[rebeccatea]

Ok so I'm 22 and I I've wanted lose weight for as long as I can remember. I'm currently 252lbs (yikes!) and I want to get down to 130lbs (aim high and all that).

I don't really know what to do. I mean I know what I should be doing, exercise, lower calories an that but I just don't know how to keep my motivation. I have a few good days and then I just slide straight back down and "forget" that I was meant to be losing weight.

I feel like the boy who cried wolf....I always say to myself "right this is it, I'm going to lose weight and get healthy" and then never do.

I might just need a kick up the bum.

Keep your fingers crossed for me!

[nicolasmummy]

This sounds like me! First week or two im really gd but then it all goes down hill. Im thought talking to people at the end of the day to discuss highs and lows of that day such as exercise and what ive eaten may help to keep me on the right path!

[timeisnow2013]

Hey Rebeccatea, I'm in the exact same boat as I'd say most people on here are. I'm in a similar current weight (232) and similar goal (133). I've always been overweight from a child and have always been planning to lose the weight. Literally every week for the past 10 years or so I've made out a new plan that will overhaul my image and will allow me to lose the weight but I can only stick with it for maximum 1 - 2 weeks. I am beginning to realise that I really have a food addiction even though before I would have said that this is melodramatic and that I am just suffering from no will power but I think forcing myself to realise that I am just giving in to cravings rather than developing the new habits that I need to change will help me.
I'm new to these boards but just really feel like I need a forum to speak as I have alot of issues with food and overeating that I just don't feel like I can share with family or friends so that's why I've joined up here.
Best of luck to you!

[rebeccatea]

I've struggled a lot with my relationship with food and it's only in the past year that I've actually appreciated the fact that I am a binge eater. It's not just large portions at meal times it's the fact that I have sessions where I will eat and eat until I'm in physical pain and then eat a bit more. Which then leads to me feeling incredibly shameful and full of disgust.
I'm on tratment for despression and although I've mentioned the binge eating to my doctor they just seem to brush it off as if it's not really a thing.

I feel the same about not being able to share things with friends and family. Even my desire to lose weight, I think I prefer them to think that I'm fine with the way I am. I guess that way when I fail I'll only have failed myself.

I read a quote on someone elses signature that said "In one year from now you'll be glad you started today" I'm going to have to remember it. I just think if I had actually worked hard and really tried when I wanted to lose weight last year or the year before then I'd be halfway through by now!

[betsy2013]

First, you're not alone. And, I'm glad that while you're in your 20s you're taking this step of seeking support through this forum. I'm in my 60s, have been battling weight issues for over 30 years, but always thought I could do it myself. Joining this group and actually checking in every day has been great. You may be thinking that I'll now tell you that I joined a year or so ago and have lost a lot of weight. Nope. Joined three days ago and after the last holiday party yesterday, I've managed to gain a pound. But normally that would signal the end of this effort, but instead I feel encouraged.

In a short time, I've found through reading the posts and commenting that we're far from alone. And being able to voice all of our thoughts and feelings in this group that we can't or won't share with our family or friends is so great.

It won't be easy. There will be slips and slides along the way. But admitting that we need the help and support of others who can relate and understand what we're going through is an immensely important step. Maybe more important than developing a new diet plan. Good luck and I'll look forward to your posts with news of your efforts.

[BaileyMonroe]

today, today, today...cx

[penmage]

Hi rebeccatea! Welcome to 3FC.
Here's that kick in the butt you wanted, lol
Best of luck to you! You can do it!

[Mozzy]

Welcome and good luck on your journey!

[Babybat]

welcome, stick with it.

[lifesigns]

I could have written your post . . . I eat healthy for a few days tops, then just forget it, toss my goals out for a piece of cheesecake, or two or three, at a sitting.

I'm serious this time as well, and joined here to give motivation and receive it . . . there are so many inspirations here, as well as honest people who struggle but kept moving along. Good luck to you.

[shcirerf]

Welcome!

Another OLD person here. 53.

What I have learned, is to track your food, track your exercise, journal your thoughts and moods. Write it on paper, log it online, rant here, blog it or whatever is your style. But the big thing is, this is a lifestyle change, NOT a diet and there is NO failure, only FEEDBACK!

Log it all, sit down once a day or once a week or once a month or whatever suits you, go over all your logs, and learn from it. Don't beat yourself over the head, just look at it objectively, tweak and carry on!

Personally, I go over all my stuff on the last day of the month. When I was losing, if I was down, even if it was only a pound, SCORE! Now that I'm maintaining, as long as I'm within my 2 +/- range I'm good!

Another thing, because this is a lifestyle, it's ok to do it slow. If you have to start with just overhauling your breakfast and exercising 5 minutes a day. Go! Get that down, when you have that down, tackle another step.

I've lost and gained over the years, but my biggest success has come from tracking and slowing down and deciding to work on making the good habits stick, no matter how long it took. This last round it took me 10 months to lose 30 pounds, but I've kept it off for over a year, and I'm still hitting the gym and loving it!

I'll get off the soapbox now! Carry on!

[Gillian]

welcome!