Hey everyone. I'm not too sure if this is ok to post here but I'm having a really bad day and ever fibre in me is screaming to go comfort eat! I'm on the ideal protein diet so I can't cheat. The truth is I'm not even hungry I'm just so emotional right now I just want to emotionally eat!
I'm angry at myself for even thinking of cheating and I'm even more angry at myself for being so emotional over someone who is just a plain ***! ( long story short there is this guy that I was involved with, care for him deeply and last week we were texting and he randomly left me hanging mid conversation!!! And two weeks later ( today) he sent me an email saying he's met someone else and is really happy with her and wants us to be friends! I emailed him back and told him that him leaving me hanging randomly mid convo was pathetic and not to ever contact me again. I know I did the right thing but I'm so upset! And the truth is I am over 100 pounds overweight because I have been an emotional eater for most of my life.I tried talking to my friend and explained to her that food is like and addiction and she just scoffed at that and said addiction is to alcohol and drugs and just told me to try to relax! I'm sorry for dumping all of this here. But I can't stop crying and I really want to go thru the McDonald's drive thru close to my house
I know this post was possibly about an hour ago... Now I am not sure if you are in the states and just up late wanting to binge eat, or if you are in the UK and up early and wanting to binge eat, or down under and you have managed to stay good all day but want to pig out now that its later at night. But either way take a deep breath and step away from it all for a second.
First of all... what a totall jack ***!! That just plain rude...
Second of all.. you deserve better than to get treated like that, you were right to say what you said.
And lastly...
you say you are 100lbs overweight due to emotional stress eating. Its not easy to have to go back into that kind of personal situation and not drop into old habbits, but this time is different. Its different because now your really trying to make a go of it, its different because you have this forum to support you. We are here like internet surfing sisters to listen to your rants and worries.
Just think.. if you go to Mcdonalds you will enjoy it for the length of time your eating it. Soon after that you will feel tired and slouchy and unmotivated. Your setting youself up to feel even worse just my eating it in the first place. Then how do you deal with tomorrow? have you been on a strict healthy protein diet? so will the amount of fat in the macdonalds give you a sore belly? maybe more? I know it would if I had one.
Your angry and upset, the best thing for it is actually to work out, but I know that might sound like a mamouth task just now. So if you cant do that, can you visit family or friends to keep you busy? or do you feel they well just offer you sympathy food.
Come on.. talk it out..
I might not be helping here but if a distraction is what you need I may be able to offer that
The writing was on the wall with that guy. At least he was upfront and told you that he met someone rather than call you all along and string you along. I'd say it may hurt a bit now but down the road you'll look back and know that he wasn't being a bad guy or a jerk at all. He let you down, and that you can live through without any scars. Hold your head high and know that everything will be ok. Good for you for telling him not to call you anymore, you did the right thing. Move on and close that door so that a new one can open.
As for wanting to eat emotionally, it's ok. Emotional eating is not a bad thing. We all eat emotionally from time to time, food can be and should be very comforting. You're not doing anything wrong. If however you find that your only go-to for comfort is food then we need to find you better ways for addressing your needs. I mean every once in a while if we want to cheer ourselves up with a treat it's understandable. But if you're doing it everyday then you must feel frustrated and completely unfulfilled because let's face it, ice cream doesn't solve too many problems does it?
When I reach for too many treats I just postpone myself. Like if I crave a donut I say to myself "I'll go for a walk first and then if I still really want a donut I can have it" but usually the walk calms me and satisfies my need to take care of myself and by the time I'm done my craving is gone. Just postpone your cravings to take a shower, make a phone call, etc.
Ali, as far as the guy is concerned, you can do better! I'd be thinking, "Whew dodged a bullet there!" After all, you don't want to be with someone who is interested in someone else and thoughtless toward you. You want someone who wants to be devoted to YOU. Now the door is open for that new guy! I do hope you were able to avoid McD's. I know how hard it can be to turn away from food when you are feeling upset, but really, when you are eating when upset, do you even really taste the food? I know I don't, and then I just feel worse for eating it. So hopefully, you were able to figure out something else to do to comfort yourself. If not, well, just jump back on your IP plan and keep going like you hadn't strayed. Keep your chin up!
Hi Everyone! thank you so much for all the support. It amazes me how sometimes we can get more support from strangers then the ppl in our lives. I have good news, bad news, and good news.
the Good News-I DID NOT GO TO MCDONALDS!!!! even though I did have a dream about it...
The Bad News-after hours of tossing and turning I had a big glass of red wine which most likely knocked me out of ketosis.
The Other Good News-this morning after very little sleep I got back on track. Put my MP3 on and took my pup for a long walk and so far have been on plan.
I feel so silly for being so emotional over some guy last night but now I am reminding myself that it will take time and that's ok and I just have to take it one day at a time. I have lost almost 40 pounds so far and am not going to back track because he clearly wasn't who I thought he was!
thank you so much again for all your support. You all are such amazing wonderful people and such an inspiration to me. I hope you all have a great week
So glad you didn't head to McDonalds and give that idiot the satisfaction of eating a cheeseburger for his sake! Good for you!
To help you in the future when things get tough I would suggest maybe talking to someone and getting some coping skills. I myself have been a stress eater and know that 90% of my weight issues have come from that. Food is very much an addiction, regardless of what some people say and contrary to what some others might think, some label it as the most DIFFICULT to overcome. After all, you still must eat everyday to stay alive and drugs and alcohol aren't essential for health. Not everyone agrees, but everyone has a right to their opinion of course.
For me, it wasn't until I started seeing a professional that I really got a handle on my stress eating. Perhaps it might help you too. Good Luck!
Need support- wanting to emotional/binge eat
