[Calorieguzzler]

I'm happy to be here today to talk with you guys! As my title says, I've never had support through my weight loss, it's not something I talk about, and I don't have many friends. I kinda just ignore my size outside of my head. I weighed 436 pounds in Dec 2014 and I'm now 330 pounds. I've been 330 pounds for about 6 months now, just maintaining through multiple frustrating moments of being 329, 331, 328.8, etc., that killed any motivation I had. I'm about 100 pounds behind my goal. But that's okay. It's a new year, right?


I've been struggling since January to lose weight and I've been falling on my face the entire time. My boyfriend, who has been with me through all my weird shapes, has become upset with me. Basically, I would make comments about what I'm doing to assist in my weight loss, opening the portal of communication on the elephant in the room (me) and he'd offer his opinion on things, but sometimes he would offer his opinion/thoughts when I wasn't talking to him about my weight and that made me angry. Anyway, it's ended up with him no longer being interested in talking to me at all about my weight. To be honest, I don't blame him.


Even when I feel like no one believes in me, I believe in myself, dammit.
And here we are...I'm going to make a support system from the ground up even if it kills me!

[EagleRiverDee]

Hi- I meant to respond to this a few days ago. I think it's AMAZING that you've lost 100 lbs. Seriously- that's a major accomplishment! You have done great things for your health, for your mobility, and I hope for your self-confidence because if you can lose 100 lbs, you can do anything. ANYTHING.

I can understand with your BF - Guys are wired different than women. Women many times just want to vent, or just talk to someone who gets it. Guys are hard-wired to try and fix any problems they encounter, not talk about them. So if you're trying to talk about your frustrations to him, he may take that as a queue to start making suggestions to try and fix the problem you are presenting. When maybe really you just want to talk. That's what girlfriends are for. ;-)

I totally believe in you. I hope you stick around on 3FC because it sounds like you have some wisdom to share!

[Calorieguzzler]

Thank you so much! I'm so happy someone understands what I mean about the boyfriend thing. This forum is so perfect for me in my life right now

[giselley]

I agree with that answer as well. Women and men use different communication strategies. We like to work in a group with other "friends." Women also can "web think" in ways that stun men, who are mainly "linear" thinking. It is really best to find a group of like-minded people to vet with and too. And believe me, there is a lot to vent about!