[Countrycutie1986]

Hi I've recently joined eharmony and I am feeling a little bit frustrated with lack of communication.

I'm not very experienced in dating because I'm shy and I am finally putting myself out there. Do any of you feel discouraged by online dating or dating in general? I'm still working on losing weight but I know I have so much to offer.

[JayZeeJay]

My advice is don't confine yourself to one site. I had tried a pay site (Match) with little success meeting people with whom I clicked. I gave up for a while, then tried OK Cupid (a free site). I immediately began meeting people that were more my type. There's no harm in trying both. I met my now husband on OK cupid. Also, have a friend look over your profile and pictures. My husband told me later that he liked me despite my pictures, as I was apparently too far away in most of them. And my profile was very "buddy" like, not romantic at all. A good friend would probably have helped me a lot with that.

[lemonthyme]

I agree, keep tabs on your photos, in fact have a friend help you take them and then go through and find the best ones, closer up ones are better. Sorry, but people are visual when it comes to selecting, play up your best features and shoot away. Don't get too discouraged at first, sadly some people are hung up on the physical and won't bother contacting you unless you fit a certain ideal that they have. But guess what? there are so many others out there that look beyond the physical. Make your info intriguing and draw them in, nothing wrong w/showing a sense of humor if that's a strength.

I can't recall what site I was on way back when, but it would let you know who was looking at you - sorry but I was in my mid 20s-30s in age and when I saw these old guys of 55 on up looking at my profile, I GOT discouraged (and frankly kind of creeped out), but in the end had a laugh - at least someone was looking to start with. Good luck with it, give it some time, the rest will follow.

[novangel]

I met my husband on Eharmony in December 2007. I joined thinking I would maybe at least get a date or two out if it but here we are today. Been almost 10 years together.

[Swinella]

I'm *so* over online dating. It's not even dating anymore. The people I've met are just looking for hookups. Maybe it's the vibe I'm putting out to the world.

[JesikaBeth]

Originally Posted by Countrycutie1986

Hi I've recently joined eharmony and I am feeling a little bit frustrated with lack of communication.

I'm not very experienced in dating because I'm shy and I am finally putting myself out there. Do any of you feel discouraged by online dating or dating in general? I'm still working on losing weight but I know I have so much to offer.

I felt discouraged for a long time, yes! It's hard to meet people "in the real world" when you're in your 30's, out of school, and don't regularly frequent places where you'd meet savory characters

I tried online dating on and off for about 5 years. Had a few relationships during that time, but they always ended. I was looking to settle down, and they were not.

THEN... I met one special person... She saw ME for ME.

Today, we're married! We've been married since September 26, 2015.

Best wishes to you. I know it's hard, but try to be patient. The one will come a long

[muelle12]

I joined OkCupid after feeling pretty down about not meeting anyone. About a month later, after wading through all the people just looking for one night stands(ugh), I met my husband! Sometimes You have to wade through a lot of trash to find a flower but I am so glad to have stuck it out.