[ObeseAunt]

I am the same person as ObeseGirlfriend. Moderators if you must delete one of my accounts, please delete ObeseGirlfriend. I made another account to bypass the 5 posts per day rule. Tonight of all nights I need support as I am legit suicidal right now.
I went from 303 lb to 429 lb to please my boyfriend. He is a fat fetishist. I made my acne more severe to please him. He is an acne fetishist. I did other things to please his fetishes. I shaved my head
I stopped shaving my body. I would sometimes go days without showering. ect.
Tonight I confronted him about my suspicions that he is sabotaging my efforts to lose weight. He admitted it and also begged me not to lose weight. This muscular, lean, fit man begged his pre-diabetic, hypertensive, sickly? 429 lb, obese girlfriend not to lose weight. I am a woman who's mother has diabetes, who's 35 year old sister has diabetes, and who's grandmother died because of diabetes. I told him I will lose weight whether he likes it or not.
He dumped me. HE DUMPED ME. I cried and begged him to take me back. He said he will only take me back if I continue gaining weight. I even considered it before deciding to pack my bags and leave.
Now I am staying with my sister, mom, and niece. I have no place of my own because I gave it up to live with my boyfriend. I don't have much money because I had quit my job because my boyfriend wanted me to. My niece, sister, and mom are the only reasons I am not ending it all right now.

[FrankB]

The best thing you could have done is to get away from this man !

[shellofself]

I posted on another thread by "ObeseGirlfriend"...

You have two huge life choices you can make: (1) Tell him you'll kill yourself for him (because that's what you're doing if you "agree" to continue gaining weight when you're already at 429lbs) and get back together, OR (2) Tell him you love yourself too much to cut your own life short and move on.

My two cents? Get out. Do something. As embarrassed as you may be, reach out to a loved one. Whether you confide in them or not, you definitely need a distraction from this incredibly unhealthy ex-relationship.

[ObeseAunt]

Originally Posted by shellofself

I posted on another thread by "ObeseGirlfriend"...

You have two huge life choices you can make: (1) Tell him you'll kill yourself for him (because that's what you're doing if you "agree" to continue gaining weight when you're already at 429lbs) and get back together, OR (2) Tell him you love yourself too much to cut your own life short and move on.

My two cents? Get out. Do something. As embarrassed as you may be, reach out to a loved one. Whether you confide in them or not, you definitely need a distraction from this incredibly unhealthy ex-relationship.

He dumped me and I told my family about him ?

[Denise_Taylor]

Well for one I'm glad you chose yourself over him! I know it may be hard for you right now but you can now control and take back your life! You most definitely don't need anyone like that in your life! He was slowly killing you! Don't get me wrong I understand fetishes are serious because I have a shoe fetish and ink pen fetish so I most definitely understand but the type of fetish he has is not a healthy one at all! He's basically playing with your life span and health! Please stay around your family that you are close to and the ones that you most definitely feel loved by! I'm sure they will be your support system! Try to regain focus and direct all of your focus and energy directly on yourself. Take each day at a time. And it's good that you want to do better for yourself and make the changes with your weight and health. And another thing, if he loved you the way he say he did then he would encourage you to lose the weight especially when you basically told him that your health was involved in it. Most definitely stay away from that relationship, it's very unhealthy!

[ObeseGirlfriend]

Originally Posted by Denise_Taylor

Well for one I'm glad you chose yourself over him! I know it may be hard for you right now but you can now control and take back your life! You most definitely don't need anyone like that in your life! He was slowly killing you! Don't get me wrong I understand fetishes are serious because I have a shoe fetish and ink pen fetish so I most definitely understand but the type of fetish is has is not a healthy one at all! He's basically playing with you life span and health! Please stay around your family that you are close to and the ones that you most definitely feel loved by! I'm sure they will be your support system! Try to regain focus and direct all of your focus and energy directly to yourself. Take each day at a time. And it's good that you want to do better by yourself and make the changes with your weight and health. And another thing, if he loved you the way he say he did then he would encourage you to lose the weight especially when you basically told him that your health was involved in it. Most definitely stay away from that relationship, it's very unhealthy!

Thank you. He didn't love or cared about my health

[Denise_Taylor]

Exactly hun! How are you holding up today? How are things going?