I'm pretty new to the forum so I'll give you a little about myself . I'm 20 years old , I'm a toddler teacher and I am very self conscious , my confidence level is very low especially these past few days where I feel like I've been eating non-stop . I had a breakdown today and I think what triggered it was eating all the treats I made with my kids at work yesterday . We made our own rice krispies and I wanted to try one and of course ended up eating like 10 of them , I was upset and ofcourse ended up exercising for two hours straight to burn them off. I actually didn't eat as bad today as I had my own lunch , I made a salad with asaparagus , tomatoes , green beans , cilantro and garlic but didn't end up eating much of it because my friend bought some chicken and veggies for me to try . They were just small chicken cutlets marinated with soya then oven baked and the veggies were stirfy (edamame and green and red bell peppers ) I had two small servings of that and didn't eat for the rest of the afternoon . I went for a 20 minute to about 30 minute walk around the neighborhood before going back to the classroom . While the kids slept I ended up getting some push-ups and squats in and a little cardio as well , anyway I got home after work 3 hours later and was hungry so I ate an oz of chicken and a bowl of green snap beans . And for some reason lately I've been obsessed with the scale , like literally stepping on it every damn minute of the day and saw that I weighed a pound more than yesterday and freaked out , I went on the treadmill started working out for a bit and actually didn't get much done because before I could do more I had a huge breakdown . And here I am venting to you ladies ...
It sounds to me like the only thing you haven't done is give yourself some credit! It sounds like you are doing great! Yeah, you had some rice krispies, but you are also working out and eating healthy much of the time!
The biggest thing I am learning as I lose weight is that I need to love myself, as well as forgive myself. I can't think of every 'treat' I have as a mistake, nor is every salad the holy grail! You are doing all of the right things, and working out quite a lot I'd say. Remember, when possible, to relax. The scale will go up and down every day, so if you find yourself stressing from it, maybe you should only weigh in weekly?
But ultimately, knowing you are moving in the right direction and embracing an aura of positivity around yourself matters much, much more than rice krispies. I believe in you. Keep up the good work
Hi! My name is Sarah. Why do we do this to ourselves? I will often weigh myself several times a day, and beat myself up over food slip ups. It hasn't helped! Haha, I guess we both need to work on being kinder to ourselves.
It sounds to me like the only thing you haven't done is give yourself some credit! It sounds like you are doing great! Yeah, you had some rice krispies, but you are also working out and eating healthy much of the time!
The biggest thing I am learning as I lose weight is that I need to love myself, as well as forgive myself. I can't think of every 'treat' I have as a mistake, nor is every salad the holy grail! You are doing all of the right things, and working out quite a lot I'd say. Remember, when possible, to relax. The scale will go up and down every day, so if you find yourself stressing from it, maybe you should only weigh in weekly?
But ultimately, knowing you are moving in the right direction and embracing an aura of positivity around yourself matters much, much more than rice krispies. I believe in you. Keep up the good work
I do well with eating healthy majority of the time eating a lot of fruits and vegetables throughout the day and I've made a lot of progress in the past two months , I've actually almost lost 25 pounds and I guess the slip up yesterday PLUS seeing the number on the scale go up , heightened my fear of going back to where I started a few months ago .
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Originally Posted by Lecomtes
Hi! My name is Sarah. Why do we do this to ourselves? I will often weigh myself several times a day, and beat myself up over food slip ups. It hasn't helped! Haha, I guess we both need to work on being kinder to ourselves.
Story of my life Sarah , I do it all the time especially since I'm so close to my goal and I've literally become obsessed with that number on the scale that really hasnt made me look any better or worse . Yes we do
An ounce of chicken isn't very much at all, and it sounds like you're exercising a lot to "make up" for the crispy treats... I agree with Mozzy, it may be time to re-evaluate that relationship with the scale.
25 pounds lost is fantastic! Be proud of that number and let the scale empower you.
I am a daily weigher but blips in the scale don't bother me, I just like to see the trends.
As others have said, it sounds like you are far too preoccupied with a single number... what the scale shows. There are so many ways to track our progress and success, why are you relying on only one? Loan it to a friend for a month and start paying attention to how your clothes fit and what a seamstress' measuring tape says.
When it comes to treats, give an appropriate portion to all of the kids, include yourself if it fits your goals, then wrap the rest up. If the kids want more well, we don't give seconds of "treats" in our house. They can always have seconds of healthy stuff but treats are a one-off. With those out of sight you should be able to avoid them. Plus if they're in foil and you try to sneak one, a bunch of toddlers will come running. They can hear crinkly packaging from a mile away... trust me.
Last point. Quit being so d*mn hard on yourself! Treat yourself like you'd treat a best friend you're helping to lose weight. This just sounds like a nasty cycle of guilt.
I had that problem when I first started out. OMG the number on the scale that morning would determine my mood for the rest of the day. It really was unhealthy how obsessed I was. I had to literally take my scale and put it in the closet. The first few days without it was devastating. I could not stop thinking about the scale and what my weight was. I was truly a fanatic. So I started just concentrating on what I was eating and my exercise and slowly the thoughts about my scale went away. Now I just weigh once a week and sometimes I go several weeks without weighing. I do catch myself trying to get obsessed with it when I do weigh so I just try to weigh less often. I weigh and put the darn thing away. Out of sight...out of mind! Good luck!!!
I agree with what other said about giving yourself credit! You are doing great!!!
I am also "scale obsessed" and admit to stepping on that contraption several times a day. I'm "trying" so hard not to do it, and have gotten to where the ups do not affect me like they used too.
Hiding it from myself would not keep me from pulling it out. My hubby would have to take it to work for me to quit!! LOL!
Are you logging your intake in an food/exercise app? If not, I would start and that may help lessen your food/exercise anxiety. It has helped me tremendously!! (If you are on My Fitness Pal, I'm RavenWolf1977 if you want to add me as friend!)
I know I have had a day here and there where I have went over on my cals..by quite a bit! But I just move forward and get back on track the next day.
Is it around ToM for you? That always triggers uncontrollable binge desires for me! I have to work extra hard to stay on track and "substitute" to keep from binging. When I crave something, I head out the door and walk.
You are doing great! Be proud of how far you've come already, and get back on track tomorrow!! Don't beat yourself up!
You know the odd thing though the number on the scale has NEVER bothered me the way it did yesterday . I know deep down that it was water retention or food weight and you cannot actually gain a pound in a day unless youre eating 3500 calories every day .When I was doing the cabbage soup diet to get rid of toxins and water weight , my weight fluctuated all the time 5-7 pounds and all of a sudden the weight goes up by one pound and I freak out ? I think the real problem was I am very insecure about my appearances anyway and when I saw how bloated I looked compared to other days that got to me and also like someone stated above it was the guilt of eating so many rice krispies and actually treating myself for the first time in two months . I do log my intake on my fitness pal and I actually sometimes log more than I actually eat which leads me to think I am eating too much . I am the type of person who will motivate and inspire everyone even people I do not know to live better and take care of their bodies more and I've always told people to keep their heads up , strive for progress not perfection then when it comes to myself I probably use every put down there is towards myself . By the way RavenWolf I tried finding you and couldn't add me Saralafresa .
"I am the type of person who will motivate and inspire everyone even people I do not know to live better and take care of their bodies more and I've always told people to keep their heads up , strive for progress not perfection then when it comes to myself I probably use every put down there is towards myself ."
I am exactly the same way, although it's a habit I am working hard to grow (or shrink?) out of.
"I am the type of person who will motivate and inspire everyone even people I do not know to live better and take care of their bodies more and I've always told people to keep their heads up , strive for progress not perfection then when it comes to myself I probably use every put down there is towards myself ."
I am exactly the same way, although it's a habit I am working hard to grow (or shrink?) out of.
I'm working on it too Lectomes , unfortunately it is hard to do though .
I think we've all been there! Try not to beat yourself up too much- easier said than done, I know :-)
Either way, congrats on your weight loss so far! I'd bet all your exercise has probably obliterated those darn Rice Krispies!!!
Last night I went to an impromptu family dinner at a restaurant, my first time eating out since I really committed to a truly healthy lifestyle, and I blew it, so I totally understand the guilt you're feeling and (literally) feel sick. I think the emotional/psychological aspect of weightloss is harder than the food part!
I think we've all been there! Try not to beat yourself up too much- easier said than done, I know :-)
Either way, congrats on your weight loss so far! I'd bet all your exercise has probably obliterated those darn Rice Krispies!!!
Last night I went to an impromptu family dinner at a restaurant, my first time eating out since I really committed to a truly healthy lifestyle, and I blew it, so I totally understand the guilt you're feeling and (literally) feel sick. I think the emotional/psychological aspect of weightloss is harder than the food part!
Yeah I'm sure they're gone by now , I've been doing some intense cardio everyday this week lol I haven't tried going out anywhere yet , I think I'd be fine as long as it wasn't a buffet lol
Hi, I'm Sara and I have a problem .
Why do we do this to ourselves? I will often weigh myself several times a day, and beat myself up over food slip ups. It hasn't helped! Haha, I guess we both need to work on being kinder to ourselves. 
