The day of my wedding I weighted around 130 lbs. At the time, I was feeling great, exercised regularly and made better eating choices. My lifestyle was completely different then. I lived in New York City and I disliked taking the subway, so I walked to and from everywhere, or took a taxi cab. My husband and I moved to the suburbs and I became a stay-at-home/work-at-home mom and got very depressed and unmotivated. My husband is no help either. Instead of helping me lose the weight, he criticizes and berates me. He’s verbally and mentally abusive and not someone I want to be with for the rest of my life. But I want to gain enough confidence to leave this abusive marriage, and I need to be able to feel good about myself and be healthy for my boys.
I’m going through a lot right now with my marriage, my job, my finances. I’m going to need all the help that I can get not only to keep my sanity, but also to NOT gain another pound!
Thank God for friends and family, without their support I would have fallen apart.
I’ve done every diet that one can imagine, lost some of the weight, gained, lost, gained, gained again. My problem is eating carbs and not exercising- I can’t motive myself to work out. I really need help.
Please, help me lose the weight once and for all. I'm ready!!
And I’m looking forward to learning from you all. Thank you in advance.
No one deserves to have to deal with that sort of thing!
You'll find lots of support here, so you don't ever have to feel alone in your weight loss efforts. Everyone here will want the very best for you! You mentioned carbs giving you a problem. I am carb sensitive. I yo-yo dieted all my life and finally now, after realizing what carbs have been doing to my blood glucose levels, I have found a weight loss plan that is actually working with my body. Before, I always felt like I was struggling with dieting. Now it's relatively easy. For 6 days of the week, I eat meats, eggs, legumes, non-potato veggies and fruits that are often considered veggies (like tomatoes, cucumbers, squash, etc.), cottage cheese, nuts, and black olives. And I drink diet soda, green tea (I've never been a coffee drinker), and water. I avoid breads and grains (including corn), potatoes, pasta, dairy (except for the cottage cheese), fruits, and sweets. Then on the 7th day, I have a cheat day when I can eat anything I want, however much I want. The cheat day keeps me from feeling deprived and sparks my metabolism each week. Plus, I move it as needed to account for special occasions like birthdays when I want cake and ice cream, lol! I gain a couple of water weight lbs after cheat day each week but they always fall away in the next 2-3 days and I continue losing. I lost 20 lbs in 2 months doing this, and it was easy for me. What I'm doing is not right for everyone, of course. Some people are not carb-sensitive and some people can't handle cheat days because it triggers them and they don't go back on plan, but I want you to know that if you are carb-sensitive, cutting back on carbs, even if you choose to count calories or follow some other plan, can help you to be successful! I don't count calories and I only walk about a mile a day, so it's the cutting back on carbs that has worked for me. As for motivation, consider joining one or more challenge threads in the sub-forum "Chicks Up for Challenge" under Support Groups: 
