Hey everyone, am a 24 year old, 5'4" in height and 175 lbs in weight. My 5 year relationship broke up because of my weight (he cheated on me for a slimmer girl) now when I m trying to give life another chance my current boyfriend is too shy of introducing me to his friends.. He keeps on telling me that every bf wants a slim and sexy gf.. I tried loosing weight and came down to 165 in 2 weeks but then I couldnt stick to exersise and because of depression I hogged over food.

I loose motivation too soon.. Please help

First... Hugs to you!
Second, ditch the boyfriend!!!

Work on yourself! You don't need a guy like him. I know what 175 looks on a 5'4 frame because I've been there and it's not that big of a deal.

Your boyfriend didn't cheat on you because you are "fat", he did it because he was an @ss. You current boyfriend is "not shy", he is just a jerk...

Forget the boys for a while and work on yourself. You need more confidence and that doesn't come guarantee with weight loss.

Don't be depress, the right guys will love you for who you are and not for the number on the scale!

Welcome and good luck on your journey!

HUGS!

I'm with Cieloarge. Ditch the boyfriend. If he can't love you for you, all of you, then he isn't worth trying to please. There are guys out there that love women of all sizes and would be proud to show you off.

Starting an exercise program can be difficult at first. There are a lot of people who have lost a great deal of weight by not becoming more active at all. Maybe you should focus on your diet first and then incorporate a more active lifestyle when you are more comfortable with your eating habits. Take it one step at a time. Getting overwhelmed is very easy to do.

And don't give up. Everyone has setbacks, everyone has days where it's just easier to give in to the depression and cravings. What's important is the fact that you pick yourself up out of them and focus on why you want to lose the weight. Key word there is "you." Why do you personally feel you need to lose? Do it for yourself and no one else, especially jerks who are only looking at the superficial side of things.

They are never worth it in the long run.

This site is great and there are a lot of helpful people on here. I hope you find lots of motivation to keep you going. I have.

This. Exactly this. Never let anyone talk down to you like that, especially not your own boyfriend. Be confident in yourself no matter what you weigh (easier said than done, I know - but it IS possible, believe me!)

Welcome!

Hey there...I'm new here too, but I read your post and *had* to post something.

Guess what, I'm also 24 and 5ft 4in...but I weigh 200 lbs and was 225 lbs when I met my boyfriend. We've been together for two and a half years, and he's loved me at 225lbs just as much as he loved me when I managed to get down to 185lbs (10 lbs heavier than you are now!).

Being thin isn't the key to finding a wonderful man. If your boyfriend can't accept your weight, then you shouldn't be with him. Find someone who loves you for who you are INSIDE, not just OUTSIDE.

I wish you the best of luck

Thanks a bunch.. You make me feel so much better and motivated <3

Both guys sound like total jerks not worthy of you! There are so many women on this site that are overweight and engaged or have boyfriends that don't base their love on weight, u can safely let go of that zero and find a hero (cliche I know) but I agree work on your self confidence first so u don't attract those type of men. If u believe you are more than a number on a scale u will be.

First, I would tell this guy that every gf wants a kind and considerate bf... and then tell him good bye!

You are not that fat. I hope you will stick around here and get involved in the threads, and get some positive reinforcement and encouragement!!

Oh sweetie! I completely know where you are coming from. My husband cheated on me with a "skinnier" girl as well. I was devistated, so devistated that I starved myself for a month and dropped 25 pounds. I looked sickly, I was tired all the time and I couldn't think straight. At the end of the day, I was a heck of a lot skinnier than the women he cheated with...in fact, I was looking HOT! But it didn't take the pain away, no matter how much I lost the pain was still there, in fact it was more prominent.

I felt like my entire world was crashing around me. Believe me when I tell you this...he isn't worth it. No one is worth that kind of pain. I have cut myself away from that pain and I have taken the last 2 years focusing on myself and my health. I gained back the 25 pounds I lost, of course I would like to lose the weight again but I will never do it for a man again. Right now my motivation is a sexy pair of jeans I have hanging in my closet...I look at them every morning and can't wait for the day I can put them on.

I know it is so hard and it is easy for everyone to just say "walk away". That decision is something you have to make for yourself and feel good about. But whatever you do...DON'T LOSE WEIGHT FOR THIS GUY!! Only lose weight for you...find your motivation.

The best diet plan for me...I lost 215 pounds overnight by telling the dead weight that was dragging me down to pack his sh*t & goodbye.

Lol! /thumbs up

What quailgirl said!! x100000000000

I was your weight when I met my boyfriend. I went up to 212 and he still loved me, and still fancied me, and still treated me with respect. He said he'd feel exactly the same way about me even if I were bigger, because he loves ME, for better for worse, for bigger for smaller, the whole thing. He still feels the same about me at 196, and will at 175 again, and 150, and 112. I am doing this for me, and for me alone! It's the only way to stick with it.

There are so many men out there that could be right for you, and treat you wonderfully! You really don't need to waste time you could be spending feeling happy and positive about yourself trying to live up to some insecure excuse for a man's idea of what his trophy should look like. Losing weight for his approval WILL NOT CHANGE the fact that he's someone who cheats on his girlfriend, or tells her to change the way she looks to make him feel better about himself.

Don't let anyone treat you like this! First, perhaps before you go on any diet, look at the reasons you want his approval so much. Work on loving yourself and being not thin, but healthy. Then if you want to be smaller, at least your head will be in the right place.

And please, don't cut yourself off from the possibility of meeting someone who loves you unconditionally, someone who you can trust. It is a beautiful experience, and you deserve that! But get your head in the game first: you know this isn't right, think about yourself first and go from there.

*hugs*

Honey lose the boyfriend not the weight! Learn to LOVE YOU first then the right man for you will come. Lose the weight only if u want to, for YOURSELF.

:welc ome: Sending you a big hug
Please know that you are so deserving of better treatment.
I believe we go through things in life for a reason.... This could be the turning point in your life to make changes that may have seemed impossible before.

Take the time to get healthy and the rest will fall into place.
Good Luck sweetie , we are here to support and cheer you on
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