[candice1022]

So todays not really a good day ,....bit down and depressed got a lot on my mind... on top of that a family friend was hit by a car today and killed so im kinda upset about that... but just a lot of things to be worrying about and i think if i come on here and talk itll keep me from going to the kitchen and binging.

So first off theres man troubles.... dont really want to get into it because ill sound like a pathetic loser but ya i got some...

on top of that my maternity leave pay runs out at the end of march and finding a job in this town is nearly impossible and the ones i would be great at you need like 3 years experience and i dont have it... so im worried about findinf a job or where im going to get money to keep a roof over my son and myselfs head... im going to have to move and get a house or at least a 2 bedroom apt and theyre pretty pricey unless i move dt to the ghetto which i dont want because of my son... so the lack of money is going to make it tricky... :S

theres some other fam problems... but dont need to get into that either....

just need to vent and stay out of the kitchen

[EagleRiverDee]

As my mom would say, "This too shall pass." I used to think that was trite, but it's true. Time heals.

I'm sorry about the family friend that was killed- that's tragic.

Are you unable to go back to work at the same place you were at before you took maternity leave? Is the father in the picture at all, where he can help you?

[bargoo]

Where is your son's father ? Is he giving you financial support for your son ?

[MiZTaCCen]

Can't you get your old job back? Don't companies have to give you back your job when you come back from maternity leave? Also fast food joints are always hiring. I know I know who wants to work in those types of places but the truth is, an income is coming in buy getting a job. Also you're living in Ontario...I used to live there finding work sucks! I hate Ontario lol.

Maybe for now just stick with a one bedroom until you completely get back on your feet with a job and have a stable income, coming in. Also if you're not getting child support from the father, I really suggest taking him down and get all the money you can out of him.

[candice1022]

My sons father is in the picture and he helps me with all the stuff i need most of the time when he can but hes not really in any better of a situation then I am really... so i am not going to do that to him...

as for my work... no i cannot go back there, i was working seasonally at a factory and at mr sub but it closed while i was off recently ..... so no place to go back to... yes living in ontario sucks living in windsor sucks even more.... yes i know fast food joints are always hiring i worked at burger king for loike 5+ years and mr sub for almost 2 years.... but they often pay minimum wage if that and dont give enough hrs to pay for $800+ month rent and every other bill....
I wouldnt mind sticking with the 1 bdrm for a bit longer but its impossible to sleep right now my son is kinda a light sleeper and the neighbours upstairs are loud and wake him up.... when i do get him back to sleep and try getting in the bed he wakes up again... this usually goes on till 3 or 4am and results in me ending up sleeping on the couch outta fear of waking him again..... that alone is taking a toll on my back...

a 2 bedroom in a new place would be soooo much less stressful right now...

[EagleRiverDee]

Okay, first - it took two to tango, so you should not feel guilty about asking the father to pony up some money. You should not have to do it by yourself.

And I know this is never appealing- but could you move back home with your parents while you try to get back on your feet? Would they help with sitting your child while you work? What are your options for child care? (Sorry, I'm in US not Canada so not familiar with what programs are available.)

[candice1022]

No when i need it ask him and he gives it if he can like I said I just would never go through courts to get child support because with our system hed be broke and wouldnt be able to live himself thats all...

No moving home is not an option my mother is also a single mom raising 3 other kids at her house... my brothers girlfriend and their 8 month old also lives there and she is struggling herself... she wouldnt be able to watch him while I work she works herself all day... and is usually running around being a "soccer mom" for my youngest sister after work...

My options for child care would be like everyone else day care I guess which around cost up the a** so that doesnt really help my situation lol seeing as moneys tight