And by this, I mean, does looking at him/her make you want to work harder on yourself?
My boyfriend is at a perfectly normal weight for his height, and this is new territory for me because I've always dated guys who were also overweight. Now, I know for a fact he has no problems with my weight whatsoever; he thinks I'm beautiful regardless. But just looking at him has made me want to kick it into gear and start stepping it back up. I'd been kinda slacking in the exercise area, and as soon as we started hanging together I've been feeling myself not slipping with the AMOUNT I eat, just the quality of the food I've been eating because he's the type of person that can pretty much eat whatever and still be okay. And today, I weighed in at 201, which only puts me closer to onederland. And I said to myself before I got in the gym today, "Okay, I'm about to weigh less than 200lbs -- I want to look like it!"
And it's not just that I want to look like I weigh less than 200lbs, I just want to look NORMAL. I want my body to look like a normal body and I want to be able to do things without being self conscious. I have to be honest and say I do a TEENY bit self conscious around the fella, even though I know he likes every inch of me... I'm just not used to not having this kind of guy be attracted to me. It's kind of intimidating! Is it wrong for me to be intimidated? IDK. I just want to work harder so our relationship can be the best it can be; I don't want my weight issues to hinder anything.
Ya definitely. I was around 150 when we met in school...to get our personal training certifications. He looks awesome, we've been married 6 years, together for over 8. Of course I wanna look good for him, I mean that's definitely not my main reason or motivator, but it certainly is one of them.
My Husband has always thought I was great at the size he met me (I was 213) I had on huge sweat pants and a hoodie. I looke awful and we fell for eachother. I asked him if he was surprised to see me in regular close and to know that I was not that fat. He said he did not care and I believed him. Then he decided to work out often. He already looks freaking great. I started to go to the gym with him and we had fun.
He always runs with me and supports me. It really makes a difference. We are now married and he still thinks Im great the size I am and is comfortable with me loosing wt only if it is for health reasons. I love that answer! I am loosing wt for that reason but also I want to look great standing next to him and feel great about it.
My current boyfriend motivates me and he doesn't even know it.
For one, he's SO SEXY! I feel like I don't deserve him sometimes, but he makes it perfectly clear he thinks I'm the bees knees and cares for me at this weight and any other I'll ever be at. Just knowing this makes me happy. When I'm happy, I tend to feel more motivated to do things like work out.
I also think he's sexy, so I want to be sexy too! I know he tells me I'm hot no matter what (though sometimes I'm still self conscience) so I want to look even more smoking. For him to have an eye pleaser, so I'll feel more sexy, and because it's always a goal to get healthy.
He also mentioned he really wants a family one day and we have had little conversations about kids. I want to be a healthy mom one day, with healthy kids. I think the first step is changing my life style now. It's possible we may break up one day and he won't be my future husband, but currently I can see a future with him and even if there is not one, I would be happy to lose the weight for kids some day anyway.
I'm sure he has no idea that he is a big motivation (especially since he works out and so I want to join as well on the bandwagon).
I don't think it's wrong to be intimidated by the guy you're with. I'm fairly intimated by my guy sometimes even though he makes it perfectly clear he likes me. He likes taking me out, always introduces me to his friends and isn't "ashamed of me" like my ex was. (My ex told me I was his girl friend, but when his friends met me I was suddenly just a friend and he would distance himself from me a bit) This new guy is happy to hold my hand, introduce me as his girl friend, etc.
Yes! I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for almost 6. He is almost underweight but very in shape (military). He's always loved me and weight has never been an issue for him, but at my heaviest I felt like the odd couple.
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My fiance was underweight when we started going out. I think he was like 140lbs at 6'3" or something like that. I was somewhere around 200. I always felt self conscious around him, but I realized that he picked me for a reason and I picked him for a reason and slowly those feelings dissipated.
Now he's put on A LOT of muscle and damn he's hot! He certainly was before, but he looks even better now!
He actually motivates me to keep going because I can see that my own progress is inspiring him. He's been accompanying friends to the gym and wanting to eat healthier. He loves lifting weights like I do and even though he can't afford a gym membership, he sneaks in workouts here and there. A lot of times he uses me as a weight now
My boyfriend is my height and was 140 all year but then a few weeks ago he got sick and is now in the 130s (damn him!). He wasn't seriously sick, just a flu so he's fine hah so yes that's encouraging.
Looking at the boyfriend doesn't make me want to lose weight, because he's into bigger women, so I know losing a lot of weight isn't necessarily going to make me more attractive in his eyes. I also know my start weight, my current weight, and my target weight are all within the "larger" range he finds attractive. Mostly he motivates me because I want his babies, and there are a variety of health risks associated with higher maternal weight during pregnancy, and I don't want to take any avoidable chances on that one.
He's actually underweight, and looking at him with no clothes on reaffirms my desire not to aim for stick-thin. I can see his ribcage and so on, and while that looks fine on him because I love him, I don't want mine to be visible too. Mainly because visible bones make me worry I'm going to break people.
My husband is so healthy - that motivates me! He lost about 60 pounds 3 years ago and continues to workout 6 days a week to P90x or P90x2 and eat healthy. We're finally doing this together now!
Well..yes and no. I originally started losing weight FOR my ex. But we broke up. Since our break up, I was gun-ho to lose weight and rub it in his face. Though, since I've been dating again, I've been kind of slack. That guy I mentioned in the "General Chatter" forum decided he wasn't quite ready to date right now but my friend Jay is interested in me. He's pretty hefty, but he motivates me regardless. Not by looking at him, but he encourages me. Like yesterday, I told him what I weighed in at and he told me he is proud of me for all I've done so far. So in that aspect, I'm motivated.
My sexy hubby in Navy Spec Ops and very G.I. joe looking. Hottie! His job has always kept him in great shape and been a motivator. I always wanted to be that hot wife I was in the beginning, when I felt we were very evenly matched. Now that I am small again, it feels great to stand beside him when we are out and knowpele aren't looking at us like, why is HE with HER?
My hubby is so attractive that everyone, friends, coworks, even family....always comment. It was hard at times. After I lost weight, one of my sons preschool teachers said something like, "wow, you look great! I always thought you were pretty. Big, but pretty. And it was so wonderful to see your husband stay with you!" yikes...
My boyfriend weighs 91 pounds more than I do and I LOVE IT and I don't want that weight gap to close any more. So in a way I suppose he does. But we're opposites - he's really big-boned (6'2 and 217 but his ribs are visible, very wide frame) whereas my small frame = my skeleton is still pretty hidden at 5'5 and 126-128.
Yep, my husband lost 100lbs last year and looks great - so much so that it's been part of my motivation. It's so much easier when everyone in your house is on board.
My boyfriend motivates in that I hope all of my efforts motivate him. He use to be 410-415lbs at almost 6'4. He is now 260 (lap band) and ultimately wants to get to 220 but he has stopped trying. If I don't make him food, he will eat convenient store nachos for dinner (then want to get more at 11PM), a bag of funyuns for lunch, and an energy drink for breakfast. I am not his mother and he is not 4 years old, I will not spoonfeed him healthy food. I love him to bits but his diet is appalling and I want him to want to change his habits. The most I can do is cook healthy dinners and buy less junk.
I tell him I'm going to kill him if he has a heart attack and leaves me all by myself when we're 40. I want him to see that he CAN do this. He can finish his journey, the band did most of the other work (He never changed his diet) so now he has to work for the last 40lbs.
When one of us is working on being fit and eating well, it tends to rub off on the other. On the down side, if one of us starts to let things slide and want to start eating more junk, we can end up pulling the other down too.
Does your significant other motivate you?
He certainly was before, but he looks even better now!
so yes that's encouraging.
