wanna speed it up so i can get out of my meatsuit. if anyone has any tips/words of advice on how to be okay with slower weight loss + living in a bigger body for a long period of time, it would be greatly appreciated!!!
Yep, as soon as you start eating and exercising according to your plan the old brain want to see scale results NOW!
The desire for instant scale gratification is even greater if you've got important events coming soon.
Makes it clear why it's so helpful to have a diet buddy to check in with frequently - daily isn't too often. Someone who understands that you're working to keep to your plan and that scale changes will happen as your body sees fit. A real life diet buddy is just the best. If that doesn't work for you, online diet buddies can work very well.
Posting here on 3FC is a great way to find a diet buddy or buddies who give positive support to, "I watched the whole movie without eating a single sleeve of Girl Scout Thin Mints."
I can relate. Honestly, I've found the best thing to do is to do your best to eat healthy and be somewhat aware of calories consumed vs calories burned (to know if you are creating a calorie deficit) but to do this without becoming obsessive. In diets past, I became obsessed with food tracking/weighing and made myself into a crazy person with disastrous results. I found that only made me feel incredible deprivation and ultimately pushed me over edge so that I quit trying and started bingeing again. And when I say binge, I mean BINGES that would go on for years. I am 63 years old, very close to becoming a Type II Diabetic. I have numerous family members with that affliction and with serious complications (neuropathy, almost blindness, kidney failure). I have taken to heart what they are going through and my personal goal is to lose some weight, improve my A1C numbers and avoid Diabetes. I also want to feel healthy and strong. I'm tired of feeling tired and in pain. I came to this conclusion back in late January and started making slow changes which have added up to me losing about 25 pounds (I still need to lose 60-70 to feel like an average size person), I did little things like trying to make sure I drank 8 glasses of water per day, adding fruits and vegetables (aiming for 5-9 per day), slowly starting exercise. I started drinking green tea every day as I've read and believe it improves metabolism, I drink a cup of Kombucha green tea every day as I've read it strengthens immune system (cannot attest to this, however, I haven't been sick and have been feeling healthier). I gave up adding half & half or cream to my coffee and only use no-sugar almond milk. Whenever I have hunger pangs between meals or before bed, I have a spoonful or two of plain non-fat Greek yogurt (lots of protein and probiotics); makes me feel full; took awhile to get accustomed to the taste and eating it plain. You could start by having the yogurt but adding sugar-free Jello powder or jelly/jam for a little flavor and then wean yourself off those add-ins. If I'm going to a party or someone else's house, I always make a side dish that I know I can "fill up on" before eating whatever they are offering (like a salad or a mixed vegetable dish). I keep a jar of unsalted peanuts in my car in case I'm driving around and the hunger hits badly; helps me avoid stopping to buy something unhealthy, gets some "healthy" fats from the nuts but you do have to be careful not to overdo it because they are high in calories. I share your frustration with the scale. You have to keep saying to yourself that some number on a scale does not define you as a person!!! As long as you are moving in the right direction with healthy food and exercise, then you are doing a great thing for yourself and your future. The scale WILL ultimately move in the right direction. It might take awhile. Maybe give the scale a break and just focus on yourself. I definitely have a love/hate relationship with the scale; if I lose weight, it motivates me; if I gain weight, it frustrates me. All you can do is ask for spiritual help to stay the course, do the right things and good things will happen. Do some research on the internet to find some interesting new recipes or exercises to try. Do whatever you can to keep a positive mindset. Relax and stay focused and strong. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! I CAN DO THIS!!! BELIEVE AND ACHIEVE :-)
Keep in mind that you are, according to your stats, trying to lose over 60 pounds? I'm currently trying to lose over 80 and even losing seven pounds in two weeks doesn't feel fast enough - I know what you mean about feeling trapped in the big body you are trying to reduce especially since your starting BMI is lower than mine with you being much taller than me AND having a lower start weight, and trying to be okay with the way you are while you wait for your meal plan/exercise routine to take effect. The meatsuit...haha. But anyway my main point here is that from what I've seen online at least, quick weight loss over 50 pounds is MORE likely to leave you with the dreaded loose skin. So if you lose weight more slowly (and I'm on a 1200 cal plan so I don't know how much I'm following my own advice) you are staving off that possible effect. Granted I have loose...fat folds I guess that sag already -mainly on the belly. You probably already heard that quick massive weight loss is more likely to lead to loose skin than gradual weight loss, but when I get frustrated and want to lose weight faster I try to think of that. But if anyone has any BETTER tips for being OKAY with the body you are currently stuck with let me know because I also have low self esteem and struggle with the weight. You might not even have that problem though, it also depends on how old you are and your genes so good luck!
I totally understand where you're coming from, and it's so brave of you to share your experience. It's tough to break free from the cycle of restrictive dieting, especially when quick results can feel so rewarding. But slow and steady progress is healthier and more sustainable in the long run. It’s all about being kind to yourself and focusing on how you feel rather than just the numbers. If you're looking for extra support in your weight loss journey, some people consider using medications like Wegovy to help manage their weight. You can buy Wegovy online, but definitely consult with a healthcare provider to make sure it's right for you. Remember, you're not alone in this.
I really appreciate your honesty here, and I can totally relate to what you’re saying. It’s tough when you’ve been stuck in that cycle of quick fixes and self-criticism. But it sounds like you’re ready for a healthier approach, which is a huge step in the right direction!
One thing that helped me shift my mindset was focusing less on the scale and more on how I felt day-to-day. It wasn’t easy at first, but I started celebrating the small wins—like feeling stronger after a workout, having more energy, or even just making a healthier choice at a meal. These little victories added up over time and made the process feel more rewarding, even if the weight wasn’t dropping off as fast as I might have wanted.
It also helped to remind myself that sustainable weight loss isn’t a race. You’re building habits that will serve you for life, not just until you reach a certain number. And yeah, it takes time, but that’s okay because you’re worth the investment. Your body is doing amazing things for you every day, and it deserves to be treated with kindness and patience.
As for being okay with living in a bigger body for a while—easier said than done, right? I found it useful to focus on self-care that wasn’t related to weight loss. Doing things that made me feel good, like getting outside, practicing some mindfulness, or even just wearing clothes that I felt comfortable in, helped me feel more at ease in my body as it was.
Remember, progress isn’t just measured by the scale—it’s also in how you’re healing your relationship with yourself. Take it one day at a time, and be as gentle with yourself as you would with a friend going through the same thing.
I know how you feel hun. I was fat and self conscious for so long, mainly due to depression and anxiety and it was awful. I lost weight slowly, and honestly it was hard, but you got to just suffer now and reap the rewards later. I forced myself to go out in public when i was obese and i knew people gave me disgusted looks, but I thought to myself, one day this will end and you just gotta think long term and be patient
One thing that helped me shift my mindset was focusing less on the scale and more on how I felt day-to-day. It wasn’t easy at first, but I started celebrating the small wins—like feeling stronger after a workout, having more energy, or even just making a healthier choice at a meal. These little victories added up over time and made the process feel more rewarding, even if the weight wasn’t dropping off as fast as I might have wanted.
That can be frustrating. I struggled with slow weight loss for the longest time too! However, soon enough I realised that everyone’s journey in weight loss is bound to be different. Personally, what works for me is a customized workout plan and a balanced diet for me to follow everyday.
Consistency was a struggle at first, but soon enough, it became second nature. Eventually, I started drinking a good morning coffee and this boosted my weight loss process. It is a proven fact that caffeine speeds up metabolism and aids in losing weight. It’s a long process but fret not, the end goal would be worth it!
Weight loss can be tough, but having a support system helps so much. Celebrate every small victory and don’t get discouraged by setbacks. Consistency and patience are key. Keep believing in yourself—you’re stronger than you think!
Weight loss can be tough, but having a support system helps so much. Celebrate every small victory and don’t get discouraged by setbacks. Consistency and patience are key. Keep believing in yourself—you’re stronger than you think!
cant cope with slow weight loss </3
