I am venting again but I am so insulted / disappointed / mad right now I couldn't think of any other place than 3FC to vent !!
So apparently my bfs bestie tells him that I am too big and that even if I try my best I will not lose the weight !!!!! Like seriously??? Way to encourage someone yo!! The sucker says that I won't be able to lose weight cause even he has been hitting the gym for 7-8 months and has not seen results !! My bf said that's only cause the guy pigs out and has no control over his diet.. I on the other hand have started counting calories so I will definitely make it !!!
I am glad my bf stands up for me.. I don't want to disappoint him...
Part of me wants to collect all the fat I melt in a tub and throw the lard on the jerk friend's face!!!
Am I silly for being mad? Maybe I deserve comments like those.. not for long though!! I'll show 'em !!!!
First of all- NO you do NOT deserve comments like that. No matter if you're 262 pounds or 253 or 453. He's a rude little snot. That's awesome that your boyfriend stands up for you- he SHOULD.
And maybe he should tell his "best friend" that he'd probably be lighter if he lost some of the "jack***" in his personality.
You're doing really well, don't let jerks like him deter you!
^^^^^^ This. My first reaction was to wonder how the heck you found out about it.
You deserve respect no matter what your size/weight, etc. I'm sorry you are going through this.
He tells me everything.. and I guess this is his way of motivating me? Cause he does encourage me everyday. I don't know. I don't want to doubt his intentions. I'm just glad he's honest and upfront with me instead of telling me sugar coated lies ! Cause I have been there too.. they are all nice to you for years and then they come up with a reason to call it off! Amazingly the reason existed from day one!!
No, you don't deserve it. I like to imagine jerks like him in about 10 years, maybe less, bald, beer belly, bad teeth, dirty fingernails...you get the picture.
You will lose the weight and you will look amazing! Don't listen to his crap. Just because he can't do it certainly doesn't mean that you can't! keep up your good work and prove this jerk wrong!
The comment he made was definitely uncalled for, and he's just a shallow prick to begin with.
As for your boyfriend telling you? Kind of stupid because that can cause serious issues between his friend and you in the future. Unless you never see him and never interact with him then that's different. If you do see him tho, it can be quite awkward.
You can do it. Use his negativity for your motivation.
I hope you don't let this guy come around do you? I would never ever be around him again. If your boyfriend told you that (which is really kinda low in my opinion, I can't imagine my husband would ever relay something hurtful), then you have every right to say "well, we're never hanging out with your friend ever again, and if you choose to do so it will be without me and I better not find out about it."
Sorry, sometimes people cross a line and it's up to me to shove them over the other side of it and the heck away from me. Success is the best revenge.
Last edited by Palestrina; 04-04-2013 at 08:48 AM.
What a jerk! how mean to say that!
Just coz he didnt get the sucess he wanted doesnt mean he should just assume you going to go the same way.
As for your boyfriend telling you, im sure he meant it as motivation or whatever and just didnt "filter" his words right! im sure your bf didnt tell you to be mean or hurtful.
The best thing you can do is smile and wave next time you see him and you have lost some weight - show him that people can do it!
Fortunate is right. He failed at losing his weight, so he's projecting his failure onto you. Ignore it. Keep up the good work. He doesn't matter. You do.
Boyfriend's friend is a jerkkkkkkk !! :(
Way to encourage someone yo!! The sucker says that I won't be able to lose weight cause even he has been hitting the gym for 7-8 months and has not seen results !! My bf said that's only cause the guy pigs out and has no control over his diet.. I on the other hand have started counting calories so I will definitely make it !!! 
I don't want to doubt his intentions. I'm just glad he's honest and upfront with me instead of telling me sugar coated lies ! Cause I have been there too.. they are all nice to you for years and then they come up with a reason to call it off! Amazingly the reason existed from day one!! 
