So I was upset about this at one point, but now I'm kind of laughing.
My sister came over this weekend with her two year old (she's very condescending, in fact when I called her on it she said "YOU PROBABLY SHOULDN'T USE WORDS THAT YOU DON'T KNOW THE MEANING OF!" lol, anyway.
We were at the store, I was buying apples and cheese (yum) and she was buying a bunch of fried chicken and mac n cheese from the deli. Not an issue. Just cuz I'm changing the way I eat doesn't mean everyone else has to!

She's 30, not sure of her weight now, but she's a size 4-6 pants. Before she had her daughter she was 101 pounds, 5'7ish.

She decided to go on about how fat she felt. !
Later in the day she said
"You weigh 180? WOW You don't look that huge!"
And then a bit later, when I commented that I needed shorts for summer she said
"Ooh shorts. Brave girl. I could never show off my legs if I was your size, I can hardly do it in this fat suit"
....
Excuuuuuuuuuuuuuse me.
So I excused myself to go laugh at how ridiculous she is.

Anyway, does anyone else get the "you don't look that big!" comment? Any other gems you want to share?

:O

My sister also sucks. She's prob same size and complains about her butt all the time. I don't see her much lol.
I don't get that comment because I would never tell anyone who really knows me what I weigh. Lol.

Skinny sisters are terrible. I try not to call myself fat around people who might be self conscious about their weight. Just like how I don't all myself short in front of people who are self conscious of their height. ._. Felt like that was basic courtesy but, noo!

My boyfriend and I got on a weight thing once...

We were eating very delicious chick filet (My weakness) and a VERY large woman walked in with VERY large kids. Her kids could be more than 7 -10 years old and they were both so big as in obese.

My boyfriend looked so annoyed and said (after they were out of ear shot) that he was a little sickened by that. I was a bit sad too. It's one thing to let your own weight go, but your kids don't really have a choice, especially that young. We then got on a kid topic and how to keep them healthy (less video games, some sort of camp every now and then, family hikes or park days, and good healthy cooking... with the occasional chick filet because it's SO amazing) As we're talking he mentions that he'd want us to be healthy for the kid too, maybe lose weight.

As soon as he said it, his eyes got all wide and he told me that I was PERFECT he meant him, his beer belly (which he was sort of developing, but barely so) and then he started to put his foot in his mouth which ended with "I like you, A LOT, and I personally think you're TINY! Weight wise.. what... 120? 100? You know... perfect?!"

I couldn't stop laughing at him.

Lol this is my fiancé, more so when we first got together. We've been tvogether for 5 years now and Are dieting together now (for our kids- we've had this same discussion a thousand times because it's a crippling fear of mine). He still says "you're not fat!" if I call myself fat but at 260 lbs and naked I don't really believe he's missed the fact that I'm fat. He loves me anyway, luckily but I was about your size when we got together and he was the same way. its funny, and pretty great right?

What a sweetiepie! It's sort of adorable that he tried so hard to fix what he said. My boyfriend called me pleasantly plump once, and I cried. So he's been really careful about that. It's awkward when he says things like "Why don't you just use my belt?" or something, though. Because he's MUCH tinier than me, and he has also not pushed a baby from his pelvis. :I

How can u be around someone like that that says all of those mean things. I really think you should buy those shorts and be proud of yourself. Don't hang around people who have no compassion for others. That's good that you are laughing but it's still gotta hurt.

Thank you, Salgal! It did hurt. I'm working on trying to separate myself from her as much as possible but it's tough because she's my sister :/

I'm so sorry that your sister is so insensitive. It makes me feel so blessed to have two great sisters. All of us have struggled with our weights; at times, I've been thin & they haven't and vice versa. But one thing none of us has ever done is intentionally try to hurt the other one.

The older I get the less tolerance I have for cruelty and rudeness. I've gotten to the point where I directly communicate with people---not in anger or a raised voice but in a firm tone. Rude and/or cruel people get away with such behavior all too often. More people need to call them out on it. For instance, I would be direct and honest with my sister if she were to ever say the things your sister said to you. I might say, "You know, [insert name here], when you say things like that, it makes me feel sad. It makes me feel as if you are trying to hurt me." Stick to how her comments make you feel. Don't let her deny her intentions either, or if she does, reiterate how you feel about those comments so that she'll "know" for future reference. And, honestly, if she continued to make such out-of-line, cruel comments, I wouldn't hang out with her (and be honest if she asks why). It's a cliche to say, but it's true: Such people are toxic, and I, for one, don't need them in my life.

It's unfortunate that you have someone so insensitive who should be supportive of you.
Two different times I've had this one:
"Please step on the scale and I"ll take your weight"
"Ok." [I step on the scale]
[she moves the numbers up... and up.... and up]
"Ok, 175. Huh, you don't look it"
"Thanks....?"

hahaa also:
"I'm here to try on a bridesmaid dress."
"Ok, what size are you?"
"18, I think"
"Really? You don't look it... you must wear it well."
"Um... thanks?"

hahaaha I take it in stride. I dont' think they're trying to be malicious. But these aren't people I even know, nevermind am close to. I hope you continue to take comments with a grain of salt and know where you stand physically and emotionally. Props to you.
Erin

My sister is TINY (5'2", MAYBE 100 lbs on a good day), never been a drop overweight, but she would NEVER and I mean NEVER make me feel bad about my weight.

You sister is a total douche! I really wanna call her something else, but it would get *-ed out.

Y'know what's funny is that she's always the one bullying me for not standing up for myself. "You need to put your foot down, you pathetic child!" ha.
So maybe I'll take her advice and stand up to her next time ;]

Ha! She is. I have to agree with that.

<3 Exactly why I'm kind of taking a breather and laughing it off. She will never know the struggle of being overweight, so she really has no idea exactly what will hurt. She has no clue what to say. That's not saying she isn't a bit of a douche. She is. lol.

I have 3 brothers and 2 sisters. None of them have a weight problem at all, so I am the odd one out. I am the youngest; the oldest 3 sometimes mention my weight over the years but kind of in a concerned way mostly. My sister who is only 18 months older hurt me more sometimes, like when I was a teenager one time I found another pair of trousers no longer fit and I pulled them off, threw myself on the bed and cried (I was very melodramatic at that age!!!). My sister said she had no sympathy because it was my fault for 'constantly stuffing my fat face'. I suppose in a way she was right but at the time I was so upset, I screamed 'I hate you!!' He he, typical stroppy teen stuff. But the worst is my youngest older brother... Oh my god, when he was younger, he calls me fat more often than he calls me my name! He always used to shout 'belly' and slap my stomach. He still did it! He is such a typical mean big brother lol!!
xxxx

At least you can laugh. A lot of people would just cry.

Your sister sounds pretty uncomfortable in her own skin. If she were more secure with her own body, she wouldn't have to be giving you lip about your weight.

My husband called me 'Muffin Top' as a term of affection. He was shocked when I got a little pissy...he thought he made that word up! LOL! Like 'Honey' or 'Lamp Chop' or some silly name.
He felt so horrible when I showed him the real meaning ....d'aww. I can't stay mad at the clueless lug

I had a...what's the scientific term? Airheadus Bimbous? In one of my college classes. She was washing her hands beside me and smiled and said "You're very pretty, for someone so fat". She sat there smiling away, and the sad part was I think she was being so sincere, about it as a compliment. I was mad, but looking back she had this awkward bluntess to her, which she didn't even notice.