[Solace]

Well I've never joined a site like this before. I miscarried a pregnancy on my 40th birthday in November, have been suffering depression and my long term partner and I have split up just recently. After the miscarriage my boss bullied me out of my job and I've just started a new job which is really hard at the moment with how I'm feeling. I have no self esteem and no energy and have not been taking care of myself so I thought I would make a positive step by starting to change the things I CAN change - like this 40 pounds I've needed to lose for a long time! Starting again while feeling this way seems so hard, especially on your own. (no family, no partner, no children) I tell myself it will get better but at the moment I feel like I have so many impossible mountains to climb! Not sure where to begin...

[Bebita]

Even the greatest of greates fall... Get back up dust yourself & keep it 'movin'. Welcome and you are on the right path. Congratiolations on the new job.

[penmage]

Welcome!

[elvislover324]

Hi Solace, Welcome to 3FC. I'm so sorry for your losses, I can't imagine what you are going through with everything in your life.

I'm glad you joined here, it's an awesome group of men and women and all sorts of topics are covered, not just weightloss. I hope you find some peace and support here, you have been through so much.

I look forward to your posts and hope I can help you in any way that I can.

[Crow]

I'm so sorry about what you've lost -- you're entitled to grieve, and I hope you're taking the time to come to terms with everything that's happened.

In some ways turning 40 is a good thing because it focuses the mind on where you want to be in life as opposed to where you actually are. I've just turned 40 too, I'm holding my baby in my arms (had him on my own after a miscarriage and splitting up with my husband), and I've enrolled in a distance learning college course to hopefully ditch my crappy job sometime soon.

You can do anything you want to do or be anything you want to be. All you have to do is decide!

Message me any time if you want somebody to talk to, sounds like our lives have taken some very similar turns.

[Solace]

new to this site, how do I PM people? thanks for the kind words

[irish51]

You need to be a member for at least 20 days before you may use the PM feature.

[Ruthxxx]

And you must also have 20 posts.

[Mozzy]

Welcome and good luck on your journey!!

I'm sorry for your loss