There are a ton of books out there that you can read that can give you an overall picture of what's going on in your body!
What kind of specialist are you going to? Usually reproductive endocrinologists tend to explain everything to you -- at least mine does and he makes me feel like I'm an idiot because he goes into so much detail that I already know! -- and even if it's not the case, then you should try to find one that does.
You need to be able to trust your doctor somewhat!
Anyway, back to the information you're looking for:
- Read! Read the articles here, read the posts here, and read the books like "A Patient's Guide to PCOS" or the "Savvy Woman's Guide to PCOS" as these types of books will explain what PCOS is, the different treatments for it, and where you should start
- If you have insulin resistance (and you may not!) eating low crappy carbs (i.e. cookies, cakes, white rice, candy, etc.) is probably the best way to go. What I find in my own case is that I have to be very clean in what I eat and on the lower side of calories in order to make it work for weight loss. I'm currently on a plateau because I don't want to eliminate more calories yet. I'm just playing around with the macros (40% carbs, 30% fats, 30% protein of my total calories per day -- 1650 set by my nutritionist).
- Exercise, it's always good, but you don't have to kill yourself.
- Food wise, the mistake I make all the time is that I eat within my calories, but I don't eat healthy. I have to be vigilant about getting enough vegetables and fruits. Don't worry about whether you're eating enough carbs, you always are! It's the fruits and vegetables that are tricky for me.
- BCP "masked" my PCOS symptoms. That's the first thing the doctors who diagnosed me gave me. But it doesn't cure PCOS. Yasmin/Yaz have an ingredient that can help you with the hair growth, but there is controversy over the usage of that BCP, because it's been linked to strokes in some women. Please note -- BCP may be the only option, for you, but to me, it wasn't. BCP can also increase your insulin resistant, give you gallbladder issues, and make it hard to lose weight. I stopped taking them because I wanted to deal with PCOS head-on, no masking of the hormones.
- Your acne is probably from an imbalance of male hormones. If you get the rest of your stuff in place, you can find that it begins to get better because your body begins to response better to the treatment (exercise, diet, and other drugs)
- Excess hair growth is a sign of the above too. There are medications that can treat it, like spirolactone, but they carry some side-effects for fetus/newborns, so make sure you're not going to get pregnant if you use it!
- Also, consider alternative supplements and vitamins. A lot of women who have PCOS have a deficiency in B vitamins (some think because of the Metformin usage, others because it's part of the family of metabolic syndrome), Vitamin D (which is so important for so many things), and magnesium.
Mary's PCOS FAQ is a great resource of what can work/not work for you.
Finally, it's just going to be a process of trial and error. Some things will work for you, others won't, but don't ever get discouraged!